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Non-Verbal Physical Advances
If you've checked out "Screening Game: How to Screen and Filter Out Chicks Without Being Rejected," "Mr. Funny Man vs. Mr. Pussy Inspector," or the basic model "Kino: When You Meet a Chick, Touch Her ASAP to Screen and Establish a Physical Dialogue," you understand the importance of 'screening' a girl rather than letting her screen you as you stand there running "I Hope She Likes Me Game."
Being aggressive and screening involves two things: Sexually-Charged Conversation + Physical Advances.
Arguably, the later, physical advances, are the most important part in the screening process. If a chick is amused by your sexually-charged dialogue she may hang around. But only if she is down-to-fuck (or in the near future) will she allow you to physically escalate on her. The good news is, the physical advances (dialogue) is super easy to learn and super easy to apply, if you allow yourself (just fucking touch the girl).
If you have social, approach or sexual anxiety that is preventing you from doing this- we can work on that.
The general rule to physical escalation is-
It's only a red light when she "gets lost" and leaves.
This works fine 99% of the time and if the chick stays, she's cool and probably DTF. If she gets lost, she wasn't sexually available that night. You basically repeat it until you find a chick that stays, then you move her (and/or kiss her) to a more private area where you escalate further. Got it? Simple.
This type of "approach" is a win-win-win-win-win.
Elite players screen. Average guys entertain, make jokes and try to pass the girl's tests.
The physical advances are particularly important for fast, loud and socially competitive environments like night clubs. If you can do it comfortably in night clubs than nearly every other scene will be pretty easy.
A super common issue among guys (even guys that are pretty good with chicks) is 'running out of stuff to say' or at least feeling that way. Most often these guys are still under the "I hope she likes me" mindset and are searching for stuff to say when they could very quickly throw some physical advances to see if the girl is sexually available. If this applies to you- drop the verbal game and step up your physical advances. Next time you are thinking of what to say, where to take the interaction or confused if the girl is sexually available grab her hand spin around a few times and slap her ass. She'll stay or she'll leave.
If she stays, say, "it's too hot/cold/loud/boring/crowded here, follow me," and take her to a more isolated spot in the venue and step up your physical game even more.
That is basically my default move anytime my brain is particularly slow or I want to see what her deal is.
You can actually nearly completely rely on silent non-verbal game. This is largely how Scotty bangs girls in-venue or takes them to his car in under 10 minutes. A lot of girls that are horny and sexually available will "just go with it" if you show them that you are a leader and fearless.
Here's a few cases that I can remember off the top of my head where I barely said one-word or didn't speak.
H.Wood (Hollywood Club) I smiled at a girl, she smiled back, I grabbed her from her group of (4?) girls and said "I want to talk to you," and led her to a couch on the other side of the room. Once we sat down, I said, "Changed my mind." an made out with her.
H.Wood (Hollywood Club) I smiled at a girl, she smiled back, I motioned for her to come over, she came over, I put my hat on her head and made out with her.
Les Deux (Hollywood Club) On the dance floor- I butt-bumped girl, she smiled, I pulled her in close and made out with her.
Guys and Dolls (Hollywood Club) I went up to 2 girls and said, "You girls are sexy." and grabbed their hands and walked them over to my buddy. My buddy got went home with one of the chicks later that night.
Crown Bar (Hollywood Club) I smiled at a chick in a group, she smiled back, I walked up to her group of 6 girls, looked them all in the face, nodded my head and grabbed the one I smiled at and said, "You- follow me." and took her to the couch about 20 feet away. Her friends did nothing but watch, I eventually made out with her in 10 minutes and her friends wanted to meet me.
Saddleranch (Hollywood Bar) Two sexy Latina chicks were standing alone and I walked up and said, "Why are you standing here all alone?" and grabbed their arms and walked them over to my group of friends.
...there's a lot more cases, but those are the ones I can think of off the top of my head.
You don't have to be that aggressive right away (you probably won't be if this is new to you). The important thing is to see that it IT WORKS. You can literally grab a girls hand/arm and just START WALKING. Try it tonight. Walk up to a girl/girls and say something and when they reply, say "it's loud/too warm/too cold/awkward here, come over here," and drag them to the new location. Works.
