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This is funny. Not that I am on your level, but I was thinking the exact same thing today. I tried to setup a date before, and the girl was busy, so I just messaged the other one. Then it hit me, that this sort of stuff is going to need planning and organizing.
One, events seems smaller and of less significance to me now, as opposed to (my assumption) her. Two, I forget little shit that happened that she may remember and I also need to keep track of how many times I have seen her per week and what not.
Had date with Polish chick. Right off the bat we were touching each other, holding hands, arm around waist, she hugged and snuggled up to me a few times. I picked her up and carried her a bunch of times. Date was going well but I sensed she wouldn't be into it if I kissed her. A few times I pulled her in close and she got weird.
After about an hour or flirting, touching, walking around, but no kiss, I thought "Fuck this, I didn't come here to get cucked" so I FORCE a kiss. She's really weird about it - barely kisses me back, at all. But keeps hanging out with me. I walk her to the train station, go to kiss again but she only pecks me on the lips. I laugh and say "No, properly." and she kinda lets me kiss her, but again not great.
It's weird because she was so fucking hands-on all night, SHE was doing a lot of the touching without me initiating. And she's so fucking carefree and easy to talk to and comfortable, I'd have thought she would be the last person to not kiss. But then she's really damn shy in other ways, and really innocent (she was too embarrassed to swear when I told her to teach me some polish swear words, she couldn't do it).
I'm on the fence about seeing her again. My instincts say "Run away, she's obviously weird about sex and no point wasting another 2 dates just to try to bang her." But I absolutely want to hit my goal of 5 fuckbuddies at once. That's going to require me to put up with shit I normally wouldn't, until I get to a point where I'm better at bringing in new girls. I'll think about it some more, but I'm disappointed in her to say the least.
Cheerleader hit me up asking what I'm doing tonight, so we'll see if that's a date. Will invite her to my area then walk back to my apartment and push for bang (I already kissed/touched her a bunch on the first date).
"One, events seems smaller and of less significance to me now"
Fuck yeah. Another thing is you become so much more casual when setting up dates.
So I have 5 girls on the go right now (2 are actual fuckbuddies, 2 I've had first dates with, plus MAYBE the polish chick if I don't drop her). When you're at that point, you become so much more casual. Eg you'll just pull out your phone, message all the girls "hey sexy i've got some free time tonight. lets hangout". That's literally what I did yesterday, and the polish chick was the only one who was free, so I saw her.
"Two, I forget little shit that happened that she may remember "
I'm sure you already know this, but: that's a good thing. Many times now I've gotten details confused, or I'll say "Hey remember when we did this thing?" The girl will say "We never did that...." I'll say "You sure? Yeah we did." She'll say "No..... maybe that was another girl?" I'll just say "Hmmm, maybe." and change the subject.
As much as they fucking bitch and moan about it all the fucking time, girls love players. (If you're unapologetic about it)
last few days I've REALLY struggled to approach. I'm talking 30-45min of walking around before I do one. It's really killing my self esteem/momentum. 2 reasons why.
1) Im going home as soon as I do one. I'm doing the bare minimum then running away like a little bitch. That's just reinforcing the bad habit of letting the anxiety build up, then not using the momentum to keep going and do a few more approaches. I'm making it seem like approaching is this big scary thing. I'm regressing.
Don't worry man. Sometimes my anxiety comes around and gets me too in my head. Just don't beat yourself up about it and the next day, force yourself to get the fuck in there! Then you'll be even better than before
So tonight I banged the cheerleader. She came straight over, we shagged within 10 mins. Sex was good...
but she was weird. as soon as we finished shagging, no more than 3 minutes later she's like "i have to go, I have a long day tomorrow". i'm like "haha slow down cowgirl, no rush" but she really wanted to bounce. she was also weird when I walked her to the train station.
trying not to read too much into it - she lives with her overbearing asian parents, and it was 9.30pm on a wednesday night, so maybe she was just in a rush to get home & not look like a slut. who knows.
i'd like to bang her again, it was good. but i'm not holding my breath. my instincts are saying I won't see her again (but I've been wrong many times in the past).
regardless, i've got 2 other girls i'm banging, plus 2 other girls I could go on dates with, plus cold approaching daily.
Roooogggeeerrrrr sup man. Long time no time. Shit man, I thought you left the forums, but turns out I'm just not subscribed to your new threads. I'll catch up on em in the next few days.
Cheerleader is more like a natural 7 who, with makeup and really good fashion sense, bumps it up to an 8. Sex with her was fun though. Before her, the lightest girl I'd ever banged was 45kg (100lbs). Cheerleader is 40kg (88lbs) so you can pick her up with one arm, fuck her while holding her up in the air and bouncing her on your cock, etc. Good fun. She wasn't the best shag I've ever had though... and her personality is decent but not amazing. I'll keep banging her though. But I actually like my other two girls better (Dara the ex virgin, and a new African girl I met from craigslist who's read too much 50 shades of grey and wants me to "break her").
The last 9 days I've only hit my minimum (1 approach per day). However, I've been giving myself challenges and doing the approaches in places I never normally do - like my local supermarket near my house.
Got 2 live numbers this week, 1 french chick who's super keen to grab a drink (and texted me twice to tell me how nice it was I approached her, what a sweetie), and a chick from Lithuania I'll hit up for a drink sometime this week.
Went on a roadtrip with Dara the ex virgin on the weekend, was good fun. Brought her back home and banged for a few hours. She's slowly opening up (it's taken me a LOT of persistence). She's finally starting to tell me what she likes sexually - but because she's a virgin and super shy, she basically has no imagination lol. So essentially I have to make her do something, teach her how to do it, then later she'll admit she liked it.
Had a damn interesting conversation with her though. Remember how the first time I banged her it took 4 hours, the entire time she was pushing my hand away, saying "no" nonstop? So while we were on the roadtrip I teased her about it.
Her: "A girl is supposed to say no, that's how it works!"
Me: "You were like 'no no no no no no no no no no no..... ok yes"
Her: "That's what girls do! Especially Chinese girls, we have to."
Me: "So you have to say no 100 times, but the 101st time is a yes"
Me: "So what if you meet a guy who stops after you say no 10 times?"
At this point she thought about it for a bit, and said in a sad voice, "I guess I would have to find another guy".
Straight from the horse's mouth. Chicks want a guy who
just gets it
, who understands the rules of male/female dynamics, who knows that although she's saying "no", the fact she's still in your bed and still kissing you is a very big "yes".
"The guy she wants to fuck is dominant because that’s ‘the way he is’ instead of who she had to tell him to be." "If masculinity has to be explained to a man, he’s not the man for her."
Still gaining strength and muscle in the gym, still working out 6 days a week (3-4 of those days I work out twice, for a total of 9-10 gym sessions a week). But the last 3 weeks my weight on the scales hasn't gone up, and last week it actually went DOWN by 0.3kg. I've been eating 3000 cals a day which is clearly not remotely enough so I've bumped it to 4000. Will see what happens for the next 2 weeks or so.
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