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Losing weight without even trying at the moment. I'd actually like to lose weight a little more slowly than I have been , but I'm finding when you eat no carbs (I'm eating maybe 60g carbs a day) it's hard not to lose weight.
It's also kinda difficult to get 2000 calories when I'm not eating any carbs. I can eat a few tablespoons of raw coconut oil to add in 500 or so calories. Gonna throw in more meat too. At the moment I'm eating like half a roast chicken, 2 pieces of fish and maybe one or two pork chops or a steak each day. Also getting a small amount of vegies but I need to step that up massively.
I gotta admit, I feel WAY more energised/normal when I eat this style of food (vegies and lots of meat). Before I'd feel like a zombie, then have a huge rise in energy when I consumed carbs, then I'd crash an hour or so later and be a zombie. I'm also enjoying cooking at the moment, even though I'm not doing anything fancy. I honestly haven't cooked for frickin' YEARS. Here's what my diet used to be:
- 1 x 600ml (20 ounces) iced coffee each day. That's 50.5 g carbs, 441 calories total
- chips, lollies, chocolate, etc. In more recent times I cut a lot of it out, but I'd still binge once every few weeks (and when I binged, I binged hard)
- hamburgers, takeout, pizza, hot chips (fries), etc. Pretty much every single day of my life I'd have takeout in some form or another. Often I'd eat an entire pizza myself, roughly 2160 calories, 288g of carbs (lol already over my daily intake in just one meal)
- soft drink. Usually diet, but that shit's not exactly good for you either
- lots of alcohol
This has been how I've eaten probably since I was 18/19, so a decade.
So it's no wonder I always gained weight super easily. I was eating pretty much entirely carbs (especially the Iced Coffee and pizza). I'd often eat over 3000 calories, maybe more like 4,000, plus alcohol. And I got almost no protein - I'd rarely eat meat (too lazy to cook it). No wonder I screwed up my body's fungal levels too.
Someone asked me today if I miss carbs. It's only been 2 weeks so far, but I honestly don't miss 'em too much. When I think about pizza, I almost pop a boner (fucking LOVE pizza), so I obviously still have some cravings. But it's not like I'm using willpower or struggling to stick to this style of eating. It's actually pretty easy when you get to eat steak, chicken, fish, pork, etc. Fucking love meat, maybe more than I love carbs.
100g of carbs a day seems pretty reasonable. I mean an apple is already 25g of carbs. Over time I'll slowly add things like fruit back in to my diet and see how I go, but at the moment I'm focusing on restoring some balance and fixing the issues like the skin rashes.
I've noticed the best approach to all this is to work out what works for YOU, individually. And run away from any expert who says "You must do exactly this if you want to be healed!" Ever heard of "Candida Crusher", aka Eric Bakker? This guy:
He's got a lot of awesome vids but one message he drills into you over and over is to work out what works for YOU. Experiment, play the long game (instead of the quick fix) and take your health into your own hands. So I appreciate you offering advice with the clause "Everyone has unique templates".
I can buy the Kyolic extra strength but I've gotta get it from the USA and it's expensive as hell. If in 3 months or so I'm not making much progress I'll try that one.
Hey I can't remember if you answered this already, but how long did your symptoms take to build up? Was it a slow, gradual process like mine (starting with brain fog for years, then oral thrush, few months later jock itch, few months later facial rash)?
Again, glad to hear you're doing better than you were.
@Marble: You get used to not eating carbs but it takes a few days for your body to adjust. (And those first few days are fucking hell).
I craved carbs like hell when adjusting to this new diet but the last week I haven't had any thoughts of anything carb-related. It's funny. I used to be addicted to sugar and couldn't stop thinking of it. And pizza, holy shit, I loved pizza.
But now when I think of pizza, it's more like "meh". If I think about a piece of fish, or a big steak, or some pork, or even vegies, my mouth starts to water. I guess your body craves what it's used to consuming.
Update: 81.8kg, losing weight at a nice slow pace. More importantly, my strength in the gym is going up slowly. I've been counting calories and I'm actually eating at roughly maintenance (maybe slightly below), but still losing weight bit by bit. Seems easier without carbs.
I am struggling to eat enough calories though. I usually eat 4 pieces of fish, a steak, a few pork chops, 5 (small) cans of tuna, and then I have to eat like 10 tablespoons of coconut oil. It's expensive as fuck to eat this much meat each day, so at some point I'm going to have to introduce carbs back in just to meet my caloric needs. Maybe some sweet potato to start with.
I'm having less of those "brain fog" days. Still have the rashes on my face but They're not as red as they were a few weeks ago, now they're more like a faded pink colour.
