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tl;dr: slowly becoming a social loser through a job change, making it really difficult for me to hit on girls
Just thought someone could give me an outside perspective on this-
I had been working as a team leader in a reservations sales department for 3 years. I didn't really LOVE the job, it was very tiring at times. It did have some pros though, especially when I got promoted to team leader (I liked managing people). But I loved my colleagues, we really clicked together- it was a fun, young team and we really were like a family. When I announced I got promoted and I'm leaving to another office, some were even crying. I needed to do it in order to reach my dreams though...
The job I have right now is business analysis (or data analysis, whatever you prefer to call it), and I really like the job itself. It makes me use my strengths and I have learnt so much in 3 months... unbeliavebly so.
But... the new office is FILLED with old, boring, normal people, who got stuck in their career and are happy with it, or the polar opposite - fake, arrogant, cold people who only care about their job and are good for a small talk, but don't really fit as friends.
I am slowly losing myself. I used to be an entertainer (even though Im a bit introverted or loner, I always could talk to this team in a natural way), I kept the atmosphere fresh in my previous office, we were laughing all day about bullshit... people knew I was a bit weird but they liked it. And when I had a bad day, someone else cheered me up, or even one of the friendly clients.
Now in the new office ... different kind of thing. I say "good morning" and half the people dont respond. I sneeze and no one says "bless you" (I dont really care, but its different). I pass an exam at school and no one cares or congratulates me. I make a joke and no one laughs. I cant talk about anything, because no one shares or cares about my interests. And honestly, I dont care about anyone else either ... I could pretend, but I cant force myself... All these people talk about is what they kids did yesterday, about their shitty diet, or about work. No one has any interests whatsoever, except TV and yoga. Dont get me wrong, Im not judging them. Im just saying... we are from totally different worlds. My main hobbies = picking up girls, working out (no "healthy" bullshit, I just wanna look amazing, I keep it real = when I say this to someone, they just smirk and look at someone else like "haha this is one of those idiots"), playing games (Im nerdy as fuck, no one of these people even knows what is Star Wars), adrenaline.. travelling alone to cool destinations.. (these are the people who dont go anywhere, maybe visit their parents..), playing guitar, singing .. I love watching progress in science and technologies, I studied IT and medical school (I quit though), but I cant talk about that with anyone .. people on high school level
If I could at least bang one of the girls in the office, but I cant do that either, since the atmosphere there just doesnt allow it. Everyone is so cold, you cant really talk to anyone. If you do, they automatically respond to you the same way they would to other people... like you dont matter
Have you seen The Office? Well, I really feel like Jim Halpert, when he got transfered between Season 2 and Season 3. That's me. Except I dont even have clients to talk to... I just do Excel+VBA 90% of the time and meetings 10% of the rest
I am sorry, I know this all sounds really bad and you probably think I am a bad person to say all this in such a direct way. I just need to vent... I know I am not objectively better than any of the people (and even if I was, it doesnt matter in the grand scheme of things, there are other important things in life like being a good person = most of these people are much more GOOD than I am, so I cant really hate on anyone)
I finally have the job I had been striving for, for the past 3 years ... and I feel so lonely and disrespected...
Mind you - I am not looking for pity AT ALL. Just thought someone of you may have been in a similar situation, so I could use some advice
I already know a partial solution would be to finish the AA program. It is in my plan, just need to finish exams (2 weeks to go). Then Im gonna go apeshit crazy. I hope.
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