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A Closer Look At Approaching 102 Chicks
In this post, "What if i Approached 100 Hot Chicks? Would I Get A Date Or Some Pussy? (Getting Women is a Numbers Game)," I approached 102 attractive girls in Los Angeles between the dates of October 9th and October 16th of 2009. I approached the girls with the simple intention of getting their number- which later I would follow up on if they seemed receptive. I didn't use any "game" I was simply polite, made small talk and left the interaction by saying "Hey, I gotta go, you're cool, what's a number I can text you at?"
I decided to undertake this little social experiment simply to verify two things to myself (and my friend Mark)-
1. Dating/Getting Laid is strictly a numbers game. The more girls you talk to, the more likely you are to get laid.
2. If you are on a date-less streak, you could approach 100 girls with simple material and nearly assuredly end that streak.
I like to think that I did prove those two things.
Here were the final statistics
102 Girls Approached
47 Phone Numbers (I asked EVERY girl I talked to for their number)
13-16 Dates/Meet Ups (I don't actually know how exactly many chicks I get together with. For every girl I banged - I also had a girl that definitely wasn't down)
7 Lays (By 11/15, within 30 days- 7 (or 6%) of the 102 girls I approached ends up back in my bed)
100 Chicks - A Closer Look (Audio) 1/4
100 Chicks - A Closer Look (Audio) 2/4
8:30 - I how handled the numbers I got, who I called, who I didn't
100 Chicks - A Closer Look (Audio) 3/4
100 Chicks - A Closer Look (Audio) 4/4
A lot of guys, including myself in the past, treated a chicks phone number as some sort of "call this number, get laid" card. It's not. You haven't 'gotten' the girl- you've simply gotten her permission to call or text her (unless its a fake number - which I definitely got a few). Again, in my interactions I wasn't too aggressive, I was polite and appeared confident. Most girls probably wouldn't have a problem giving me their number. If I was more aggressive (how I usually am - following the "Get Laid or Get Lost" Mentality), a phone number would mean significantly more. It would mean that the girl was accepting my physical advances and I've gotten her permission to continue at a later time. So I'm not too surprised that a little less than half the girls gave my their phone number with the intention of either seeing me again or getting away from me politely. At the same time I kept my interactions pretty short, the girl might have gotten excited to meet me but she definitely didn't feel like she knew me (with the exception of a few interactions). She literally had to decide if she liked me in about 4 or 5 minutes. If I got her to respond over text within the next few days, she probably liked me or wanted a text buddy.
A special note: Los Angeles is the easiest place in the country to get a phone number, but the hardest place in the country to get the chick to meet up with you. The girls are super friendly, busy and sometimes "politely" fake. Just like in other cities, but at a much higher percentage- a girl will give you her number whether she likes you or not. A lot of the Los Angeles hotties like the ego boost of giving their phone number out and like to have a guy become their "text buddy" that sweat them. It's like a daily ego boost knowing that guys are chasing them. Also girls will give you their number if they 'think' that you might be someone or know someone that is important. Especially the Hollywood girls that like to "network". In Los Angeles, you'll almost never hear, "I don't give out my number." Not from the Hollywood chicks anyway.
So, getting a lot of phone numbers (especially in Los Angeles) is definitely not a "get laid" card. In fact, banging 7 chicks off 47 numbers is actually very high considering my non-aggressive approaches.
The main thing to note is- the key to getting phone numbers is simply asking. Get in the habit of ending every interaction with. "Hey I gotta run, you seem cool, what's a number I can text you at?" You're going to get her number or you won't. None of this "I should have asked for her number," or "I wonder if I could have gotten her number," BULLSHIT. Regardless of how receptive the girl is - ask for her number. Make it a habit so you don't "forget" later.
Another major point is- with my "average polite guy" approaches, I was not screening the girl for anything more than if she found me attractive and nice enough to give her number to. That's what most guys do- let the girl screen him. The problem with that is I ended up on a lot of "dates" or meet ups with girls that were asexual and just not cool. A complete waste of time that could have been avoided by properly "screening and filtering girls out". To try to avoid this, once I got their number, I got more aggressive [via text and phone] to weed the duds out.
