"Can I Get Your Number?"
(The 'Bare Min' Approach)

No matter what type of "approach" you do-

The key to getting phone numbers is- ASKING.

Background

Yesterday, July 9th, I walked up to 17 girls at the mall and asked each of them for their phone numbers.

Other than "Hi.", "Can I Get Your Number?" was basically the first thing I said, often in about 10-15 seconds.

In most cases, I introduced myself right after and reached out and shook/took their hand.

Unlike what I usually do, I made almost no effort to communicate any personality, cool vibe, etc.

In some of the later audios, I barely even attempt to make conversation and continue to ask/tell the girls to give me their numbers.

Note- I AM NOT TRYING TO "GET AS MANY NUMBERS AS POSSIBLE," I AM SIMPLY SHOWING WHAT HAPPENS WHEN I ASK A GIRL FOR HER NUMBER BEFORE SAYING ANYTHING ELSE.

In terms of screening (approaching to separate the girls that are down vs. waste of time girls), this type of approach isn't all that bad.

I ask for their number in the first 10 seconds and I touch them about 5 seconds later.

Since this type of thing is very direct (and even rude to many), girls definitely have the opportunity to "reject" the approach and walk away without being rude and feeling bad.

I'll have to see who's really down and who's not.
(this is no different than if I did anything else)

But chances are-

If a chick gave me her number (given the type of approach I did), she is at the very least-INTERESTED and aware of my intentions.
(again, not really different than my normal thing)

Quick How-to Get Girl's Phone Number Guide-

1. Look good
2. Ask them for their phone number
3. Repeat

So What Happened?

The same thing as always when you talk to a reasonable sample of girls (15+) on any given day.

"Various predictable reactions"

Some girls were-

• Nice and [seemingly] available.
• Neutral and [seemingly] available.
• Shy and [seemingly] available.
• Standoffish and [seemingly] available.

OR

• Nice and [seemingly] unavailable.
• Neutral and [seemingly] unavailable.
• Shy and [seemingly] unavailable.
• Standoffish and [seemingly] unavailable.

This never changes.

If this idea is new to you and you have been under the impression that EVERY girl is available in ANY situation (so long as your "game" is good), please bring your socially retarded spaceship back to earth-

• "Numbers Game Explained: Sexually Girls vs. Not Sexually Available Girls"

While there's a decent chance that some of these girls would have otherwise given me their number if I took a more "normal" approach- that's not the point.

While there's a decent chance that some of these numbers are fake (see results)- that's not the point.

The point wasn't to "get the most numbers as possible."
(never is)

In this case, it wasn't even to see which girls as DTF/maybe-DTF.

The Point

The point was to show that you can walk up to a bunch of chicks with the bare minimum to say and ask them for their number- and they'll sometimes give you their/a number.
(Chris, we knew that)
(I know- but some don't believe it because otherwise they'd do it)

The majority of the time, you won't get their number.
(again, no different than any other approach)

Sometimes you'll get a dead number.
(again, no different than any other approach)

Sometimes you'll get a real number.
(and based on how much you touched her/how much she likes you- a legit DTF girl)

What helped me when I starting out in 2008, was making certain that I ended ALL my interactions (with girls that I was interested in) with-

"Hey cool, I gotta run, what's a number I can text you at?"
(and have my phone ready)

That increased the amount of numbers I got, the amount of numbers I didn't get and the amount of girls that I saw again.

If you find yourself that you "can't get numbers", the problem is usually-

1. You aren't asking.
2. You need to work on how you look and present yourself.

You'll get to the point where you can begin conversations with "What's your number," and get some real ones if you hit on enough girls.

That's the point.

Try it out.

Do exactly what I did.

There's nothing that prevents you from doing this every single day.

If ONE pays off, you [maybe] Get Laid- THAT NIGHT.
(not much different than other types of approaches- arguably, this one is better than everything but screening or basic guy)

The "Can I Get Your Number" Within 10 Seconds Approach Audios

I'll give the details that I remember and the few that I wrote in my phone.

It's important to note whether I held eye contact/smile with the girl beforehand.

That's big for these "fast" moving approaches. All the girls were 18-25, I think.

Listen to the "(No Number)" audios, some of them are pretty funny.

Girl #1 (No Eye Contact, Dead Number)

Notes: No eye contact, walked up along side of her. This is one of the only the ones where I didn't ask the girl for her number in the first 10 seconds. She had something in her mouth at the beginning and struggled to talk.

Girl #2 (No Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: No eye contact. Girl just got off her phone.

Girl #3 (Eye Contact, Live Number)

Notes: Eye contact. Sporty girl. Texted with her last night.

Girl #4 (Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: Eye contact. Wandering around the girl's section of express. I say something funny when she says she "doesn't give out her number".

Girl #5 (No Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: No eye contact. I call her a prostitute after she calls me a stalker. I was just playing along, apparently she was offended. Instead of going home and hanging myself- I walked up to the next pretty girl I saw.

Girl #6 (Eye Contact, Live Number)

Notes: Eye contact. Girl made a funny face/voice at me, rare. Shocked this girl give me her number. Even more shocked that she responds to my texts.

Girl #7 (No Number, Amazing Approach)

Notes: No eye contact. Race war. 1/2 flirting, 1/2 for real. I take the clothes that she checking out and put them back on the rack. I don't want hear about verbal "frame control," I was touching this girl way more than appropriate. haha. This is my favorite one.

Girl #8 (Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: Eye contact. Might have been 16, haha, walking fast. Cutie.

Girl #9 (No Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: No eye contact. Another hot young girl, probably 18 though.

Girl #10 (Eye Contact, Not Sure Dead/Live Number)

Notes: Eye Contact. Girl had a high voice, but not as high as it sounds. I think the audio recorder was backwards/fucked up.

*audio is lousy on this one- can't understand it*

Girl #11 (Eye Contact a Few Minutes Before, Live Number)

Notes: Had the recorder in my hand the entire time, her hand in my other. Made puppy dog faces at her. Hot girl from Pennsylvania. Had seen her earlier in the Food Court.

Girl #12 (Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: Eye contact. I think she saw me talking to the girl(s) before. We weren't actually in an argument but she wasn't about to give me her number. Trashy.

Girl #13 (Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: Girl freaked out when I put my hand on her to get her attention (after eye-contact). Haha.

Girl #14 (Eye Contact, Live Number)

Notes: Eye contact. Hot rich girl from the Palisades. Thought this girl was just fucking with me/on crack but she texts back.
Update 7/10: yeah she was mad high, and usually is.

Girl #15 (No Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: Kept spamming/pestering this girl. haha

Girl #16 (Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: "Let go of my hand". haha. Asked for 6? times for her number.

Girl #17 (No Eye Contact, No Number)

Notes: I lack creativity. Been up for about 21 hours straight.

What Not to Make of This

There is no reason to start calculating percentages, estimated statistics or start drawing graphs.

The "sample size" is too small anyway.

Instead of being a math nerd, go ask girls for their numbers.

It can be the first thing you say.

If you want one statistical conclusion, that will apply to most guys, here it is-

If you ask 100+ girls for their number, you'll get 1 or [a lot] more numbers.

It is much more likely that 1 or more girls gives you their number (and it's real) than for 100 girls in-a-row to turn you down.

That's what I've said since day one.

Also, "high risk" approaches yield better results than soft shit when they work just once.
(there is never any "risk")

If you can get 3-5 solid (maybe DTF) phone numbers over 15-20girls in under 2 hours- ITS BETTER than taking 5 days to get more phone numbers from the same amount of girls.

