TOPIC: What is your tolerance for flaky but into you girls?

TLDR question is: What is your level of tolerance for hot (or any girls) girls that are very engaging, yet flaky?

Historically I had a high flake tolerance for hot girls, mainly because i pedestaled them and saw them as these unicorns to be chased and cherished forever regardless of your own time and sanity. This obviously didn't work and got me nowhere.

This has changed now as i've changed myself. Love women, they're great and enjoy spending time with cool attractive women that enjoy spending time with me.

But there's a girl that was pretty hot who i've known for a while recently who seemingly was always super keen to meet up with me, but when it came to it, kept pulling out a work positive covid test check related excuse. Possibly real, i don't know, as she works in the film industry which does need frequent testing in order for you to turn up to a shoot and work. But she cancelled once like this during the pandemic a year ago and another time on the day of the meet after i hadn't talked to her for ages, decided to chat to her again and we got on well for a few days (as we always did) then set up a meet.

Told her that the bar i'm looking to book will charge you if you don't attend, so if you're sure you're gonna make it...i'll book it (this is on the day of the date mind you, after it having been agreed we'd meet up that day anyway as i was in town for work). After agreeing, she messages me hours later saying she has to cancel as she had a positive test and needs to book another one or she can't work blah blah. She then said she can do any other day for a meet that week (which may have been true, i don't know). But I ended up going to the bar with a different girl anyway (nice enough chick but didn't go anywhere) and took a meme di caprio style picture of myself with the cocktail glass and posted it to instagram. She saw it, and I assume she got in her feelings about me going to the place with someone else and not just going home and licking my wounds. She never replied to me after that.

For me, I think it was in part a salty move to post the picture and perhaps cut off my nose to spite my face because she bailed, but at the same time, I had a real flaky feeling about her anyway, so i have no idea if she would've actually turned up regardless if we planned again. I'll never know.

I feel like if a girl flakes on you twice historically without having met you at all that should be it even if the first time was a while ago, especially last minute flakes when you explicitly say that you can lose money by not turning up to your reservation. It's not even the money, it's the principle for me. Saying that it could be my mistake for booking it, but at the same time, she confirmed with me on the day, and usually when that happens you're good to go.

Weird one. She was hot, and I was keen and she seemed to be equally as keen, if not more so. Ultimately, im not terribly hung up on her, but it's probably me being a little too attached since we've known eachother since the pandemic started and I had always thought it was just covid keeping us from hooking up. Manya girl who i've wanted to hook up with has flaked with me since then who i haven't worried about at all, and i've gone on dates with a lot of cool women too successfully.

Saying that It would be good to find out from you guys what your level of tolerance is for flaky behaviour from your own experiences. Especially from the ones who actively seem keen to meet you but for whatever reason, never actually execute after a few times of doing the work to arrange.

Cheers.

Free

Damn man, I didn't read the whole thing but really, how into you could they be if they keep flaking on you?

Honestly bro, if you're just texting these girls you're going to get more flakes. Probably a bad move to put the picture with the other chick on instagram though.

She's clearly interested to some degree if she's texting you back, might just have anxiety/be getting nervous. Either way it is rude to just cancel plans when you agree to do something and that's personally not something I put up with unless theres a really good reason.

I'd say next time call her the day you guys are texting and set up the plans for that night. The less time between the call and you guys hanging out the less likely she is to flake. Good luck brother