TOPIC: Please critique my Tinder/Hinge pics

First of all:

GOOD FUCKING JOB

Great improvement on the photos. I'd cut out the shirtless one, I think it's unnecessary, but DAMN the dancing photo and the one with you sitting down in the brown jacket by yourself are awesome. Just killer. Can't congratulate you enough.

So, now you're getting matches. You can get way more as you cut out the subpar pics (shirtless one and the one with your friends) add 1 or 2 more good ones. I think the one with your friends is a great IDEA, but its just not a very good photo in terms of composition, angle, etc. I really think the shirtless picture is ACTIVELY holding you back. Remove it ASAP and watch your results improve. Use the one of you in the brown jacket sitting against a pole or whatever as your main, or the dancing pic.

As for your conversations? Ok, here's where a little bit of outside opinion is going to help you:

Those girls are 100% correct. You're coming off as super bitter. DON'T SAY ANYTHING like that. Don't say anything about how girls online suck, or are flakey, or rude, or whatever.

Here's a good rule of thumb to avoid scaring girls off: NOTHING NEGATIVE in the messages or texts before you meet them. Until you have a better grasp of what will scare girls away, just keep things completely positive in the conversation. No complaining, no demanding answers from them, no rudeness at all.

Be polite and upbeat, while pushing for the date within 3-6 messages. Girls WILL dick you around and waste your time. You need to be aware of that right now. You cannot prevent that by being demanding and accusatory, you have to just SCREEN IT OUT. Don't worry about one-word answers. Just make your quick small talk and then suggest a time/date to "get drinks", OR just say "wanna hang out sometime?". That's it.

Make these little tweaks, and watch the results start to come in.

There's a reason I gave you a template. Just like Bad Idea Bear said, you need to push towards a date within as few messages as possible, and be as efficient as possible (screen out the timewasters).

Bad Idea Bear wrote: Don't worry about one-word answers. Just make your quick small talk and then suggest a time/date to "get drinks", OR just say "wanna hang out sometime?".

Damn, I was starting to enjoy my new IDGAF attitude. (and when they get that attitude, it's "you go girl" )

But I mean, isn't acting like everything's fine just encouraging bad behaviour? (ok it's not like me being snarky is gonna change anything). How fun can it be to hang out with a woman who only writes one word for an answer? Doesn't this just make me desperate? Where do you draw the line?

I'm sorry but when you ask someone "where are you from" and they reply "Lebanon", that's not bad behavior.

This is a you problem. You're trying to go Red Pill on these girls and train them like puppies. If a girl is behaving in a way you find unacceptable... stop talking to her. That's the adult thing to do.

Sure the job interview question was rude, but we can't see what you were saying before that because the text is cut off. Maybe you were talking to her like you were interviewing her for a job, and that's why she said that. See what I mean?

Right now you're OVERLY sensitive to perceived disrespect coming from women. In other words, your anger at girls that have previously done you wrong is seeping into your interactions. Don't punish these girls for things other girls did. I'd suggest just being polite until you've got a better radar for when women are ACTUALLY being disrespectful to you.

And don't beat yourself up about it. Being overly sensitive is normal mistake to make. Anyone who does this GLL shit gets angry at ***WIMMEN*** at some point. It's part of the journey, and you'll eventually get over it (or at least 90% over it).

Any guy who's fucked a hundred girls and says he doesn't get pissed off by their behavior and overreact sometimes is a liar-liar-plants-for-hire.

I unmatch all girls who give 1 word answers. Problem solved.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: Any guy who's fucked a hundred girls and says he doesn't get pissed off by their behavior and overreact sometimes is a liar-liar-plants-for-hire.

Sorry BIB, but I'm infallible and have never gotten angry at a woman's behaviour ever, because I'm Alpha. Looks like you're just a little beta cuckboy with "feelings" and "emotions" and stuff. Pffft, I gave that stuff up years ago; now I'm a cold, calculating, LION.

This is me:


Actually you know what? I'm putting that as my main Tinder profile now, so women know I'm all about that Alpha Male Lifestyle™

-Andy the Alpha

Your messaging does sound like you're already mad at her before the conversation even started.

