Ideally, I want you guys to develop into MEN that don't have much approach, social or sexual anxiety and aren't dependent on others for emotional support.

If you haven't hit on girls ever, the thought of going out alone and hitting on (screening) the HOTTEST girls might be scary. It was for me when I was just starting out. At the same time, I didn't exactly want to be around other guys that could take my focus off of what I was trying to do- GET LAID.

Standing around at a bar or club without talking to anyone might make you feel weird or like a loser. Stupid (untrue) thoughts go through your head, "All these girls know that I'm here alone!" "Everything is looking at me!" If you are just standing around, people actually think that you work at the place, not that you are some creeper that has no friends, no life, no balls and is trying to Get Laid (haha). In time, with experience, these thoughts will go away completely.

Mainstream pick up advice offers the solution, "Be confident!" "Don't care what other people think!"

And Obviously that advice helps NO ONE.

In this discussion, I'm going to talk about developing 'sexual triggers' to help you encourage blood flow to your dick so you can get hard. I'm not a sex therapist. I have a lot of experience though - I've had sex in public, in front of friends, outside, in the shower, in not-so-ideal places, etc.

Sex is nearly all a psychological process. That's why anxiety can get it way. If you aren't generally relaxed and confident- you ain't gonna perform too well.

There's a long list of stuff that can negatively affect your performance (we'll touch on these in detail another time).

Of the top of my head, things like - alcohol, drugs, general performance anxiety, she's too hot, she's not hot enough, dehydration, too much water, my legs hurt from the gym, tight underwear, I gotta pee, I gotta fart, I gotta poop, the condom is feeling tight, this position is weird, I blew my load either in the day and temperature can all potentially affect your performance and prevent you from getting a strong erection (or even getting hard at all).

If you have a big dick or been working on it via 'Get Hung', you're going to need even more blood in your dick to get and maintain a nice strong erection.

It's funny, some guys (not the guys in the Good Looking Loser community) tell me stories that go something like this, "...then she fucked my brains out," "...she pinned me down on the bed," and "...she ripped me clothes off," and obviously- I know they are lying.

Girls are not naturally dominant.

They don't like to be because they no longer feel feminine and sexy. Plus most girls (especially the hottest chicks) would have no idea how to do it if they wanted to. Girls like to be submissive because they feel feminine and sexy. Girls like to get fucked by a dominant, alpha male.

Sometimes there are random cougars that like to be the aggressor, but that's not the majority (maybe 1%) and even still- those women might still probably prefer a nice alpha bang with a sexy dominant male.

So you get it- its up to YOU to dominate her. You're the dominate male. She's the submissive female.

Non-Verbal Physical Advances

If you've checked out "Screening Game: How to Screen and Filter Out Chicks Without Being Rejected," "Mr. Funny Man vs. Mr. Pussy Inspector," or the basic model "Kino: When You Meet a Chick, Touch Her ASAP to Screen and Establish a Physical Dialogue," you understand the importance of 'screening' a girl rather than letting her screen you as you stand there running "I Hope She Likes Me Game."

Being aggressive and screening involves two things: Sexually-Charged Conversation + Physical Advances.

Arguably, the later, physical advances, are the most important part in the screening process. If a chick is amused by your sexually-charged dialogue she may hang around. But only if she is down-to-fuck (or in the near future) will she allow you to physically escalate on her. The good news is, the physical advances (dialogue) is super easy to learn and super easy to apply, if you allow yourself (just fucking touch the girl).

If you have social, approach or sexual anxiety that is preventing you from doing this- we can work on that.

This is undoubtedly going to be a popular post, let me preface it by saying:

Remember- ALL of these lines are used to SCREEN girls. Not to get them to like you.

You're "Mr. Pussy Inspector, not Mr. Funny Man".

You can say (communicate) all this stuff with confidence, arrogance, timidness or complete insecurity. It takes some time, don't sweat it. Just work on it.

The result is a product of how well you carry yourself, your body language, voice tone, voice speed, eye contact, etc. These all naturally get better as you get more comfortable, don't set out to try in improve them separately and don't think that you have improve them over night. It's sort of like public speaking, the more you speak - the more comfortable you get - the more comfortable you get - the better you get - the better you get - the more confidence you get - the more confidence you get - the better you get.