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Screening "Game"
You guys know that I encourage developing your "screening game," I got an email recently that suggested that I haven't really defined this whole "screening" thing.
One very important thing to understand is that "screening" is a mindset or a mentality, not a technique. It is not like "qualification," where you use a certain technique or line to convince the girl that you have standards or you are an alpha male. Although I suggest certain lines/techniques (such as: Hey, I know this is a little random, but I thought you were attractive and I wanted to come what you were like...) It doesn't really matter what words you use.
Screening is a mindset where you are simply profiling the girl to see what her deal is (is she sexually available that specific moment in time?).
That is all.
I call this- Mr. Pussy Inspector.
There is no direct attempt to make the girl like you, make the girl laugh, get some sort of validation for your ego or find out/prove ANYTHING else.
*This naturally happens in the process when the girl realizes that she has met a LEGIT alpha male that most likely will give her an excellent experience. Remember- girls get excited about meeting an LEGIT alpha male, they are less excited to meet Mr. Funny Man.
There is also no attempt to avoid "rejection," rather the idea is PURPOSELY to "screen out" the sexually unavailable girls and hit on the next one ASAP.
If you aren't getting "rejected" enough initially, you aren't really screening girls. On most nights, I need a certain amount of girls to Get Lost until I find a candidate(s) that are sexually available and worth my time.
For this reason, "screening game," is not considered "safe game," where the goal is to not get rejected and [smoothly] 'wiggle' your uphill and in using jokes, fake stories, techniques and other bullshit.
Screening is an aggressive mindset is meant to scare unavailable girls off.
That is the ENTIRE POINT.
There is no "reframing rejection," this is the reality.
It is STRICTLY several short interactions to find out if the girl wants what's on your mind- SEX.
In different words (through physical advances, usually IMMEDIATE) you are asking EACH and EVERY candidate "are you down to fuck?"
That is the question you demand to have answered. An answer YOU WILL GET.
do you understand?
Numbers Game
This is a numbers game. I can't emphasize that enough. If another "dating coach" tells you otherwise then he DOES NOT Get Laid a lot. I will bet everything I own on that.
On any given day or night, there are a certain percentage of girls that are sexually available (and horny) and there are a certain percentage of girl that are not.
That is why Getting Laid is a numbers game. It is a numbers game. related- "If I approached 100 chicks, would I Get Laid?"
We embrace this numbers game and play it to our advantage by screening as many girls necessary until you find a sexually available one (with good logistics).
Productive and Efficient
Simply because it takes advantage of the numbers game, screening is the most productive and efficient mindset that you can possibly have if you want to Get Laid.
It is especially productive and efficient because you will NEVER be talking to/working on the wrong (sexually unavailable) girls.
It is especially productive because it allows you to talk to (screen) a very large amount of girls, with unlimited tries, taking advantage of the numbers game with absolute focus on Getting Laid.
It is especially productive because it requires nothing more than a few physical advances and some sexual dialogue (less important).
It is especially efficient because you will know where the girl stands. She will be IN or OUT within minutes, sometimes- seconds (Scotty).
It is especially efficient there is not a lot of "work," when/after a girl is letting you touch her, it is a complete green light to take things forward. There is no guessing game, no need to think about what to do/say next. When a girl is letting you touch her, there is no need to entertain her and work on her in terms of "making her like you". There is no reliance on verbal dialogue. The work is nearly done. That's how and why we have gotten laid within minutes.
If girl lets you put your hand on her ass in 90 seconds and keep it these, you don't need to worry about "what to say" next, take her to a private place ASAP- she wants to go.
do you understand?
I repeat- The focus is finding the girls that are sexually available and ABSOLUTELY NOT wasting ANY time on the girls that are not.
Again, it will preface this question with- Screening is not a technique it a mindset (from which actions follow).
In short- You screen by touching the girl.
Anyway, this is how it's done-
^ This is the dialogue that I do 90% when I screen (pick up) girls
Walk up.
Say something.
SCREEN BY Initiating physical contact. (handshake, touch her elbow, arm)
Talk some more.