Right after I got their number, I texted them- "Nice meeting u [name], talk to u later, dont stay up all night fantasizing about me please. Get some sleep"
The following day or 2 days later I'd text them- "Hey sexy biatch"
When they replied I called them immediately. (see call her/phone game)
If they responded and weren't filtered out, I'd be fairly confident that they weren't asexual and boring. But still, half the dates I ended up on, the girls were asexual and most were profiling me as a potential boyfriend, not a guy that would fuck them silly. I dealt with this type of thing before and now I screen chicks harder than they ever screened me. (about chris)
If you don't believe me - try it, go talk to 100 chicks.
If you do believe me, then you should try it, it works.
While results will vary (I could do this again and get rejected 100 times), it is more likely than not that you'll end up with some phone numbers and some potential dates (and you might get laid) than be rejected 100 times. Again, it is more likely that you will get a date than be rejected 100 times. So the odds are in your favor if you look at it that way.
Even at its lowest level, that should be comforting if you haven't gone out with a chick in several months or a few years. I think that most people know this. It's a numbers game. But for some reason a lot of guys are confused about why they aren't getting laid or haven't been out with a girl in a few months. Maybe it's denial, maybe it's confusion - either way that's the solution. If you haven't been hanging out with chicks or getting laid, it's generally because you are not talking to enough girls and not being aggressive enough.
Remember the formula? Talk to Chicks + Be Aggressive = Get Laid
if you dont to talk to chicks
or if you are being a total pussy (I had an issue with that)
you wont be any getting any twat
... if you genuinely approach 100 chicks, ask them for their numbers and get turned down 100 times- talk to me, I'll specifically help you out.
Okay so you got 47 phone numbers, did you call or text them all back?
Nope, I didn't call or text all the chicks back, most of them I did though.
I texted the best looking girls and the ones that seemed to like me the best. That's how I do things normally. If those numbers don't pan out, I'll text the other numbers.
I texted most of them with "hey sexy" or "what up sexxxy". I only waited about 36 or 48 hours after I met them. I'll talk more about that in [phone game]. (the texts were EXACTLY like that- NO capital letters or punctuation)
This was my screening technique to see if the girl had some sexual energy to her, something that I did not screen for when I met the girl. Since I was such a "nice guy" and so polite when I picked the girl up, it would be understandable that they were a bit taken back the "sexy bitch" text. Either way, it was efficient screening. I'm looking to Get Laid, not go out 5 on five dates and then Get Laid.
If and when the girl replied, I immediately called her and I would nearly always get her on the phone since she just texted me seconds before. I did some small talk, had a funny story about seeing white trash people at Costco and tried to set up a meet up within the next few days.
The plan was simply to get them back to my room.
If you want to get laid, getting the girl on your bed should be the goal of the date.
The basic formula was this-
1) Have girl drive over to my place, park in my driveway
2) Have girl come in, see the house, see my room and my bed - get her familiar with the place so it doesn't feel like it's a new place when you bring her back later that night
3) Walk down the street to Santa Monica Blvd. to get ice cream at Millions of Milkshakes or coffee at Coffee Bean on Sunset Blvd.
4) Flirt, touch her, makeout, heat girl up
5) Walk back to the house to get a drink and tell the girl that she "can only stay for 10 minutes though,"
6) Either have the drinks or not, massage the chick while showing her a youtube video, duck into my room and get busy!!
For more information about getting laid on dates please see section III.
Other than sex with Brianna on Day 4, the first day is actually the day that I remember the clearest (haha, Kratom seems to blur things sometimes).
Since I was already sleeping with 3 other girls, I hadn't been talking to many new chicks, I was really excited that I'd be meeting 100 girls in the next week. I felt great and I wasn't sexually or emotionally needy. I had gotten better over the past 6 months and hadn't really measured it. Overall, I had a great fresh attitude for beginning my little experiment. My expectations were that a lot of girls would be cool and warm to me, I'd have to later see which wanted to have sex. I also thought I'd get a lot of phone numbers, since girls give out their numbers whether they love or hate you. That's pretty much how it happened.
