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IslandRum wrote: Yeah. But I also spent a few weeks in Miami over New Years and banged someone from it.
I have a theory that girls in the huge metropolitan areas are no longer able to be on Tinder and lie to themselves that they’re on it to date (even when their true intention is to hookup), it’s definitely become the sex app to many of them. So in their work place or internship or social circle they all talk about how it’s the sex app, and kinda shame each other out of using it.
I’ve asked some girls about Tinder that I’ve been out with recently and they all give a strong reaction like it’s beneath them. Wasn’t that way even a year ago.
Then they hop on Bumble and do the same shit as Tinder. But their lie to themselves is maintained.
Yes I have definitely noticed the "Tinder shaming" phenomenon. Had a female co-worker in her 20s literally stared at me with her mouth open when she find out I was on Tinder, then proceeded to try and talk me out of using it lol.
But guess what? It was the same way with POF back in the day and MySpace before that and Craigslist before that. As long as women feel the need to sexually repress themselves to fit society's bullshit standards, this type of behavior will continue.
I'm not sure I buy that. Are girls who are DTF "lying to themselves" about being DTF? Do they have to hide it from their friends? Does every girl get shamed by all her friends for being DTF, and does every girl care if/when another girl shames her?
I met a girl on a bowling league last year and we got to talking about sex and relationships, and ended up having this long detailed conversation about how she likes rough sex where she gets choked, she once met a guy who aggressively escalated on her the night they met, he choked the shit out of her when they fucked and it was "better than porn" (a direct quote she dropped multiple times). She complained about how most guys are pussies and either refuse to choke her or half-ass it and the fact they're obviously scared to do it enthusiastically is a big turn off for her. I told her guys are instructed by mainstream media to be meek pussies, they're scared of being accused of rape, and it must be frustrating for her that most guys never learn the truth about how girls like to be fucked. She eventually dumped the guy she was dating at the time because of this (he was too soft, wouldn't dom-fuck her like she wanted) and jumped on Bumble. She said she uses Bumble instead of Tinder because the guys are hotter on there.
Plus, Tinder is not just a hookup/sex app. That's the problem with it. Probably most of the girls on there are looking for boyfriends (or just validation/attention) and you have to screen online just like in real life. It's not like Adult Friend Finder or something where the stated purpose of it is to find a sex partner. I know people who met the person they are marrying on Tinder.
This idea that girls judge Tinder but not Bumble, despite the fact they're the exact same thing (except girls have to message first) doesn't make any sense. I'm inclined to give girls more credit than assuming they're making up shit that is completely illogical for the purpose of self-deception over their interest in casual sex. I think a much simpler explanation is that girls experience Bumble similar to how guys do: they see hotter people up front (why that is or how Bumble accomplishes it, and if it's a scam, that's another topic), depending on the area. And possibly because they like having to message first so they can swipe faster and less carefully and not get spammed with a bunch of messages.
Plus who says Tinder doesn't work in big cities anymore? In my experience in LA, Tinder still works better than Bumble (I get more matches, dates and hookups from it). Maybe if I got better, top-tier pics it would reverse, not sure.
So I've been trying it out for a couple of months now. No lays yet, but I got about 50 or matches in total so far. I honestly prefer it when the app allows me to make the first move. Women tend to be flaky and indecisive online and I ended up losing about 70% of my matches because most didn't respond within the 24 hour grace period. Whereas if I was allowed to hit them up as soon as we matched (when they're actually on the app), then I more than likely would've gotten much better results. Also Bumble has less DTF women than Tinder. I think I will continue sticking with the latter.
As of date I have had 31 real matches meaning women who actually messaged me, they disappear if they do not message you within 24 hours so matches in general would be way higher.
I notice that on Sunday nights I always get a couple likes which encourages me to swipe, if you want to immediately get to the chick that liked you then what can work is changing your location range a few miles and her profile will appear. The blurry like box shows a blurred out photo of who liked you, lol not using bumble pro here or anything so I have to play the guess game. I have had close to about 6 or 7 dates from it and 12 in total from online dating in general, I had a date yesterday with this short but sexy Hungarian girl I matched with on Bumble.
Rousseau wrote: So far, I've had very poor results from Bumble. I've used it on and off for a couple of weeks at a time, so I'm finally giving it one last go for a couple of months and If I don't get laid, I'll stop using it.
Anybody have CONSISTENT success with it? So far, I find girls to be attention-whoring to the extreme and I get about 1/5 the number of matches.
Tinder these days appears to be picking up a lot lately though since I changed some of my pictures.
Less women on it, so less overall results, but it's the same story as any other app.
I've suspected that there are some fake profiles sprinkled in to make it appear like there are hotter women there than on Tinder, but who knows.
I got the same quality there as I did Tinder, just less of it (because way less users).
I vaguely recall something about how they blatantly warn you that they will fuck up your algorithm if you delete your account and re-make it and you're still cached in their system (supposedly).
To discourage people from deleting and recreating accounts to get a fresh algorithm.
For me, living in an area with a rough population of 3 million, this is my order of apps/websites:
1) POF (better for overall quality/long-term rotation potential - far less users than Tinder but much higher ROI per message if you've got good pictures and good lifestyle)
2) Tinder (better than POF if you're going for sheer volume/notches)
3) Bumble (low user count, similar to Tinder, higher standard for pics than Tinder imho)
4) OkCupid (weirdo site where every one is bisexual or identifies as vegan wanderlust hipsters and shit - you can find diamonds in the rough here though)
5) CoffeeMeetsBagel + all the other random shit
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