TOPIC: Nearly 2 years porn free but...

I stumbled on some cheesecake political advert that looked like the start of a porn scene. All the girl did was show her bra but that had my heart racing more than when I had actual sex. How can some silly video possibly be more intense than real sex and how can I replicate that feeling irl?

I don't have any good advice for you, here.

Not only do I watch porn every day but I watch some dark, dark shit.

T Wolf wrote: I don't have any good advice for you, here.

Not only do I watch porn every day but I watch some dark, dark shit.

I'm the same way.

I'm a big proponent of "fap as much as you want but don't forget to fuck real girls too"

i got to the point that i get most turned on more by thinking about my power over real woman especially chicks in my gym who love me because i'm in good shape confident and i'm hung. You need to work on yourself make yourself as good as possible and don't stop working at it. Then woman will come to you, it may take time but keep working at yourself and get over your psychological shit too.

The thing we have to remember here that the problem is not the action of fapping itself, but rather the reason why you're doing so. It's obvious that for most people the driving psychological reasons to masturbate are probably healthy in nature, but for certain people such as myself that's not the case, leading to problems. So keep in mind that when people recommend fapping to you and say it's not a problem, it's not because they want you to keep hurting yourself, but because they're either in denial themselves or genuinely don't understand that a healthy act for them could lead to problems for someone else. For me I fap compulsively in order to escape certain real life feelings and focus on my grudge towards women and jealousy of the male porn stars, and shame for my belated loss of virginity. Thus it is a hateful act towards myself instead of a loving act like it is for healthy people.

In recovery we often wish it would happen faster than it does, and for the OP I suggest you look into how much improvement has been made over the past two years instead of looking at the things you wish were better. 2 years is a short time in the grand scheme of things, and there is recovery to be expected as long as you keep working on your underlying issues.

T Wolf wrote: I don't have any good advice for you, here.

Not only do I watch porn every day but I watch some dark, dark shit.

Then you're familiar with those adrenaline spikes when you watch a new video, right? How do you get that when you have sex with an IRL woman?

I'm off porn for about two year with four relapses. I just had to abstain totally for a while. I went on to just models pics etc for a fap and instagram models etc. But my best success was with self improvement in every way mentally and physically. When i improved myself especially in gym and looks woman became obsessed with me to the extent that i told a girl i would put you over my knee and spank her till her ass went red and then walked away. It was a push pull tactic and she even tried to get me to run her over last week to get my attention(i know crazy).My power over woman turns me on that any pictures or video but it took me about 3 years. I will say i am hung and this helps too, i make sure woman can see it. I have only started PE too so i want to be even bigger! it a journey man take your time!

go4broke wrote:

T Wolf wrote: I don't have any good advice for you, here.

Not only do I watch porn every day but I watch some dark, dark shit.

Then you're familiar with those adrenaline spikes when you watch a new video, right? How do you get that when you have sex with an IRL woman?

Sorry for the late response, I did some self-experimentation.

Everyone can have their own opinion / experience with porn addiction, pros/cons of masturbating, etc.
I can only speak from personal experience, but I am currently on Finasteride (notorious for potential libido-killing side effects), jerk off probably once or twice a day to porn (I have no problem getting laid, and still have a high drive for regular sex).

I can't speak for other people, maybe I'm just lucky, but I do attribute it to being positive and optimistic and not letting "fear of sexual performance issues" get in the way of me being aroused during sex. I'm a strong believer that performance anxiety is the cause of 90% of young mens' "sexual issues."

I just tried going a month without jerking off / sex.

I lasted 7 days, I won't be trying it again. I have no idea how anyone does it, but I applaud your willpower.

The amount of sex I'd need to satiate my sex drive would cause more inconvenience to me than anything.

I don't have to waste an hour with porn, nor do I have to pay for porn's Uber home.

T Wolf wrote:

go4broke wrote:

T Wolf wrote: I don't have any good advice for you, here.

Not only do I watch porn every day but I watch some dark, dark shit.

Then you're familiar with those adrenaline spikes when you watch a new video, right? How do you get that when you have sex with an IRL woman?

Sorry for the late response, I did some self-experimentation.

