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Every 7-10 days, I'll see a comment on either a YouTube video or on the blog that says something to this effect-
or
or maybe like
Or my absolute favorite...
(what the hell is he talking about...)
... and that's the point.
(no, I wouldn't be bagging quality chicks if didn't make myself look good.)
Giving them benefit of the doubt, I'm going to guess the majority of these guys aren't super familiar with our community.
We do preach, ad-nauseum*- Looks, Style, Social Freedom.
* I can use big words too.
And there's a reason why I list LOOKS first.
(because other than logistics, it's the most important thing for bagging quality girls on the SAME night (nearly equal with Killer Instinct)
But still-
Only around the PUA community is it unacceptable to devote time and energy to maximizing your sex appeal (looks, style).
Only around the PUA community is being "jacked" or "ripped" frowned upon.
Only around the PUA community does anything other than "game" not count.
It is no surprise that this niche of guys have the hardest time getting chicks to sleep with them?
Before this becomes another "Wow! Looks Do Matter!?!" pointless discussion, lets stay on track and expand this to something slightly useful.
When people point out that "screening" won't work well for average guys, I agree.
What most of those people haven't considered is that NOTHING WORKS well when you are average.
This entire creepy blog is dedicated to NOT BEING AVERAGE, from your head to dick to ya feet.
By and large, in terms of getting laid, you'll mainly get girls that are on the same level as your looks/coolness.
If you are above-average at both, you are in the territory to land hot girls, at least sometimes.
If you are below-average at both, you'll end up in conversations with legit hotties that go nowhere, at best.
When you speak to girls that are AVAILABLE and potentially DTF, their receptability to your PHYSICAL advances is mainly based on your sex appeal (looks, style).
It doesn't matter if you "screen" them "PUA" them "normal guy" them or somewhat slur your speech.
The approach doesn't matter.
You guys have probably heard this statement-
"In 30 seconds, girls decide whether they are willing to fuck you."
For girls that are single, looking and willing (aka sexually available)- this is largely true.
Good question.
Screening is the most productive and efficient way to play the numbers game.
By touching girls within the first 0-60 seconds, you'll find out where they stand.
Developing the mentality of- "lets see if this chick is DTF," is more emotionally healthy than "I hope can make this girl like me".
All the other "methods" usually involve trying to verbally convince a girl to like fuck you. Something that is "verbal game" can't do anyway.
Whenever I hear someone asking if something "works," I roll my eyes.
What does "works" mean?
One time?
Multiple times?
Every time?
Nearly every popular approach to EVERYTHING, works- some of the time.
Picking up women is no different, it's a numbers game.
No it's not.
If you look good, you'll create all the attraction you need.
As far as "game" goes-
Any sort of "game" or "technique" is simply a manifestation of your social freedom.
By itself, social freedom isn't enough to get women attracted to you.
It can make girls laugh but it has a very limited effect on your overall sex appeal and sexual interest girls ultimately have.
I'm not going to go as far as saying "game doesn't exist" (I don't care and neither do you if are actually serious about fucking girls), but the amount of attraction you can "create" with lines/techniques/body language is limited and far less important than your sex appeal and social skills.
The entire PUA community is based on "creating attraction," with game being the 'great equalizer', at the end of the day- it doesn't significantly compensate for a lack of sex appeal or coolness.
David DeAngelo was right.
Only he was talking about "game" and not sex appeal.
The ONLY reason I can sometimes call up chicks I haven't seen/heard from in 2-3 years and get them to come over is- they are still attracted to me. That's why I encourage guys not to delete phone numbers, assuming the girl thought you 'looked good', she ALWAYS will unless you let yourself go.
Perhaps it's confusing when I encourage guys to MAX OUT their looks, style, social freedom- but then tell them "above average" will work just fine.
(nearly all guys can get to above-average with all 3, then it's a matter of social skills/killer instinct/coolness to be truly elite)
Lets discuss why that is-
If you have above average- looks, style and social freedom- you'll be in rare company.
Very few guys have all 3. Most have none of the above.
If you look better and can talk to more girls than 9 out of 10 guys, congratulations- you are top 10% for the criteria that matters most for getting laid.
One of the only problems that the cluster of "improve yourself, improve with women" communities unintentionally promote is- it's a little bit exaggerated "how good" you ACTUALLY have to be at every individual facet.
It's usually a good idea to try to develop yourself across the board but don't think for a second that you have be on some super level with everything. You don't.
(fun fact: one of the original domains for this site was- www.aboveaverageloookingloser.com)
I expand on this concept in this "lets all be above-average and hit on girls" video.