SCREEN BY Initiating further aggressive physical contact. (squeeze her arm, slap her ass, hold her hand)
Usually by then- you have the information you were seeking- Is she sexually available?
That is all.
no where in their did I even suggest that sexual verbal dialogue was even necessary.
You could basically say, "I'm Chris," stick out your hand, shake her hand and hold it while you continue to speak to her.
That's what this is. She's IN or OUT.
do you understand?
related-
I got a blowjob without speaking one night at Ft. Myers Beach literally without speaking once
I also fingered a girl in 10 minutes while we talked about the weather in Boston. If they dig you, they will listen and respond to whatever the hell you want to talk about.
The focus is simply focus on playing and taking advantage of the numbers game [to Get Laid].
In other words, you are checking if the girl is down-to-fuck.
I'd rather have you go around for 4 hours and ask girls if they are DTF, rather than have you make jokes and dance like a clown for 4 hours.
You chances of Get Laid that day will probably be better since you will talk to more chicks and won't be talking to any non-candidates.
The above discussion is the gist of it. Seriously, you don't have to read any further.
There's a few more things worth noting however.
Position of Power
When you are screening a girl- you are coming from a place of power. The interaction is on YOUR TERMS. That is sexy to women.
You are not coming from a position of neutrality or weakness. You not a fucking dancing monkey funny man. You are here to Get Laid, not entertain.
You know what you want, you are gonna find out who else wants it. The ones that don't like it can Get Lost (they are supposed to).
The girl will be on YOUR watch, not the other way around. This is a valuable frame to set regardless of how long or short your 'relationship' is.
Worth mentioning, it's almost always the GIRL that screens the GUY (is he cool enough for me to speak to?).
I give you permission to do it the other way around.
"Rejection"
When you screen, you are setting out to eliminate undesirable sexually unavailable girls. That is the entire point.
This is very different than the other shit people teach.
I don't need to reframe rejection for you. You are playing a different game.
Like I said, this comes from a place of masculine fearless power.
Absolute Focus
One thing that Scotty and I noticed from our experience working with other guys is- they get so caught up in the "game," what to say, what to do, does she like me?- that Getting Laid is the furthest thing from their mind when they are talking to chicks. This is not good. When you effectively screen girls, you are basically initiating the foreplay from the start. You can stay focused because because there is no guesswork. Once you find a girl is sexually available, you should isolate her ASAP and turn up the physical escalation.
No Awkwardness
If a chick is letting you touch her in 10 seconds, there no moment when it feels unnatural. You'll never wonder "can I kiss her?" or "should I touch her?"
Think of a physical advance being worth "10,000 words"
Repeating the screening process over and over makes it completely natural for you.
No Fakers
Like I said, you won't be talking to unavailable girls.
If your Mr. Funny Man verbal game is good, some chicks will stand there and watch you perform your little monkey routine.
If you aggressively start touching the girl, she'll either be IN or she'll get lost. That is what we want.
Get Laid- Same Day, Same Night
Applying this mindset you'll be able to move SUPER FAST.
You need to get past the bullshit and unnecessary if you want to Get Laid consistently.
This an almost a requirement if you want to Get Laid on same day, same night.
I was pretty good at Mr. Funny Man game, I got laid 12 times in 12 months. (2008-2009)
After I developed a screening mentality (and applied it) I got 59 girls in just under 11 months. I slept with nearly all of them. (2009-2010)
Quality women, as you might expect.
Screen that pussy!!!! While others are dancing like monkeys, you'll be fucking like bunnies!!!
Great video. But still missed 2 question. I DON'T go out at night to bars and clubs so can I do this stuff In the day? Like at a store, gas station, walmart?
Instead of trying to get too physical in the day which could result in cops or...
Great video. But still missed 2 question. I DON'T go out at night to bars and clubs so can I do this stuff In the day? Like at a store, gas station, walmart?
