TOPIC: Banging on a budget

Ok I got three dates this weekend. One tomorrow, Sunday, and Monday. Not to worried about the Monday one cause I'll get paid that day. Sunday is just a coffee meet up and i think she's looking for a boyfriend cause she's the one that suggested it.. But tomorrow I have one that might run me some cash. I have about 40 bucks for this weekend and I want to max it out but also find a way to go for it on the 1st date as I have a hard time getting a second date. Any thoughts on how to max out the funds?

Avoid paying for anything for a girl. Almost never makes any difference except you'll be more broke. Assume a split bill never suggest otherwise. But alot of the time you might wind up being pressured or forced to pay. In these cases I usually pretend that I'm a little upset by not saying anything and a disappointed/unsure face. The sudden mood change freaked the shit outta them. Atleast once this led to my date feeling like a pos and fooling around with me or offering a 2nd date.

Instead of buying drinks suggest going to your place for another drink

Really that's my only option cause I'm already broke. But it always have this thing about me to pay for everything either way. Like I can't meet up unless I know I can pay for the date. You saying you can go on a date/ get laid without any cash spent?

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Go for a walk at a nice park or by the water. It's free.

Go for a hike, go bike riding, go have a picnic and make snacks.

Lots of stuff you can do.

My first dates are always $10 max. We each get one drink at a nice bar, I pay. I have done the free ones though and I think they're an excellent idea if the weather is nice.

Ok. So you do that low key, less expensive date, whatever it is you do. After that if she's not up for a second date, assuming your goal is to get a second date cause you want the experience of multiple dates, its just because shes not that in to you? I'm asking cause if I can do first dates without much monetary, or emotional, investment I can streamline them as they come long. Just hate dropping like 40 bucks in one night for no action or no second date. Should i also keep them down to 1 hour max like I've heard.

thechangeup wrote: Ok. So you do that low key, less expensive date, whatever it is you do. After that if she's not up for a second date, assuming your goal is to get a second date cause you want the experience of multiple dates, its just because shes not that in to you? I'm asking cause if I can do first dates without much monetary, or emotional, investment I can streamline them as they come long. Just hate dropping like 40 bucks in one night for no action or no second date. Should i also keep them down to 1 hour max like I've heard.

If a girl doesn't want to go on a second date with you, it is exactly because she's not that into you.

If she was into you, given no uncontrollable circumstances arose like going back to her ex or a death in the family or some random freak accident, she would absolutely go on a second date.

I have never once been on a date where the outcome would have been significantly different had I brought them out to a fancy dinner instead of getting a casual drink or something along those lines.

I would imagine the only girls who would hang on if you dropped a bunch of money on the first date who wouldn't have otherwise are girls who aren't that into you anyways and just are around for the money.

Either way, the end result is girls who like you go out with you again, and girls who don't won't.

When I cared about racking up my lay count, this is literally what I would do:

1) Set up the date for a nice bar within 5 minutes of my place
2) Go to the date and get her and I one drink, chat for 45-60 minutes, then say let's get out of here
3) Pay the bill, take them by the hand and go to my car
4) Drive back to my place
During 3 and 4 you need to continue making smooth and fluid conversation with no awkward pauses for the entirety of it or else she will start getting massively uncomfortable fast. The key here is not setting off her alarms, keeping her brain busy with normal first date topics and keeping her laughing and engaged, and acting like what is occurring is no big deal and is just part of the process. To this day, I have literally only had 2 girls ask me in my car where we're going. And I have never once had a girl say she wanted me to turn around or not go to my place after we made it into my car. The less you say the better, your actions speak louder than words and she knows exactly what is going on and non-verbal communication is key here. Maintaining the smooth fluid small talk remains the priority here as you get her back to your place.
5) Mix her another drink and turn on a movie
6) Try and get the lay

My success:fail ratio of girls that ended up converting into lays significantly rose when I started following that exact blue print, and the beauty of it was that even if a girl rejected your advances on the first night, if she agrees to a second date, you know for a fact this time around she will be dtf and have minimal to zero resistance.

End result = Huge streak of new lays with each one costing me a total of $10 or less and about 2-3 hours max of time commitment total (time on date + time going back to my place + time having sex + time driving her home).

This is fucking gold! Remember on my last date did keep the conversation going for the first hour and my instinct was to end the date right there even said it out loud and said that we should meet up again. But it seemed like she wasn't ready for it to end... light touching here and there, even at one point had my hand on her back and she was leaning into it while tilting her head towards my hand. So I suggested we go for a walk by the beach and at the time it didn't feel awkward but I was on pheni... but it totally was and it ended up being 2 hours... looking back now should of stuck to my guns.. and stopped it or gone all the way. Going to follow this goldprint for sure.

Should also note though the drinks where I live are usually 10 bucks each on the weekend, only time i have for dates due to my work hours..But 20 bucks should be a good limit.