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...at that point in time I was knee-deep in the Red Pill "all women are evil, don't ever fall in love with any of them!" stuff.
Good to hear from you again Andy. How long ago was this phase of yours, and how did you cure it? Not gonna lie, these past two months I've been in a very similar mindset and it's terribly unhealthy for my progress and I know it.
I just feel like every time I get involved with a girl it's a total shit-show because their sole intention is to play games with your head - one day they're all into you, the next they're cold and dry as fuck. Not to mention the amount of date cancellations is driving me up the fucking walls... don't agree to go out if you're going to change your mind the next day, right?
I didn't actually try to cure it. If anything, I tried really hard to keep my "Women are evil" mindset. I used to read red pill stuff daily, I'd constantly tell myself "Remember, this is a war, you're always at war with all women, they all want to use you so don't let them win". I surrounded myself with as much "women suck" stuff as I could - used to subscribe to a tonne of anti-women, anti-feminist Youtube channels too.
I haven't shagged a lot of girls from cold approach - only 8 so far. But 3 of them were virgins & another had only been with 1 guy before me. Those 4 girls were REALLY into me, and really innocent, and didn't play ANY games whatsoever. They appreciated my time. All 4 of them cared deeply about me, 2 of them definitely loved me and the other 2 were pretty close to being in love with me.
Those 4 girls more than anything else made me realise yeah, some girls are evil - so are some guys. But some girls are pretty fucking sweet and have no intention of trying to fuck you over. Some girls are actually good people.
All the approaches I did (done over 600 so far) helped too. All the times I had a fun conversation with a cute girl really made me like women again.
I didn't WANT to stop hating women, but it just kinda happened. I've read a tonne of other reports on here from guys who say the same shit - they started off hating women, but by talking to and shagging a few women, they dropped the "women are evil" shit almost by accident.
So bottom line: If you're fucking angry at women, embrace it. It's fine man, it's part of the process. Don't try to fix it, just focus on having fun, shag a lot of girls, and in time you might find yourself surprised at how you just don't care about their annoying habits (like flaking, lol)...
Damn, every passing day just bums me out even more. I'm spending a tonne of time with this chick before she leaves in 3 weeks. She's basically staying over every night. When she leaves in the morning it fucking sucks.
I walked around for a couple hours today basically feeling depressed as fuck, like I was gonna cry. Forced myself to talk to 3 girls, didn't get a number. I REALLY didn't want to talk to anyone so 3 girls is a fucking monumental effort today, I'm happy with that.
Came home and cried like a little fucking bitch, bawled my eyes out.
Gonna walk to the gym and talk to a couple more girls now. I really fucking don't want to, but anything is better than sitting alone in my apartment.
Didn't know you were back. I was actually thinking about you these past weeks, amongst others that use to be active like healthyadda.
You're going just through a downswing. Cry it all out. It's always good to release your emotions in a healhty way like crying. You will notice in life that the more you express those negative emotions, the lesser and lesser you will fall again in that pit.
Not every day is a rainy and dark day. You'll get over it.
Good to hear from you man glad to see a fellow Australian still going at it. Losing a girl like that sucks but those feelings sound like a symptom of not liking where you are now as a person. Sex is great but we don't cry with out it, you feel like you're losing something that makes your life better and it's a shame that you don't feel like your life would be great with or without her.
Time heals all and hopefully it acts as a kick up the butt to kind of wake up and see a new perspective, at least that has been my experience.
I'm going to say something completely out of left field.
This is not a bad thing.
It sucks she's leaving. It hurts bad. I know.
And it'll take some time to get past it. Let all the pain go.
But the faster you can get through the pain, and I mean actually deal with it, confront it and let it do what it's going to do...
Man you are going to come out the other side like a boss.
Because now... you have the profound experience of truly liking some girl. Hell maybe even love. After this is all said and done.. you are going to go out with new girls with that REAL swagger. You know what you want.
Every girl is literally going to have to step up because in your mind... this has become the standard.
I feel a fuckload better. Sometimes I think I'm schizophrenic when it comes to emotions.Like one minute I care so deeply about a girl - I was heartbroken this chick (her name is Jo) is leaving. 2 days later I literally couldn't care less. I'm sad she's leaving, she's a REALLY fucking cool chick and by far the best lay I've ever had. I care about her a tonne. Maybe even love her. But I'm not bothered that I won't see her again.
