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It's half true. It's half not true. Whichever you prefer.
It's not false, but it's not true either. Nothing is ever black or white.
The fact that the statement includes the word "only" makes it at least partially not true.
Okay, enough with useless pre-Law School logical reasoning bullshit.
It never helped anyone get pussy.
In my teens and very early 20's I was super good looking, at least I was told that I was.
I was a 9.9 on HotOrNot.com, did a small amount of modeling for validation and expected hot girls to come talk to me (it happened, once in a while). I had drunk girls trying to take pictures with me all the time so they could show their friends.
Yet, I had a very average sex life.
By my standards and what others thought- you could argue that I was a complete fucking failure, hence the 'Good Looking Loser'.
You'd be right.
I liked loved the attention. That's basically the only thing I could get though.
The reasons were simple.
If it weren't for my social circles that were loaded with attractive girls, I wouldn't have gotten any girls whatsoever. None.
But the truth was, hot girls did want to fuck me.
Then something seemed to happen, I don't know when it was- but I think it started to happen after shortly I turned 23.
The girls in my social circles (old and new) weren't as obsessed with me anymore. Girls that I met didn't make themselves as available for me.
This was weird.
Although I was somewhat less attractive because I really started with gain insane amounts of muscle, I was still pretty good looking.
I thought it was because I was 230lbs and I just intimidated everyone. That had to be it.
Or maybe it was because I had stopped wearing my self-tanner, maybe that was part of it.
Perhaps it was because a lot of the steroids I was using ate on my hair line, it wasn't noticeable to anyone but me... But wait that didn't really make sense.
I couldn't figure it out, so I got a pretty hot girlfriend so I could avoid the issue entirely. Since I had a girlfriend, I could justify never talking to girls, lifting weights at the gym on Friday and Saturday night until 2am, instead of going out or meeting new people.
It wasn't until I started getting a ton of pussy at age 26.5, when I realized what happened.
It always helpful to look at yourself if something is wrong with your life.
I did that, I just didn't arrive at the right answer.
This is what happened in my case-
The first part was this.
I wasn't a cool person anymore. I was totally fucking boring. All I did was lift weights, follow a diet, do homework and talk about stories in my more interesting past. All my friends were pretty much the same way. We did was exist. I spent hours and hours on the Internet. I checked everyone's AIM (AOL Instant Messenger) status before I left my apartment, I talked at length about people that weren't even part of my life. My hockey career had ended so I lived vicariously through friends that were still playing sports and professional athletes that I didn't know.
My clothes weren't bad but they weren't exactly cool either- "immature" Abercrombie & Fitch logo shirts, worn polo shirts, wide leg jeans. Average for 2003-2004. It was college, so I didn't look bad compared to the others that wore the same thing. It wasn't the main problem.
I wasn't cool, I didn't feel all at that cool either.
But that's only part of the story.
The interesting thing is- this boring creature I had become... that's basically what I was my entire life (prior to 2006) and I seemed to have a lot of girls that wanted to fuck me.
But for some reason I didn't have as many girls talking about me to their friends, I didn't have girls trying to hang out (as friends or more) and even girls that use to sweat me weren't as interested in having sex when I came home from college.
What I didn't know was this-
The period of time that girls really wanted to hookup with me, I was 17-21 years old. They were generally 17-19 years old.
As they got the chance to meet other guys at college, social circle, work, etc. and learn about their pussy- their preferences started to change. They didn't get as excited about looks like they were in their teens.
They weren't hot girls anymore- they were hot women.
The hottest women want to fuck the "coolest" guys, not necessarily the "hottest" guys.
Women sometimes say they go for a guy with a great "personality," but what they mean is- they go for a guy that is cool. Cool can mean confident too, even though they aren't completely the same thing.
I wasn't cool. I wasn't too confident.
I wasn't a total loser, but as girls became women- and being cool (and decent looking) was sexier than just being good looking (and not so cool), I was on the outside looking in.
They found a above-average looking guy with swag, confidence and cool vibe way sexier than a guy that was JUST good looking.
Their preferences changed.
As girls-
Hot girls 17-19 years old are pretty insecure and have no idea of their sexual power.
It's way more than they even realized.
When they grow up a little bit, meet and fuck a bunch of guys they figure out- what they like, what they don't like and what they want. It's usually want just "the hottest guy" they can possibly meet, they want a lot more because they realize they can get it and they aren't as turned on by the Good Looking Loser.
This might be obvious to guys that have fucked women for a decade, but it wasn't for me.
It's ridiculous if I speak on the behalf of girls and women and pretend I'm a complete authority, although I was a pussy, I was never a girl.
But through my experience I have a pretty good idea of what happens to girls in this transition period between the ages of 18 to 21.
I've fucked a ton of hot college-aged girls, some when I was in college but the vast majority in California after I turned 26.
