Wasting Time, Average Life

Through the majority of 2008-2010, my first priority was to sleep with the most, hottest women I possibly could.

It wasn't "work," "school," "get a perfect body," or "live a balanced lifestyle," it was all about meeting and banging women. You can only have one first priority.

I didn't even have a "job" for the majority of the time. Once I came to grips with that, I didn't feel guilty about it. There's a lot of worse things you can be doing than meeting/trying to meet women and sleeping with them. I learned more successful attitudes from meeting and sleeping women than I ever did in school or from any "internship."

I moved to a more balanced lifestyle toward the end of 2010 and didn't see much of a drop off in my sex life thanks to efficient screening and DTF hotties in social circles.

I don't necessarily recommend that everyone goes on a full-time "vision quest" or "mission" for pussy though. I usually suggest you meet women as a [significant] part of an overall efficient lifestyle, but I can't deny that you'll make quick psychological changes and get good results if you devote a good year to it.

That's what SSK08 has done- "New Self," I think he's nailed 4-5 girls in the past 6 weeks, while previously being freaked out to talk anyone (male or female) back in February, just 7 months ago. Impressive.

It's also evidence that he is able to manage his time and not waste it.

The biggest difference in my overall lifestyle in 2008-2010 (especially 2009-2010) was my overall efficiency. Once I started my personal training/nutrition in Los Angeles, I was still living very efficiently and still had time for all the pussy I wanted.

It wasn't something I doing, it was something(s) I WASN'T doing.

I wasn't WASTING time like I had done so often in my mid 20's.

Usually when guys tell me they don't have time to talk to 5-10 women a day, I generally know that they aren't really serious about it.

Usually when guys tell me they don't have time to follow a diet or go to the gym 3 times a week for 50 minutes, I generally know that they aren't really serious about it.

When people are serious about stuff, they make time.

It is possible, however, that there's several hours in the day that are being straight up WASTED, whether you not it or not.

The following activities are some of the most common time wasters among guys that trying to have a vibrant, efficient lifestyle and sex life.

This is based on my previous lifestyle and the lifestyles of people we've worked with or met.

Time Waster #1: Reading About It For Hours a Day.

As most of you know, my most significant period of development and first initial big time results (4 hot girls as fuck buddies) came when I got as far away from the "community" (industry) much as possible. No pick up forums, no pick up blogs, no Youtube videos, no pirated eBooks, and no talking about picking up women with people. I just did it.

If you read about something, it doesn't mean you've learned it.

This is how "learning" happens - "How Learning Happens - Concept Encounters".

With something that requires daily action to produce lasting psychological changes and results, reading about picking up women without taking action is actually counterproductive.

If you read GoodLookingLoser.com, Aaron Sleazy, Paul Janka, and other seemingly credible sources for pussy, chances are you'll come across some conflicting information. As you seek to resolve the conflict and decide what's "best" for you, you've successful complicated the process if you haven't tried it yourself. Credible, simple ideas "get in-and-out, talk to her, and take her number," can actually be complicated by other credible, simple ideas "make sure you make small talk to get your real personality across."

I was guilty of doing that for an entire year. Don't do it. Stop if you are.

If everyone spent as much time actually talking to women as they did reading about it, they'd be getting laid non-stop.

As a rule of thumb- for every hour you spend reading about banging women, you should talk to at least 5 women.

That includes GoodLookingLoser.com.

You might have check in here just once a day, maybe just once a week.

But maybe it helps you stay on track. You have to decide.

While it might to nice hear that guys have memorized our stuff, I feel way better when you get laid. And So will you.

Time Waster #2: Reading About Other Stuff for Hours a Day

When I really got my life moving in Los Angeles, not only was I avoiding the seduction community (that was easy), but I also made an effort to avoid the unnecessary on Internet at-large.

• I closed my Facebook account (in Mid-2010, I put it back up without a wall).
• I stopped following all sports for the most part (I was literally in the process of eating pussy rather than watching the Colts and Saints in the 2010 Superbowl).
• I stopped playing all fantasy sports.
• I didn't read or write on any fitness or nutrition forums.
• I had no other social media accounts.
• I stopped watching porn, there wasn't much of a point after a while.
• My old phone (the red one in pictures) didn't get the Internet.
• I stopped checking email every 45 minutes.
• I don't think I watched 1 Youtube video for 18 months, minus listening to music or showing a girl a video with my laptop on my bed.

It wasn't easy at first.

I liked browsing through Facebook and seeing the sexless lives that people who disliked me were living. (yeah, still had an ego)

I liked predicting the scores of football games and checking if I was right.

I liked "learning" about fitness and nutrition, even though I knew everything I needed to get myself and my clients top 1% results.

In hindsight, I think "learning" or "researching" was an excuse to justify being lazy. But I'm not sure.

Thankfully, I found this tool, it allowed me to block these productivity life-sucking websites on my own computer. It's free and it very really beneficial in dropping my Internet/information addiction cold-turkey. You can block the sites the you waste time on and it's a hassle to unblock it, so you naturally stay away even though you are tempted. You can set the times when the site is blocked and unblock.

