Meet Lexy, she's my homie that is going to tell you a little about her sex life and discuss women's sexually issues.

If you must know, she often gets told she looks like nicer/sweeter version of Valerie from 90210 who was played by Tiffani-Amber Thiessen.

While it's impossible to generalize EVERY female based on Lexy's testimony, I think you can make a lot from it because there are so many girls like her (you have to leave your house to find them however). Young, ambitious and also realize their early 20's is also about having fun. She's a pretty, happy girl that wouldn't strike you as a naughty girl or even one that you can picture touching herself.

She graduated from the University of California - San Diego (notable because a lot of guys think that- ALL girls who talk about their sexuality must be dumb)

Here is the specific device that I am reviewing -

On an unseasonably busy weekday in April 2011, I struck up a conversation with "Boomer," at Nordstrom Rack. Turns out, Mr. "Boomer," also a professional [non-NBA] basketball player, had come to Hollywood to do some adult gigs for the Summer. One thing led to another and I was given an impromptu audition for a quick scene in a "college co-ed's" series. I went to the audition and had an insider look at the mid-level Hollywood adult movie scene.

Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit

You can read entire story here, go on, I encourage you- "How Chris found 'LAXxx' and the Fleshlight"

Long story short- several guys at the gig had these devices that looked like flashlights that they were "warming up" with before their scenes. Later, I found out that these things were called "Fleshlights" and they were a sex toy / stamina builder hybrid. Boomer swore by it to control orgasm and significantly increase ejaculation volume. There must have been 40+ of them there. I was offered one, but I didn't want get a "pre-owned" one. :)

In this discussion, I'm going to talk about developing 'sexual triggers' to help you encourage blood flow to your dick so you can get hard. I'm not a sex therapist. I have a lot of experience though - I've had sex in public, in front of friends, outside, in the shower, in not-so-ideal places, etc.

Sex is nearly all a psychological process. That's why anxiety can get it way. If you aren't generally relaxed and confident- you ain't gonna perform too well.

There's a long list of stuff that can negatively affect your performance (we'll touch on these in detail another time).

Of the top of my head, things like - alcohol, drugs, general performance anxiety, she's too hot, she's not hot enough, dehydration, too much water, my legs hurt from the gym, tight underwear, I gotta pee, I gotta fart, I gotta poop, the condom is feeling tight, this position is weird, I blew my load either in the day and temperature can all potentially affect your performance and prevent you from getting a strong erection (or even getting hard at all).

If you have a big dick or been working on it via 'Get Hung', you're going to need even more blood in your dick to get and maintain a nice strong erection.

It's funny, some guys (not the guys in the Good Looking Loser community) tell me stories that go something like this, "...then she fucked my brains out," "...she pinned me down on the bed," and "...she ripped me clothes off," and obviously- I know they are lying.

Girls are not naturally dominant.

They don't like to be because they no longer feel feminine and sexy. Plus most girls (especially the hottest chicks) would have no idea how to do it if they wanted to. Girls like to be submissive because they feel feminine and sexy. Girls like to get fucked by a dominant, alpha male.

Sometimes there are random cougars that like to be the aggressor, but that's not the majority (maybe 1%) and even still- those women might still probably prefer a nice alpha bang with a sexy dominant male.

So you get it- its up to YOU to dominate her. You're the dominate male. She's the submissive female.

Has anyone else noticed that in Hollywood movies the female character often/usually "seduces" the guy? She nearly always makes the first move. She kisses the guy. She undresses the guy. And Perhaps the most unrealistic thing- she is happy and willing to embrace the male aggressor role and is madly attracted to her passive beta lover/hookup. That's not how it works in real life.

I've seen a lot through the years, especially my first ~2 years in Los Angeles (and San Diego) when I did virtually nothing but try to bang hot chicks and work when I had to. (see more about Chris)

In a nutshell- I wasn't any 'better looking,' during those ~2 years. I realized that the only reason I wasn't consistently banging a handful of chicks at a time through the years, was because I was a pussy and wasn't very aggressive. Once I got aggressive, I was getting more pussy than I could handle.

Remember the formula? Talk to Chicks (sexually-charged conversation) + Be Aggressive (physical advances) = Get Laid.

At times, I wasn't even talking to chicks, let alone being aggressive. It's a formula for long dry spells, needy behavior and general unhappiness.