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@Andy, hey Andy, you get way more dates than myself. Why not check this stuff out? Some of the guys on the forum were tearing me a new one for following what he teaches earlier. I don't follow it religiously as I used to. Maybe it'll explain what's going on in your first dates, 4 with no lays. Try it out and let me know if it works, he's got a shit ton of videos and the stuff makes lots of sense. The main thing is you'll go on dates with women with varying attraction levels for you and you assume it's your fault that you don't get laid so quick, and the next thing is some women are prudish or will only fuck on prime number dates and only if the planets are aligned.
@healthyadda, I think I'm going to experiment with different things as well. Also, when I'm approaching again, I'll end my conversation with asking the girl out on a date and using the word date/coffee/drinks instead of asking 'can I have your number.'
I still have a hell of a long way to go, there's a million things I'm working on and I feel like I've barely even begun. I am so far from where I want to be.
But today I stopped and looked back (for the first time in like 6 months) and realised how far I've come. I'm doing shit WITH EASE that I never would have dreamed of doing before. Approaching total 8's and 9's and confidently getting their numbers. I seriously never in my life even considered there might come a time I could even MAKE EYE CONTACT with a super-hottie, let alone have her give me her number. You can't even imagine how fucking surreal it is to think this is now my NORMAL. I feel no anxiety talking to the hottest girls in the entire city if I cross paths with them (well, ok, slightly nervous but I can still talk to them regardless). I'm making out with 8's when before I was too terrified to even get them on a date. I had said to myself "I'll only ever bang 6's, maybe a 7 once a year if I'm lucky, and that's good enough for me." I had resigned myself to that.
I'm holding girls' hands as soon as I approach them, touching them, and it feels fucking NORMAL. On first dates, I hold hands with the girl from the moment I see her. It's so normal it's mundane to me now, but only 2 months ago there was no fucking way I could do that. I'm making out within 30min of meeting a girl, and I know I can easily do it in 20 minutes, or 10, or 5, or instantly. I'm improving my speed and killer instinct every single date.
I'm finally fucking skinny. I finally fucking have abs. I'm not a fat piece of shit. A couple of girls have now told me I'm hot, which is something I NEVER thought I'd ever hear in my entire life. The girl I dated today (more on her in a second) told me I'm fit. What the fuck.
I'm finally starting to feel like I'm a guy who can get laid, if I put in the numbers.
I'm a guy who can get laid.
Jesus fucking christ.
So today had date with 21yo hot brazilian who's only been in Australia for 1 week. She's really sexy, she's tiny and petite (maybe 40kg max - I lifted her up above my shoulder with one arm with no effort). She's a belly-dancer and has a great body, with surprisingly big tits for her frame.
So we meet, I grab her hand and start walking. We hungout for about 30min walking around, then sat down on some grass. I made a move to kiss her and she pulled away, but she was happy to still hold hands and touch each other. Cool, I'll just try again in a few minutes.
So I try again a few minutes later, again she turns her head. This happened like NINE TIMES lol, I got denied nine times haha. I stayed with her for THREE HOURS hahahahaha oh my fucking god. 3 hours for a kiss. She kept apologising, and saying she was shy, but three times she literally said the words, "please keep trying..." I've never ever had a girl tell me to keep going when her "anti-slut defence" is kicking in. As soon as she said that, I felt this weird sense that we were both on the same team, we both wanted the same thing (to kiss), but we had to fight her anti-slut bullshit. Sometimes I feel kinda bad for girls; even when they REALLY want something, their fucked-up mind screams "NO! You're bad for wanting this! It's wrong!" Fuck that'd drive me insane. Women are schizophrenic.
So it turns out she has a boyfriend back home in brazil. She even wears a ring he gave her on her wedding finger LOL. they both agreed to bang other people while she's over here, but she said it's really hard for her because she's all alone here in australia. I'm like "nah, you have me" and then kiss her and FINALLY she lets me. she kissed me pretty passionately too. made out with her few more times before I left.
I have this feeling she's going to wake up tomorrow and the guilt will kick in and she'll go "oh my god I kissed someone else even though I love my boyfriend oh I'm such a bad person" and then just go ghost on me. 100 times she said "you are bad!" to me, kept telling me I'm a bad man, which is obviously a good sign. Yep, I'm the bad man, you're 100% good, keep telling yourself that if it helps you bang me.... That said, I'll be VERY surprised if I actually end up banging her; she had a LOT of guilt about "cheating" on her BF, even though I was 100% cool with it and told her "it's only fair when he's seeing other girls too". But she said she feels like a bad person if she does it too.
This particular date was REALLY important to me because one of my biggest hurdles has been that I separate girls into "good girl" and "bad girl", which is complete bullshit. In the past I've had a huge problem with "sluts", I'm working on fixing that part of myself. I don't want to be judgemental. There are no "good girls"; every girl has the capacity to be "bad" if the guy is non-judgemental and makes it clear he won't think she's a slut. I'm working on getting myself to that non-judgemental point.
I was completely fucking cool with this girl saying she has a boyfriend. I felt literally nothing when she said it, it was about as irrelevant as if she'd said she has a pet hamster. That is a HUGE step for me; in the past I would have been "put off" and would have ended the date. I seriously would have walked off as soon as she mentioned the boyfriend. Whereas now I don't even care any more. Holy shit.