The oral thrush on my tongue is also going down a tiny bit. And I had a rash on my inner thighs, that's 100% healed. So I'm starting to feel hope that I will be healthy again, it's just a long process. Definitely NOT a quick fix.
Doing better. Brainfog seems to be a fair bit better. I think a lot of that is because I've been getting MUCH better sleep. It's been years since I got 8 hours sleep. The past 2 weeks I've been getting 8-10 hours each night and I wake up before my alarm goes off (haven't done that for years).
Been sticking to mostly meat, fat, vegies, with a few carbs (about 80g a day) from protein powder and 1 piece of fruit per day. I cheated one day and ate 2 slices of pizza, but didn't have any negative effects.
Rash on my face is barely visible now. It was this dark red colour before, now it's a light pink. Rash on my thighs is gone. Still have some oral thrush on the back of my tongue but I swear it's getting a little better. My body doesn't feel quite as lethargic and weak anybody (I felt like an 80 year old man half the time).
I don't feel like passing out after a workout which is AMAZING. Holy cow.
Have also lost a lot of fat, but strength in the gym is going up slowly, which is a good sign.
I feel WAY happier and MOTIVATED. Before, every day was a fucking drag. Just getting up for work was hell. Now I have some energy and actually want to tackle my goals (I struggled hard with motivation.)
I think most of the changes have come about because I've fixed my lifestyle, especially sleep and eating habits. Cutting out all sugar, alcohol and caffeine was the best thing I ever did. I think a lot of my symptoms may have been from adrenal fatigue. I wasnt getting enough sleep, abused alcohol, abused coffee (several per day), etc. I kinda wrecked my body for over a decade.
I'm tempted to go "Yay, I'm getting better! I can go back to old habits now." But I realise this has to be a lifestyle change I embrace probably for the rest of my life. No more staying up til 2am. No more pizza every night. No more 5 coffees a day. I can't go back to the things that made me sick in the first place, especially when I still have a fair way to go to fully heal.
I recently started cutting down on carbs. There is something in my diet that is making me fat regardless of how many calories I'm eating. I think it's a combination of eating meals late at night, and eating too many carbs.
Anyway, nice to see you're doing well here.
Hopefully you're still doing the AA program. The AA program was the start of my new life.
It's a slow grind for me, but some progress for sure.
I feel you on the temptation to go back to old ways thing. I always end up doing that and it is always very destructive for me.
I'm finally sleeping a bit more (figured out a supplement I was taking was causing insomnia due to itching) and I'm forcing myself to do some HIIT training, which is really invigorating. Losing weight at a glacial pace, but still losing. Brain fog is a lot less - I can write more and I'm more active in conversations when they happen (which isn't often, as I live on a small island alone right now, hermit style).
Acne is going down. Going to start cold showers soon and see how that affects it.
Haven't had any drugs or alcohol for two weeks and plan on keeping it that way. Sure I'd like to, but that's a one step forward two steps back kind of deal when it comes to substances and my health. I can feel depression lessening the longer I stay away from it, too - though there are moments that are harder, because I don't have my chemical crutches to deal with them.
Diet wise I'm intermittent fasting, eating in a window from 10am-5pm, two large meals typically. Veggies, honey, coconut, beef. Probably an apple or two in the afternoon, and then a repeat for dinner. Seems to be working okay for my digestion. I do my workout/exercise fasted in the morning.
I'm getting better, man. Just, you know, it's like watching ice melt in a fridge
@Rousseau: Hey man, cheers for chiming in. You're one of the guys I respect the most on here.
I'm on Day 46 of the AA program, which is the day where you can start cold approaching and asking for numbers. I know what to say, I know how to say it, it's just a matter of DOING it. I'll get on it soon.
At the moment this health shit has been my main priority though, especially since I'm making good progress. My numbers in the gym are going up too even though I'm losing weight. So I'm being productive. Will definitely "pull the trigger" on the cold approach shit soon. I have good success with online dating (usually have about 3 fuckbuddies at once, at all times) but there's definitely a limit on how far you can take it. Especially because I don't have a great body yet and I'm 100% relying on personality, coolness and playing the numbers game. I get rejected A FUCKING HUGE AMOUNT and I usually have to go on 2-3 dates before getting laid. The girls are also way more average, though I have pulled quite a few cute girls now. It just takes way, way, way too much work compared to what I've heard cold approach is like.
@Bearfoot: Fucking hell you're doing awesome. As I said earlier, you're hugely inspiring. Seriously pushed me early on with fixing my own health issues and I REALLY appreciate it.
HIIT training is fucking awesome. Ever tried Tabata sprints? They are absolute hell but holy crap, they're amazing. It's only 4 minutes, but it's the longest 4 minutes of your life. I almost vomited the first time I did them lol.