Everyone can have their own opinion / experience with porn addiction, pros/cons of masturbating, etc.
I can only speak from personal experience, but I am currently on Finasteride (notorious for potential libido-killing side effects), jerk off probably once or twice a day to porn (I have no problem getting laid, and still have a high drive for regular sex).

I can't speak for other people, maybe I'm just lucky, but I do attribute it to being positive and optimistic and not letting "fear of sexual performance issues" get in the way of me being aroused during sex. I'm a strong believer that performance anxiety is the cause of 90% of young mens' "sexual issues."

I just tried going a month without jerking off / sex.

I lasted 7 days, I won't be trying it again. I have no idea how anyone does it, but I applaud your willpower.

The amount of sex I'd need to satiate my sex drive would cause more inconvenience to me than anything.

I don't have to waste an hour with porn, nor do I have to pay for porn's Uber home.

I think the true question is why do you need to satiate your sex drive? It sounds like you're simply accustomed to reacting to being horny by masturbating/having sex. One of the greatest discoveries I've made lately is no matter how I feel, I don't have to let that affect my decision-making in any issue. Breaking habits can be difficult and it usually takes a few weeks to get used to new routines. Some people waste hours on porn, I think killtheinnerloser mentioned he used to spend in the order of 12 hours every day on porn, and I've gone on 4 hour fapping marathons myself, which left me feeling miserable. One knows when it's a problem for one, and then quitting becomes easier than continuation.

Take what I say with a grain of salt bc I still jerk off 1-2 times a week. But I used to everyday back in 2015 when I was depressed.

It would make me late to work and skip workouts. What helped me is committing to other goals. In 2016, I re committed to fitness and making money online. Between that and a job, it was hard to find time jerk off consistently.

This has been good for my production and energy levels. Your energy is zapped after you cum and it's hard to focus. I just want to sleep.

I think committing to a new goal an really help beat jerking off.

Just my 2 cents.

I guess it depends on how you look at it.

I often feel more productive by getting it out of the way quickly rather than going into my phone, texting some girls and having them come over, entertaining them for some time, wasting time on foreplay/post-sex emotional support, getting them home, etc.

Not to be the guy who says "Porn/Masturbation is great for you," because I'm sure it's not.

But for some guys, a quick and efficient sexual release (Why not jerk off in 5 minutes?) can allow them a certain degree of clarity.

In my case I've found that it allows for complete emotional detachment (if you're stuck on a girl, trying to move past a relationship, etc... I bet you won't feel that way after you nut), and the ability to get that sexual tension out of your brain so you can focus on whatever other tasks you need to go about for the day.

But I don't doubt that for most people it does more harm than good. Just playing devil's advocate for some small benefits that could be a better alternative to sexual frustration at times.

My libido and desire for sex was really freakin high, like usual and used porn again for about two weeks. Within the first week my orgasms were really strong and only really had like one session at a time. 2nd week I stepped it up extremely and was doing like 3 hour sessions and was watching some dark shit because normal stimulating stuff doesn't do it anymore. Just about a day ago, my libido was little to non existant and still wake up with morning wood due to the fact that I am waking up from a REM sleep cycle which makes all the organs fill up with blood, that includes the penis. Every physcially healthy man goes through this.

I immediately knew this was from porn seeing that I have everything functioning normally, I just overloaded my brain and now have to give this shit up. I am feelimg down and have the feeling of depression about this but I am aware of what has happened and my body just needs to "reboot" and after this expereience, becuase I think I have experienced several other times in my life, I will never watch porn again. It is really scary not being able to keep an erection because I normally have the strongest erections and they pop like crazy from stimulating things.

Nofap. Not telling other losers here on what to do, but if we relinquish our porn, our mind will not need that intense stimulation and will reboot so that normal sexual encounters with women are the most stimulating things for us, allowing us to get rock fucking hard at a moments notice and pound that pussy till she can't walk no more. Nah'm'sayen?

Porn is a drug. I used to fuck with some hardcore shit, and we can glorify/candy coat shit all we like but if something is making us think on "when I need to get my next fix" or something that releases massive amounts of dopamine and ober time you need to increase your usage because you are becoming desensitized, this is by all means a drug. Porn really should be considered a Schedule I drug, a lot of anxiety from todays guys is coming from Porn which is probably the reason many guys come here including myself. Not to disrespect GLL this site is awesome.

Truth.