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So I have a friend that went away to play junior a hockey for 7 months we were good friends before we left. He got back the other week and I hung out with him and another casual friend. When I was with him I realised that I do not like him at all he is very negative and puts me down for making improvement in my life. For an example we went to a party and was chatting everyone up and hooked up with a girl and as soon as we got in the car he says, "that chick was ugly why'd you hookup with her." While he was standing in the corner being akward as fuck. And basically makes fun of me for going to parties and taking Kratom. Texting me like "are you hungover bin king." So from that I realize that it is a bad relationship to hold and will only bring me down so now I'm wondering how should I go about breaking it off??
I blocked his number because I was getting annoyed at all the texts. What else would you reccomend? I don't want to be around people that don't make me better.
As big of a dick as he is, he made it a little easier. Sometimes you're gonna have people who may not bash you but are lazy, unmotivated fucks. They're a bit harder to get rid of but sometimes you have to.
I did the same with most friends. All I did was just ignore them, send a text back maybe once in a great while but they should get the hint. Tell them you're too busy to hang out and just slowly distance yourself.
Unless he's fucking desparate for friends or has mental issues he'll get the point.
This is one of the best things you can do.
I had to do it twice.
The quality of friends i have right now is way better than before.
Do whatever it takes to progress in life.
If they want to stay at the same spot let them.
Even if that means you need go alone, do it.
I'm in a similar situation, only my friends aren't assholes to me like yours are. If you want to read, maybe you can relate a bit to my thread.
It sounds to me like your friend is just insecure and bashes you because he feels inadequate. It's also a possibility that at junior hockey he picked up a habit of shitting on his teammates (that's sometimes what the environment there is like) and now he does it to you out of habit.
if you do like him
1. address POLITELY it with the kid ONE TIME - and tell him you value his friendship but what it's going to take to preserve the friendship (no more negative talk, no more passive aggressive stuff, no more putting you down).
if he violates this or gets offended, simply stop talking to him - not as punishment, but to free yourself from the burden of his negativity.
There is a big chance that your friendship (and his life) have simply seen better days. That's life and this won't be the last time you deal with this stuff.
Don't pm me asking questions if you are not going to message me back with a thank you after a lengthy answer or if you are going to debate with my experiences. If you can't say please and thank you, ask your mother to teach you some manners.
Just move on from these friends. Your life will be substantially happier. I regret not dropping one of my shitty friends sooner. Soon as I dropped him (or just gave up at pretending to be friends), my life got substantially happier.
You'll experience some withdrawal at first like leaving any relationships..but hey, nobody said it was easy
I guess Chris had it right at the article about friendship - If they're not genuinely happy about their life and also yours, they're not really good fit for friendships at that point. they're just good memories that should pass.
I still have problem dealing with relationship withdrawals though. Tough shit.
Reading all of these posts brings up a lot of memories of my last best friend. I could literally sit here and type for an hour about everything that I don't like about him, and how glad I am to have him gone.
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