Yeah I'm off alcohol too, haven't had a drop in a couple months. I missed it at first but don't give a shit now. I thought not drinking might affect me socially, but it doesn't at all. Even when I go on dates, the girls never give a shit if I just drink water/diet coke. Sober dates are better anyway. Avoiding sugar/carbs is actually harder. Funny how people try to shove bad food down your throat. "Just have a little bit of cake, it won't kill you." "You can't stick to your diet forever, it's not healthy, you need a balance." Funny how the people giving this advice are always 40 pounds overweight and can't do a single pushup.
Last week I had 2 days of bad eating in a row. Ate 2 slices of pizza, a bunch of fries, lots of milk, fair bit of sugar, chicken wings with sugary sweet sauce. Also had a TONNE of coffee (I haven't had coffee for months).
I guess I kinda did it to be an idiot and see if anything bad would happen. Guess what? A day or 2 later, the rash on my face came back. That can't be a coincidence - nothing else in my life has changed. I haven't been stressed (I went on vacation and was pretty relaxed). I've been getting about 9 hours sleep each night, more than I usually do. Been exercising. My mood has been great. Literally the only thing that changed was eating that bad food, and a day later I get a rash.
It sucks, but it's REALLY good motivation. It was like a kick up the ass. I really can't afford to fuck around with sugar, milk, potato, etc. At least not yet. Just vegies, meat and fat for me for the moment.
Do you feel hungry with the intermittent fasting? I'm just eating whenever I'm hungry and eating whatever my body "tells me" it wants (usually fish, sometimes steak, sometimes nuts and vegies). Usually that means a meal around 10am, something around 2pm, and something early evening. Maybe some nuts later in the night if I'm hungry. And I make up the rest of my daily calories with coconut oil.
Dude people at my work CONSTANTLY try to get me to eat crap. It's been about 8 months since I started cutting weight, and they're only just now starting to get it. It's crazy, they'll just offer cupcakes and cookies and pasta and homemade shit all day long. The good news is I never crack, but it bothers me that they try
(They're super nice people and many of them have been really supportive, but for some reason they can't stop offering food)
Count: 113 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
Offering coaching as of 2020 on the following topics:
-Organization and life planning
Fucking hilarious, right? You reckon it's subconsciously a jealousy thing? Like, they never stop. Ever. No matter how many times you say "I don't eat carbs. Ever. Other than fruit/vegies. There are no exceptions. I sure as hell won't eat RAW SUGAR, so stop offering me cake"... They just keep doing it.
I think it's because they've tried diets themselves in the past, and obviously fucking failed. So they have a failure mindset. So they assume you'll crack too at some point, and they're just trying to help it come faster.
The other thing I hear a lot is "You should diet in moderation. Don't push yourself too hard. You need a balance." FUCK THAT. If I want epic results, I need to put in an epic effort. I'll push myself until I feel like I can't push any more.
Imagine if everyone on earth had that mindset, "Don't push yourself too hard". We'd still be in the fucking stone age.
Dude my mom recently emailed me an article with supposed proof that banging lots of girls makes you unhappy. Instead it was just an article showing a correlation between being in a monogamous relationship and being happy. Not a causation, mind you, literally just a correlation.
Since every time she asks me about girls I've moved onto a new one, she's started questioning my lifestyle. It's like dude, can anyone in this universe get the fuck out of the way. Just move, we've got shit to do and no one can stop us
Count: 113 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
Offering coaching as of 2020 on the following topics:
-Organization and life planning
Since it's been about 6 months or so since my last "relationship" (even though I've banged like 30 girls in that time), my family keep asking me if I'm seeing anyone. Especially my mum. I just spent a few days visiting them and holy crap, got asked this question so much. I love my family to bits, but I can't think of a single person in my family (including uncles, grandparents, relatives, cousins, etc) who has ever been interested in self-improvement. They are all the kind who settle for mediocrity and complacency and never really jump out of their comfort zone.
So I couldn't say "I've been working on my dating skills and learning to talk to women and have dated about 30 or so in the last 6 months". They're also never interested when I talk about my diet (they try and get me to stop dieting, fucking hell). They don't care when I talk about lifting weights (they tell me to "be careful" and "don't push yourself too hard, it's important to take it slow"). I told them a bit about the AA drills - but I told them it was "social experiments to help me be more social and learn to talk to people". They didn't really care about it, didn't ask any questions, didn't seem interested. I told them I've been doing more social things, making friends, trying new sports - they're kinda interested, but not really.
My family have kinda become aliens to me. I just can't communicate with them, and they don't really try to understand me. Yet my mum kept asking if I have a "special girl in your life". So I dropped this on her: "Don't ask questions you don't want to know the answer to."
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