You can get further with a girl by asking for number in 10 seconds than some guys get in 2 hours.

What Guys Who Have a Sense of Entitlement Have in Common

Updated: August 24, 2014 (Grammar Proofed!)

This is an installment in our "Sense of Entitlement" articles.

As Killer Instinct is a specific advanced element of Social Freedom, a "Sense of Entitlement" is a specific form of advanced confidence, also called- inner game by overly-analytical self-improvement geeks.

This is a challenging subject and I will have to give a lot more thought before I discuss "How to Build a REAL Sense of Entitlement". (coming soon)

I really like this type of advanced discussion because it's what makes GoodLookingLoser undeniably legit, beneficial and insightful.

Subjects such as Killer Instinct, Retention, and Swag Factor, you won't find elsewhere- they are products of intense reflection of ACTUAL EXPERIENCE with the hottest women in their prime. The generic "meet women" and "pick up girls!" 'Dating Coach/I'm a PUA' websites and repackaged programs can't touch this shit, simply because- they literally haven't touched any/enough significant amount of high-quality, high-status pussy.

I'm not any 'smarter' than these Internet marketers (in fact, my website looks like shit)- I've just actually been there.

Thanks for letting me brag about our content, I don't often do that but I'm not humble when it comes to concepts like this and how I "learned" it.

About 10 months ago, I discussed The Difference Between Guys Who Bang Hot Girls and SUPER Hot Girls, and proposed a significant contributing factor that extends beyond the fundamentals - looks, style and social freedom-

"A Sense of Entitlement"

Simply put- you TRULY feel that you deserve their pussy and you are the type of guy that can pleasure it better than other guys could do.

You often feel so entitled to do so that you have no problem giving yourself permission to "Claim that Pussy" and might come off authentically arrogant from time to time.

In a lot of ways, some degree of a "sense of entitlement" plays a role in ANY type of girl that you hook up with-

• If you TRULY feel that you are hotter and cooler than average girls- you shouldn't have issues getting average girls into bed.
• If you TRULY feel that you are hotter and cooler than hot girls- you shouldn't have issues getting hot girls into bed.
• If you TRULY feel that you are hotter and cooler than super hot girls- you shouldn't have issues getting super hot girls into bed.

While a future discussion will cover the "how to's," simply reading the commonalities below will probably give you numerous ideas on what it looks like, what you are at and where you can begin.

The majority of these discussion is based on my experience and 4 specific friends (3 of which I've known for 7+ years) that do EXTREMELY well with super hot girls and are usually sleeping with multiple girls.

One thing I want you guys to keep in mind is- this discussion is on "A Sense of Entitlement" specifically to HOT PUSSY.

Half of these guys have a "finer things" TOTAL LIFESTYLE sense of entitlement to things such as- money, status, nice restaurants, exotic vacation destinations, college/workplace entry, special treatment from peers, colleagues and strangers but the other half DOES NOT.

Don't think you need to have a TOTAL LIFESTYLE sense of entitlement to land a lot of the hottest pussy; it can help, but it is certainly not mandatory.

Sense of Entitlement (Advanced Confidence with Women) 1/5.mp4 from Good Looking Loser on Vimeo.

What Guys With a Sense of Entitlement Have In Common

Allow myself, Derrick, Danny, Trevor and Curtis to tell you about this subject.
(yep, real names- these guys are not ashamed)

An Understanding of the Top 10% (Elite Guy Status)

Each of us understand just who the Top 10% guy is.

He's not a super good looking, super rich, super hard-working, super athletic, super educated, super popular, super social skilled, well-rounded and well-hung renaissance man that has a life of no anxiety, no drama and infinite money, sex and power.

That is the Top .00001% guy or possibly just a fictional character.
related: "Don't Confuse the Top 10% for the Top .00001%"

The Top 10% guy is just better than 9 out of 10 guys.

He might not even be a total standout in looks, style, social freedom, killer instinct, swag factor, career resume or even Sense of Entitlement- he's just above-average at all of them and he knows it.

It's rare to even find a good looking guy with social freedom, let alone a guy that is above-average with ALL the criteria that I just mentioned. The majority of guys are average slobs, so this shouldn't be tough to get to if you dedicate most of your 20's to it.

All of us understand (and believe) that we are more attractive and desirable than 9 out of 10 guys. More attractive than 90% of guys our age and demographic. This generally comes off as "confidence" to hot girls, while it might come off as "arrogance" to less attractive women.

We also understand that while those other guys in the "Top 10%" might theoretically be our competition, very few guys hit on girls. Like Josh (not mentioned) says, "these guys don't even talk to girls, we have absolutely no competition tonight."

Even on THIS WEBSITE, there's a lot of otherwise "elite" guys that simply don't believe they are top 10% and are preventing themselves from gaining a sense of entitlement. They tend to have an overinflated sense of what an "elite" guy actually is and are constantly comparing themselves to ideals that don't even exist.

Don't get in your own way.

Sense of Entitlement (Advanced Confidence with Women) 2/5.mp4 from Good Looking Loser on Vimeo.

Frames of Reference for Comparison Purposes

Every single self-improvement website will tell you "Never compare yourself to other people! Happiness comes from within!" and people blindly agree.

I'm not going to tell you that.
(so long as you aren't obsessed with comparisons)

EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE GUYS that sleeps with super hot girls, including myself, is competitive and compares himself with other men. It's not a reflection of insecurity if you aren't obsessed with it.

Rather than being discouraged by it, however, they are usually encouraged because they are making progress or already 'better' than their frame of reference.

Kobe Bryant publicly compares himself with other players in the NBA, he thinks he's the best. Yet your average self-improvement "guru" would tell you that Kobe is "wrong" to do that and he is insecure and he'll never be totally successful. Bullshit. (I don't even like Kobe)

Comparing yourself the 'average guy' and the 'elite guy' is a great frame of reference. It shows you where you've been and where you need to be.

I'd rather have you thinking (and believing) that every single person is totally inferior to you than to be "unsure" or too timid to talk about where you fit in with society.

After you overtake your comparison model, you'll know it. You'll be proud of yourself for it and if you are like some of my friends- you'll let the other person know.
(seriously, some of my friends are ridiculous and are too obsessed with it- but they look great and sleep with hotter girls than 90% of guys)

They Are All In Good Shape
(or Look That Way)

Among the 100,000 reasons to get in good physical shape, developing a sense of entitlement is one.

All of the guys I listed look like they are in better physical shape than most guys.

Some of them, Derrick and Curtis, are actually in great shape.

Some of them, Danny and Trevor, just look like they are (go to the gym but smoke cigarettes/weed, party hard, eat shitty, etc.).

To a certain extent- even guys that are in good shape but don't yet enjoy good success with women think they are more desirable to women, simply because they have better bodies.

In most cases- it's true.

They Aren't Totally Secure
(but They Aren't Insecure With Their Appearance)

With the exception of Curtis, all of my friends I listed aren't actually TOTALLY SECURE with their looks.

• Derrick always thinks he's too small and his hairline is going backwards. (neither are true)
• Danny thinks that most non-Jewish girls don't think he's hot. (not true)
• Trevor thinks he's "too plain and short" looking in comparison to Derrick and myself. (not true)

These guys aren't totally secure with their looks.

At the same time- they feel they look better than 90% of guys and that they pass almost every girl's "looks threshold".