My african fuckbuddy also bangs other guys (and knows I bang other girls), and I'm getting to a point where I'm completely comfortable talking to her about other guys she bangs. In the past I used to get insanely jealous, and more to the point I'd get paranoid and insecure, worrying that I wasn't the "best" she was having. Now I don't even think about that shit anymore. I KNOW I can't be the best a girl could have, how could I be the best? There's guys with bigger dicks, guys with more muscles, guys with more money, guys with more confidence, etc etc. But I don't give a shit because here's the important part:
I was completely fucking cool with this girl saying she has a boyfriend. I felt literally nothing when she said it, it was about as irrelevant as if she'd said she has a pet hamster. That is a HUGE step for me; in the past I would have been "put off" and would have ended the date. I seriously would have walked off as soon as she mentioned the boyfriend. Whereas now I don't even care any more. Holy shit
Do you think this has to do with the fact that the emotional reaction you used to get has been dampened by repeated exposure to it? In other words, the emotion is blunted because you're so used to feeling it. Or is it because you've processed it internally irrespective of actually being exposed to the feeling? The reason I ask is because I've found that emotions blunted by means of exposure therapy tend to come back if the exposure is removed for a period of time, demonstrating that no change has actually happened with my thought process and I've in fact merely grown accustomed to feeling a certain way and accepted it without the actual problem having gone anywhere.
In the past I used to get insanely jealous, and more to the point I'd get paranoid and insecure, worrying that I wasn't the "best" she was having. Now I don't even think about that shit anymore. I KNOW I can't be the best a girl could have, how could I be the best? There's guys with bigger dicks, guys with more muscles, guys with more money, guys with more confidence, etc etc. But I don't give a shit because here's the important part:
I no longer feel like I have anything to prove.
Do you feel superior to guys who get jealous and have something to prove?
25 y/o virgin before GLL
Thanks for the video. I like the concept of your time as a reward, that's EXACTLY how I see it right now. When a girl is super into me, and super affectionate (my Chinese ex-virgin fuckbuddy Xin is a REALLY good example) I reward them with more time.
I like this guy. "What is the purpose of a date? A date is to create the opportunity for you to have sex." Some of the things he's pushing I completely disagree with (eg going to dinner, waiting for "signs" the girl likes you and wants you to kiss her, etc). But in general yeah, I like him.
Fuck, that's a good idea. The "save my number" bit. Imma start doing that. You're a legend.
"Do you think this has to do with the fact that the emotional reaction you used to get has been dampened by repeated exposure to it?"
partly yes. but mostly because i've worked REALLY hard to logically convince myself sluts aren't bad, girls aren't good vs bad, etc. Bad Idea Bear definitely helped with that, we had some long discussions about it and I told him I sincerely want to overcome it.
"Do you feel superior to guys who get jealous and have something to prove?"
Nah, I don't care what other guys think or do, that's up to them. Edit: I feel superior to the old me, which is all I care about. Continual daily self-improvement.
The brazilian chick who has a BF has gone ghost on me. Saw it coming, but still fucking annoying since that's 5 girls now. She was REAALLLYYYY into me but clearly had regrets afterwards. Fuck her.
I banged a chinese chick from Craigslist though. She's a 6, decently cute, if I saw her in public I definitely would approach her. Banging chicks from online doesn't satisfy me as much though, as in it's much too easy. My main focus for 2017 will be getting laid from cold approach.
That said, I'll keep doing Craigslist - it's so fucking easy since all the ads are already written, and the girls are always much more sexual with no games. They make good fuckbuddies.
Nice work dude. Odd buy that reminds me of the girl I dated who had a bf in Poland.. She was totally cool with playfighting and heavy petting (and me telling her she was sexy via text and in person).. But she had this thing where she'd turn away her head when I went to kiss her and say 'monkeyyyy' or 'naughty Miiike' .. Same thing as 'bad boyyyy'
Oooook, so brazilian girl texted me 2 days after I texted her, LOL. So I guess it's still on.
I'm at 4 fuckbuddies now, which is tantalising close to my goal of 5 at a time. My current roster:
- African girl from Craigslist. Super submissive, sex is great, and she's pretty intelligent, self-aware, loves to debate ethics/philosophy/etc and actually interesting to talk to. Which is fucking RARE in a girl. I actually like spending time with her outside of sex, which I don't say very often.
- Xin, chinese ex-virgin. Super affectionate and sweet, sex is decent but not amazing. It is fun teaching her things though.
- Polish. Sex is mindblowing, honestly best bang I've ever had
- New Chinese girl from craigslist. She's super submissive, will train her to be my sex slave
I've got 2 prospects:
- Brazilian girl (the one with a boyfriend back home). We'll see how that goes.
- and a new girl from craigslist, will meet up with her next week (unless she flakes, which is highly likely when it comes to craigslist girls...)
hah, she didn't dump me. it was a power trip/manipulation tactic women love to do. i ignored her for 2 weeks, let her think we were over, then I texted her to meet up and just acted like nothing happened. (because in reality, nothing did happen: she threw a gay tantrum which I couldn't be bothered responding to)
she didn't bring it up (they never will, which is a good thing). she was SUPER feminine and affectionate and sexual too, and even bought me a gift.
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