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Okay, so here's the long version of the "How I met the Fleshlight" -
Believe it or not, I haven't told too many people this... Not even [most] my friends know. So let's keep it between us.
Over 2 years ago, the end of April 2010, I was at the Howard Hughes Promenade. It's a nice outdoor mall that offers the chance to shop, enjoy the weather and hit on some girls in a different section of Los Angeles than where I usually am.
There was really long line at Nordstrom Rack so I started to make conversation with a guy behind me, he was a big Black guy that actually turned out to be from nearby my hometown in Washington DC. We'll call him 'Boomer'. He asked me if I played college or professional football since he thought I was really big. The dude was 6-8 265lbs so I couldn't believe that he thought I was big. That was cool. Then we sat down and the kid bought me lunch. He noticed that some girls were checking us out and he called them over, pretty smooth stuff, we took their numbers since each of them seemed to like us individually. Nothing came from that phone number, for me anyway.
Anyway, we got to talking about Los Angeles, Maryland sports, "the woman he fucked at the hotel the night before," and then randomly he said that he was getting into acting and said that I just join him for this "audition" later that day. Normally, I would think he just another Hollywood guy that was full of shit that didn't know anyone or anything. But 'Boomer' was pretty cool and didn't seem the typical Los Angeles guy. He didn't exactly look like an film actor though... far from it. He was a huge Black guy that looked like a cross between Lebron James and Greg Oden.
I started asking him about what the TV show/movie was all about.
He said something like, "You'll be great, you'll do fine, you got the body, you'll be the best looking guy there and you're cool around the hunnies (women) so you'll be fine. You got balls, you probably have that dick too, you just gotta get a name."
I just said, "oh okay, uh-huh," then I realized 30 seconds later that he was talking about porno.
Sure enough, he was... is this how they recruit people for this?
4 or 5 years ago, I never would have been interested, probably because I was scared, thought it was gross or made up some other reason to avoid it rather just indulging my curiosity. But times had changed and I'm pretty much down for any new experience so long as I don't get physically hurt or something. I mean, shit- we've all watched porn and imagined ourselves as the guy fucking the girl.
I realized that this was probably a legit invitation and although this black kid was kinda scary, he was being real. I knew he wasn't full of shit. At the time, my dick was a respectable ~7" in length and up to 6" in girth with the post-Bathmate pump, hardly "huge" by elite adult film standards, but not every single guy has a 10" donkey penis in porn. Far from the ~5.25-5.5" x 4.9" dick I started with. I was reasonably confident, I had filmed myself with several chicks before.
So I said, "I'll do it," and so I did.
I made sure to pump up with Bathmate beforehand. My dick seemed to look slightly above average in comparison to everyone else, even though I only saw a 7 or 8 other guys. There were only a few really big guys.
When Boomer and I got there- nearly everyone was high as hell, especially the girls. There were trays of drugs there. It wasn't just to protect the girls from the thick penises, but to make everyone relax.
The directors raved about the condition I was in and I was pretty confident the whole way through. I've been with a lot of girls obviously, but its definitely different to do it with a camera in your face and a camera behind your ass. Once I got started I started to enjoy it though. It's a rush when 2 cameras and a host of eyes are focused squarely on your genitals as they go in and out of a girl on a huge California king size bed. You feel pretty special.
The girl I fucked didn't seem dirty either, just a normal girl in college who had this other side of her life. She went by the name "Misti," she kinda looked like Megan Fox. Definitely not bad at all. Never saw her again. Hope she's okay.
I stopped judging these girls years ago and I was happy to be with her. We were chatting before our scene and she said something along the lines of, "we'll have a lot of fun together," and that totally made me relax because a part of me was still saying, "should I really be doing this?" She said she was thrilled that I was the guy that was going to fuck her, since I seemed "normal" compared to some of the older guys and I probably wasn't going purposely hurt her too much. Misti was able to get wet quickly so taking me was doable for her. As much as I like inflicting pain on girl's pussies and stomachs, I don't want to actually hurt them. Ironically, I wanted to keep her pussy safer than most girls I'm with.
(some of these girls aren't turned on at all and when the thick penises get put in them, they are in trouble when the lube runs out... the camera doesn't stop they just have to try to go to a happy place and block out the pain)
This was sort of an audition for me, I passed. A memorable experience overall too. Got $40 from it, but definitely not something I did for money. It was sort of a "rites of passage," I'm in an adult scene because of all the work I've done on my body and dick. And I'm not scared.