While they are all admittedly "above-average" looking, the fact that they are generally secure with their looks makes the biggest difference in their success.

In my opinion, after you "look good enough," it's simply a matter of how confident you are about your appearance. Being "better looking" probably wouldn't make a huge difference for any of these guys. They are all above-average in the looks department however.

It's Just a Game (Streaks and Slumps)

To EVERY SINGLE OF THESE GUYS, hooking up with girls-

IS JUST A GAME.

This is not unlike how it is for the majority of "normal" (non-seduction community geek) guys that are "players".

It's a sport.

You'll go through streaks and slumps- neither are a reflection of your self-worth or even your ability.

It's simply a matter of sexual availability.

Last November- I probably talked to ~120 girls without getting laid.

3 weeks later, I hooked up with 5 chicks over about 30-40 approaches.

• Did I get better?
• Did my "game" get good?
• Did my looks drastically improve?
• Was I doing anything different?

Of course not.

Compared to the friends I listed, I had the hardest time making trying to sleep with women "just a game".

They Have Significant and Noticeable Masculine Traits

While the above elements are mostly related to "inner game" and mindset, this one isn't really avoidable.

You'll want need significant and noticeable masculine traits if you want any sort of decent success with hot girls, let alone building a sense of entitlement to that group.

NONE OF THESE GUYS are feminine or ever get confused for gay or undersexed males.

While this is not unlike other guys that are really successful with women- I still wanted to point it out because it is certainly part of their sense of entitlement.

Sense of Entitlement (Advanced Confidence with Women) 3/5.mp4 from Good Looking Loser on Vimeo.

They Have High Status In Selective Social Circles

All of the guys listed have #1 or #2 "top dawg" status in their social circles that are made up of other masculine guys.

Other guys look up to them and know they are cooler.

I guess this is what we call a leader of men, it's true, although not all of these guys, by definition, are stereotypical Martin Luther King/Tom Brady/Tim Tebow leaders or have any desire to be.

They just live and enjoy the status.

They Have Hot Girls As Friends

As I discussed in Swag Factor, there is usually a HUGE difference between an aspiring I'm-going-get-more-pussy guy who has hot girls as friends and guys that have no hot girls as friends.

These guys have at least 100+ at least above-average looking girls as their friends.

Even though they don't hook up with the majority of these girls, simply having their presence in their lives causes a sense of entitlement.

• Go on Facebook- pictures of them with hot girls.
  It's your birthday- Hot girls write on your Facebook wall.
• Look at your phone book- numbers from hot girls.
• Meet up at the bar- hot girl brings her hot friends and they buy you drinks.
• Get compliments- from hot girls.
• etc.

They Get/Had Constant Positive Reinforcement and Validation

Of all these, this might be the hardest to attain.

Even after you start to "look good" or are considered "good looking," you won't really believe it until enough people tell you it's true.

All of these guys, for years, have had hot girls and high status guys giving them compliments and telling them when other girls "said you were hot."

It goes a long way.

Each piece of positive reinforcement is a building block of self-esteem and a sense of entitlement.

Help! I Don't Have a Group of Cool/Hot Friends That Feed My Ego!
(The Bare Minimum Logical Delusion)

Like I said- this is the hardest to attain.

If this is you, chances are- you will never get the quantity of positive reinforcement that these guys have had.

It might not matter.

Regardless, I have a way around it that will help you build a more-than-adequate sense of entitlement.

I call it-

'The Bare Minimum Logical Delusion'

If you've ever gotten a compliment from an attractive girl (or someone who you think is cool), chances are- there are 250,000+ people (or at least one person) that feels the SAME WAY. Opinions are not always shared but their is usually a general silent consensus among others.

Even if there isn't a consensus, chances are there is more than 1 person that feels the same way.

It works this way-

If ONE person thinks something, chances are- another person feels the same way.

For example-

• If someone says they like your shirt, chances are (more likely than not) that someone else does too.
  It's much more UNLIKELY that only 1 person likes your shirt.
• If one girl was nice when you approached her, chances are (more likely than not) that another girl will be too.
  It's much more UNLIKELY that only 1 girl will be nice to you.
• If one girl said you were hot, chances are (more likely than not) that another girl feels the same way.
  It's much more UNLIKELY that only 1 girl thinks you are hot.
• If you've ever made out with a girl, chances are (more likely than not) that another girl would do the same.
  It's much more UNLIKELY that only 1 girl would kiss you.
• If you've ever had sex with a girl, chances are (more likely than not) that another girl would do you too.
  It's much more UNLIKELY that only 1 girl would wanted to sleep with you.

So...

It would seem that ANYTHING you've heard, seen or done- it can (and likely) happen again if you go look for it.

That's the Bare Minimum Logical Delusion.

The key is start to believe it and not just "know" it.

It can be a healthy mindset that will actually prevent you from becoming super validation seeking in a quest for security.

Sense of Entitlement (Advanced Confidence with Women) 4/5.mp4 from Good Looking Loser on Vimeo.

They Don't Feel Sorry For Themselves
 (or Bitch About Money, Circumstances, Weaknesses, etc.)

None of these guys whine or bitch about their circumstances for too long.

They all vent frustration (Curtis used to call me and complain for hours) but they usually do something about it or return to their "I'm Blessed: Life Is Good" mindset.

There's a few guys that I know in Los Angeles that hook up with a lot of super hot girls, have a good Sense of Entitlement but whine about stuff and feel sorry for themselves for weeks at a time- but they are a minority and don't usually whine about women.

This is one that has some cross-section with the total lifestyle "finer things" sense of entitlement since the whining is generally not about girls, but like I said- it's usually short-lived.

They Seek Both Pussy and Validation

One of the biggest misconceptions is that guys that seek validation can't score with a lot of hot girls.

It's simply not true.

While it's TOTALLY BETTER to NOT seek the validation of women and sometimes "The Biggest Obstacle to Overcome" for some guys, EACH ONE OF THE GUYS I listed, to some extent- seeks validation from other guys and girls.

MYSELF INCLUDED.

Once your desire for pussy is more than your desire for validation- you'll get A LOT of action.

It doesn't mean that you "never" seek validation. You just don't want to be obsessed with it.

One thing I will say is- these guys all get the validation they seek.
(In 2006, I made a public pledge that I would never give Derrick a compliment again because he was always fishing for compliments)

The reason I mention this element is because I don't want you guys to think that you have to be some fucking zen-master superhero that exhibits or feels no validation-seeking desire to score the HOTTEST girls.

It's simply not true.

Curtis is the biggest fucking try-hard douchebag*, he gets laid as much as Scotty.
* sometimes (joke)

They Are All Comfortable With Being
"That Douchebag"

Speaking of douchebags, none of these guys give a shit if someone calls them a "douchebag".

I think we all understand that "douchebag" is a term of endearment" used by lower status people to vent their frustration with a guy that is cooler and gets laid more than they.

Some of them, Curtis, Trevor, myself- all relish when girls and guys call us a douchebag.

As I recently mentioned in the forum-

The part that some guys are misunderstanding (and I take the blame for this) is that ALL OF THESE GUYS (including myself) aren't actually arrogant "douchebags" that are going around being assholes and mean to people.

Just the opposite.

Average guys that barely get any ass perceive them that way. Average looking girls that know we are capable of banging more desirable girls perceive them that way.

If you look decent, have confidence, do what you want (most of the time), you'll be perceived as a douchebag.

If you are successful in life- you'll be perceived as a douchebag.