If that is a bit much to start, do this- walk up to some girls, say "Hey there," make small talk for 30 seconds and then say, "it's loud/too warm/too cold/awkward here, come over here," and take them to the new location.
I'm not really into discussing "social proof" because it gives guys too much unnecessary bullshit to be concerned with but- if you can make this a habit (leading a couple of girls/groups around the venue) everyone else will take notice. Walk in front of them and don't look back- almost like a bouncer that is about to throw them out of the club (not in a violent way, of course).
In the later stages, the physical non-verbal game is important, if not more important than the initial stages. If you are physical from the start, they'll be no awkwardness when you touch the girl, move the girl, kiss the girl, grab some boobies/tushy, touch some pussy, pull her out of the venue and go somewhere to seal the deal.
Like I admit more times than I can remember- I was a huge pussy. Maybe I'm being hard on myself or maybe I didn't know what was possible, but building and applying an aggressive physical 'game' was one of the last things I had to do before I started getting REALLY GOOD results. If you've listened to the audios, you'll notice I have a DEEP voice. You might assume I have a loud voice, but the truth is- my voice really gets drowned out by music (especially if its bass heavy music, like hip-hop). I absolutely had to develop a strong, quick physical dialogue if I was going to effectively screen and hit on girls. I made it a priority and now I rely on physical advances in loud environments. In a lot of loud situations, I say a couple of things to girls and move them ASAP to a better, quieter location. It didn't take too long to build a strong physical game, I basically saw that I was moving much faster with chicks and started to push it.
Remember- it's okay to lose/screen out chicks by being too aggressive.
It's not okay to lose or getting screened out by chicks for being a pussy.
It doesn't matter how good your verbal game is- you aren't getting anywhere significant with chicks if you aren't touching them. Nor are you effectively screening. Touching girls ASAP screens them and communicates that you are an alpha guy that isn't afraid to touch a woman and not a super nice guy who is playing 'not to lose'. Another win-win.
Here is GREAT example of total non-verbal game at work. I had a bad cold (that got much worse a few days after) in January of 2010, but my friend Erik was visiting me in Florida and I still agreed to go out. We went to an outdoor beach bar in Fort Myers. I barely had a voice and would cough every time I spoke, after a few drinks it got even worse to the point where I couldn't talk. After getting a little bit frustrated at (yet again) not overcoming the music at this place we were at I still thought I could non-verbally screen a chick and put together a couple of moves and still make it a productive night. I focused on small groups or girls that seemed to be alone.
I approached (screened) a girl that was by herself on this patio in the back of the bar. I walked up to her just shaking my head and smiling. She mimicked what I was doing- she started shake her head too. I started dancing in place, she started dancing in place. She asked "what's your name?" I tried to say something and she said, "what?" I just grabbed her (put her drink on a table) and pulled her about ~20 feet away into a darker area where the patio met the sand. I kissed her neck and she did nothing to stop me, I blew in her ear and she shivered. I then kissed her for a little while (probably gave her the flu), then spun around so my back was leaning against the wall. I put her hand on my crotch and she started playing with it. Once my cock are fairly hard, I dropped my pants and my cock shot out into the air. I just pushed her down (this is nothing I had done with a stranger to this point before- I usually heat the chick up more) and sure enough- she wrapped her lips around it and started sucking. I had taken some Levitra earlier so I got pretty hard and long quickly. This went on for about 25-3o seconds when a group of people came outside. One of the guys yelled, "Damn, this guy is getting a blowjob!" and some of them watched (one of the girl in their group ran off). Eventually, a couple of the guys got too loud (i think one had a camera phone) and the girl that was blowing me stopped and got up and ran inside. I didn't see her again. The guys apologized and attempted to flatter me. I wanted to dump my load down her throat but I still thought it was a damn cool experience. I like getting blowjobs while others watch anyway. Erik came outside and the whole group (including one of the chicks) was telling him the story. Erik missed the show!! I was tripping the rest of the night, crazy horny and couldn't fuckin' speak. Pretty crazy shit though.