Looking back on it- it wasn't a super trashy crew of people. I think. The girls were college students. We didn't exchange real names but I saw some of them had college IDs when they showed their license (to verify their age) to one of the directors. Now, a lot of people out there might consider Scotty and I to be absolute garbage, so all I can say is- by "not trashy," I mean- it wasn't a bunch of people that lived in trailers and used food stamps. It was a nice apartment they has super expensive equipment. I don't know how the adult scene is in other cities, but this gig wasn't in East Hollywood (ghetto) or downtown in South Central Los Angeles.
For the record, I consider myself "glamorous trash," kinda like Lady Gaga. I'm half-way joking.
Now the interesting parts-
I came in about 8 minutes (in case you care- 8 minutes 4 seconds, to be precise). A lot the other guys really did seem to last up to 30 minutes. Just like the other guys, I had taken some Viagra, with Sudafed for the stuffy nose, in combination with an [undisclosed] compound that makes you very euphoric and less sensitive, use your imagination :), and had a shot of Jack Daniels'. That usually makes me last pretty long, maybe 12-13 minutes, but never 30+ minutes of nearly non-stop penetration. This was ridiculous.
Another thing I noticed is nearly all these guys sprayed their cum everywhere. Like fucking fire hoses. The directors had no problem with me wearing a condom, so they didn't see that I mainly just dribbled when I orgasm. Sometimes I shoot my cum, not usually though. Like I said in the "Fleshlight review," maybe 1 out of every 30 times.
Through the years, I made a half ass effort to do kegels and sporadically do different techniques to delay orgasm to try and maximize ejaculation volume. They sort of helped, nothing special though. But probably because I didn't work on it on a daily basis, or hardly ever.
On my best climax, I never did what these guys were doing. I never cared that much but I was just shocked at what I saw. 10 minutes before I left I saw the end of a "locker room" scene where 4 or 5 guys lined up like a firing squad grabbed their balls and soaked this poor Asian girl with their semen and she ran off crying (which wasn't part of the scene!). I couldn't believe this shit. It was like a half gallon of glue hit her in the face, it wasn't from some water gun either, it was totally real.
I knew my PC Muscle was pathetically UNdeveloped and my mind-dick connection was below average. Maybe that is a surprise to you since I have sex 100-150 times a year. I knew their loads were probably a product of various performance enhancing drugs (Clomid, HCG, Cialis, etc.) but I couldn't shoot half as much or half as far.
After my scene I was asking Boomer and this other guy (Big Jack) about "what everyone does to cum so much and so far," somewhat pretending like I wasn't totally shocked. The first thing that both of them said was, "kegels and this thing." This 'thing' turned out to be the device I saw was I walked in the place, the flashlight-looking thing that all the guys were fucking. Boomer open his up and sure enough it was a pussy in a flashlight. The Fleshlight. Hilarious, made me totally curious.
Boomer explained that the thing was used by everyone in the industry to improve their PC muscle and fire their cum 6+ feet. The guys in the adult industry have ridiculous control over their climaxes, they can control it as easily as the normal person can control peeing.
I've seen a lot of weird stuff and this was right up there. I decided not to touch it, but I was completely intrigued.
They both told me to "take one," but I declined since I didn't want to be fucking a Fleshlight that somebody else had been fucking earlier that night.
I did some homework on the thing and saw that it was marketed primarily as a sex toy, but a lot of guys were using it for sex training. Usually I order stuff right away, but for whatever reason I waited until the end of the year. In 2011, I barely put any time into penis enhancement. I was happy at about 7" and pumping up with the Bathmate to 7" x 6". I wanted to take it seriously in 2012 so I set a goal of doing another scene in May. It went great.
Long story short, after I got the Fleshlight, I found my PC muscle was way underdeveloped for my size and I really didn't have very good mind-muscle connection before and during orgasm. I basically confirmed what I already knew. That all led to dribbling, rather than shooting. I did jelqing, stretching and Bathmate through the years, but never really paid attention to my PC muscle. Now, I can usually shoot a decent amount and my erections and climaxes are significantly stronger than a year ago.
In the past 2 months, just about every climax I have during intercourse is stronger than every climax I've had prior to this year. It literally feels like I'm pissing cum out of me for a good 45 seconds (its actually like 10 seconds), I get light-headed sometimes. I'm guessing that is mainly a product of all the kegels I've done this year.
So that's the story.
Here's a few more random things I saw and thought of from that day-
Most or all of the girls got to see the dick that was going to fuck them 30 minutes before their scene. They had 30 minutes or so to take whatever medications they needed. Misti (in private) insisted on seeing my erection, I showed her and she laughed and said, "Damn a thick one, more Excedrin for me." Total turn-on.