"What Is Elite? Don't Confuse the Top 10% for the Top .0001%"
Table of Contents
0:00 The never explained "Top 10%" GLL concept
1:40 Wow I have my work cut out for me! (no, maybe not)
2:00 Who is the "Top 50%" re: Social Freedom (a guy who can't hit on any girls during the day, ever.)
3:30 Comparisons to friends; for frame of reference
6:00 Who is the "Top 50%" re: Looks/Style (little overweight, below average posture, not in shape)
12:10 Don't confuse the top 1-10% for the Top .00001%
13:20 Be better than 9 out of 10 guys - unlimited pussy, if you apply yourself
14:25 Who you are really competing against at bars
14:45 Example: Me
We'll continue to discuss specifics to improve your looks, style and social freedom in the very near future.
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I know this post came from the heart so good job- its painful to see people pointing the fingers 'its because he is x, y, z' failing to understand that it started way before being x, y, z and that it's super important to eventually j3glllop those...
I know this post came from the heart so good job- its painful to see people pointing the fingers 'its because he is x, y, z' failing to understand that it started way before being x, y, z and that it's super important to eventually j3glllop those traits
Yeah bud- I did that for 2.5+ years (x,y,z?) and my entire job was to convince you of this all this stuff just 1 year ago so that you wouldn't. intelligent, creative minds have capacity to under-simplify things
I don't know Chris. I've been watching your video again. You got sick game. You are like this super buffed Jersey Shore guy who spoke very intelligently and is at times sensitive. Girls freaking melt for a guy like that.
But you are right. If...
I don't know Chris. I've been watching your video again. You got sick game. You are like this super buffed Jersey Shore guy who spoke very intelligently and is at times sensitive. Girls freaking melt for a guy like that.
But you are right. If you look good, and you are relaxed because of your social freedom, there's no doubt you gonna get your share of pussy. I just find myself not having as many green light girls as you do which makes it harder for me to run numbers game. I am an over intelligent guy who analyze everything. I am still gonna try your "tricks" in the video in hope that it will maximize my chances. I figure it's ok as long as I do it with a screening mentality.
you're giving me too much credit :)
(that combo is ideal, but I don't know if I quite reflect that.. definitely some of the time, not always.. it always depends on who the recipient is.)
Particularly at night, maybe 1 of 15 times -- i'll...
you're giving me too much credit :)
(that combo is ideal, but I don't know if I quite reflect that.. definitely some of the time, not always.. it always depends on who the recipient is.)
Particularly at night, maybe 1 of 15 times -- i'll resemble some girls' ex-boyfriend and she gets really upset (variety of reactions, they arent mean though). its hilarious.
fantastic post
i have really started to feel and believe the mentality of 'let's see if she is DTF' rather than i hope she likes me. I've struggled with wanting women to 'like me' for a long time.. i've also begun to embrace that 99% of chicks...
fantastic post
i have really started to feel and believe the mentality of 'let's see if she is DTF' rather than i hope she likes me. I've struggled with wanting women to 'like me' for a long time.. i've also begun to embrace that 99% of chicks won't want to fuck me at any single point in time.. and it's liberating! Realising that makes me take 'rejection' far less seriously and allows me to keep focussed on finding that 1% who DOES want to fuck..
Hey so long as you don't take it personally and realize that "availability" generally has nothing to do w/ you--- especially true when you are literally trying to PULL the girl into your car, onto the beach night, etc. it stops a validation game....
Hey so long as you don't take it personally and realize that "availability" generally has nothing to do w/ you--- especially true when you are literally trying to PULL the girl into your car, onto the beach night, etc. it stops a validation game.
I think what you are describing comes from experience and maturity.. it takes a while for guys to get there. That percentage will move up, as you j3glllop as a man in the long term, or lower standards in tthe short.
getting tan/white teeth can do it too!
I think this type of conversation hinges on how attractive the type of women you're talking about are.
If you're talking about hooking up with women who are true model-quality stunners, then yeah, you really have to have your act together...
I think this type of conversation hinges on how attractive the type of women you're talking about are.
If you're talking about hooking up with women who are true model-quality stunners, then yeah, you really have to have your act together yourself.
But if you just want to get with your run-of-the-mill cute young woman I think that's totally possible for an average guy. Personally, that's more than enough for me. As long as a girl is cute enough that I get excited about sleeping with her, that's fine. I don't feel I need to get 10/10's.
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
To anyone reading this, follow through, read this material, APPLY this material, and enjoy life.
Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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