For more on this, please see-

• "Douchebag - A Term of Endearment"

They Aren't All A Specific "Type" of Guy
(nice guy vs. good guy vs. scumbag)

It might surprise you, but these guys don't all fit a specific profile.

• Derrick is largely a nice guy.
• Curtis and myself are largely good guys.
• Danny and Trevor are definitely scumbags.

Don't think that you have to be scumbag to have a real sense of entitlement.

You don't.

You just have to have authentic social and sexual confidence.

They Are All Blissfully Delusional
(and ~Always Think They Are Right)

We are all "blissfully delusional".

We think our opinions, which can change in an instant- are the RIGHT ONES.

All these guys think they are smart, all of these guys think they are intelligent and all of these guys live by "Be A Hypocrite, Not a Follower" whether they know it or not.

• Their religious, political and social views are the RIGHT ONES.
• Their lifestyle choices are the RIGHT ONES.
• Their sports teams are the best and most honorable.
• What they did on Saturday night was RIGHT.
• What they ordered for dinner was RIGHT.
• How they feel about others is the RIGHT OPINION.
• etc.

Sometimes it makes "getting along" with each other difficult. These guys are masculine alpha males, they should think they are RIGHT about most everything.

I know I do.

I'm not saying that all these guys always voice their opinions, never admit they are wrong, never listen or refuse to learn from a more intelligent/experienced person. They don't even come off as arrogant.

They can just be stubborn as shit and in the moment- confident in whatever they believe, no matter how ignorant it is.

They Are Delusional About How Interested Girls Are In Them

Speaking of delusions, this one is extremely helpful.

Every one of these guys is pretty much convinced that a girl wants to sleep with them if she so much as talks to them.

All of them believe that if any girl that says they're hot - wants to sleep with them.

All of them believe that if any girl makes out with them - wants to sleep with them.

All of them believe that most girls consider would dump their boyfriend - for one night with them.

I'm pretty sure you understand why this is helpful without me saying.

Since I understand sexual availability, I know that this isn't true. Most girls "like" them but they aren't necessarily looking to suck their dick at the time.

Still it's WAY BETTER than thinking they need to convince girls to like them.

They Believe They Are Better In Bed Than Other Guys

Chances are- these guys ARE actually better in bed than most guys.

They are pretty experienced.

Regardless, when we discussed this topic- every single one of them told me they are "great in bed" and they "knew" it.

Interesting enough, none of them claim to have big penis or to be concerned about "a hung guy" in a girl's past; but some (Derrick, haha) were overly curious about how girls reacted to my size.

Sense of Entitlement (Advanced Confidence with Women) 5:5.mp4 from Good Looking Loser on Vimeo.

They Are In Love With Their Best Feature

I have a crutch, it's in my pants.

I first discussed "best feature" in this article.

Basically- you turn yourself on by focusing on your (or her) best feature.

Works good.

Each of my friends has a "best feature" that they consider to be AMAZING and convinced that NOBODY has better.

• Trevor thinks he's the most masculine guy ever.
• Danny thinks he has the cutest "baby face" ever.
• Derrick thinks he is the best looking guy ever.
• Curtis thinks he is the coolest guy ever.
• I think my penis girth offers the most violent memorable orgasms ever.
  (in reality, I just think that I have more experience with pulling random girls than nearly every other guy around)

Whether we are right or wrong, it doesn't matter- it pays dividends when talking to the hottest girls.

Whatever your "best feature" is, MAX it out and fall IN LOVE with it.

Don't worry if some geeky self-improvement guru tells you that your best feature is a "crutch".

Even if was a crutch, you should have all the crutches you can have if they get you laid.

They Have Experience

This will be a work in progress.

It's not a switch you can flip on and have it be totally authentic.

The good news is- you will build a sense of entitlement WHILE you are gaining experience and as you reflect on your experiences after.

You DON'T need a shitload of sexual experience to make a significant stride toward building a sense of entitlement. Some people might just need ONE extended emotional and sexual experience with ONE popular hot girl before they are able to have an adequate sense of entitlement that can land them girls that are equally or slightly more hot.

I developed an unbreakable sense of entitlement from dating the runner-up Ms. Teen Maryland (Samantha Redmond) after the senior year of high school. She dumped me in about 2 weeks but I felt like I would eventually land the hottest of the hot girls. It would take me another 10 years to meet those standards but my sense of entitlement was undeniable.

You just need some and the ability to form positive interpretations.

They Will Sleep With Average/Above-Average Girls While Looking To Upgrade

All of my friends that I consulted for help in writing this article, with the exception of Derrick, they always always sleeping with a girl (or 3).

A lot of times, at least one of those girls does not fulfill their high-standards. Rather than turning the girl down, they sleep with her while also making a point of meeting other women in the process. It works great for them because they feel they have nothing to lose since they are already getting laid a ton.

As most of you know, when I FINALLY started getting a lot of action (toward the end of 2008)- I had built up a "rotation" of 3 fuckbuddies, most of whom I met at the end of the summer in Los Angeles. My sexual neediness was NONE. My desire to meet (and work on) girl was NONE. My approach anxiety was NONE.

Needless to say- REAL RESULTS started happening.

Had I ditched my slightly above-average looking fuckbuddies, I probably never would have gotten the quick results that kept motivated to continue "picking up girls" after my year in the Brad P. program was done. I even did the "100 Approaches, Basic Guy Game" during that period of time.

From that point (it was the beginning) for about 10 months (before I started to work more), it was the most significant period of my development as a man. Arguably the most significant period of my life.

Arguably, if it weren't for Molly, Sharon (pronounced- Share-rown; Israeli hairstylist) and another girl who became my on-again-off-again girlfriend- Good Looking Loser and everything I talk about would never exist.

I was very close to quitting entirely.

Having really high standards and a sense of entitlement can prevent you from having a good, regular, healthy sex life.

It did to me for 10years.

* Some Them Hold Significant Leverage

I decided to add this one in even though it is not true of all of my friends.

Some of these guys retain girls because they hold significant social/professional/status/lifestyle leverage over the girls they are fucking. It's not clear to me if the girls know this before they sleep with them however.

For example-

Trevor has an elite position with a financial company. He is somewhat in charge of the hiring process and certainly holds influence and power over the firing process. From my understanding- anyone (especially younger employees) that want to get anywhere in the organization need his approval. It's not surprising that he fucks a lot of the interns and entry-level employees.

He says he's reasonable, never promising them anything and usually not requiring them to continue sleeping with him (that would be unethical and against company policy). He claims that girls don't really have a problem with this (not that they'd tell him) because he's a cool attractive guy and very few of the girls turn him down or given any sort of resistance.

He told me-

"It's not like I'm some old creep that takes them in bathroom and unzips my pants. I take them out to dinner, pay for it and we come back to my place for a few drinks. They know what they are getting themselves into and if they want to leave or hold off on sex, I'm cool with that."

The extent of this dynamic, I don't really know however.

Whether you think that is ethical or not, please remember- I'm not here to tell you lies and simply "inspire" you. I'm here to tell you about how legit guys get it done. I'm here to tell you about REAL shit and what goes on in the world.

While some moralists/you-have-to-cold-approach-girls-for-it-to-count guys will say that "Trevor is cheating," the amount of girls that come from his workplace probably makes up 10-20% of the girls his fucks all year.

I know Trevor to be truthful and believe when he tells me that only 6 of 31 girls he fucked in 2012 were via this dynamic and he is not on bad terms with any of them. He's ALWAYS with a new girl and that's actually how I met him in college.