Instead of trying to get too physical in the day which could result in cops or security (for the non dtf) WHAT CAN I SAY During the chat that will screen her? Ex:Are you attracted to me? Do you want me? Those are pretty aggressive, and are right up my ally.
Im sure you never got these questions before but what is your take on that? Can I Run this type of game?
lee, you absolutely can do this stuff while running errands, or shopping etc. Sometimes its more efficient, cause its more common for chicks to be SOLO......holding the girls hand after u introduce urself....any physical touching(giving hugs,...
lee, you absolutely can do this stuff while running errands, or shopping etc. Sometimes its more efficient, cause its more common for chicks to be SOLO......holding the girls hand after u introduce urself....any physical touching(giving hugs, putting ur hand up against hers)+holding eye-contact is real important...is a fast way to find out if shes Dtf. Even if they cant that day, exchange numbers, and be sure to CAPITALIZE asap. & make plans before the two of you part ways.(that also shows you mean business)
Lee,
You can and SHOULD do this everytime you see a cute/hot girl and want to see whether she is available. Like Chris said, it's not something you do but rather, it is a mindset you have when approaching girls. Instead of trying to be mr funny...
Lee,
You can and SHOULD do this everytime you see a cute/hot girl and want to see whether she is available. Like Chris said, it's not something you do but rather, it is a mindset you have when approaching girls. Instead of trying to be mr funny man and get validation from her all your really doing is:
-checking out whether she is sexually available
-cool/smart/or whatever it is you look for in a girl besides perhaps her looks
-if there is a click between you and the girl
You DON'T do that by asking her which comes across very socially uncalibrated. Instead, you go direct, and screen her. I've done this a lot in my country where people are more conservative and I've never had something absurd happening like the cops arresting me or something. In fact, I remember I once approached this girl right in front of two cops and nothing happened, they knew what was going on and smiled.
You probably think that it's not 'natural' to screen her or be more physically agressive with her, but it actually is. There is always this sort of polarity between men and women that draws us to each other, being physical is just an expression of this. In my experience, you can also screen her subtle at first by having strong eye contact and invading her space (meaning, you step forward to make you stand a lot closer to her than a normal 'stranger' would). If she isn't down, she usually steps back. Once you're close with her though, you can be more physical with her, depening on the venue, cultural background, your state of mind, the vibe and the girl I'd say that how you're actually being physical varies a lot. I know scotty slaps girls on the ass, I do that too, but only in nightgame because it's too much during the day here. You can grab her by the waist, her arm, touch her hair, allign your hips etc etc. just playa round with it.
Yeah exactly what Scotty and Z said..
at the end of the day this is still- "Talking To Chicks"
its not a special language, it's way more aggressive and what most guys do.. but its still just 'talking to girls'
it shouldn't be something that is...
Yeah exactly what Scotty and Z said..
at the end of the day this is still- "Talking To Chicks"
its not a special language, it's way more aggressive and what most guys do.. but its still just 'talking to girls'
it shouldn't be something that is over-analyzing or mulled over for weeks and weeks
I gave an example of the words "hey this is random, but you are attractive and i wanted to see what you were like"
its not about the words, as I mentioned over and over, screening is a mindset.. you can screen girls with any material because its all about touching them
here's about a million lines- http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/01/04/pick-up-lines/
they screen if you touch the girl
they dont screen if you dont
This article is awesome. Being mr entertainer dancing monkey man NEVER works! In my experience most of my lays have come from approaching AS SOON as I see the girl, (stops me going inside my head) and being direct. The hard part for me is being...
This article is awesome. Being mr entertainer dancing monkey man NEVER works! In my experience most of my lays have come from approaching AS SOON as I see the girl, (stops me going inside my head) and being direct. The hard part for me is being consistant with this approach.
I can see the value of having a strong screening mindset, but I think a screening mindset is just a necessary not sufficient condition to get laid. The other piece of the puzzle is generating attraction. Sometimes a girl gets "screened out" not...
