TOPIC: Please critique my Tinder/Hinge pics

I turned my room upside down just to get the space to take this one picture. It seems to get me less matches than the "funny" picture with the camera, but since most of those matches didn't reply anyway or want to meet up I guess it's better?



This one makes me look like a "funny guy" apparently. I guess I'll keep it around as the 2nd one.


This is supposed to show me with friends and being silly. Is it good?


My hobby. Not the best angle but it's the best I've got. Should I keep it?


I really like this picture but I had to rescue the exposure with a lot of RAW editing. Is it good enough to stay?

I think the photos are good. Some would argue shirtless pics should look more natural (on the beach taken by someone else for example as opposed to selfies). The friends one seems to focus more on your friends than you. For the hobby photo maybe replace the lady who could be your mother with a hot young lady? It still looks good though I think. Maybe you have one where you take up most or more of the frame? The only way to know is to test them out and report back!

Edit: just realised you said you get less matches with that first photo. If that is the case you will need to get a better photo. More matches is always better.

Maybe you should ignore this since I'm saying the opposite of your experience :/
TLDR: I'd axe #2 for sure. #1 is your best picture (but shirtless selfie is questionable). 4+5 are fine for now but I'd be looking to upgrade them all. It's good to have a "fun" picture, but I think you can do better than #3. You're a good looking guy and I think there's a whole higher level you haven't even reached yet.

#2 just seems weird. Your skin comes out pale and oily looking. 3 is kinda goofy which can be ok but this doesn't seem well executed. Notice the other people look truly goofy, your expression may come off more creepy. You have the right idea though.

1. Has an edgy feel which I like. Some wild hair and you have a good physique. I'd love to see you put in 3 hard months lifting. Even just 5 more pounds of muscle on your frame would look great. It's always better to have a natural pic if possible: gym, sports, beach...some reason to have your shirt off. However, If you look hot enough, some women won't care that it's a shirtless selfie.

4. A dancing pic is great, especially if important to you. It's social, and gives social proof being close and comfortable with a woman. I agree with Bastard, this pic would go up another level if it showed you with a younger+attractive woman. Get pics with the kind of woman you are trying to attract. Do you have any hot lady friends that you could bring for a night? You can even tell her why, as most women would love to play the hot girl and have an excuse to wear a sexy dress.

5. I like this too, similar to #1. You have an edgy look. That's an ideal man expression, ambiguous (smiling or frowning?) gets rated more attractive by women than a big smile. Your eyes look sharp. That hairstyle looks cool on you. You look confident. You can use this picture but the quality is a major drawback. Replace with a high quality pic when you can.

#1: thank you! I had more mass before, but I got bored of weightlifting, and I felt slow. Now I'm doing bodyweight and some custom movements from Animal Flow, some Bruce Lee sidekicks and straight punches (working on getting them whip fast). Jordan Barrett has a similar body and he's not doing bad. I'm shy but will try to get my photog friend to do a shirtless one

Your feedback on #2 is surprising - I fixed the colour issue with some filters/edits. I don't have many DSLR pics that show my face at a good angle, so I'm rather reluctant to axe it just yet. I'm planning a proper photoshoot with a photographer after the corona quarantine though.

3. Yes. How about these two pictures? The first one solves the obligatory animal pic



4. Yes, I do have a few lady friends in mind. Will do that in the photoshoot.

5. Thank you again, I also like this expression. A girl recently said "you don't have any pictures where you're smiling". Should I be worried about that? (EDIT: just checked - Jordan rarely goes full-on-smile in his Instagram)

This picture is low quality (silly Asian camera app blurring filter). Should I include it?

Yeah man the camel picture is great! I forgive the poor quality because that picture is good and serves a purpose. That's a topic of conversation right there. It's kind of goofy, funny, absurd. It's also interesting, and could be considered adventurous. A woman will see that pic and think "if I'm with this guy we will do cool things together".

Try it as your main pic and see what happens. Put your sexiest pic second (shirtless? or better is a sharp dressed look) . You grab their attention, and then they say "whoa, and he's hot".
1. Camel
2. Sharp dressed
3. Dancing
4. Friends - whatever pic you like
Now go do it.

arent selfies and glasses basically a no go.

There is never a never and never an always when it comes to online dating. Sometimes selfies CAN work (I have at least one that works). They just don't work as well typically as non-selfies.

so you experimented with the selfie in your profile vs not for a certain number of days to ascertain whether it works?

I'm doing that at the moment, switching between the camel and shirtless selfie. Had to use boost to get any significant results.

Today the shirtless selfie garnered some matches so I think it's on equal footing with the "weird camera strap" image, or maybe camel one. I hoped the shirtless selfie will filter out timewasters, but it doesn't seem to be doing that. I did get one girl who seemed very interested and is also looking for something casual, but she's won't be in Berlin until June so meh.

Currently I think girls are using Tinder in the afternoon when they're bored - it's probably easier to set up a meeting for the night in the afternoon. Do people actually use Tinder in the evening/night? I wasted a boost on that, and on Saturday no less.

According to Andy's tinder guide,
10pm-2am saturday night is the #1 time to boost, followed by sunday morning, followed by friday night.

Its thanks to his guide that i stop bothering to get good selfies, i figure a decent more natural lookin photo in natural outside light will trump any selfie.

i have yet to buy boosts or tinder gold but ima def get to it.

luniac wrote: so you experimented with the selfie in your profile vs not for a certain number of days to ascertain whether it works?

Exactly. Incidentally that selfie got a 8.4 from several votes on photofeeler adding more credence.

@ritchan

I think girls are bored as fuck right now and messaging/sexting with multiple guys in lieu of actually meeting those guys and having sex. Because of this I think the % of time wasters will be higher than usual despite your 'screening' main photo.

Well folks I have some stats now! And I got a new dancing photo courtesy of my friends.


Now my profile looks like this:


Since the last time I posted I have:
35 Tinder matches (used up 9 Boosts)
10 Hinge matches
4 Bumble matches

Tinder: 1 actually keeps in contact with me to this day and has expressed interest in hooking up. Not in the country though and with the lockdown don't see how this is going to happen. But friends are good.
Another 1 flaked on a date, wrote me a few weeks later to set up another one, then flaked again.
Hinge: 3 actually continued a conversation for a bit, then died off
Bumble: funnily enough, one wrote, and then never responded afterwards.

So now I think I have a texting problem. I tried Kill Your Inner Loser's texting template at first, then went freestyle with the conversation to figure out what these girls' deals are.

One thing I found out is that when they say they're just looking for friends and interesting conversation - it doesn't seem to be a front. Except that they ghost eventually so aren't really worth consideration as friends. I think any self-respecting guy wouldn't keep contact with a Tinder match as friends... I can't imagine what is going on there.

Also it's useful to ask them which is my worst pic - actionable advice. And one of the most unattractive women I talked with on the platform had 1100 likes. She felt quite celebrated actually, but also said that she had many flakes and silences too.

After around 2 weeks of this, I'm spent. I can't believe I'm paying to be on these platforms to try and drum up enthusiastic conversation with women who mostly go silent. So I went back to Kill Your Inner Loser's template.


As you can see, I don't give a damn anymore. Is this normal? I have a feeling that "interview" woman was seriously entitled.