Another example is Danny.

He's from a wealthy family and he has (had?) the ability to take girls to private islands on weekends. The temporary lifestyle he can provide them is so much better than his competition. While this type of think attracts "gold diggers," Danny just stops talking to them whenever he wants. Girls know if they break up with him- no more vacations and free rides, it's back to the 1.5 bedroom apartment.

A lesser example is myself.

Most girls know that I'm pretty connected in Los Angeles. Even though I ONLY offer to help their social/professional standing AFTER we have been sleeping together for months- they lose any [potential] benefits by cutting off a relationship with me. While that sounds significant, the reality is- most of the girls I hook up with aren't really expecting me to open doors for them (so many guys promise these hot girls things) or have any huge desire for immediate help. Not even the actresses or aspiring musicians- whom I actually could help out.

Derrick and Curtis don't hold significant financial/lifestyle leverage in my opinion (sorry guys).

Both of them retain the hottest girls without it.

Conclusion

So there you have it.

We'll discuss how to build a sense of entitlement in the near future. Certainly you probably have a few ideas after reading this. This is definitely something takes a little while to develop, with experience being the greatest catalyst. So it's good if you get started while you are in your teens or early 20's.

As always, if you have questions or comments, hit me up below-
(the best place for immediate feedback and answers is always in our forum)

Edgy Guys Have Sex Appeal That Normal Guys Don't
(Lexy Acquati) 

I saw a great post on PUAHate.com in regards to people trying to pinpoint/analyze “what it is” about me/our “game” (and what I’m pushing ALL you guys to be) that is appealing to women and gets us laid.

• Is it the voice tone?
• The opener?
• "Being Social?"
• The clothing?
• Maybe high trust/low trust?
• Comfort?
• Eye contact to communicate "I have a sexual vibe"?
• Carefully timed, funny jokes?
• Looks? (He's not a skinny male model and body "doesn't count")

This kind of stuff needs to come out of someone else’s mouth.

It’s arrogant if I say it- even though it’s what I’ve been getting at for the past 16 months.

If you were still confused about "why/how this works" at a high-level with high-quality girls, Colez will explain it to you-

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So there you have it.

By the way, I am not naturally 220 lbs and my parents didn't dress me up with a bandana, accessories and ripped jeans.
(I had to try something new)

If you want this stuff to work for you- take Colez' advice.

Forward By Good Looking Loser

I’ve been the “clean cut” "pretty boy" masculine prep guy (1982-2006).

I’ve also “edgy” masculine guy.

I always tell guys to lean toward the later in their effort to “Dress Like A Somebody, Not A Nobody.”

Don't think it's not a choice. It is a choice.

"Being edgy" is the ticket to sex appeal if you aren't a naturally good looking guy. Wanna-be pretty boy offers NO advantages to an average looking guy.

And Even if you are- you are better off with some edge.

It doesn't take much to look edgier than the average guy. A pair of sunglasses, a single ring and certainly 1 tattoo will make you look edgier and cooler than 50% male humans.

An edgy style is more masculine, has greater sex appeal and communicates that you are different from the undersex norm.

It works MUCH better, especially for the purposes of GETTING LAID is quite different than just “meeting women”.

There is a video at the bottom of this post that discusses why/how we one of only sites on the Internet for GET LAID advice, while the thousands of others are simply for “meeting women”. The distinction is huge.

It also works much better to make an impression on the HOTTEST girls that have plenty of normal generic guys offering them dinner and a movie.

The hot untouchable blonde is into the edgy guy, the “girl next door” is into him too, the college girl surrounded by frat boys wants the edgy guy, even the stressed out professional girl who gets out 1 time a month wants to sleep with him.

Other than the below-average girl who knows that she has no chance with him, nearly ALL types of hot girls are into the edgy guy.

This is necessary true of the “normal” looking guy, even if he is good looking and since I don’t have a vagina, I’ll let Lexy tell you why-

Why Hot Girls Like Edgy "Bad Boys" and What We Assume About Them
(By Lexy)

It is 100 percent true that edgy guys are more appealing and attractive to both nice and edgy girls. I am drawn to edgy guys like a magnet. An edgy guy looks cool – appears to have confidence – and is more of a challenge than a nice guy with a squeaky clean appearance.

Perhaps you are thinking it is superficial of girls like me to judge a guy based on his looks. But, as I pointed out, it isn’t just about the look. It’s the overall character of a guy who is edgy that attracts me.

Besides, men (humans, in general) judge others on their appearance all the time. In fact- it’s usually an accurate assessment since we have significant control over how we look, what we wear and the impression we make.

I make an effort to look sexy when I go out and I expect a guy to do the same. If he doesn’t, he is sending me the message that he isn’t trying to find a girl or hook up. I will look elsewhere.

I have always preferred edgy guys over guys who are not.

Tattoos Turn Me On

I think tattoos are hot on a guy; however, I don’t like him to be covered in them.

A tattoo kind of says I can be a bad boy – I like to have fun – I’m not afraid of pain – I am unique and proud of it. Even one tattoo is a turn on. I’m not too picky about how big or small they are.

Guys can go overboard with tattoos, in my opinion. I like between 1-10 tattoos on a guy – depending on the size and location. I love seeing a guy with a tattoo on his muscular arms – it’s super sexy!

That’s just me.

More conservative girls might tell you otherwise.

Tommy Lee is not naturally masculine looking (he's tiny) or intimidating. His "dirt bag" style and tattoos has extreme sex appeal and coolness to the hottest of the high-status women. There's plenty of other celebrities that Pam Anderson and Heather Locklear could have married instead.

Most Girls Want to Fuck Edgy Bad Boys

My girls and I want to fuck bad boys with an edgy appeal – and most sexually active girls feel the same way.

When most girls are out for a night of fun (and have already decide they might go home with someone, I mean- this stuff doesn’t just “happen”), they are looking for a sexy guy to show them a good time, whereas most girls picture settling down with a nice looking guy that is safe.

Girls don’t go to the club or bar to get married or find their husband, so the nice guy is not likely to get laid. Actually, the chances of him getting a girl in bed THAT NIGHT are very very low unless he is good looking and has a masculine face to compete with the edgier looking guys.

It’s probably safer to say: A good boy will not be cuming that night, unless he pleasures himself. You may or may not like hearing this, but it is simply the truth!

However, it doesn’t take much to transform from a good boy to a bad boy. Instead of complaining about the facts, do something about it. “If you can’t beat them – join them.” You’ve probably heard the saying – and it totally applies to this situation. Become the guy who girls want to fuck instead of the guy complaining that “that’s not me...”. ;)

If you are naturally masculine looking, suits will provide a nice contrast.

Perception is Reality – Probably Assumptions

Although it’s not always true, fun girls, like me, make assumptions about edgy looking guys vs. nice/clean looking guys – and perception is reality – especially in Los Angeles.

What assumptions do we make and why?

Edgy guys are probably cooler.

They look cooler, and when you first meet someone, you don’t have much else to go by. If I’m looking at one guy wearing a button up shirt (probably buttoned all the way too) tucked in his perfectly ironed khaki pants and another guy wearing a sweet T-shirt (possibly showing off a tattoo) with distressed jeans -- I can’t help but think the second guy is cooler! You probably would do the same.

Edgy guys are probably more fun.

Edgy guys remind me of the type that take me on a motorcycle ride (or something else exciting). They have a bad boy look that gives the impression that they like to have fun, and know how to make it happen.