I can see the value of having a strong screening mindset, but I think a screening mindset is just a necessary not sufficient condition to get laid. The other piece of the puzzle is generating attraction. Sometimes a girl gets "screened out" not because she's sexually-unavailable, but because she's just not attracted. Perhaps guys like Scotty and Chris don't have to worry much about generating attraction (because they're good-looking and alpha after all) and can focus on screening; this is a form of confirmation/sample bias.
So Scotty/Chris, what do you think about generating attraction?
yes, I will agree with you, the girl must by at least somewhat sexually attracted to you - in order for you to bang her... we find 'if she is attracted' by screening though.. so it's not just screening for sexual availability but the screening...
yes, I will agree with you, the girl must by at least somewhat sexually attracted to you - in order for you to bang her... we find 'if she is attracted' by screening though.. so it's not just screening for sexual availability but the screening process will reveal if she is (at least somewhat attracted) and will sleep with you. She doesn't have to be anymore than "barely attracted" to you though, if you can move fast and she just follows along for the experience.
If a guy is 400lbs overweight, bad clothes, smells, yellow teeth.. he might meet a girl that is sexually available.. but not to him, cause she's not into him. obviously no fake story, routine or carefully planned backturn will change this.
some further thoughts-
screening in itself is attractive... i hate reverting to community terms but its 100% "detachment from the outcome," its alpha male behavior
so you are authentically screening chicks- you will be communicating all the right things.
still as far as "creating attraction," there's really no such thing, not verbally anyway (http://www.seductionmyth.com)
^i have mixed thoughts on 'creating attraction', it's definitely not like how the mainstream regards it (do this routine/tell this story, she'll like you and want to suck you).. but I've seen guys that weren't good looking get a lot of attractive girls once they applied our stuff
i like your questions and this discussion, but I don't want you to dig too deep.
this whole "PUA-thing," "seduction-thing," "Be A Player-thing," is simply JUST "talking to girls" that's all... no secret language, structured routines/stories, is necessary.
The one and only thing is necessary (you are taking me back to my LSAT days)... is a girl that had a pussy and wants to get laid.
the attraction level can vary... some girls are attratched to some guys somedays and not other days (hormones do this).. they are sexually available and sexually unavailable throughout the month.
she can be a little attracted to you, and she'll follow your lead. If she's repulsed by the guy, she won't.
if the girl ISN'T available (despite mainstream thought) 99.999999% of time she won't let you put your penis inside her body...there a lot of stuff out there that teaches lines and fake stories to supposedly manipulate a girl into ditching her boyfriend/husband on the spot and remove her clothes. It doesn't work. It is ever did, it was because the girl was available in the first place (and at least 1% attracted to you)
its about maximizing yourself (looks, style, lifestyle, confidence) and playing the numbers game (ideally screening to see which girls are sexually available at that point in time)
btw-- I like your question.. I might add to this discussion talking about 'attraction'.. basically yeah she needs to be least slightly attracted... but that isn't saying its ONLY looks, she might just be super horny and you reminded her of some celebrity or one of her friends in some attractive way
sorry if I talked in circles!!!
Hi Chris,
Thanks for your reply, I'm already getting insights, especially "screening in itself is attractive." So attraction is necessary, but screening is in fact one way of being attractive. So in the end, sometimes merely screening...
Hi Chris,
Thanks for your reply, I'm already getting insights, especially "screening in itself is attractive." So attraction is necessary, but screening is in fact one way of being attractive. So in the end, sometimes merely screening aggressively (plus taking care of the basics by being at least well-groomed and conversationally-interesting) can get a sexually-available girl into bed. I'll keep that in mind when I go out to the field.
Here's another question, regarding the anti-slut defence. When you screen, you basically come on very strongly to the girl, physically and verbally. There are so many girls out there who would not put out on the first day, because they rationalize to themselves that they are not that kind of girl who are attracted to that kind of guy. Yet they might have put out if the guy hadn't been so overt in his sexual intent and character. Screening would immediately weed out these girls, but others have suggested disarming the anti-slut defence to get laid.
What do you think about that?
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
To anyone reading this, follow through, read this material, APPLY this material, and enjoy life.
Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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