TOPIC: What do SOCIAL/POPULAR People's Schedules Look Like and HOW? (in college)

And how do they have that schedule?

I've been kind of a loner my whole high school, playing video games with online buddies. All the work I would do would be to play more games. Obviously I'm regretting that. I've been trying to do a 180 and trying to be more social, make more cool friends and make meaningful memories. Obviously covid didn't help but I wasn't getting anywhere beforehand.

But I'm still hearing people rowding it up on weekends in my dorm, and constantly going out. I have no idea how people manage to do this. I'm having challenges trying just keep convos with friends over text and these people are constantly talking to people.

Am I not offering enough value to my "acquaintances?" Is it because I'm not in an established social circle? Am I just missing something in my social ability (I don't think I'm completely retarded because I can keep convos going with girls and keep them laughing/flirty)? And how do these social peers manage to constantly have things planned? I feel so lost. I would be angry but I only have myself and my lack of knowledge to blame. At least if I knew what's going on I would have initiative to fix it.

forget this offering value pua bullshit.

First: Give your best to be hot (muscle, clothes, cool haircut, grooming, etc,) . Period.
Second: Then do tinder and date as much girls as possible. After 200 dates you are cool and know how social interaction works and you have female friends too.
Third: Stay positiv and work on your innergame too. Negativty shouldnt have a place in your world. You attract what you are.
Forth: Have ambitious, goals, something that is more important than chasing validations or playing games

NEXT STEP: WORK THE PLAN RIGHT NOW!

How to Act Cool:
1) Have basic social skills and the ability to hold a conversation
- this was really hard for me to do lol but it sounds like you have this
2) be outgoing socially.
- always be talking to people
- introduce yourself to everyone
- talk to literally everyone you can. try to strike up conversations with random people in your classes etc..
3) learn to dress cool. I posted about this in my log
4) be able to talk about the cool things.
- rap (you must learn to like rap if you don't)
- nba
- nfl
- edm
- fashion (if they're rich)
5) do the things other cool people do (or at least be comfortable around them and familiar with them)
- drink and play popular drinking games
- smoke weed (i dont do this)
- other drugs (i dont do this)

good articles:
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/03/30/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-i/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-ii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iv/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-v/
web.archive.org/web/20150324135740/http:...ts-to-social-success
(I don't know why but I can't link to the strength by sonny articles here. Last time I checked it was an approved resource??)

How to Become Popular:
1) Be friends with popular guys
- find someone popular that you click with and work on making them your friend
- do not hang with non-cool or weird people.
- your vibe is caused by the people you surround yourself with. if you want to be cool hang out with cool people and it will rub off and you'll pick things up. if you hang with weird people you will pick up that vibe
2) be friends with hot and popular girls
- find some hot popular girls and become friend with them but DO NOT TRY TO FUCK THEM. You need like 3 or 4 popular girls you are close with just as friends. You can fuck their friends but do not fuck them. Guys will want to be your friends if they see you are friends with hot chicks
3) Go out with your popular friends to wherever the other popular people go.
- Go to the cool frats. the cool clubs. the cool restaurants. the starbucks where cool people do work. wherever
- cool people go to cool places with other cool people. thats what makes them cool

good articles
www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamenta...wag-factor-explained



If you want to talk abt this u can shoot me a dm here

GettinItAll wrote: How to Act Cool:
1) Have basic social skills and the ability to hold a conversation
- this was really hard for me to do lol but it sounds like you have this
2) be outgoing socially.
- always be talking to people
- introduce yourself to everyone
- talk to literally everyone you can. try to strike up conversations with random people in your classes etc..
3) learn to dress cool. I posted about this in my log
4) be able to talk about the cool things.
- rap (you must learn to like rap if you don't)
- nba
- nfl
- edm
- fashion (if they're rich)
5) do the things other cool people do (or at least be comfortable around them and familiar with them)
- drink and play popular drinking games
- smoke weed (i dont do this)
- other drugs (i dont do this)

good articles:
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/03/30/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-i/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-ii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iv/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-v/
web.archive.org/web/20150324135740/http:...ts-to-social-success
(I don't know why but I can't link to the strength by sonny articles here. Last time I checked it was an approved resource??)