Edgy guys probably more of a challenge.

They look more confident, and they get more female attention. They are more of a challenge because there is competition with other girls. It appears as though edgy guys can choose almost any girl they want. They don’t usually go too far out of their way to impress. Instead, they seem to do subtle things to impress without making so much of an effort that they look like desperate idiots – and they have no problem walking away. They know if they can’t land one girl, they can get another one. Again, they have a confidence about them without being cocky.

This is a girl trying to figure out a guy, so maybe Chris – Christopher – Good Looking Loser can tell me if I am anywhere close to what these guys are actually thinking or doing.

Many times, they get approached by girls, which also make them more of a challenge and more appealing.

They are more mystifying too. The fact that I had to ask Chris if I was close or not proves that edgy guys have an unknown mysterious appeal to them.

I want to use an example here from my life.

Like I said, I have always been drawn to edgy guys.

When I was 17, I went to a party at someone’s house with a girlfriend.

An edgy guy had a joint, and was passing it around in a circle. Later, I was sitting down, and he sat next to me. He looked like a sexy bad boy, and he was flirting with me (subtly). My friend called me over to her. I got up to see what she wanted. She told me that the guy was trying to flirt with me. I told her I knew that and liked it. When I tuned around to go back to where I was sitting, he was gone. I was so mad at my friend. After asking around, I was told he left to walk home (mysterious), and I got his name. I was determined (challenged) to get this guy. I did end up with him for a couple of months too. ;)

Edgy guys are more mysterious and any 'sweet' or 'nice' behavior has more impact.

Since edgy guys are more mysterious as mentioned above, when they do or say something sweet it means more because it is not expected, whereas it is expected from a nice guy.

When an edgy guy writes a poem -- buys roses – plays a special song – or looks at the stars with a girl -- he is viewed as opening up. When an edgy guy opens up and shows his sweet side, this makes a girl feel special because he doesn’t do this for just anyone.

It doesn't take much to look edgier than the average guy.

Edgy guys can “keep it real”.

Edgy guys are true to themselves, and they are not busy trying to be like everyone else. No girl wants a fake or an obvious follower. The fact that edgy guys keep it real adds another dimension of mystery to them as well. You cannot put them in one category or completely understand all of them just because you get one of them. This is true of all guys, of course, but it seems to be even truer of the bad boy type.

Like Chris says, while guys that rock standout trendy styles are considered “followers,” it’s not actually the case. It’s the normal guys that looks exactly the same as the other normal guys that are the followers.

Edgy guys are more confident because they like to stand out and not fit in.

It takes self-confidence to be comfortable with yourself rather than trying to be like everyone else.

Edgy guys are probably more independent.

Edgy guys come across as being tough, which gives them a self-reliant persona.

Edgy guys are probably more masculine.

They seem to take charge and be tough. Masculinity is another word for sex appeal, in my book.

Google 'Justin Bobby' if you want a good example of a good looking guy maxing out his sex appeal.

Edgy guys probably are better in bed.

They are looked at as having more experience. Girls assume they know what they are doing when it comes to sex.

Going on a “regaular” dinner date with an edgy guy is actually exciting.

I’ve gone to over 100 dinner dates with guys.

It’s still exciting to me when an edgier looking guy takes me out.
(Of course it’s because I like him but it also seems like non-stereotypical behavior.)

Other than a handful of times, a dinner date with Mr. Nice Looking Guy has always been like being in a classroom or talking to an insurance agent at Allstate. Regardless if he was good looking.

Edgy guys are intriguing, and it is thrilling to get to know them. It makes for exciting sex later too!

Dinner with Mr. Nice guy is going to make me bored to death. I can’t imagine having sex with him. If the conversations are dull, I assume the sex will be terrible too.

I would rather be seen with an edgy guy than a Mr. Generic Polo guy

I love being seen with an edgy guy. I love the attention, and it makes me feel exciting and cool. If I were to be seen with Mr. Generic Polo guy, all guys are going to think that is what attracts me, and that I’m a boring, Plane Jane.

That might seem superficial but once you get to know attractive girls, they ALL care who they are seen with.

Remember- IT DOESN"T TAKE MUCH TO ADD EDGE.

Don't think that you have to get completely inked up or put on 50 lbs. of muscle mass.

If you've been studying this stuff for over a year and still find yourself thinking, "that's not me..." "that's not me..." and you are unable to muster up the courage to at least try new things-

Maybe it isn't you. Maybe it's time to shut it down and just accept yourself.

Somewhat a different topic (as discussed above)-

"Us vs. Them" (Getting Laid vs. Meeting Women)

I dunno if this will work...

Every 7-10 days, I'll see a comment on either a YouTube video or on the blog that says something to this effect-

or

or maybe like

Or my absolute favorite...

(what the hell is he talking about...)

... and that's the point.
(no, I wouldn't be bagging quality chicks if didn't make myself look good.) 

Giving them benefit of the doubt, I'm going to guess the majority of these guys aren't super familiar with our community.

We do preach, ad-nauseum*- Looks, Style, Social Freedom.
* I can use big words too.

And there's a reason why I list LOOKS first.
(because other than logistics, it's the most important thing for bagging quality girls on the SAME night (nearly equal with Killer Instinct)

But still-

Only around the PUA community is it unacceptable to devote time and energy to maximizing your sex appeal (looks, style).

Only around the PUA community is being "jacked" or "ripped" frowned upon.

Only around the PUA community does anything other than "game" not count.

It is no surprise that this niche of guys have the hardest time getting chicks to sleep with them?

Before this becomes another "Wow! Looks Do Matter!?!" pointless discussion, lets stay on track and expand this to something slightly useful.

Screening, PUA, Normal Guy, Drunken Stupor
(it all works/doesn't work)

When people point out that "screening" won't work well for average guys, I agree.

What most of those people haven't considered is that NOTHING WORKS well when you are average.

This entire creepy blog is dedicated to NOT BEING AVERAGE, from your head to dick to ya feet.

By and large, in terms of getting laid, you'll mainly get girls that are on the same level as your looks/coolness.

If you are above-average at both, you are in the territory to land hot girls, at least sometimes.

If you are below-average at both, you'll end up in conversations with legit hotties that go nowhere, at best.

When you speak to girls that are AVAILABLE and potentially DTF, their receptability to your PHYSICAL advances is mainly based on your sex appeal (looks, style).

It doesn't matter if you "screen" them "PUA" them "normal guy" them or somewhat slur your speech.

The approach doesn't matter.

You guys have probably heard this statement-

"In 30 seconds, girls decide whether they are willing to fuck you."

For girls that are single, looking and willing (aka sexually available)- this is largely true.

So Why Do You Advocate "Screening" If It All Works?

Good question.

Screening is the most productive and efficient way to play the numbers game.

By touching girls within the first 0-60 seconds, you'll find out where they stand.

Developing the mentality of- "lets see if this chick is DTF," is more emotionally healthy than "I hope can make this girl like me".

All the other "methods" usually involve trying to verbally convince a girl to like fuck you. Something that is "verbal game" can't do anyway.

More on this here-

• "What is Screening?"

Define "Works"

Whenever I hear someone asking if something "works," I roll my eyes.

What does "works" mean?

One time?

Multiple times?

Every time?

Nearly every popular approach to EVERYTHING, works- some of the time.

Picking up women is no different, it's a numbers game.

It's Impossible to "Create Attraction"?