I've fucked a lot of hot women too, the vast majority after I after I turned 26.
One thing I've always had, thankfully, was social circles of hot girls.
Some I've slept with, some I haven't, some I will, some I won't.
I've watched a lot of these hot girls grow up though (about 40 or 50 of them if you want a number).
I've had them blow me, I've had them blow me off, only to later fly out to LA for a weekend with me, only to not talk to me again until inviting me to their wedding. It's been a revolving door, it always will be.
That's my resume, I'm not a girl, but I know how this works for most hot girls.
The following below has been confirmed by all 7 girls I sent it to earlier this morning. All of them- very hot and went to college for at least 3 years.
Their transition from girl to women generally begins to happen during the first 2 years college.
Most girls come to college pretty inexperienced, pretty insecure, but pretty eager to party and figure out what they like.
They are inexperienced simply because they are only used to interacting with high school guys,♥ who have no idea whatsoever of what they are doing with girls. A lot of hot college freshman and sophomores have had less than a handful of partners and usually had a medium/longer term boyfriend. Some of them enter college with a long-distance boyfriend, only to dump him within 6 months once they realize it keeping them from learning about their pussy.
Sometime after the first 2 months of their Freshman year, they become part of a social circle (or sorority) and see/hear other people having sex. Once they find a small group of less judgmental friends, they begin sleeping with different guys and experimenting. Their social status is still SUPER important to them, so they don't go fucking a ton of guys. At least not right away during Freshman year.
This basically keeps up for the remainder of the year, the summer in-between and the majority of Sophomore year. They also hear about other girl's sexual experiences but slowly begin to develop their preferences.
Arizona State probably has the best looking girls of any major (D1) university.
This transition period stalls once-in-a-while if they get a boyfriend. After they break up from their first college relationship (or break up from their long-distance boyfriend) they are super eager to get fucked. And they do. This is an accelerated period where they really learn about their sexual power and catch up to the other hot girls that didn't stall their transition.
When these hot girls become college Juniors and Seniors, they have a decent amount of experience. They generally have experienced just about everything- super hot guys, hot guys, average guys, good sex, bad sex, oral sex, big cock, small cock, one-night stands, committed relationships, and all levels of personality/coolness. They've heard about the experiences of their best friends too.
Although the experiences will vary, one thing is generally pretty clear- they begin to prefer slightly older guys. Usually 2 to 5 years older than them. These guys know what they are doing a lot better than the guys that are their age who haven't fucked as many women. Their preference for a "hot" guy is somewhat replaced for a "cool" and experienced guy.
"Cool" is hard to define, you know it when you see it, "confidence" is the probably the biggest aspect. Some guys naturally have confidence, other earn it via experience and success.
Do yourself a favor and go to a college that has a major football team
Since they have talked to so many guys through their college years, they can pick up very quickly on who is cool and who can fuck them well. That is the guy they want if they want to have sex.
So long as that guy is decent looking, she'll fuck him over the "super hot" guy that appears less cool and less experienced. This guy is also more desirable for a relationship, although the criteria for relationships is another discussion entirely.
They want a man, not a boy.
What I've explained is what that statement means.
We'll get more into 'how to be cool' in the lifestyle section as GoodLookingLoser develops.
I did this writeup because I wanted to give some perspective to the guys that aren't top 10% in looks and might not have had high school/young college girls constantly telling them they were "hot."
You can definitely get super hot girls if you are cool and make your looks at least slightly above average.
For girls, looks matter less starting at age 20-21.
That does not you can look like shit and get top-shelf girls. People that looks like shit aren't cool.
I'm less "good looking" today, but way cooler than I was in my early 20's. I get way more pussy and way hotter pussy.
This girl and her real boobs were 32 years old - there are some exceptions, obviously.
The majority of girls I've fucked are ages 18-24.
The younger girls are always telling their friends that "He's hot," the ones that are 20-24 (women), tell their friends that "He's cool."
It's not because the younger girls think I'm not cool, or the slightly older women think I'm not good looking.
It just shows what they find sexy.
So what do you do?
MAX out your looks/style and social freedom.
In other words- Be hot, be cool, have balls.
Find some cool shit in your life to get excited about and hang out with other cool people.
Work on it a little bit every day.
You'll get more pussy than you can possibly eat. For most of you guys, the best is yet to come.
The hottest 18-20 year old girls generally just want to fuck the hottest, sexiest guys. (looks, status)
The hottest 20-24 years old girls generally just want to the fuck coolest guys. (status, looks)
The hottest 25+ year old girls generally are looking to lock down a cool, decent-looking, financial secure, safe boyfriend.
These are very much general statements and will vary.