I've had this a tonne in the past. Before GLL and everything, I was in a relationship with a girl for 4 years. We lived together, built our entire lives around each other. When we split I was fucking devastated, cried multiple times... for 2 weeks. Then I was completely over her and didn't care any more.
Suppose it's not a bad thing. Means breakups are easier to deal with. Something HILARIOUS happened. Jo met up with her best friend last night for dinner. She shows her friend a picture she took of me. The friend is like "What the fuck. That guy hit on me and we went on a date." LOL OL OL OL. It was an awful date too, I remember the chick - she was a bit of a bitch/idiot, so I left the date halfway through. I then immediately went and started hitting on chicks, and that chick saw me do it and texted me "Fuck you, you're an asshole, I saw you talking to other girls". HAHAHAHA.
She told all this to Jo last night, and said "omg you can't see this guy, he's an asshole, he'll just go fuck other girls and he'll never care about you, promise me you won't ever see him again, you can't" etc etc etc. Jo came over to my place and asked me if I did date her friend. I said of course. She was pretty heart broken. I've told her in the past I'll never be monogamous, but I think this made it a lot more real for her, it's more "in her face".
Cue the waterworks, a few hours of sulking, etc. We talked a bit, I let her say what she needed to say (mostly retarded shit like "I thought I was special" and "if you care about me, shouldn't I be enough for you? Why do you need to see other girls?") etc. Told her "Obviously I care about you. But I like sex. Sex has nothing to do with caring about someone". etc.
Went to bed, then in the morning she was still depressed. She said "I'm sorry. I just don't think I can do an open relationship with you. We shouldn't see each other any more."
I said "That's cool. I completely understand. I won't force you to do something that'd make you unhappy."
Then she just grabbed me, kissed me and we fucked for an hour or so.
~ ~ ~ ~ What the fuck? ~ ~ ~ ~
During sex she was kinky as fuck, kept saying "Daddy... is mine the best pussy you've had? Do you like my titties the best?" Girls are hilarious. They don't mind sharing you, as long as they're the best. They want to be "special" and better than all the other women you've fucked. It's like a competition for them. She is by far the best sex I've ever had, so she gets credit for that.
We went out to get some lunch, we see this HOT asian chick. Jo gets close to me, grabs my dick and goes "ooooh, that girl is hot, you should go get her number" then she giggles.
So we've gone from "I can't do this" to completely ok with it in a matter of a couple hours.
~~~ Girls ~~~
~~~ Are ~~~
~~~ Nuts ~~~
@Dekk: Cheers brother, appreciate it. Have still been around, just haven't been posting.
@Playtimeisover: You in syd i'm assuming? Man you REALLY hit the nail on the head, I actually came to the exact same conclusion yesterday. "those feelings sound like a symptom of not liking where you are now as a person". Fucking oath, that's 100% correct. I'm not happy where I am in the gym, I'm not happy with my looks, definitely not happy with my finances, and not happy with my lay count/number of current fuckbuddies. I was essentially using this girl as an excuse not to worry about improving all the other stuff. eg "Oh I'm seeing this awesome girl, don't need to be so worried about hitting the gym and making money etc".
If I was fucking 5 other girls right now, I would NOT care that she's going.
In a way I'm glad she's going, because now I've gotta get my shit together and make 2018 awesome. Maybe I'll see her again at some point, maybe I won't (she plans on moving back to my city in a couple years). Either way I'll have moved forward and improved myself a lot in that time, so not bothered.
@slick: Yeah man, it is a good thing. You're right, she's set the bar to a new level (technically she already did last time we dated 2 years ago - but even more so this time around). Truth be told I've dumped a few girls last year who were just kinda boring in bed... there was nothing really wrong with them, but once you've had crazy insane sex like I do with Jo, you have less patience for boring girls who aren't willing to experiment.
Still, god damn. I am going to miss the sex. Jo is nuts in bed.
Reflecting more on it, my main source of unhappiness right now is my job.
I have an internet-based, work-from-home job. Sounds like the dream, and it is - but it's also fucking lonely. Spending 8 hours a day by yourself at home, plus another 8 hours when you sleep, can be very lonely if you're an extrovert who needs to be around people.
Being at home alone fucking SUCKS. I'm literally depressed as I type this.
I borrowed a mate's laptop, will take it to a cafe and just work there during the daytime. Should fix the loneliness shit because at least I'll be around other humans.
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