No it's not.

If you look good, you'll create all the attraction you need.

As far as "game" goes-

Any sort of "game" or "technique" is simply a manifestation of your social freedom.

By itself, social freedom isn't enough to get women attracted to you.

It can make girls laugh but it has a very limited effect on your overall sex appeal and sexual interest girls ultimately have.

I'm not going to go as far as saying "game doesn't exist" (I don't care and neither do you if are actually serious about fucking girls), but the amount of attraction you can "create" with lines/techniques/body language is limited and far less important than your sex appeal and social skills.

The entire PUA community is based on "creating attraction," with game being the 'great equalizer', at the end of the day- it doesn't significantly compensate for a lack of sex appeal or coolness.

"Attraction Is Not a Choice"

David DeAngelo was right.

Only he was talking about "game" and not sex appeal.

The ONLY reason I can sometimes call up chicks I haven't seen/heard from in 2-3 years and get them to come over is- they are still attracted to me. That's why I encourage guys not to delete phone numbers, assuming the girl thought you 'looked good', she ALWAYS will unless you let yourself go.

Why Above Average? Don't I Need to be Fabulous?

Perhaps it's confusing when I encourage guys to MAX OUT their looks, style, social freedom- but then tell them "above average" will work just fine.
(nearly all guys can get to above-average with all 3, then it's a matter of social skills/killer instinct/coolness to be truly elite)

Lets discuss why that is-

If you have above average- looks, style and social freedom- you'll be in rare company.

• With above-average looks and style, you'll have access to girls with the same (or slightly better, if you are also cool).
• With above-average social freedom, you'll be able to play the numbers game for those girls.

Very few guys have all 3. Most have none of the above.

If you look better and can talk to more girls than 9 out of 10 guys, congratulations- you are top 10% for the criteria that matters most for getting laid.

One of the only problems that the cluster of "improve yourself, improve with women" communities unintentionally promote is- it's a little bit exaggerated "how good" you ACTUALLY have to be at every individual facet.

It's usually a good idea to try to develop yourself across the board but don't think for a second that you have be on some super level with everything. You don't.
(fun fact: one of the original domains for this site was- www.aboveaverageloookingloser.com)

I expand on this concept in this "lets all be above-average and hit on girls" video.
"What Is Elite? Don't Confuse the Top 10% for the Top .0001%"

Table of Contents

0:00 The never explained "Top 10%" GLL concept
1:40 Wow I have my work cut out for me! (no, maybe not)
2:00 Who is the "Top 50%" re: Social Freedom (a guy who can't hit on any girls during the day, ever.)
3:30 Comparisons to friends; for frame of reference
6:00 Who is the "Top 50%" re: Looks/Style (little overweight, below average posture, not in shape)
12:10 Don't confuse the top 1-10% for the Top .00001%
13:20 Be better than 9 out of 10 guys - unlimited pussy, if you apply yourself
14:25 Who you are really competing against at bars
14:45 Example: Me

We'll continue to discuss specifics to improve your looks, style and social freedom in the very near future.

Related propaganda-

• A Similar Criticism of Good Looking Loser "Don't Be Average"
• "Internalizing a Screening Mindset"
• "Good Looking Above Average Loser"
• "Why Improving Your Life Doesn't Necessary Get You Laid More"

Believing Screening

If you've spent time around the Good Looking Loser community, you'll know that I "teach" something called "screening".

In short, it is our approach to Getting laid.

Instead of relying on jokes, dialogue and techniques to convince girls to "like you," you simply go around making normal, sometimes flirtatious conversation, with women and touch them in the process.

The women that are "sexually available" will respond positively (or neutrally) and the ones that aren't will leave the interaction.

There are number of reasons why is this the best way to Get Laid.

These reasons include, but are not limited to-

• You never are "working on" girls and you will know very quickly whether a girl is interested or not.
• Get Laid (meeting women) is a numbers game, screening cuts through the bullshit in a matter of minutes (usually, seconds).
• There is usually way less approach anxiety because you are approaching women for sex and not trying to get them to "like you," in which guys tend to feel more vulnerable.
• By simply touching a girl, she'll know that you are a player and not some nice guy pussy boy/funny man pick up artist.
• You develop a RAW NATURAL MASCULINITY along the way. You aren't using techniques to "communicate you are an alpha male".
• Once you are comfortable/realize that the verbal dialogue is hardly part of the equation, your mind frees up and you can easily make small talk/say whatever you want.

Again, our approach to screening to primarily to- Get Laid.

It is not to "meet women" "avoid rejection" "make her laugh!" "get the girl!" "make her think you are interesting" or impress anyone.

Check out every other dating site if you think those mindsets are more masculine.

For most guys- the very concept of screening is a 180 from anything they have thought or done before.

It was for me and I usually get credit for "inventing" it.

Most of us are used to making jokes, acting out rehearsed "routines" and various other techniques where the goal is to impress the girl and convince her to like you or grant you the permission to continue to speak to her.

So, like anything else in life, that you have just gotten started with- it will take a while to fully internalize.

You'll just have to go through the motions in the meantime. That's fine, that's exposure therapy, that's how it's done.

The following discussion covers things that you WILL DO or WILL EVENTUALLY DO to internalize screening and make it authentic.

Like everything else, these insights come from my experience. Some insights were conscious, others are in hindsight.

I don't necessarily suggest that you "try to" do these, but rather- just keep them in mind and judge your progression on them from time to time. If you are noticing that some of these aspects are becoming your reality, you are on the right track. These might also shed insight on why you aren't "getting it" and help point you in the right direction.

By no means to you "need" all of these to be your reality to Get Laid over-and-over-and-over, more likely- you'll be Getting Laid over-and-over-and-over as you work on them.

While these may seem unique to "screening," these will apply to any type of "game" or approach you take. These are universal and the guys that have them succeed at a high level.

When Does Screening Become Authentic?

I could go on at-length about all of these, but I won't- I'll just finger the surface.

#1 You Look Good. (And You Know It)

Looking hot and knowing it is arguably the most important one.

Looks + Style = Sex Appeal.

Notice I said "look good" and not "good looking," being good looking certainly helps, but simply looking good (in-shape, cool, masculine) will give nearly every guy 'above-average' standing with most of society and meet or exceed the 'looks threshold' of majority of sexually-available girls.

Being able to walk into a bar and knowing "these guys aren't as hot as I am" is big.

As narcissistic and superficial as that sounds- that's reality.

If you are in the process of getting together or MAX'ing out your looks and style- it will take your brain a little while to catch up to the impact that your presence is having. If you have never had a life where girls or friends tell you "[name] thinks your hot" or "[name] thinks your cute," you'll probably have to hear or be told that 50-100 times before you actually believe it.

#2 You're Cooler That Most of the Chicks You Talk To.
(And Both of You Know It)

For the analytical guys out there- YOUR COOLNESS should be equal/more than HER HOTNESS.

Remember how I mentioned- when I talk to girls I know I'm cooler than they are?

While it didn't always used to be this way- it's gotten to that point.

• "Swag Factor (Coolness) Defined".

Developing a cool vibe, isn't necessarily predicated on developing a cool lifestyle. I know a bunch of guys that do nothing but do cocaine and have sex with really hot girls. They aren't well-traveled, well-spoken or even interesting. They just don't give a shit, which instantly sets them ahead of 90% of guys in that category.

#3 You Are Part of or Near to the 'Top 10%' of Guys.