I suggest you give it a try if this is an issue for you.
It helped me a lot and after a while you don't feel like you missing anything.

• Check out- SoftSonic LeechBlock for Firefox (download)

After you round up 3-4 hot girls to fuck on the regular, then you can rejoin Facebook and show everyone just how sexy the women you chill with are.
But you probably won't care anymore. :D

Time Waster #3: Stale Relationships

All my life I lived on the East Coast. Washington DC, Florida, Greenville SC., Atlanta GA., and even a brief stint in New York City.

Everything I knew was on the East Coast.

So was everyone I knew.

While I had some close friends that I always will keep-in-touch with, I also had a ton of "stale relationships," of people that I had nothing in common expect my past.

These stale relationships required more time than I thought. Responding to texts, small talk at parties, Facebook walls, gossip, talking about the past, social commitments (so be here at 7pm, we are going out to dinner before Jason's birthday), after-party where's there NO new pussy, etc.

I was never one to attend something I didn't want, but I didn't completely walk away from the scene either. I should have walked away A LONG TIME AGO.

When I got a scholarship to the University of San Diego, I decided my life on the East Coast had ended. I appreciated it but was happy to move on. Once I got to San Diego, I didn't know ANYONE. All the drama, was 3 time zones away. I might as well been on a different planet. I truly didn't think about anyone until December when I flew home for Christmas.

You wouldn't talk to moldy bread, so why would you talk to moldy people?

These stale relationships can also keep you in the past. A lot of the people I know talk about high school like they still go to Winston Churchill High School, they haven't changed, they haven't made much progress as males and females (beside getting a job), they are overweight, and they don't Get Laid.

Maybe that sounds arrogant- but I'm calling the way I see it.

My goal is to help you improve your life, not cater to the "political correctness" police.

Trust me, if you are going to move on to have a hot, ridiculous, sex life and develop as a top 1% male- you won't be chilling with too many people that were in your past.

You won't have much in common with most of them.

You sure as hell won't have time.

Furthermore, some of us want to forget the past. Interacting with past on a weekly basis isn't helping.

Use discretion, keep the real friends that support you whether you are up or down.

But I suggest you cut the dead weight today. Anyone that won't be happy for your success gets cut.

You don't have to be mean, just delete their numbers and you might want to get off social media too. If you need it- you have my permission.

If you want to go back, they'll be there.

Can't Talk. Sarging.

Time Waster #4: Inefficient "Sarging"

Spell check doesn't even recognize "sarging" as a word. I wonder why.

If sarging means- dress up in a PUA costume, go out into the world, and deliver endless rehearsed lines and stories to women (half of whom you have no interest in)- then don't go "sarging."

We know that though.

Make sure you are being efficient, make sure you have a gameplan-

If you are just taking phone numbers because the logistics don't work-
GET IN AND OUT. NEXT. REPEAT.

If you are taking to take the girl somewhere-
GET IN, SCREEN/SMALL TALK, ESCALATE, START LEAVING. REPEAT.

This is a numbers game, most pussy is unavailable on any given day.

Don't let the night end and you've only hit on 2 girls.

While marathon "sarging" events are decent to help AA (not in-lieu of daily action), they are unproductive for most because unless you are in Los Angeles or New York, there aren't always girls around when you are "sarging". Time spent wasted looking for girls is called "poor planning," there's no reason it has to happen in most cases.

Make it a lifestyle, IN and OUT. When you go out at night, make sure there's going to be girls there.

You don't have a all day for this, and you sure as hell won't once you get fuckbuddies.

Time Waster #5: Multi-Tasking

Smart multitasking = Wearing your penis extender & doing anything

This one might look like some of the "regular" lifestyle websites that think they are HARDCORE.

Don't hate me.

It's worth talking about.

There's some people that can multitask.

There's a lot more people that think they can.

Those who actually can- usually aren't multitasking 5 different things though.

The goal of multitasking is to get more done, be more productive? correct me if I'm wrong?

The majority of people that think they are multitasking are just inefficiently semi-engaged in a disorganized, less productive and less rewarding lifestyle.

If a goal is important to you- work on it like it is.

• Build a sexy body = Get off your cell phone at the gym, stop talking to social butterflies at the gym. Wear hat, put headphones on.
• Build a big dick = Stop browsing Youtube while you are jelqing, stop surfing the Internet in between stretching.
• Meet women = Stop meeting up with a wing-man that doesn't get laid and likes to talk to you the entire time.
• Call women = text all the numbers you got the day before "hey sexy" at 10a.m. and call the first girl that responds positively.
• Studying for a test = Study for the test. Take study breaks. Don't do both at the same time.

There's about 10,000 more example that we can think of.

Just because you can multitask, doesn't mean you should.

The goal is efficiency. Not necessarily multitasking.

You'll probably have more hours in the day to pull on your dick or meet women. Whichever you prefer.

If you have questions or comments (or additions) don't hesitate - post them below-