How to Become Popular:
1) Be friends with popular guys
- find someone popular that you click with and work on making them your friend
- do not hang with non-cool or weird people.
- your vibe is caused by the people you surround yourself with. if you want to be cool hang out with cool people and it will rub off and you'll pick things up. if you hang with weird people you will pick up that vibe
2) be friends with hot and popular girls
- find some hot popular girls and become friend with them but DO NOT TRY TO FUCK THEM. You need like 3 or 4 popular girls you are close with just as friends. You can fuck their friends but do not fuck them. Guys will want to be your friends if they see you are friends with hot chicks
3) Go out with your popular friends to wherever the other popular people go.
- Go to the cool frats. the cool clubs. the cool restaurants. the starbucks where cool people do work. wherever
- cool people go to cool places with other cool people. thats what makes them cool

good articles
www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamenta...wag-factor-explained



If you want to talk abt this u can shoot me a dm here

He asked how to be 'cool' not how to be a professional tool. I haven't been here in years, aren't there active moderators on this site still to stop people from giving dumbass advice?

abc123 wrote:

GettinItAll wrote: How to Act Cool:
1) Have basic social skills and the ability to hold a conversation
- this was really hard for me to do lol but it sounds like you have this
2) be outgoing socially.
- always be talking to people
- introduce yourself to everyone
- talk to literally everyone you can. try to strike up conversations with random people in your classes etc..
3) learn to dress cool. I posted about this in my log
4) be able to talk about the cool things.
- rap (you must learn to like rap if you don't)
- nba
- nfl
- edm
- fashion (if they're rich)
5) do the things other cool people do (or at least be comfortable around them and familiar with them)
- drink and play popular drinking games
- smoke weed (i dont do this)
- other drugs (i dont do this)

good articles:
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/03/30/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-i/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-ii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iii/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-iv/
https://strengthbysonny. com/2014/04/07/how-to-become-good-with-people-part-v/
web.archive.org/web/20150324135740/http:...ts-to-social-success
(I don't know why but I can't link to the strength by sonny articles here. Last time I checked it was an approved resource??)

How to Become Popular:
1) Be friends with popular guys
- find someone popular that you click with and work on making them your friend
- do not hang with non-cool or weird people.
- your vibe is caused by the people you surround yourself with. if you want to be cool hang out with cool people and it will rub off and you'll pick things up. if you hang with weird people you will pick up that vibe
2) be friends with hot and popular girls
- find some hot popular girls and become friend with them but DO NOT TRY TO FUCK THEM. You need like 3 or 4 popular girls you are close with just as friends. You can fuck their friends but do not fuck them. Guys will want to be your friends if they see you are friends with hot chicks
3) Go out with your popular friends to wherever the other popular people go.
- Go to the cool frats. the cool clubs. the cool restaurants. the starbucks where cool people do work. wherever
- cool people go to cool places with other cool people. thats what makes them cool

good articles
www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamenta...wag-factor-explained



If you want to talk abt this u can shoot me a dm here

He asked how to be 'cool' not how to be a professional tool. I haven't been here in years, aren't there active moderators on this site still to stop people from giving dumbass advice?

Sorry we disagree, but what exactly makes someone a professional tool here? The advice I gave can be pretty much summed up into "have social skills. hang with cool guys and girls. don't hang with people who are not cool." I imagine you have issue with that last part about not hanging with not cool people? In this sense I do not mean people who are not cool kids but rather people who are the opposite of cool (whack kids who have issue with cool kids who go to parties and care about their looks). Even Chris talked about this in his college post about the Star Wars Frat. You should always be kind and polite to everyone, but if you want to be popular, hanging with people who are not cool is simply counterproductive.

I hope we can stay civil about this. I've read my post back a couple times, and I stand by everything I said, but I could have been a little more clear about the don't hang with weird people part. Besides that however I don't think I need to clarify anything else (?????). Every point I made in my original post is something that has been said by Chris (or is at least so basic that it goes without saying). If you still have an issue I would be more than happy to civilly talk about that.

In my own experience going to a big university, Gettinitall's advice is spot on.

GettinItAll is the only active GLL I'd trust on this subject.