I started out at The Grove, a beautiful upscale outdoor mall in Los Angeles. The very first girl I approached in the Nike Store, Jamie P_ttigrew, was a beautiful brown haired athletic girl. Sandra Bullock looking. She was even on the US Olympic (or Jr. Olympic) Ski Team or something. The first interaction when so well, Jamie was even trying to lock me down for the rest of the day it seemed (we met up again on October 20 to have ice cream and had sex after). I was super confident to start out my experiment. I left The Grove with 5 phone numbers, but only 1 girl other than Jamie seemed down. I was in a really good state once I got to the gym and I think I took 1 or 2 more numbers. I was excited to go out that night, but Hollywood is pretty dead on Monday with the exception of a few clubs that I didn't have access to.
This was a huge success and I had better results than I thought. The point is - anyone can do this and expect to take 1 or more phone number and likely go on 1 or more dates. This might be the perfect thing to do if you are just starting out and looking for some quick results. As good as it went, believe me, there were times that it seems like every girl hated me. The first half of Day 4, I was getting either rejected on in go nowhere conversations where the girls wanted to leave. This was a surprise since I tagged Brianna the night before and was feeling really good about myself. That goes to show, that it's not your game or your problem is some chick is stupid, boring or unavailable. There's stuff out of your control that you can't change and shouldn't worry about. I always used to take things personally - I don't anymore.
A second thought is, for every girl I banged - I ended up meeting up (on a date) with a girl that just wasn't down. This is why screening is so important - make the chicks get lost before they waste your entire night and time texting/calling them. One girl I went out with, Justine, was particularly awful. I thought the "date" had been going pretty well until I sat her down on my bed. She kept standing up and wouldn't even let me kiss her. Eventually she did and I took her hand and put it on my crotch. She kept taking her hand off and started resisting more. Her breath wasn't great either, so I just went for broke and pulled my pants and did this little move that makes my cock swing from side to side (that usually makes chicks laugh and they want to touch me). Justine who was standing in the doorway after she wouldn't keep me hand on my crotch, ran out of the house, got in her car and left. Left her coat, what a prude. Bitch ran over the grass too. Haha. Was my penis that scary?
Other Posts On Numbers Game
This post was one of the very first I wrote in Late 2011(?), here is the more recent stuff related the numbers game -
[...] I did not throw a lot of game at these girls, nor did I try aggressively to take them home with me. That would have resulted in more lays and more rejection (because the formula is Hit On Girls + Be Aggressive = Get Laid). I approached 102...
[...] I did not throw a lot of game at these girls, nor did I try aggressively to take them home with me. That would have resulted in more lays and more rejection (because the formula is Hit On Girls + Be Aggressive = Get Laid). I approached 102 girls in 6 days, that’s a lot – but it will likely break anyone’s date-less streak or at the least- give you something to work on. Needless to say, this is a total numbers game. I’ll take a more in-depth look at my little “study” in this post “What If I Approached 100 Hot Chicks? Would I Get Any Pussy? (A Closer Look)“. [...]
It caught my attention that you are strict about not paying a penny. Are any girls ever put off by it? It seems extra cheap to INSIST the she pay for herself. I mean it's an ICE CREAM. Not judging :)
If I take a girl for an ice cream I usually...
It caught my attention that you are strict about not paying a penny. Are any girls ever put off by it? It seems extra cheap to INSIST the she pay for herself. I mean it's an ICE CREAM. Not judging :)
If I take a girl for an ice cream I usually just pay without a second thought. However I would never go on an expensive date with a girl.
Is this just a personal rule or do you think it sends the right message to the girl or something? Also do you spend any time outside the bedroom with the girls you're already banging? Do you pay then?
well there's no absolutes, I sometime pay if I WANT to go to a restaurant or something..
but here's the thing-
from the nature of my game, how i screen (approach) girls
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/01/29/overcoming-approach-anxiety-by-scr...
well there's no absolutes, I sometime pay if I WANT to go to a restaurant or something..
but here's the thing-
from the nature of my game, how i screen (approach) girls
http://www.goodlookingloser.com/2012/01/29/overcoming-approach-anxiety-by-screening/
I don't end up with girls that want to get a dinner and movie out of me. The girls know what I'm about, an awesome sexual experience and they know that's why they are meeting up with me.