Point is- I don't know the percentage, but your non-verbal is a huge part of your screening process and your overall game. Verbal dialogue isn't that significant. If you've screened and the girl still around (take out your dick, just kidding) it's time step up your physical dialogue.
Like I say, 'Foreplay begins at hello' (sometimes before). Screen that pussy!!
>Being aggressive and screening involves two things: Sexually-Charged Conversation + Physical Advances.
If you are making strong physical advances do you really need to sexually charge the conversation? I always think I will sound silly if I...
>Being aggressive and screening involves two things: Sexually-Charged Conversation + Physical Advances.
If you are making strong physical advances do you really need to sexually charge the conversation? I always think I will sound silly if I try this. Do you have any examples of the type of stuff you say?
I've seen you mention talking sexually before, so I did try this on Saturday, but it turned out the only English this girl spoke was to say, "No speak English. I come from Brazil". Will have to try again this weekend.
Great website by the way. You're stuff is like 60 Years of Challenge on steroids.
Thanks man, I do appreciate it a lot!
That's a good question, "If you are making strong physical advances do you really need to sexually charge the conversation?" the answer is 'no' - but I prefer 'yes and 'no' because sometimes these physical...
Thanks man, I do appreciate it a lot!
That's a good question, "If you are making strong physical advances do you really need to sexually charge the conversation?" the answer is 'no' - but I prefer 'yes and 'no' because sometimes these physical advances can make stuff more fun and exciting for you.
lemme give you some examples. One thing I do a lot is smack girls on the ass, usually within 3-4 mins of meeting them.I'll say absurdly random something like, "You look like such a nice girl, aren't you a nice girl? You're probably so conservative, you're parents probably dress you." the girl usually denies it and I'd would say something like, "Ohh... so you're a naughty girl? You know what naughty girls get???" and slap her on the ass. That's an example of 'sexually-charged' conversation, some people may have sort of a different impression of sexually-charged conversation- like its 'phone sex' or something. I guess that could work in certain instances but that's not my style. Now, you could certainly slap a girl's ass without the front "naughty girl" dialogue, but I would chose to have the little dialogue because I've done it like 5000x and its funny to setup chicks for that.
here's some of my 'sexually-charged' or retarded scripts http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/01/21/pua-routines/
Here's a good example of exactly what you are talking about [non-sexually charged dialogue with strictly physical advances]- I once fingered this pretty hot girl Christine in a bar, total opposite of sexually-charged conversation- we are guessing state capitals. I said, "so whats the capital of Nebraska?" she said "Omaha," I said, "No, it's Lincoln," as I worked my hand up her leg.. I asked her another one, "What's the capital of Maryland?" she said, 'Anapolis," I said, "good." as I was already touching her panties... after a while I just stop asking state capitals haha and fingered her and kissed her a little. so it can go both ways.. I think it's a good idea to mix it up. Talking about sex and sexual things can get girls in a horny or excited mindset that you capitalize with physical advances shortly thereafter
scotty will tell girls (something like), "don't look at me like that, don't give me those i-want-to-you eyes," and smack them on the ass. similar thing, sexually-charged dialogue + physical advance.
yeah, so this sexually-charged conversation isn't necessarily talking in a 'sexual' or sensual voice, it's just the dynamic or nature of the conversation- teasing, for example, can be sexually charged. 'Look how small you are little girl. You're so tiny. I don't know if, you know, this is gonna work out"
hope this makes sense, tried to explain it quickly
I notice you're pretty buffed up; and I believe to majority of women, you will be considered as good looking (no homo). And that's one of the reasons why you can pull girls. I am not trying to say that it is the only reason why; because if it is...
I notice you're pretty buffed up; and I believe to majority of women, you will be considered as good looking (no homo). And that's one of the reasons why you can pull girls. I am not trying to say that it is the only reason why; because if it is then all the roidheads at bodybuilding.com would be able to pull chicks. Having that good body like yours is an advantage; and when you couple that with physical escalation and being bold, you'd get chicks who are DTF.
