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Online dating has it's advantages and parallels to real life leave-your-house-life dating.
In fact, you can play the numbers game better.
There's more competition however- you'll have 50-100 other guys messaging the girls you are interested in. Whereas, in real life- those same 50-100 guys would be scared to death to speak to that same girl.
It's easier to meet girls online (you just message enough until you get a couple that are interested). But it's generally harder to get laid since the majority of girls, especially the hot girls, aren't on an online dating site to get fucked by a random Internet guy. They are generally looking for relationships, sick of the bar/club scene and you have to have boyfriend potential (not the same as boyfriend material) to even meet up with them. From there, it can still be an uphill battle. Sexual availability can fluctuate tremendously, you just have the killer instinct to nail that pussy when the opportunity is sitting there.
Getting laid online, like in real life, is finding the girls that are DTF and making it happen.
You should be generally able to meet and meet up with the same quality of girl as you "could" pick up in real life.
Most guys can meet up with chicks that are-
Equally as good looking they are.
Less good looking as they are.
In most cases, via online dating, you won't be able to get girls that are better looking than you are. (I know there's some exceptions - I'm not a fucking idiot)
In real life- the element of "swag factor" (coolness) gives you that chance to hook up with girls above your "level".
For that reason, the importance of your looks, is EVEN MORE important online since you can only communicate so much "coolness" in your online profile.
Assuming your goal to is GET LAID and not just "meet women online" or "go out with women," keep these things in mind-
Decide Which Sites(s) To Use
Assuming you are trying to get laid (noticed that this theme is repeated a couple of times on this website), just like in real life, you have to go to the places where the most DTF girls are likely to be.
For example- in real life, you would go to a bar or club, rather than a church, mosque or men's bathroom.
For online dating, you want to check out the sites that AREN'T relationship sites that have girls that are JUST looking for a boyfriend and you make you "work" (or require a commitment) to get at that pussy.
Each site is great, but POF is still significantly better due to its popularity and the fact that there are less boyfriend hunters on POF than OkCupid.
If neither of those dating sites are popular where you live.. tough luck kiddo.
Make sure whichever site you use is both popular and has the ability to send out mass amounts of messages fairly easy.
I suggest using both sites to start.
If you’re making the dating-i-mean-fuck-women side of your life your #1 priority– you should be setting up as many dates as you can. Hitting the maximum limit of openers between the two sites should be plenty.
I'm in the process figuring out the most productive and efficient way to screen in the real DTF girls and screen out the fakers.
Chris has a friend that gets a lot of ass off JDate; you don't even have to be Jewish. Just say they are part Jewish or like pleasuring Jewish girls, if you care for some reason.
Stay away from sites like eHarmony and ChristianMingle, both are relationship sites (obviously).
Make Blitzing (Sending Openers) a Habit
Most guys understand and are better able to play the numbers in an online venue. Most guys don't get scared of online "rejection" from a girl that is looking for a boyfriend and considers you too much of a player.
I’ve seen guys send 50 messages then complain why they don’t have a date.
You need to realize this is really a numbers game.
Make it a mandatory blitz 5x a week of your messaging limit (40 openers). Set daily reminders on your phone and play some music in the background while you blitz.
You can get the blitz down to 10-15 minutes and it easily becomes a simple habit. The time of day that is most busy is around 6 & 7pm. The busiest day of the week for girls online is Sunday.
On top of the habit of sending openers, try to remember to have a tab open whenever you’re on the computer – you have a lot higher chance of being opened as your thumbnail gets highlighted often when you are currently online.
Have Quality Pictures (and LOOK GOOD)
Like Chris said- pictures are EVEN MORE important online.
Your pictures, not your "about me" or "favorite quotes" set you apart from other guys. Just like in real life.
Your potential and limits with quality is determined by your looks (pics). The quality you’ll get is at par or often a bit lower than your own looks.
Try not to become frustrated if things go wrong. If you’re not experienced a lot with women, realize that everything you do from first talking to her, meeting her, and fucking her (or trying to) is a process of progress. You might make mistakes but you can always learn from them.