We throw around the concept of "Top 10%" a lot here.

It's usually focused on the aspects of- Looks, Style, Social Freedom and (Coolness).

You can be in the the Top 10% simply by having 1 or 2 of those aspects down. You don't need to have all 4.

Ideally- you do though.

Guys that have above-average Looks, Style, Social Freedom and Coolness are among the top 1% or 2%. It's rare.

• "Don't Confuse the Top 10% for the Top 1%"

Remember, the average guy has- average looks, virtually no standout style, doesn't talk to random girls and is pretty boring, just like his friends It doesn't take that much to eclipse Mr. Average.

Differing slightly from #1 and #2, it is very important that you are ACTUALLY IN (or around) the Top 10%.

Even if you believe you are a highly desirable man, if the rest of the universe doesn't- then are AREN'T.

In various self-improvement/'pick up girls" communities there is the belief that "as long as you believe that you're awesome/look good/good with women, than you are." That's complete bullshit.

#4 You Will TRULY Not Be Looking for Validation.

Though the aspects are above may be just slightly more important to building a 'screening mindset', this one was BY FAR the most crucial for me.

Screening is not for guys that are looking for validation. It is for guys that want to Get Laid.

Seeking validation is one of the main reasons that guys continue to have a "I hope she likes me..." validation-based mindset. They are just looking to feel better about themselves in the safest way possible and turning to the opposite sex for that.

There's a number of ways to get past this, one of the biggest ways is to simply get your validation, get bored with it and move on to better things, such as- Getting Laid.

#5 You Have Gained LEGITIMATE Experience.

I like to think my blog can change people's lives. Sometimes it can.

But the changes don't happen when you are reading it or watching the videos. Regardless of how inspired you may be.

The changes happen when you are applying (or attempting to apply) the stuff you read.

Like ANY skill or mindset that you are trying to learn, you will have to replace the existing thought patterns with new ones. Some of the thought patterns are pretty stubborn and hardwired from decades of reinforcement.

Screening is no different.

Specifically, you will not adopt screening to your lifestyle unless you legitimately try to work on it in REAL LIFE and retrain your brain to screen instead of acting submissively.

From that you will gain experience. (exposure therapy)

Learning without experience is not learning.

That is what we call "reading".

• "How Learning Happens"

#6 You Have Above-Average Self Esteem.

Having good self-esteem almost goes without saying and is a significant aspect to the concepts above.

This will be a battle for some guys but just about everything on GoodLookingLoser.com will increase your self esteem so long as you are able make it a priority and see the job through.

At the end of the day, you are going to have to believe in yourself in order to authentically screen girls to be a part of your life.

Starting to believing in yourself, like self-esteem, can be achieved and increased by setting SMALL GOALS and achieving them ONE BY ONE until you reach your BIG GOAL.

Eventually, hopefully, you will realize that taking women back from bars isn't super hard and other challenges will seem much more daunting.

#7 You Will Be Comfortable To Express Yourself Physically.

While screening is a mindset and not a technique, if it were a technique, it will go something like this-

TOUCH THE GIRL
(is she IN or OUT?)

Though its easy to understand this concept, it can be hard to apply it with complete indifference.

In order to become comfortable with being physical up front, you will have to see it WORK and NOT WORK as part of a variety of predictable responses that women will give you.

#8 You Will Get Bored of Phone Numbers, Dates and Talking to Women.

Similar to getting past the need for validation, getting bored of the "results" that you are getting is generally a phase along the way to developing a screening mindset.

Getting bored of the phone numbers, text threads, dates, interactions that go absolutely nowhere can light a fire under you that makes you get more aggressive.

Remember- Getting Laid is an ALL OR NOTHING thing.

You either fuck the girl, or you don't.

Some people (that read other dating sites) give themselves points for makeouts, phone numbers, jokes that make girls laugh and compliments they receive.

It's all meaningless if you aren't a total beginner.

#9 You Will Know What (Who) You Are Looking For.

Some guys are unable to even begin to develop a screening mindset because they aren't actually looking for a girl to have sex with.

They are usually just looking for a girl that will be nice to them that they think they can "work on".

If you are truly LOOKING TO GET LAID, your mentality and actions will be different.

There will be two categories of girls- sexually available girls and sexually unavailable girls.

Whether the girls are nice, mean, extroverted, introverted, happy, sad, funny, boring, etc. won't even come into play.

It's nice to find an exciting, cool girl to sleep with - but if your goal is simply get ass, you won't stand there and talk to her if it's not gonna happen. Likewise, you won't be upset if a girl is rude to you. It's all the same.

#10 Everything Will Seem Predictable.

With experience, you'll come to see all the "various predictable responses" that you can possibly get.

That's good to see when you are trying to beat approach anxiety and it's also good for authentically screening. You won't be afraid to touch girls because you already know how the girl is going to react. Even if you get a negative reaction, you'll know that nothing bad ever happens.

#11 You'll Truly Believe It Is a Numbers Game.

Most of you guys know that Getting Laid is a numbers game.

Only about half of you guys really believe it though.

How do I know this?

The simple fact that most guys say they want to Get Laid but only talk to 10 or less girls in a week and ask what they are doing wrong.

First- once you truly believe it's a numbers game, the only stories you tell as the ones where you Get Laid. It's the only stories you even remember. The rest is a blur.

Second- once you truly believe it's a numbers game, you'll know that it's only a matter of time before you Get Laid. It's not a matter of IF or WHO, it's a WHEN.

Stop recording your "sets" like you are some fucking PUA statistician. Go outside and play.

#12 You'll Know that Girls That React Negatively Have Issues.
(and you don't take it personally)

So long as you aren't being a total creep, when are girl reacts negatively- it's her that has the problem.

This takes most guys a long time to realize and believe this. After all, guys are used to blaming themselves when people are mean to them.

I've hit on 5000+ girls, the women that reacted fairly positively when I spoke to them were generally happy campers throughout our relationship.

I've even slept with girls that initially gave me a negative reaction (or displayed negative behavior sometime soon after).

For the most part- these girls had problems. These "problems" would become more and more apparent as our "relationship" progressed.

I'm so hyper-aware of this now I often don't call girls back that displayed the slightest hint of "bitch" behavior (to me or anyone else) when I met them.

Emotionally healthy people who don't have problems aren't mean to strangers.

Emotionally unhealthy people who do have problems are mean to strangers.

It has nothing to do with you.

• Girls that are Mean vs. Girls that Are Nice

Screening is REALLY effective/authentic when you have your own "bitch shield," in fact- you can't get much more authentic than that.

#12 You Will Experience Success (aka Get Laid).

Success will make you internalize screening.

All that you know, or think you know, won't be internalized until you begin to have success with it.

It is only via success (results) that you are truly believe in what you are doing, how it works and that you making it happen.

This isn't unlike any skill/mindset that you are working on. You need to have success to truly believe it.

Success, though I strictly focus on Getting Laid, will actually come in bits and pieces. There will be moments when you experience something, process (and hopefully act on it) in a way that reflects a "me first" screening mentality.

Like I say- the numbers game is to your advantage, you have UNLIMITED tries and you can only get better, since exposure therapy and taking action makes you better.

When evaluating your process, if ever, it best to reflect in monthly (or longer) intervals and use the days and weeks to simply PUT IN THE TIME.

At the end of the day, I'd love for everyone of you guys to develop a screening mindset, some certainly will.

But all that matters is that you are happy with life and that you are Getting Laid (if that is your goal).