By: Amir (SSK08)

Forward in italics from Good Looking Loser (Chris)

Welcome to 2013.

For a lot of guys 2013 represents a fresh start. A lot of guys have goals that they have promised themselves that they would see through this year. It's no surprise that the guys that hang around our creepy website and forum are pretty ambitious. Just like you. We have big dreams, big goals, big cocks- why else would be be here?

It's important to dream. But we need to keep in mind that "a dream without a plan is just a wish."

Unlike the majority of stuff on GoodLookingLoser.com this discussion doesn't really arrive at any conclusion, we usually avoid 'theory' but this will benefit some people that figure out how to apply it appropriately.

If you watched the latest video, the one from October 20th - [the one where I get that 20 year old chick into my car], you may have noticed a few quotes that popped up before the video. The quotes begin at 6:50.

While that section was mainly to just put in the sick war-chant song, there's obviously a lot of truth to the quotes.

There's 2 of them-

Basically, when your desire to Get Laid (not 'meet women') is more than your desire to avoid rejection (or get validation), approach anxiety starts to become a thing of the past. You are able to hit on women, and slowly- via exposure therapy, approach anxiety becomes less-and-less. That's why the guys that actually want to Get Laid are ultimately the best at this and the fastest "learners," the guys that don't actually want to get laid (want ego boosts, stories to brag to friends) are playing damage control the entire time until they quit.

While I feel that nearly everyone can be successful (to some degree) in building a vibrant social and sex life, there's some guys that need to handle certain stuff first.

After all this is what happens to everyone over the course of their journey - "This Process Will Strip You Down..."

Being a good "guru" (I hate that fucking word) is measurable by YOUR success, not mine.

Part of success is putting you in a position TO SUCCEED.

And Part of putting you in a position to succeed, is not putting you in a position to fail.

Anytime I think about posting any discussion that is 90%+ theory, I usually think otherwise.

Theory is usually a recipe for non-action. Especially in this game.

Reading or memorizing theory is not learning.

Learning comes via experience. The theory is optional.

Learning theory before experience can sometimes make you misinterpret your experience, and prevent learning.

Everyone’s starting point is different, the details of everyone’s journey will vary, the roads/highways you take will be different and the total time invested will differ. The phases, however, are very similar and don’t really vary too much. We recognize these phases and are building our main program to progress through them one-at-a-time, ideally- in the shortest time possible.

It's important to realize that these stages are independent from your results (how many women you get, the quality of the women you get). You can have AA and still fuck some girls. I did. Results are important for transitioning from the middle/later parts of AA to socially free player/scumbag stages, but they aren't necessarily evidence that you are at one stage or another. The stages are psychological and results aren't necessarily a rites of passage.

Lets talk about the the usual starting for most guys: Approach Anxiety.

Most guys start here, I'd say 90%.

This is actually a two-part stage.