check that link above... I think you'll know what I mean... I'm not really concerned with messages paying/not paying sends... I used to, when I ran "I hope she likes me game"... any chick that gets together with me knows/is excited that she'll be on my bed by the end (based on how I approach them).
lemme know if that doesn't make sense!
i guess what i mean- the girl knows it's not a date
some girls (only a few) said it was "funny" that didn't pay and they "didn't like did," but they still slept with me... for months and months.. so I don't believe that, they just wanted me to be their boyfriend. girls say one thing and feel a different way you know haha
I totally get what you're saying. It's funny over the years I've gone slowly shifted from "I hop she likes me game" to more screening game. I just haven't gone all the way! I've been stuck in between. Reading about your experiences makes me...
I totally get what you're saying. It's funny over the years I've gone slowly shifted from "I hop she likes me game" to more screening game. I just haven't gone all the way! I've been stuck in between. Reading about your experiences makes me realize that I just need to go all the way. It's easier too - you just do what you want and if she doesn't like she can bounce. How simple is that?
For me the thing with paying is probably an artifact of the "I hope she like me" game. I don't go on any expensive "dates." Usually park or coffee. But I do feel like I should pay for the coffee. It just seems ultra-cheap to make her pay. But I agree that it's pretty much irrelevant.
I hear you man-- there's actually a lot of stuff I have to share with you on this subject: "Screening Game" vs. "I hope she likes me" game.. but I'm doing like 4 things here and paying bills too.
Similar to the thoughts you shared, my...
I hear you man-- there's actually a lot of stuff I have to share with you on this subject: "Screening Game" vs. "I hope she likes me" game.. but I'm doing like 4 things here and paying bills too.
Similar to the thoughts you shared, my transition to screening game wasn't really a conscious thing.. I started being more aggressive (sexually charged conversation + physical advances) and saw better results... at the same time I was banging 3 other really hot girls, so I didn't really care about 'rejection', at the same time I got some help from Scotty and another guy... so a lot of stuff 'came together' and all of a sudden 'screening game' was born. It then took me another few months to realize what I was doing, why it was working and that it was a mentality... not a technique, like 'qualification' or something
I'm interested in where your game is at because [it is my belief] that once you go from good 'i hope she likes me' game to screening game-- the results are ridiculous, there is 0 approach anxiety and nothing comes out of your mouth that is meant to impress/get the girl to like you... and the net result= lots of pussy, you are in conversations with the RIGHT girls, everything falls into place
PU is no longer an uphill battle, literally the hot sexually available chicks know that you are 'the guy' that they are looking for... I gotta think about this more
>>actually come to think about it, I pay for most stuff- after I've banged the girl and she's a regular. As for before we have sex, it kind of varies... I give the impression that I'm against paying for the coffee/ice cream, but that's not completely the case. I just want guys not view this as a 'date' and I don't want them to give the girl that impression either, before during or after. The money isn't overly significant if you understand and present the big picture. Frankly, a guy who take a girl to dinner, flirts with the hostess or with girl at another table and pays for dinner- he'll probably get laid that night too, if the chick likes him. I'm just trying to define 'date' here, it's a meetup for sex... you can go on dates after. I'm happy you brought this issue/question (re: money) to my attention
you should see our video on "Scotty's Date"-- he picks up the girls, drives her to his house and bangs her. no date, no plans, no nothing... how does that work? he is SO aggressive on chicks, he'll grab their tits in the streets, lick their neck,...
you should see our video on "Scotty's Date"-- he picks up the girls, drives her to his house and bangs her. no date, no plans, no nothing... how does that work? he is SO aggressive on chicks, he'll grab their tits in the streets, lick their neck, etc...
that's more aggressive than I am... but it saves him a TON of time. that's hardcore screening
Wow. I'd be curious to hear more about Scotty's super aggressive "game." (I want to start moving away from the term game due to poor associations with the PUA nonsense.)
I meet chicks during the day for most part: park, bookstore that kind of...
Wow. I'd be curious to hear more about Scotty's super aggressive "game." (I want to start moving away from the term game due to poor associations with the PUA nonsense.)
