TOPIC: Going Out Alone Post (What I'm Working On)

A few weeks before it was suggested on the forum, I wanted to do a post on 'how to go out alone'.

A good idea.

Well, that post became a series, and that series became a program.

As I attempted to write up a post, I realized that [for some guys] this is literally going to be their last attempt at making bars/clubs work --- and possibly their last attempt at making "pickup" work.

Thinking back to my own life (when I was scared to go out alone and sitting in my apartment alone on every Saturday night) I realize this piece will seriously impact the course of a lot of people lives.

It will either be just another "good post" that will help 5% of guys, or it can be something that really helps a lot of guys

The thing has taken on an entirely new meaning and I had to start over about 3 times.

I'll try my best to help the most people possible

great to hear you're tackling this from a "huge article" perspecive!

can't wait! i'm sure the wait will be more than worth it.

xxx

Yes my nice guy mentality has been absolutely been killing me these past few years. it's been to the point where when I try to escalate the girl is like "wtf i didn't think you were like that"

Username wrote: Good shit, question: any chance you will do some asshole drills similar to the AA drills? Just so we can get rid of the nice guy mentality or be more aggressive.

for sure dude

Good Looking Loser wrote: A few weeks before it was suggested on the forum, I wanted to do a post on 'how to go out alone'.

A good idea.

Well, that post became a series, and that series became a program.

As I attempted to write up a post, I realized that [for some guys] this is literally going to be their last attempt at making bars/clubs work --- and possibly their last attempt at making "pickup" work.

Thinking back to my own life (when I was scared to go out alone and sitting in my apartment alone on every Saturday night) I realize this piece will seriously impact the course of a lot of people lives.

It will either be just another "good post" that will help 5% of guys, or it can be something that really helps a lot of guys

The thing has taken on an entirely new meaning and I had to start over about 3 times.

I'll try my best to help the most people possible

Sweet
I'm 44 and still have trouble doing this...I have done it a few times and had a great night but other times I just feel like a loser on his own,it's all about mindset.
This is something I really need after divorcing and moving to a new town, I need to get out and make some friends but I have never been good at making friends

Great GLL!!! I can't wait to learn about this, as I intend to start going out at night ALL THE TIME. Honestly I have already mostly conquered my fear of going out alone and even screening [SOME] chicks. Now I just need to hit the numbers harder. But there is a much bigger issue for me, and it's laziness/being tired. When it gets to be around 10/11 pm when its time to start thinking about going out, all I want to do is sleep because I am not a night owl. Any tips on how to deal with that would be great

Also, living 10-20 minutes drive away from the bars makes it even harder to get my ass out the house especially when I get 10 mpg. Guess these are the sacrifices I gott make though

Hunk wrote: Great GLL!!! I can't wait to learn about this, as I intend to start going out at night ALL THE TIME. Honestly I have already mostly conquered my fear of going out alone and even screening [SOME] chicks. Now I just need to hit the numbers harder. But there is a much bigger issue for me, and it's laziness/being tired. When it gets to be around 10/11 pm when its time to start thinking about going out, all I want to do is sleep because I am not a night owl. Any tips on how to deal with that would be great

Also, living 10-20 minutes drive away from the bars makes it even harder to get my ass out the house especially when I get 10 mpg. Guess these are the sacrifices I gott make though

Do you use Phenibut?

I'll tell you what has been working for me. I totally feel you when it comes to pushing yourself to get outthere... My blockage is just to take the first step, literally, and get out of the house!

I've noticed that every Saturday I've been doing the same routine, and I've been going out to bars every time because of that!

I wake up in the morning usually around 10, and take some Phenibut. It takes me between 2-4 hours to kick in. Around noon I hit the gym, and by the end of the work out, I'm in the zone! Phenibut + adrenaline + endorphin feel great! I get home, and I get another 1-1.5gr of Phenibut, then I usually have something to do around 6-7pm, either meeting with friends or a date(both social activities) I've also been hitting on girls on my way from one place to another!

I come home, get another gram of phenibut, and get ready for the night, it's either another date or hanging out with friends or I go alone to the bars! Throughout the whole day I'm very active and social. Which keeps my social skills warmed up. So I don't usually have much hesitation during a day like this. I'm too busy meeting people and being active to even think about it!

Last Saturday experience:

Again, woke up, got some phenibut, hit the gym, felt great, went home felt even more great, I started singing and dancing around the house cause I was so positive(gym + phenibut) dressed up, got a beer with some friends, got a girl's number from the bar. Was supposed to have a date with a black chick, but she flaked, before that I went to the liqour store, and while I was buying some alcohol, I hit on a milf, cracked some jokes. Then right after that, I got to talk to a group of girls + 1 guy. Got their number and address, they were having party. Totally social, and in the zone! I didn't go cause I decided to hit the bars. Talked to girls on the street, and made out with a chick at a bar.

Summary:
The whole idea is to plan the whole day with activities and dates + some phenibut if you can + hit on chicks on your way from one place to another. Try to be free after 10pm, and start hitting the bars! You'll be in social mode the whole day, and won't have time to second guess your decision. Set yourself up in a situation where you take the thinking away, and just take action. Planning ahead, helps a lot.

I LOVE going out alone....... Once you start doing it, it becomes almost addictive. Looking forward to some good shit from you on this topic Chris.

Klbsa wrote: I LOVE going out alone....... Once you start doing it, it becomes almost addictive. Looking forward to some good shit from you on this topic Chris.

this. i can easily lose a whole day just out alone chasing tail.

it can also be really draining.

I'm looking forward to this as well. I have always pulled more tail alone. However lots of nights I'm still quite self conscience about it. I'm sure Chris will have some great info for us!

Hey Chris,

Not specific to this topic, but can you talk about how to deal with setbacks, interruptions, and lost of motivation.

There are a lot of great programs out there such as your AA program (6 weeks), P90X, Starting Strength (12 weeks), 30 days of discipline. They all sell the idea that if YOU DO MY PROGRAM TO THE T you will, beat AA/be come fit/strong/discipline.

The reality is most people cannot follow any program 100% due to various reasons. You can say, oh the program is great, I am not here to baby sit you. However, the point is to get results, and a lot of people are not getting results.

In my case, I did 6 weeks of AA program. I did not do some of the harder drills until I am 100% comfortable. Shortly after I did the program I got a girlfriend. But now I am single again, I don't feel comfortable approaching. I still do, but not anywhere as aggressive as when I was doing the AA program. And of course I don't have the enthusiasm and motivation to do the whole program again like I did the first time.

It seems like the people who are successful are
- super motivated (awesome for them) and able to set aside all other priorities in life
- fortunate to have money/support form else where. You were able to borrow money from your dad for 1.5 years. SSK08 has been traveling the world for 3+ years. A lot of it are form external financial support.
- get success super early so you get momentum and motivation

In reality most guys have to deal with
- work, job stress, problem at work that kill your mojo to work out
- studying for exams
- depression
- Injuries
- prolong period of lack of success until all the pieces fall in place
- lack of social support

So my point is self help has a lot of short term programs that really works, but very few guidance on dealing with setback, interruptions, hitting plateau, lost of motivation.

Hope you can address that.