TOPIC: Please critique my Tinder/Hinge pics

Really hope you stop doing this angry butthurt shit cause you are literally talking yourself right out of these girls pants man. You should already be getting laid if you just stop acting stupid when you talk to these girls.

You 100% should be already getting laid right now.

I have done alot of this kind of butt hurt stuff before too so I speak from experience.

Hadn't stopped by and want to congratulate you on the dancing picture. It really good! It's alluring with a hot girl, almost seeing up her skirt. You look cool, in the moment, and the leather jacket looks great. This is an excellent 2nd pic. You'll want a better face photo for #1.

There was a reason I initially suggested replacing the shirtless photo with a "sharp dressed" one. Now there's a consensus. This replacement should probably be your main pic, something that clearly shows your face in a stylish outfit.

Everyone else already addressed the texting thing.

Well folks, ever since I last posted I've gone on a grand total of two dates.

The first one you'd think was a hardcore feminist, but actually wasn't, and turned out to be a rather decent person. We had a good conversation, although I wasn't actually enthused to do anything sexual. I did try to kiss her (but actually didn't want to, just wanted to see if she'd let me).

The second one was... think a hippie girl, except without the femininity. I knew from the Tinder pic that she wasn't going to turn me on, but beggars can't be choosers right? Had a bad habit of taking things without asking, like a banana on my table, some medical tape to tie up her toe (I know she had to rummage quite a bit for that), and two very old condoms in my toilet cupboard (they were there for years so I know). Makes me wonder what else she took without me noticing. I didn't even try any kino.

I know GLL said to lower your standards. But man I'm scraping the bottom of the barrel here. It used to be I'd feel some slight anticipation when going out on a date. Now, it's just like going to the toilet - a distraction from work/fun time at the computer. Sometimes I rationalize being scared to make a move as "god I really don't want to" but this time I'm 70% sure I can trust my feelings. The second date that was 99% sure I wasn't gonna stick anything in there.

Just wondering if that's a normal attitude again.... how will I get over this...

EDIT: just realized that the high flake rate makes it a bad idea to look forward to dates anyway...

What about cold approach ?


Yeah it's good and very useful to lower your standards.
The thing is these girls don't match with your personnality and your goal is to get laid.
So why bother with her ?

If she really does something which messes with your personal boundaries get out of there.
You should be focusing right now exclusively on killer instinct ie be physical with them asap and screen hard to see if they want sex like you do. When you'll get sex more available to you you'll naturally go for more pleasant girls and weed out annoying bitches.

This
www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/fundamenta...ggressive-with-women

Yup, should also brush off the cold approach these days.

OK, definitely need to train being physical asap. Still slightly uncomfortable doing that.

It's good to think of dates as a 'distraction' that disturbs what I want to do, so I don't get too emotionally invested.

I don't know if you should bang girls if you are not into if you don't feel it / want to. Or maybe you are more looking for a relationship or connection with a girl?

You might not actually be after getting laid alot or not with the quality / types of girls you can currently get. Ultimately trust your instincts. It's not actually for every guy in my opinion.

Hitting the numbers is always good even if it's a connection you are after but I don't know if you want to really focus on just trying to bang a bunch of girls you don't want to fuck if you truly don't want to.

I'm lucky in the sense that I find it pretty easy to be turned on by even pretty average girls but other people might be very different. I truly do want to fuck them though, like deeply very badly, I don't ever force myself through it or do it if I don't want to. I genuinely want to. So I have no idea.

And sometimes you also learn alot by actually doing the wrong thing which puts more into perspective what you really want / are about.

I'd keep trying though and hopefully you will continue evolving and learning along the way.

All it takes is one decent fuck buddy for you stop scraping the bottom of the barrel right?

I've went out recently with a somewhat cute fat girl, but I do draw the line at ugly + fat.
If they don't have a nice personality either, then forget about it lol.

At the end of the day, self respect is important.

I don't know if you should bang girls if you are not into if you don't feel it / want to. Or maybe you are more looking for a relationship or connection with a girl?

You might not actually be after getting laid alot or not with the quality / types of girls you can currently get. Ultimately trust your instincts. It's not actually for every guy in my opinion.

Hitting the numbers is always good even if it's a connection you are after but I don't know if you want to really focus on just trying to bang a bunch of girls you don't want to fuck if you truly don't want to.