I meet chicks during the day for most part: park, bookstore that kind of thing. I'll talk to them about whatever the fuck comes to my mind to get things rolling. If I got nothing to say I default to "hey, you're kinda cute." Then we make small talk and I assess her interest. Then I might try to move her somewhere. Anywhere, just wanna see if she'll come with me. When the weather is nice I take her for a walk, put my arm around her. Then sit somewhere and see if I can get a makeout going or bit her neck or something. Of course at any point she can "reject" me and fuck off. Or she could be busy in which case I take a number if I feel there's enough interest on both sides. I also sometimes make a lot of sexual jokes.
This is what I've been doing recently. Prior to that I would not do ANY physical escalation until day 2. Just chat, take number, setup day 2.
Once I took a girl home right away from a daytime approach and thought I got lucky. But eventually it hit me that I just had a mental block against taking girls home from daytime approaches. Like there is no such thing a one DAY stand, only a one night stand. But the truth is I just wasn't pushing for it, so how do I know?
Anyway - do tell more about Scotty's aggressiveness. I imagine he doesn't grab tits from the get go or does he? lol
yeah Scotty gets same day as much as same night... He's in NYC so the lunch/'after work' crowd is a extremely good source... check out 'free stuff' and download his lay reports.. he's a got a lot during the day.
he is SO physical up front that...
yeah Scotty gets same day as much as same night... He's in NYC so the lunch/'after work' crowd is a extremely good source... check out 'free stuff' and download his lay reports.. he's a got a lot during the day.
he is SO physical up front that most of his work is done. that's the key... we have more videos, etc. which I'm going to put up sometime soon. check the lay reports
in California, near the beach is GREAT for same day (or night) that's where I'd meet chicks a lot. Scotty actually thinks same day is easier than same night.. but he's real good at this stuff
man I am really hooked to these articles. 'Unlimited tries' and 'screening THEM' .....wow my perception of all this 'game' changed completely. I was already trying a few approaches before after reading some other material (I am hungry, bro) but...
man I am really hooked to these articles. 'Unlimited tries' and 'screening THEM' .....wow my perception of all this 'game' changed completely. I was already trying a few approaches before after reading some other material (I am hungry, bro) but now.... I have started my 'screen 100 girls' project today, approached 'only' 3 girls as I had only about an hour, but I am definitely going to apply what I have learned here and by the end of the summer I want to have approached at least 200 girls. Also, I was surprised at the 'aggressive' part, maybe 'hey sexy bitch' sounds too derogatory for me because I don't have yet the sexual choice that you have. But it still opened my mind, 'cause I have always been more on the shy side too, but above all, I just didn't even fucking know I had to be aggressive. I have started changing about a year ago and tried to learn to be more and more aggressive, but I still worry about fucking it up most of the times or scaring the girl away. It's so paradoxical that the latter attitude is what get you less laid.
We really need to learn about how to be aggressive, man....speaking for myself, I just realized that this has always been my major stumbling block. I am not a mouse with everyone, but with hot girls I would just become nervous and play 'tough' to hide my fear. Fear of what? I have a cock and it works well. It's just makes no sense.
Being aggressive, that's what I am going to concentrate on, man....about a week ago I approached a cute girl and went on an instant date. I managed to hold her hand and then I disengaged. I realized that I disengage too early. Pisses me off. But I guess that it's normal and I will have to just go on a few dates and make sure I am always taking it a step forward. But what you wrote in another article, about 'making the jump' and NOT learning 'gradually' but to just go for it and if you fuck it up you fuck it up, it's making me thinking.
I want to really improve on my aggressiveness. I have improved a lot but I need to do more of that. Thanks for this great article, I love your no bullshit stuff. It's also very different to hear from someone who gets laid a lot, about the duds, the 'rejections', the impossible girls.....all very mind opening, so many fucking 'gurus' hardly speak of their 'rejections', I think that speaking of these is very encouraging because it's more like 'hey, this is real', to me. It's hard to explain. Great job man. M
thanks man! I cordially invite you to sign up for the forum... we can give you a lot of personal attention right now if you want
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
To anyone reading this, follow through, read this material, APPLY this material, and enjoy life.
Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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