However, majority of your readers are not even close to your physique, and I think they won't be able to replicate your result without going to the gym religiously.
And screening women for DTF girls will only get you easy women. I don't think top shelf girls from top notch LA/NY clubs will want to be escalated like that unless you have some sort of fame or wealth.
hey thanks for your comment!
You'd be surprised which 'good girls' will be naughty and which 'bad girls' want nothing to do with me
ive gotten a lot of virgins too and a lot of experienced girls
on any given day, there's a certain % of chicks...
hey thanks for your comment!
You'd be surprised which 'good girls' will be naughty and which 'bad girls' want nothing to do with me
ive gotten a lot of virgins too and a lot of experienced girls
on any given day, there's a certain % of chicks that are sexually available and certain % that are sexually unavailable
i find out where they stand
every girl is both- a good girl and a bad girl
not just either a slut or a prude
maximizing your looks is critical.. I encourage everyone to do that as part of this process
there's a lot of guy with bodies FAR better than mine that haven't been a girl in years
im ~225lbs, I was considered more attractive when I thinner for sure
as i personal preference I dont/cant get turned on by strippers or overly alpha/slutty chicks
i like super hot, generally submissive girls that embrace their femininity so I seem to attract those type with what I do
hope that makes sense
oh, if you are referring the "approach 100 chicks experiment" i dont think new guys can duplicate my success, not right away anyway
a year before I did this, I def couldnt get that success. I slept with 7 chicks, whereas a year prior- if I approached 100, it might be 1 or 2
my only point that I feel is valid is-- if you approach 100 chicks, its more likely to get 1 date than to get rejected 100 times. thats sorta obvious, but yet a lot of guys go months and months without even having a date and aren't sure why or what a solution might be
-chris
[...] while 4 or 5 random people watched, without even speaking to a girl that sucked away on my penis- “Screen with Silent Game (Kino, etc.)”. During the day, Scotty has smiled and winked at girls, they smile and wink back and then Scotty...
[...] while 4 or 5 random people watched, without even speaking to a girl that sucked away on my penis- “Screen with Silent Game (Kino, etc.)”. During the day, Scotty has smiled and winked at girls, they smile and wink back and then Scotty [...]
These are some kickass stories.
I'm not a buff dude. I weigh 170 at 5'7" and I should cut a lot of body fat. Anyway. I studied and practice pickup for about six years now and I found my best results when I became very comfortable getting...
These are some kickass stories.
I'm not a buff dude. I weigh 170 at 5'7" and I should cut a lot of body fat. Anyway. I studied and practice pickup for about six years now and I found my best results when I became very comfortable getting physical. Like, picking girls up off the floor into my arms, and carrying them around and stuff like that. Slapping their asses, grabbing their wrists and pulling. I seem to be better at this when I'm drunk and it takes some serious practice to pull it off sober.
Acting incredibly alpha is tough when you're a smaller guy, and it throws girls off balance because they don't experience that level of confidence often from smaller guys. Many girls that don't interact with jocks get shocked into "deer in the headlights" mode, sort of a trance when you're this physically dominant. You get tested a bit more, and their friends will pull them away if you haven't met them yet. It's just a bit tougher if you don't look intimidating.
I'm a smooth talker. I'm a funny guy and my verbal game is my strong point, but without the incredibly physical stuff I would not have pulled any of the girls I have for a same nighter.
Nice blog.
yeah man you are absolutely correct-- I suggest all shorter guys really go in with over the top aggressiveness when they are learning... you can always dial back a bit. But overall, same rules apply.. you'll get laid more if you get physical ASAP...
yeah man you are absolutely correct-- I suggest all shorter guys really go in with over the top aggressiveness when they are learning... you can always dial back a bit. But overall, same rules apply.. you'll get laid more if you get physical ASAP and get them in or out. haha, I manhandle chicks like that too- take them right to a sofa in the place or a more private place. works good! the girls don't fight it
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
To anyone reading this, follow through, read this material, APPLY this material, and enjoy life.
Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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