After being on these dating apps for like 2-3 months, its all kinda a blur to me now, i just use the template and don't even remember anymore who didn't respond or was rude or anything lol unless she was like very attractive to me but i get over it fast enough.

I guess if you regularly get a few matches here and there its easy to move on.
I only got 2 pics and 2 of my cat lol but if i do my 10-15 minutes of swiping and quick template message every night, so far i've had no shortage of fuckable matches, so i move on from the losses easily.

It's actually kind of addicting now lol, i keep saying to myself ill stop swiping cause quarantine is preventing me from meeting up with pretty much every single one, but i can't help myself lol.

Cause of this quarantine shit i got like 30 numbers in my phone and only met with like 1 chick so far,
i think i could have had like 6 online lays by now for sure.


But yea dude, ur just in your feelings right now, you'll get over it eventually once u get more matches and better pics.
The dancing one is real dope, the chick seems sexy af in that dress.

1) The shirtless picture has got to go.

2) Get new glasses or ditch them altogether.

Try something like this:

www.instagram.com/p/B1b0d-9IYc_/

Regarding the butt-hurt shit, nothing I could say better than BIB.

You gotta ditch the negativity. It's not even a tactic. It's just a matter of understanding a woman's experience and realizing that women don't owe you anything, including a response.

When you act butt-hurt, women recoil in disgust because it's so obvious that it's coming from a place of prior rejection from other women.

In short, butt-hurt comments and responses make you look pathetic to a woman and high-quality men. They laugh at it and probably show their friends.

With that said, don't get defensive. Anybody who has risen up has had their own experiences with acting this way. I once sent 50 butt-hurt and abusive messages to women on POF because I was frustrated with my lack of results. I was subsequently banned from the platform.

A good question to ask yourself that someone recommended to me is the following:

How would I handle this, or how would I act if I just had 3-some with two of the hottest women on earth and had $100 million in the bank?

@ritchan

It is ALWAYS going to be like this on online dating. Girls are annoying as fuck. Its all about filtering out all the dumb bitches and time wasters. Filtering + lots of matches (which you get from getting photos that get results). That is how online dating is played if you are looking for efficiency and fast results.

I do know how you feel. I used to send messages like that all the time. Nowadays I ONLY focus on girls who are playing ball (and hopefully later with my balls). Girls who give retarded answers. Next or unmatch. Up to you.

ugh...
today the hottest girl i ever matched with(8/10 at least), who i traded nudes with, and was plannin to chill with after quarantine, suddenly decided not to meet and is only into relationship and shit, and so its basically over.

It hurt man, it really hurt cause she's fuckin super hot. i mean it reallyyyyy got to me cause i got "emotionally invested" and shit, i had imagination fantasies of lickin her perfect pussy and gripping her perfect legs and fukin that perfect ass.
and now it wont happen.

but im not gonna carry that with me to new girls.
Don't bring that emotional baggage with you.

its not fair to the new girls, what if u meet a nice emotionally healthy girl and u fuckin carpet bomb her with ur baggage, what a turn off bro.

Id feel the same way if a new girl did that to me, like if she said "are you another one of those guys that just pumps and dumps", id be like dammmmmm im the enemy already...

DONT emotionally invest yourself until you meet, thats one of andy's best advice, save yourself the pain bro fuck that alpha shit, i dont think
its possible to have happy vibes without opening up and being vulnerable to being hurt.
so don't let it happen countless times with all the girls ull be matching with.

Until the moment i actually meet the girl and put my grubby perverted hands on her and give her a kiss, i do my best to have zero emotional investment.

i just hope my emotional pain will pass soon enough.... fuk lol

"Until the moment i actually meet the girl and put my grubby perverted hands on her and give her a kiss, i do my best to have zero emotional investment."

Yep - the way I phrase it is "She's just words on a phone screen until the moment we actually meet up".

"i just hope my emotional pain will pass soon enough.... fuk lol"

It will. Keep on pushing.