From the part about college girls
♥- There is some exception here. I need to generalize to get my point across. Every once in a while you'll run into a top .01% girl that is in college who has been worshiped and chilled with older college guys since she was in 7th grade. Their bodies develop early and incredibly well. They are often, by far, the hottest and highest-status girls in their entire high school. They are untouchable to most high school guys, but they still like to date and have learn about their bodies so they fuck college guys while they are still in high school. The only guys that really have a chance with them are the most popular, best looking, tallest, top, White athletes. Think back to high school, there's at most 1 or 2 of these girls in the entire school. Sometimes they are the hottest cheerleader. Every guy jerks off to them.
When they get to college they have a pretty good idea of what they like, they've had a decent amount of sex, done whatever drugs they wanted and experienced players, nice guys, boyfriends, older guys, rich kids/guys, everything. They don't necessarily go through the normal college transition. Ours was a girl named "Erica," ironically, we ended up at the same college together.
note: The college transition is based on hot girls/women in the United States that are sexually active. It is not necessary based on average girls. And Certainly not based girls that are not sexually active or girls have unhealthy/negative views on sex. Since I haven't attended college outside of the United States, I don't know how it is in other countries.
I've been told that there are girls above the age 20 who are not religious, haven't suffered sexual abuse, are at least decent looking, aren't "saving themselves for Mr. Right" and have a life, but still have never had sex. I thought it's...
I've been told that there are girls above the age 20 who are not religious, haven't suffered sexual abuse, are at least decent looking, aren't "saving themselves for Mr. Right" and have a life, but still have never had sex. I thought it's impossible, at least all the hot girls should have up their asses willing men, but...it is possible, isn't it? Have you ever met that kind of girls? If you have, are they usually somehow mentally fucked up or have they suffered emotional, mental and physical trauma as kids like I did?
Definitely possible, I've run into some college virgins... but they are definitely not the norm as you know. Sometimes, it's just that they came from a super conservative family, but still had good relationships with their parents so they...
Definitely possible, I've run into some college virgins... but they are definitely not the norm as you know. Sometimes, it's just that they came from a super conservative family, but still had good relationships with their parents so they respected them by not having sex or something like that.
at the same time, a lot of girls lie about how much they do/don't have sex. It's only after I've slept with them and show that I'm completely not judgmental do they tell their true story.. and even still, you never know
One thing's for sure: it's WAY easier for girls to get sex. All they have to do is be hot enough and guys come to them.
Hey, thanks for sharing more of your story to show how much you have improved since then. It seemed like I was reading about myself here, so quess I'm in the former GLL club. In hs I had the looks/muscles/popularity,status/and was in sports, and...
Hey, thanks for sharing more of your story to show how much you have improved since then. It seemed like I was reading about myself here, so quess I'm in the former GLL club. In hs I had the looks/muscles/popularity,status/and was in sports, and regretfully to me now I rejected many girls back then, but because of unfortunately for ME being conditioned/brainwashed to be extremely conservative by controlling relatives and repressive religion to the point of other people thought I was g*y because I looked like a stud yet all I did was study for meaningless grades and was in sports, I never even "allowed" myself to date that's how confused "schools and churches" mixed me up and I "got" zero girls. It wasn't until my 30s that I finally learned some stuff and broke free/became a rebel/doing what I want to do. So at least you have a few more extra years of fun than I did. Last year I gained some weight and don't look as good as in hs/college, but I'm back into nutrition and exercise to lose this weight. It's like we wish we knew THEN what we know NOW. Even with not being as good looking/not in as top of shape, we can still meet attractive women now with our SCREENING (approaching and escalating to find the interested girls) and this is COOL to them and even to ourselves because at least now we know what we are doing and how to make this stuff happen.
well... that sucks. im not a white athlete.
Thanks for this post!
I've thought alot about this, and at some point I was obsessed thinking about this.
Thinking to myself: "If I just looked like Brad Pitt, I would bang the top 1% pussy with no effort".
Like you said, it's half true. Not...
Thanks for this post!
I've thought alot about this, and at some point I was obsessed thinking about this.
Thinking to myself: "If I just looked like Brad Pitt, I would bang the top 1% pussy with no effort".
Like you said, it's half true. Not ALL women are the same, and often times even the hottest women give it up to a guy below!! their league. In bigger cities I often see couples where the woman is a true hottie and the man is average-looking, or maybe downright ugly. So it's def true that women value other things than "good-looks".
I can get laid today, but I know the pussy I get is thanks to my looks... (The initial attraction to me.. opening the door) Because some women dig what I am - but I'm also aware that some women won't fuck me because they don't like what they see. This "go-screen-women-and-fuck-them"-stuff really challenges your own body-image. Especially in this western society where we are influenced heavily by pop-culture and other influences. We are told to look like "male-models" and "athletes" to be real men, and bang hot women/be succesful in life. It's even worse for women who have even higher "standards" to live up to. I believe that 'generally' people date within their "own" league. I wouldn't like date/fuck a FAT ugly un-educated girl, and a HOT woman wouldn't date/fuck a nasty ugly hairy 5' 2" dude with a micropenis... That only happens when you're a intoxicated and really really drunk. :D
At one point I made a dating-profile with an extremely handsome man. Many of top 5% women were DTF, and receptive to whatever he wrote. So I came to the conclusion that your physical demeanor --> generates a certain kind of response from many kinds of women.
