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good timing I'm having a whole online dating month coming soon on l2w with one guide specifically on tinder.
the good thing is ur already getting their numbers. the thing with tinder is a lot of the girls on there are not looking to meet up. they are more so looking for attention way more than other apps. tinder has the hottest and "realest" girls. like hot girls u would meet in real life.
its frustrating that most girls won't meet up but if u feel their just wasting time, using u for emotion support, etc, just delete their number mid convo
and sometimes; once they feel they lost u they will start double texting u and trying to meet up. its all psychology with this shit.
PS: I actually started using the trouble line and I've been getting really good responses haha! but i could def see how it gets overused its a pretty good line.
"Just a small town girl". Thats it. Girls will reply by finishing the next line "living in a lonely world".
At that point I try and use some humor/edge. I'll say something like "holy fuck how did you know what I was thinking?? Do you have ESPN (mean girls movie reference that most girls have seen)". That usually gets it going easily.
I've been pretty successful with Tinder, so I'll post my template in a bit.
As for how to use it - My sole goal is to get her number and set up a date. Sometimes I won't even go for the number as I usually try and have them come to my place so even if they do flake it doesn't really matter because I don't have to leave the house.
Another quick note - My style is a bit different than what I saw Chris post somewhere. Whereas he seems to screen girls for the ones that are actively looking to get laid ASAP, his style can best be described as the girl going "He's hot! -> He's hung! -> I'm horny I'll fuck him"
In my case I go more for "He's hot! -> I'll go on a date with him -> Whops I fucked him on the first date:/" Although it's worked equally well on girls that were immediately DTF, in which case I'll just push for the meet-up sooner.
Ok my template - Bear in mind I don't text in english so this is how I'd do the same template in english (smiley & punctuation included)
Me: Hey [Name] did your day just get even better as well when you matched me?
About 8/10 of the girls I text will respond to this and almost all of them will respond very well
Her: Haha you bet it did! or something similar
Me: You're cute/sweet - who are you? / You're cute/sweet - what kind of girl are you?
At first I thought this was too vague a question but for some reason every girl has jumped right on it and usually gives a pretty elaborate reply
Her: Blah blah blah studies/job/family/girlfriends - What about you?
If you're lucky she'll also mention some kind of activity that's actually pretty cool but sadly most girls have pretty boring lives. But if she does though it's always good material to jump on
Me: Ok cool. I'm way too busy at the moment- school, gym, work, family, gym again;) What do you do when you're not in school / at work?
Again, most girls don't do a whole lot of interesting stuff so expect a pretty generic answer. Also, from this point girls will usually interview me about my studies//job/gym - It's ok to go back and forth a few times (usually 3-4 tops) as long as she keeps asking but I intentionally keep the descriptions pretty short. Then after a few exchanges:
Me: Are you busy next week?
Unless she's out of town or having surgery it doesn't really matter if she says she's busy or not
Her: I'm doing XYZ
Me: Ok:), how bout we grab a drink sometime next week then?
Her: Yeah that's sounds great!
Me: Great, are you for drinks or wine?
Her: Blah blah Wine
Me: Ok, how bout I get some wine and you bring the snacks then;)
Her: that sounds great:)
Me: Cool, give me your number and we'll set something up over the weekend:)
This is actually where the real screening is for me - if she's down for meeting up at my place / her place on the first date then there's a really good chance that she's down. On my last tinder-spree sometime in June I had 7 girls come by, on the first date three were DTF, 1 gave me a BJ, kissed 2 (one of which were DTF on the second date) and 1 I screened out.
If she wants to grab coffee, go for a walk instead I'll usually not pursue and just try and text her on a night out instead unless she's extremely hot
Final tip: I've found that my success rate sky-rocketed if I invite a girl over during the day-time rather than at night time - All of the 3 first-date DTFs where mid-day / afternoon dates. I even had one girl come by for brunch (she was one of the 3 first-date-DTFs.
As for opening with "hey you / hey cutie" or something similar, I've done that too with fair success but that was when I wanted to really hit the numbers hard. The response rate is a lot lower than what I posted above but you'll quickly know if the girl is DTF. I prefer the above because A - I get better responses and B - I'm a lot more selective with my swiping these days.
I think that covers my approach to Tinder - questions welcome of course.
Glad I could help.
I've asked plenty of girls in the past to come over for tea/coffee instead which works great as well as a lot of girls don't like drinking in the daytime unless the weather is nice and you can go for white wine. I never ask girls to just "hang out" mostly because they'll (rightfully) assume that I just want sex. By making it a date setting via tea/coffee/wine they're a lot more likely to come over.
Smiley's & Winkey-faces - Yes that's were I put them. I actually think they're important but it's a fine balance not to overdo it.
Walks & coffee dates: honestly it's just too much of a hassle. Girls that push for dates somewhere in public usually aren't DTF that same day - I've done it in the past and the girls were never down for more than a kiss, so unless she's super hot and worth potentially waiting a few dates for I'd just rather spent my time doing something else (or someone else).
I agree that looks are 100% all important to get anything out of Tinder BUT, you're not gonna be the only hot guy she matches with so it doesn't hurt to have a good template to work from unless you wanna go full-on numbers game, only screening for the ones that are blatantly looking to just get fucked immediately.
Maybe it's a culture thing, but a lot of the girls I've hooked up with we're on Tinder looking for "more" ie. not just looking to get fucked. I still got the lay but i don't think I would have if I didn't have boyfriend-potential in their mind.
Sidenote - I find that girls that consider you bf-potential are very easy to retain as fuckbuddies so it can be worth it not to screen super-hard for girls that are only DTF the same night.
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