What I'm after is the feeling of abundance, to know that getting laid doesn't feel like I "got lucky".
2. Also, to know that I can consistently get chicks of a certain quality, although this may be unrealistic, because by definition there are more average girls than above average ones. At a certain point, dating only above average ones should statistically mean that you don't have a consistent sex life (I wrote a dating simulator Girlsim to convince myself of this fact). Although maybe I'm just not successful enough.

3. Also, to have enough strength to not go crazy over girls that I really like and thus screw up my chances (I meet about 1 such girl every 1-2 years).

If it means banging lots of chicks, I'm up for that. Come to think of it though, if I am banging lots of chicks but not ones which I'm excited about, I'm still going to be weak in the knees when one which I am actually excited about shows up.

I think sex is like rice. It fills you up sure, but you'd really much rather have some something flavorful to go with it. I ask you, Taylor: there should be an underlying psychological reason that you want to fuck them deeply - what is it? To touch them deep down inside, to make an irrevocable mark on their hearts? Perhaps because you believe that fucking them is the main way to reach that deep part of the women, you derive immense pleasure from fucking them.

I just had a date with another girl (not from online). I wasn't particularly excited about it (I had to sacrifice dance night) but I felt comfortable with her, and she felt comfortable with me too. Which should be an achievement because apparently she had some sexual trauma, so I didn't want to be too pushy and contribute to that.

I was amazed at myself - no sex happened, but I was ok with that because we were doing things that I would've enjoyed anyway, like rewatching Evangelion. At the same time I managed to silence my brain calling me a pussy by doing a lot of kino and going for the kiss thrice.

It really helped that I already knew she was really into me. Also, I had less fear of doing kino and taking the lead because we were comfortable together. All in all, the game was on easy mode for me this time.

I'm hammering this into my head - this is exactly how I should think or feel on a date, especially with the ones I really want.

It's date time: damn, I got something better to do. Let's see if it's fun otherwise I'll send her off in 1-2 hours.
During the date: feeling comfortable with her, I comb her hair like a fellow girlfriend, and then transition into slowly pulling it and holding her neck erotically like a boyfriend. I end up pinching her fat folds and tickling her. Oh, something on my computer just finished (which is way more interesting than the girl, mind you - I think the fundamental thing is to be actually interested in something else other than the woman). I suddenly leave her alone and go back to my computer. Which she experiences as push-pull.

What if I don't feel comfortable with her? keep making smaller moves until you two become more comfortable - if you're not feeling comfortable with each other, a big daring attempt at kino feels unnatural and feels like you're forcing something. What is not acceptable is doing nothing. If she doesn't give it time, then count that as a rejection.

After the date: well that wasn't so bad, now time to get back to that thing I really wanted to do. And I need set a reminder on my phone to text her later about how nice it was.

I really need to do this with the ones I really want. Lowering my standards really helped!

lol u sound so PUA like,
kino push pull all this overthinking bro.

did you read Andy's article
"It’s “You and Me”, not “You vs Me”"
killyourinnerloser.com/you-and-me/

She either wants what you want or she doesn't, find out as soon as possible so you don't agonize over it.
Screening is basically this at the end of the day.

Imagine for a second the scenario that you 100% knew that she was cool with anything you wanted from her, youd have no fear at all.

and leaving the girl all alone to get busy on the computer will make her experience that you're not interested, but you kinda said that you weren't, but that won't make her any more excited to fuck you lol

When i was a teenager i hung out with a girl once i was so fuckin anxious i didn't kiss her and kept distracting myself with other things, eventually she got tired of my shit and told me to go and i was like fuck damn so i kissed her but she wasn't having it, it was too late i blew it.
Later in the future she told me that she thought i wasn't really interested in her.
but the truth is i was just nervous out of my mind, she was cute as fuck.
My anxiety and sexual fear prevented me from pulling the trigger many many many many many times.

Now if im with a girl, i shower her with compliments and touching and kissing and all that shit. I want her to know i wanna fuck her badly. even if shes not that attractive ill still act interested as fuck.
Don't play games dude, make it super clear you're interested in some sweet sex, no ambiguity!

Your computer aint fuckin going nowhere, itll still be there when ur done gettin ur dick wet.

When you're with a girl you wanna be like this LMAOOOOOOOOOO!!!
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Yeah I agree with luniac, you're not making these girls like you more by doing push-pull, you're just being rude and showing disinterest, which scares 80% of women off eventually.

Literally just totally drop any kind of game plan except "kiss her" and then "touch each others genitals".

This analysis is holding you back. The weirdo pick up artist tactics are holding you back. You can do better, stop trying to TRICK this girl into liking you. She already likes you, just don't fuck it up! That's all it takes.