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so basically, I've been seeing this girl for 6 months and I recently got some action with her for the first time(making out, BJ, fingering...pretty much everything but penetration). After I made her come and we were cuddling, she just said that she recently lost her virginity with someone else. I was pretty pissed/sad and at the moment I wanted to kick her out of my place, but I played it off and just said "Congratulations". She told me how the whole thing went down and how she just wanted to get over it and she had no feelings for the guy.
During those 6 months, I've went against a lot of GLL teachings. What I mean by that is that although I met her by cold approach, I was extremely un-agressive sexually. Like we didn't even have kissed before the night where shit happened. In my head, I just wanted the let the relationship progress "naturally" and she told me once how she felt uncomfortable with touching and kissing so I just used that as excuses to be a pussy.
My question to you guys is: Why would a girl say something like that at such a moment? Should I keep her just as a F-buddy and instead of trying to have a relationship with her?
I know, I should go after girls and everything. I'm planning on fucking this other girl who I know is down for me ASAP. However, as stupid as it sounds, I have feelings for her and I feel like its reciprocal. I've never been in a relationship and I want to try it out.
Dude if you've been seeing a girl for 6 months without fucking her, you've lost your damn mind.
She's only a fuckbuddy if she's actually fucking you.
I don't normally use the term friend zone, but that's exactly what's goin on. You need to leave. Just say you want to have sex with her and if she doesn't want anything more, you can't hang out with her for your own sanity.
You have to build some self respect. You're in the worst situation you can be in with a girl. You should seriously cut her out of your life and never talk to her again. You'd actually be better off with ZERO girls than a girl that humiliates you
For the love of god don't ever try to start a "relationship" before you've fucked a girl for several months. Penis-in-vagina.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
This girl found a puppet to play with. Spoiler alert: it's you.
Girls will use code words and ambiguity when they don't want to be upfront about the way they see you.
You portrayed yourself as the "right one" for her to lose her virginity with, then she played you and fucked some random dude she found hot and who wasn't trying to come off as the right one.
I have had this done to me and seen girls do this to other guys. I remember this dude who kept acting like the most perfect disney-like boyfriend this girl I was fucking could possibly ever dream of only for her not to pick up his calls because she was busy sucking my dick. She would never be upfront about seeing him as his last option and would always pretend that he had a chance if "he played his cards right".
In the end it doesn't matter why she doesn't want to have sex with you, maybe she is a hardcore christian or maybe she's just pretending to be, what matters is whether you put your dick in her or not, if you don't then move on.
BTW, what BIB said about her wanting to humiliate you is 1000% spot on, saying that she lost her virginity to some dude she just met when she knows that that's what you've been wanting to do since the first day you two met is twisted as in kick her out your life right the fuck now. Acting like a nice dude just to get her to like you enough for you to put your dick in her is pathetic, but no emotionally healthy person will rub it off in your face, they will just keep it to themselves because they know it will hurt you, the only exception is this forum.
Something else I'd like to add is that there seems to be a misconception about "playing it cool" in that, for some reason, dudes think it's alpha or something to put up with girls' shit (or anybody's shit for that matter) and act unscathed when they've been severely emotionally damaged. Next time, don't play it cool, it sends the wrong message to the girl and, even worse, to yourself, just get up and say "you know what, that's disrespectful, I'll walk you off".
Jake da Dawg wrote: LOL
This girl found a puppet to play with. Spoiler alert: it's you.
She's desperately trying to get rid of you. She's probably been trying to hint it to you for 6 months and figured this is the only way you'll understand that she doesn't want to keep seeing you. I can only imagine her frustration when you don't even get mad and just go "congratulations". You see girls are too afraid to tell things directly so instead they want to have the man make the calls. Stop keeping her hostage in this uncomfortable position and get the hint.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
Not only is this girl a total bitch, You're a little pussy OP. You gave her a jewelry box with a condom inside...really? Doesn't get any gayer than that lol
I'm not saying this stuff to hurt your feelings but the reality is that a lot of girls like to play games and they like to lie about almost everything.
Instead of focusing on one girl and wasting 6 months of your life, you need to go out there and gain some more experience. Once you start fucking a bunch of these hoes, you will never buy any of them a jewelry box again.
To answer your question, this girl told you this bc she likes to play games. She wants to make you jealous. She wants to get under your skin. Because she's a bitch!
You say you have feelings for her but I doubt she feels the same way about you. You think if she really liked you she would have fucked some other guy when she told you she was waiting for "the one" and then tell you that this guy meant nothing to her?
What? Where's the logic in that.
This girl is obviously a lying bitch with lots of issues and you need to stop seeing her. Trust me, there are way better girls out there that will treat you way better.
indian cassanova wrote: @terminator na man if this chick was trying to get rid of him she'd just start ignoring him. Like every other girl. This girl is a bitch and she gets off on playing guys like op.
Nah, a lot of girls don't do that. I have 3 proofs for my statement:
1. I literally asked my GF what she thinks the girl's motive was in OP's case and she replied "I think she wanted to get rid of him."
2. I know my ex used to fuck other guys including me when she used to see her cuck ex-BF at the same time, just because she was afraid to tell him to fuck off even though she didn't like him. She told me she never gave pussy to him and told him she was fucking other guys in order to make him leave her, but the cuck was just fine with it.
3. A female friend I used to totally fuck had a guy who used to call her all the time. She wasn't interested in him at all, and asked me how to get rid of him. I told her maybe stop answering him. She was like "I could never do that, it's impolite!". She was inadvertently giving him mixed signals because she couldn't help herself.
Girls that seemingly act like bitches aren't necessarily bad persons, they're just very immature and don't know how to act like adults. It's useless to try to decipher their actions with guy logic, because a lot of what they do and think makes ZERO SENSE. In short; don't hate on her, she tried her best but you were a fucking cuck. Accept the responsibility to improve ya self
25 y/o virgin before GLL
@ Terminator, I don't think I'm following, do you mean to say that this girl is so disgusted by op and desperetaly wants to get rid of him so much so that she would let him finger her and go down on her?
Yeah I couldn't even read the whole thing. Too much cringe. Victim to the game. Chalk her up as a L. Don't waste time.
Max your looks out (gains, hair, style, lifestyle-travel, etc.... Then you will feel like the catch and you will need to filter out girls and be more selective.
After maxing out my looks I have to curve girls not in that fucked up way, but I simply text and hang out with a top 3 of girls. Any more than 3 I feel like the quality girls drop off because they know they deserve attention
So you can be the one doing the screening/curving. I was trying to figure out what she wanted from you, but at the end of the day 90% of attractive bitches are stupid and don't deserve this D. MAX OUT. SCREEN
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