With women in general, a lot of things are out of your control. A lot of women online are there for attention and never really planning to meet up. Also, you’ll always get at least some girls flaking. Since these girls are meeting guys they barely know from the internet – it’ll happen. Reducing the amount of flakes is in your control and can be changed.
If you look decent and are following our approach, the vast majority of "rejection" or girls that don't want to have anything to do with you is because YOU LOOK LIKE A SEXY PLAYER THAT IS NOT RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL. Not because you "aren't good looking enough" or a fucking loser. This is screening, just like in real life.
In my online dating guide I explain what pictures you should use, what they should convey, how many to use, and the importance of your main one:
What I don’t explain is how to get at least 1 solid picture if you don’t have one already.
If you don’t have any great pictures from Facebook or wherever, I suggest to take a mirror shot – they work great.
Most reasonable people know that a mirror shot is a better indicator of how you look than a Photoshopped, airbrushed, noise-reduced HD 1080i .jpg. That's why, still this very day, models are required to take Polaroid pictures in addition to their "portfolio". A combination of the two is good. Just don't have some creepy webcam picture with bad lighting where you look like you just got done jerking off to better looking people.
uhhh.. I don't have a digital camera (or a life)... so uhh.. don't hold this picture again me.
A mirror shot is okay, if you don't have anything else.
You completely control your style and appearance and can take a bunch of shots to make sure it’s just right.
If you’re broke – go try some outfits in the mall and take a pic in the change room of your edgy outfit you just tried on. It’s easy to not make it obvious that you’re in a change room, and brand new clothes always fit the best. If you don’t know what type of a style to follow, check this out –
Whichever picture you use for the main one, make sure it stands out.
Not only standing out with your looks and style, but as a thumbnail it should grab the girls attention to click on it to visit your page.
Don’t Pay Too Much Attention Response Rates (JUST LIKE IN REAL LIFE)
Date rate or even lay rate is a better ratio to go on.
But even still, you should be screening out at least some dates of huge boyfriend hunters. (JUST LIKE IN REAL LIFE)
I know someone who has 3 - 4% response rate but still gets laid fairly often from it. He does this because the ones who do reply are a lot more likely to be dtf – from how hard he’s screening.
Also, some guys use funny type openers that make them then come across as Mr. Funny Man. It makes you look like you’re desperate for replies and girls generally categorize you as more of a friend than a guy that can fuck her tits out her ass.
Other Tools & Things to Eat
You can use these while you are hitting up women or while you are on dates. (JUST LIKE IN REAL LIFE)
Phenibut & Kratom
If you think you might be nervous - get some Kratom or Phenibut. It could mean the difference between getting laid or not - especially if you’re just starting out and you’re anxiety is through the roof. Even if you don’t have anxiety or anything, both Kratom and Phenibut are fucking awesome to give you a great mood.
70% of users on POF use the mobile phone app. It makes everything 10x times easier to set up dates practically anywhere, anytime. I wouldn’t suggest sending out your openers from your phone as that would take too much time.
Without it, you will send a message, then hours or a day later when she’s online she’ll reply. Then hours later when you’re back online you’ll reply to that, and so on. Then after that you find out she’s just seeking attention or she loses interest for whatever reason.
Basically why it’s great for online dating is that it learns and remembers the words and phrases to easily reply to girls fast with. It even actually can sync-up with your Facebook and gmail to learn your typing style as well.
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I have had some success on OKC, it's tough to crack at first because there are many more guys on there than girls, but slowly one gets the hang of it. This article is ACE, & you're right it's totally a numbers game.
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I have accounts on both the sites you mentioned as well as a few more but haven't given either much of my thought or time. Looks like I've been missing out. This is quite the handy guide, dude! Thanks!
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Hey I don't see myself using online dating soon but I think this would be a pretty useful guide for those that want to. Might share this with a few of my friends... I subscribed to your newsletter so I can get all future updates.
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