The Korean girl ran off and didn't come back, she didn't know anyone there it didn't seem like. The director said, "It's fine, we got it." (meaning the scene ended fine). They guys that absolutely soaked her just carried on like nothing happened. It was funny that she waiting to get hosed down before she ran off. She was probably as surprised as me of amount of jizz she got drenched in.
By far the worst job went to the clean up guy. I felt bad for him. No, really- I did. He must have been 5 foot 1, underweight and nervous, just in awe of the endowments on both the guys and the girls. Everyone there must not have seemed human to him. After a scene, one hot girl with jet black hair, black nails, black lipstick shot her cum (i guess?) all over the floor. People were laughing and she laughed and just walked off not giving 2 shits. She was super high. Misti saw me looking at him after our scene and said to me, "Stop worrying about him, he likes it." after the guy was clearing the sheets that we just used. He had a pair of the thinnest pair of 99-cent plastic gloves that he had to use the entire time to clean up bodily fluids. I guess most filmings don't have a "clean up guy," so this was a high class production, like I said.
I had an atypical reaction in the days following the scene. I really wanted to see Misti again. She wasn't much different in looks than the other girls I sleep with. I knew nothing about her, but I sort of liked her after that day. I remember feeling pretty nervous/excited before our scene and this girl really calmed me down and turned me on. I'm the one that does that to girls who are nervous/excited to sleep with me. It was like being a virgin again and having sex with an experienced girl that liked me. That's only way I can explain it. I drove Boomer to airport 5 days later and he just said, "Dawg, we don't talk to these girls again, it makes no sense, they can't know us and we can't know them." I didn't even want to sleep with her, I just wanted to know who she was, why she was there, what she wanted to do with her life. Yeah, I liked her.
Everyone was pretty supportive, they knew I was new to the whole thing and that I probably wouldn't come back. But still, they flooded me (and the lesser experienced guys and girls) with compliments on our bodies. I had to laugh, it was like a group orgasm sometimes. Or like a PUA convention haha.
Before my scene I was thinking, "Okay I'll just do this and get the fuck out of here..." After the scene, I wanted to hangout. I never saw Boomer's scene, he was after mine and I had left the main room.
Apparently there was a competition between one guy-girl and another guy-girl to put together the "headline" scene (or a future one?). Still, though, there was a lot of mutual respect everyone gave either other. People were really encouraging everyone else, even though- money was seemingly on the line. I don't know if it was because everyone was high, but the girls all loosened each other up (except for the random Korean girl). I honestly haven't seen that kind of encouraging spirit in a long time, fuck- most groups of friends aren't even that encouraging. Everyone was making everyone else feel special.
I think this is such a unique experience, I totally suggest it as a goal if you are making strides to develop a good penis. I never would have said that years ago. I'm not saying "be a porno-star," do it for a one time experience, not for a living. The interesting part is, if you watch porno- the girl is the star. She's the hot one, she is why you are watching. While doing the scene, however, the guy is the star. Do you know what I mean? A guy has a to hold a camera that fixed on your crotch or inches from your ass, the girls load up on meds to take your dick, the entire film crew is watching and cheering for YOU, and then some guy cleans up the mess you made, while you and a girl enjoy the post-orgasm afterglow. Maybe I'm romanticizing, but it was my first time. I definitely felt "present" and alive, those moments seemingly come only a handful of times over a lifetime.
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What a wild story, Chris!
I still have interest in appearing in a film. Not to make my living with it (or why not? The business is small here, but my dick keeps growing...), but for the different kind of experience. Fucking a girl and getting...
What a wild story, Chris!
I still have interest in appearing in a film. Not to make my living with it (or why not? The business is small here, but my dick keeps growing...), but for the different kind of experience. Fucking a girl and getting filmed by a crew sounds fun.
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Hey RG- yeah it was pretty crazy, things like this tend to "happen" when you are just out and about, especially in NY or LA. This was very random. Since moving to LA, I had been approached a bunch of times before about stuff that was seemingly...
Hey RG- yeah it was pretty crazy, things like this tend to "happen" when you are just out and about, especially in NY or LA. This was very random. Since moving to LA, I had been approached a bunch of times before about stuff that was seemingly like this (at the gym a lot, although my old gym has TONS of gay guys). I never felt it was that safe. But ironically, when this huge black guy offered it to me I was excited. I went into the filming thinking I didn't want get my hopes up and be underwhelmed, but it lived up to the hype I guess.
it's really the first time I've shared this in total detail with people, some of my friends know, but not in this detail
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that was an awesome story!!! if I wasn't so 'average' down there i would like to have an experience like that. I plan on getting the bathmate and fleshlight, would you completely 100% recommend me to it?
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