Excitement > Comfort
One of the very first models of seduction, 'Mystery Method', insisted that you need to "build" both attraction and comfort to "seduce" a women.
The entire process will take an average of 7 hours.
Suggests the "7 hour rule"-
"If you go out at 10pm, meet a girl at 1am - it will be at 8am, after 420 minutes (7 hours) of building attraction, comfort, thumb wrestling, story telling and back turning, that your penis will penetrate her vagina."
You don't even have to be sexually experienced or even socially competent to know that no such "rule" exists.
Giving Mystery the benefit of the doubt that he is actually drawing this from his experience and has slept with some girls, perhaps he wasn't suggesting that it HAD to be 7 hours but rather that was how long it would usually take him.
In that case, it shows that PUA/seduction actually moves SLOWER than normal guys do. Normal (non-PUA geek) guys in the top 10% generally take girls home from bars in 2 or 3 hours every night of the week.
What in the world could you talking about for 7 hours anyway?
One key thing I learned from Scotty was (assuming the girl was sexually available and not JUST looking for a boyfriend)-
- If I banged her in 2 months, I probably could have done it in 1 month.
- If I banged her after 5 dates, I probably could have done it in 4 dates.
- If I banged her after 4 dates, I probably could have done it in 3 dates.
- If I banged her after 3 dates, I probably could have done it in 2 dates.
- If I banged her after 2 dates, I probably could have done it in 1 date.
- If I banged her after 1 date, I probably could have done it in 0 dates.
- You get the point...
More significantly-
- If I banged her in 4 hours, I probably could have done it in 3 hours.
- If I banged her in 3 hours, I probably could have done it in 2 hours.
- If I banged her in 2 hours, I probably could have done it in 1 hours.
- If I banged her in 1 hour, I probably could have done it in 20 minutes.
When he told me this back in the Summer of 2008, it basically went in one ear and out the other- the concept seemed to oppose the necessity of "attraction, comfort, text game, dates, timed escalation, etc."
Certainly I needed a period of time to "work on" the girl, even if she liked me and wanted to have sex with me.
7 hours seemed to closer to realistic, even though I had tagged some attractive girls within about 3 hours.
I obviously had been listening to too much PUA bullshit.
Rules Are Meant to Broken
When I realized that screening girls by touching them quickly could separate the girls that were DTF and the ones there were not- there was basically no need to "work on" girls or any need to analyze anything anymore.
The only thing to possibly work on was "getting quicker".
I basically just wanted to know that I could go out 2 nights a week and probably Get Laid one or both nights.
When I lived at N. Kings Rd. in Los Angeles in early 2009 - walking distance from 2 super popular places, including my favorite place ever- Skybar; I had the chance to pull this off, over and over and over. After living there for about 8.5 months, I moved to Santa Monica Beach where I would do the exact same thing during the day. By that time, late Hollywood nights weren't my thing.
As I started moving faster with girls my approach didn't actually change.
The goal/game plan was the exact same.
Stop an attractive girl, touch her and if she stayed around- I was going to try and take her back to my place under the pretense of "Hey I have to be somewhere at __o'clock, but lets chill for an hour or so. Tell you what- I'll make you a sugar-free drink that's amazing." (or something like that).
If they said anything other than "No." I would grab their hand and start walking to my place which was never more than about 6-7 minutes away ON FOOT.
The only thing that changed was how fast I was EXECUTING the game plan.
Although "trying to move fast" helped my mindset somewhat, it was the experience of seeing the same predictable responses for the past 2-3 years that made me more secure with the interactions- and able to move faster.
To me- all I was doing was profiling DTF chicks quicker and speeding up the process that was probably going to happen anyway, so long as they remained sexually available. In fact, arguably, I "lost" less girls that might have flaked had I just taken their number. A lot of girls are into the moment but get "wet feet" when deciding whether or not to call back a guy that clearly wants them for sex.
Moving Fast is Exciting but Not Always Comfortable for Girls
It wasn't until the end of 2012 that I realized something.
There have been several comments on the Youtube videos pointing out that some of the girls I aggressively approached (and successfully left with) weren't totally "comfortable"-
It turns out that the Youtube PUAs were right, these girls aren't super comfortable.
To tell you the truth, it didn't even occur to me that girls weren't comfortable.
Nor did it matter or stop them from leaving to chill with me.
I'm looking for girls that are DTF, not looking for girls that require "comfort".
The moral of the story is-
Women don't have to completely comfortable to have sex with you very quickly.
They just need to be excited.
If they are shy, chances are, they won't express this excitement too much.
Besides- there only so much "comfort" you can build in 5 minutes anyway.
The good news is-
You don't need that much.
I don't have 7 hours to "seduce" a girl, I literally don't have enough material to last 7 hours. Chances are, if you nail them in 7 hours you probably could have done it faster.
Next time you are wondering if the girl is "comfortable" enough, try and put her in your car or make out with her. Don't assume that she "needs comfort," like some sort of abused puppy, don't assume anything.
Don't ask for or wait for obvious signs saying, "Okay, now it's time to put me in your car, I'm comfortable and attracted enough to you. I'm willing to have your insert your penis in my vagina."
You will be waiting for weeks.
Or in my case, pre-2005, for months.
These days, the simple fact that a girl speaks to me after I've touched her is the green light to start making preparations to take that pussy home. Sometimes- it's exactly what she wanted too.
The Goal is to Get Laid not Build Attraction/Comfort/Jokes/etc.
Remember- the goal is Get Laid.
It took me a while to realize what this meant and behave based on the goal.
You might have to think about it a little bit.
The is goal not to "build comfort" "tell stories" "make her laugh" "make her like you" "be seductive" etc.
All the stuff may or may not happen the process, but it shouldn't be your focus.
For more information on this specific topic check out- "Mr. Pussy Inspector vs. Mr. Funny Man"