How to Go Out Alone to Bars - The Second Month (Part 4)

How to Go Out By Yourself at Night - 
The Second Month 

Hopefully you haven't skipped the The First Month because you felt it was too easy.

If you are truly following our program, by now, you've been out by yourself at least 12 times.

Hopefully more.

You should be proud.

Really.

Very few guys can go out alone, let alone initiate any sort of dialogue with others.

Let's move along and build on what you've established thus far.

Taking time off now would literally be equivalent to starting over.

This month, the drills get harder and you may run into the "Be a Man" moments a couple times a night. 

This month is a Challenge, no doubt about it.

If you are chronologically following the program, as you agreed to, you will be ready for it though.

None of the drills are 'too hard' that the average guy can't reach down deep inside and find the courage to do.

Step up to the Challenge and everything else will take care of itself.

I can't remind you enough -

During this program, it's not about 'not feeling' anxiety, it's about being able to fight back.

Fight back.

Kill those communists. 

week 5

Week 5 - Poke & Run
(15 Drills)

If you didn't go out 3 nights and complete ALL the requirements in Week 4 - go back and do that.

For at least 3 nights this week, you are to go out and do the following - 

Creeper Challenge: Sit down on the floor in the bar until you are told to get up. This takes balls when you don't have friends watching!

 week 6

Week 6 - The Freeloader
(14 Drills)

If you didn't go out 3 nights and complete ALL the requirements in Week 5 - go back and do that.

For at least 3 nights this week, you are to go out and do the following - 

Creeper Challenge: Ask a guy for a condom so you can "fuck some broads".

week7bWeek 7 - Are They Going to Hurt That Girl?
(16 Drills)

If you didn't go out 3 nights and complete ALL the requirements in Week 6 - go back and do that.

Despite some run-ins with overly happy/angry loser chicks, picking up girls actually is very predictable.

Random predictable reactions.

Even the rejections are predictable and generic.

For the first time, we are going to expose you to reactions that may seem less predictable.

There's a story behind the main drill and I'll tell you about it below.  

For at least 3 nights this week, you are to go out and do the following - 

Creeper Challenge: Walk around backward for 3 minutes. Politely say "excuse me" to navigate around.

A Message from Chris

Way back when, long before I got any good at picking up girls, my friends and I would go up to groups of people and ask -

Hey guys...

Are they going to hurt that girl?

It's funny how people respond.

Most people immediately stop whatever they are talking about and start asking you questions -

- What?

-- What girl?

--- Is who going to hurt what girl?

---- What are you talking about? Where? What?

You can just say "I don't know" and walk off or make up some random story while everyone listens to your bullshit.

The point of this drill is to show you how quickly people will stop talking and focus on you if you seem to have something semi-interesting to say and walk in authoritatively.

Don't be surprised if you have a bunch of white knights demand answers and are ready to step up to impress the girls they are with.

On some nights, we had several groups of people following us around asking other people the same question, "Are they going to hurt that girl?"

As unpredictable as this can feel at first -

It's totally predictable once you do it 3 or 4 times.

Remember -

The first time is the hardest. Just get the attention of a group and ask the whole group the question.

You are free to leave anytime after.

week8 chiliWeek 8 - New Guy Social Butterfly
(15 Drills)

If you didn't go out 3 nights and complete ALL the requirements in Week 7 - go back and do that.

This is a big week.

I'm going to give you my default 'line' that will make you the center of attention and make entire groups of people talk to you in a friendly manner.

Back in ~2009, I used this approach to warm up and gain some social momentum. 

I never got a bad response and I've easily done this 100 times.

When I taught "workshops", I demonstrated this approach at the start of every night.

In most cases, everyone in the group will start talking.

Take the leap of faith, barge in (politely) and you'll see that people enjoy talking about this subject.

For at least 3 nights this week, you are to go out and do the following - 

Walk up to groups of people and address the entire group -

Hey guys, I'm new around here...

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you like living in [this city]?

[Let them answer]

Follow up with any of these questions (or whatever you want to say) -

- Did you grow up here?
-- Would you want to live here or New York City/Los Angeles?
--- What other cities would you consider living in?
---- Should I move/move away from here?
----- What city would be your ideal city to live in?
------ Have any one of you guys been aboard? Or want to? 

[Just let them answer]

Continue the small talk for a few minutes.

Don't overcomplicate it though.

It doesn't matter what other questions you ask, just get the attention of the group and ask them -

Hey guys, I'm new around here...

On a scale of 1-10 how much do you like living in [this city]?

It will get them talking, that is the goal.

The group will give you all the "material" you need to ask questions and make small talk.

If the group invites you to hang out with them for the night, it's up to you if you want to go.

A Message From Chris

That 'line' will get entire groups of people talking to you.

I promise you.

I did it so many times when I started going out alone.

Yes, it's an "opinion opener" but you aren't using it pick up girls.

Besides, "opinion openers" are fantastic to initiate small talk.

That was never the issue.

If you walk in confidently, no one is going to say -

"Why the fuck are you asking us this???"
(your worst fear right?)

If you REALLY need an answer to a negative reply, you can say - 

"Because I want to know. I'm new and I wanted to see how much people liked this place.
I might move here but I figured I'd talk to some people and see if they are cool here."

Remember, virtually NO ONE is rude to the "New Guy".

People forgive his randomness and admire his courage. 

For some, this will be the most interesting conversation they hear THE ENTIRE NIGHT.

99% of people would love to answer your question and give you their expert advice (opinion).

Just freestyle the rest of the conversation, ask if they grew up in the city, ask if they went to college in the area, ask them their names (and introduce yourself with a handshake) - just make small talk and focus on getting them to talk.

I don't want to give you too much of a 'script' because you need to start to think on your toes (it's part of getting rid of the anxiety).

Just make sure you address the ENTIRE GROUP as best you can. 

Don't be surprised if the girls ask you questions about where you are from.

The guys are usually a little more shy and will just stand there, but remember to include them too. They will like you for it.

Remember - 

You are just talking to people.

Don't make this a bigger deal than it is.

Just by being able to talk and semi-lead a conversation, you will see (and start to feel) that you have better social skills than most people. 

Thus ends The Second Month of 'How to Go Out Alone to Bars'.

Good job.

Don't even think about taking a week off.

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