I think "being cool" is a great solution, but as you said MAXIMIZING your looks is also important...
Enhancing your physical attractiveness is also something that I personally believe is important.
There is a documentary called the "science of sex-appeal", where a lot of things like body, voice-tone, and even perceived status is covered.
Try to look at "Zyzz" (RIP).. He went from being below-average to being a top 5% guy. Not all men are uncut diamonds like that guy, but everyone can improve.
Many men have some "weaknesss", some flaws that makes them less physically attractive.
Bad body (too fat or too skinny)
Solution: Go to the gym, follow a great diet, do cardio, perhaps steroids if your hardcore, and what ur doing
Bad teeth
Solution: Go the dentist, get them white and straight.
Bad style
Solutions: Get education on fashion, try different styles, consider sexy stereotyping
Balding
Solution(s): Propecia, hair transplant, hair tattoo's, shaving, or wearing a hat.
Lack of height:
Solutions: Go after shorter women or buy 3" lifts like Tom Cruise
Facial deformations:
Solution: Plastic surgery
Small dick:
Solution: Bathmate and yelqing
scratch that. me personally, im a cooler than the average guy (although i have been acting like a pussy with bitches lately and trying to let my friends do the work for me) and ive literally never seen a girl that seems like she's untouchable to...
scratch that. me personally, im a cooler than the average guy (although i have been acting like a pussy with bitches lately and trying to let my friends do the work for me) and ive literally never seen a girl that seems like she's untouchable to me at least, especially not after she sees me dappin it up with pauly d or her old fuck buddy matty mack.
but im not gonna lie, a lot of black guys (particularly in the east) aren't as cool as the dudes on tv and i get kinda pissed sometimes when some fat guy with an over sized shirt and white socks comes in starbucks or the colosseum cramping my style and making the rest of us look bad.
omg, why am i writing this. please delete this and my last comment.
p.s. took some phenibut for the first time today. its pretty good, better than percocet for me maybe. was walking around with a boner all day, did'nt give a fuck, haven't done that in weeks. it's actually pretty awesome just walking around will a boner, its better than it sounds and you feel extra manly. no joke, try it. (but NOT with shorts [shorts are gay anyways {unless you're a white athlete with basketball shorts}])
p.p.s. i took too many drugs today. dexedrine is my favorite. mmmmm... dexedrine.
wtf, im gonna submit this anyways. enjoy
-Castiel
Yeah, I thought about that over the years.
It's true, but it's hard for them to get "good sex" and I don't just mean with a guy that "is flexible" or has a good dick... its just the majority of guys that "sorta talk to them" are beta males, and...
Yeah, I thought about that over the years.
It's true, but it's hard for them to get "good sex" and I don't just mean with a guy that "is flexible" or has a good dick... its just the majority of guys that "sorta talk to them" are beta males, and the alpha guys- they are worried those guys aren't going to call them back and they'll feel like a used slut. They want that alpha guy that won't make them feel used. When you are super alpha (perceived that way) some of the hot girls think that you already fuck 5+ girls and are hesitant to fuck you on the first night, even if they are sexually available. I think girls worried too much about getting used, any pretty much every girl I've fucked I will call back, why not? so I don't really understand it.
It's more of a fine line and balancing act that I thought.
Imagine if girls approached you all the time, but 80% of the time it would be fat girls (the analogy to beta males) that were undesirable for sex. Every once in a while a SUPER hot girl would approach you but for one reason or another you'd get scared because you didn't think you could keep her around, since she can "get anyone she wants".
Obviously its an imperfect analogy since sex is physical for guys and sex is emotional for girls, and we don't care about feeling like a slut.. but its more of a balancing act for girls, at least in today's society where males still make women feeling bad for having sex outside of marriage.
haha thanks man, that list you made is great... just the other day I was thinking of "what to do, to get better looking," you pretty much covered it, I'll credit you when I write it up.
I actually don't know anything about that Zyzz guy you...
haha thanks man, that list you made is great... just the other day I was thinking of "what to do, to get better looking," you pretty much covered it, I'll credit you when I write it up.
I actually don't know anything about that Zyzz guy you mentioned. Just yesterday I saw a few people talking about him. I'll look him up. (If he died during 2007-2010, and his story became popular.. I probably missed it because I was spending so much time meeting / sleeping with women.. in all seriousness... not as much time on the net)
I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
Kratom is next!
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Thanks again Chris, life would suck without you.
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