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So a little over a year ago I started messing with this girl. No intentions of a relationship, just trying to smash and dip. Long story short we fell in love. Spent every moment with her. I felt like she was all I would ever need. We talked about getting married and having a family all the time. We were having sex every single day.I ended up getting my own place and she moved in with me. She doesn't make much money but tries to help out when she can. I work 60-70 hours a week so she helps me by cooking and cleaning for me. About 3 months into it I started feeling trapped. Just thinking about her being the only girl I'd have sex with for the rest of my life made me sick to my stomach. It started getting to me that besides when I was at work, I spent every minute of the day with her from going to the gym to going out taking showers. Now I'm at the point where all I do is fantasize about fucking other girls. I miss the variety. I'd rather watch porn than have sex with her. The problem is that I'm everything to her. On top of her doing everything for me being the most loyal girl I've come across. I just can't grow a pair to kick her out and end it, between me feeling guilty about it and the fact that maybe the day in the future that I do want a relationship like this I'll never find someone like her.
How many girls have you dated/smashed? If your number is under 10 you are pretty much just not experienced enough to truly know where your "league" or gf potential is (response to i'll never find someone like her). I felt that way about 6 years ago, but breaking it off and sticking to your guns was one of the best things I did. My ex has a boyfriend and shit is all cool. Even though she was crying and her family was sad and shit, 100% right decision.
You gotta have a solid stretch of single to gain experience and know what is out there firsthand.
It's rough when you aren't attracted anymore. Honestly, I think ripping off the bandaid, maxing out your looks, and dating girls who are UPGRADES will allow you to move on and experience life using more of your potential
My body counts at 8. Tbh this is my first serious relationship so it's been a new experience. When I say " never find anyone like her" I mean how loyal she is and her willingly cooking and cleaning and all that stuff. She's a good looking girl with a nice body but nothing special. Not the hottest girl I've been with. I appreciate it though bro, that makes the most sense
I would tag at least 40-50 girls before even considering "settling down."
I had to sleep with around 90 women before I finally figured out what kind I liked.
However, I get that I'm an exception. Most guys probably understand what type of women they find attractive long before 90 girls, probably around 30 ~ 50
For the longest time, I thought I liked "party girls," if you want to call them that. You know, chicks that have done cocaine, had a hardcore partying phase and went out to the club a lot with their friends.
However, after dating a few Hispanic girls (legit Hispanic, Fresh Off The Boat from Latin American countries) and a few Morrocan girls, I decided that women who are sweet, compassionate, kind, polite, respectful, and not obsessed with partying are the right ones for me.
They bring out my best qualities. It's not even so much what I'm attracted to per say, it's more important for a woman to bring out my best characteristics. It's not about "purity" or some bullshit, because I get that there's no such thing as purity when dealing with human beings.
Anyway, that's my thoughts on that.
Break up with your chick and start smashing other girls. That's my advice.
If it helps you feel better, she's probably partly being caring to you out necessity cause you're affording her living, from my understanding. Girls' attraction is very opportunistic. I know of countless of stories of broke girls getting real quick in relationships and moving in with the guy, even marrying him(one of my ex FB)
Just like SB said, don't get her pregnant during the process of kicking her out, use protection, you never know, she might try something on you.
There's not much anyone here can say to you. You gotta decide what ya wanna do with your life. If she's really wifey material then keep her but if you feel like you wanna get out then be a man and tell her.
If you keep on playing her like that then she'll eventually lose interest anyway.
Everyone's advice is spot on. Went through the exact same thing. Broke up with her over 5 times before I did it forever. Had to do it over text the last time so I could just avoid talking to her. It would've been ten times harder hearing her voice. I know it hurt her but it was the best thing for her and I.
It'll be hard but you get over it. Whether that's a month or 6 months, you'll get over it. Not sure if my logs talk about her still but it always came down to me wanting the player lifestyle too much.
You're not stuck bro, it will be hard to let go though. You're already feeling sick from thinking of fucking 1 girl and that's going to ruin the whole relationship from here on. It's like a comfortable depression, seriously. Sounds exactly like my last one, and never again till I want a legit healthy relationship to have a family when much older.
Start hitting the gym with a mission to look sexy as possible for other girls, it helps getting over it quicker. Oh and no contact.
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