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Just let her know how you feel. At the end of the day, if you want her back. Take / get her back. Nothing anyone can say is going to stop you.
There is no manual for this, you just have to do it. Something as simple as " I had a change of heart. Please don't call or text me anymore".
However, sometimes in life you have to put your feelings aside and really look at what is best. It's easy to cave in to your emotions, but it makes you a better man / person when you can put your feelings to the side, man up and take the pain. You always come out the other side in better shape. You will gain respect for yourself, for not taking the easy way out.
Women like options, she is trying to work the best deal. To some degree your letting yourself get played. She may let you promise her the world then dump him. Or she may lead you on and dump you in the end as retribution for dumping her.
I would walk away and start fresh with someone new and take this as a learning experience.
Women desire security more than men. They want to feel secure. They prefer not to be alone. So from what I'm reading, you would pretty much have to paint a picture to her that your going to provide that for her before she makes a move.
Or maybe she just is keeping you on standby because she is not sure about the direction of her new relationship.
rbenn28470 wrote: Women desire security more than men. They want to feel secure. They prefer not to be alone. So from what I'm reading, you would pretty much have to paint a picture to her that your going to provide that for her before she makes a move.
Or maybe she just is keeping you on standby because she is not sure about the direction of her new relationship.
Yeah she brought that up. Said she wants stability and consistency but she dosent know if she can get it from me. I think that's why she did the imaginary future thing, to see if I was serious
See, you got this backwards. You want women to come after you just because you are a desirable man. Without having to promise shit. Because you have the ability to fuck their brains out. Not to do everything they say and the ability to stand your ground and say 'no'. Women respect that. They want to be with a guy that has options, and she is just one of them. In the event you decide to enter in a relationship. It's going to be on your terms.
That's where GLL teachings come in. She has the upper hand now. Your balls are pretty much in her purse right now.
I have LIVED with 8 women total in my life..... I have been married three times...... I have been in too many relationships to count, and almost EVERY time I broke up with a woman I had that sense of "Oh no... maybe I fucked up!..... Turns out I didn't.
Your number one mistake is thinking you can trust her 100%..... After she was talking about your future together she got off the phone and some time soon after was gagging on her new BF's dick. Think about it dude. Women are not like us... They don't struggle with these decisions like we do.... They play dudes and keep them around for their own bidding and comfort.
I GUARANTEE you.... That if you start banging and genuinely enjoying other womens' bodies and time spent you will have a whole new perspective on this situation. TAKING AN EX GF BACK IS LIKE TRYING TO SHOVE A SHIT BACK INTO YOUR ASS......It wont work, it wastes your most valuable asset (Time...aka YOUR SHORT LIFE), and makes a mess that will take up even more of your time to clean up.
At 26 if you have even the slightest doubts about a woman..... Your going to regret not moving on. Besides, if you and her get back together she will be sweet talking the other guy on the phone just like she is doing with you... "But klbsa, I can trust her... she's just confused!" NOPE... if she was so hung up on you she would have tried to get you back and would not be riding on this other poor bastards cock every day while chatting you up on the phone.
I'm sorry to be like this but I feel its my job to tell you the cold, harsh truth.... She is playing you, and if this new sucker isn't willing to give more than he receives than MAYBE she figures you will this time around.
You're 26 for fuck's sake.... Go get high, climb mountains, travel, screw crazy hot girls and start your life without any distraction.... This is a blessing.... Not a mistake my brother.
YOU WILL KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT BY BEING A MAN AND LIVING LIFE! Now go do it....
Well, first off, maybe this is just me, but when a girl gives herself to someone else, I would never want her. That someone else's pussy now, not mine, regardless if it's before, during, or after the breakup. You do realize, while you're over here waiting on a text back, stressing yourself out over this one chick, she's probably getting fucked into next week.
Second, it doesn't matter how in love with you she once was. Once you hurt a girl, depending on the frequency and severity of the pain, that love will start to fade. Girls need trust and security when they're with a man. That's really one of the biggest reasons why they get into relationships in the first place. Once the love is lost, it's gone for good, man. You think you're hurting? Women are waaay more emotional than men. You have no idea what you put her through. She will never see you the same again. Even if you genuinely apologize to her and everything is all good (on the surface level anyway), she will still have those negative emotions/memories lingering in the back of her head.
Third, you're reasoning to get back with her is because you know she cares about you and you trust her? Not to sound like a dick, but are you fucking kidding me? Lol. Come on, bro. You really think that's the only girl in the world that you could ever trust? You think she's special because you've been with her for 3 years? If she was truly "the one," or your soulmate, if there is such a thing, you wouldn't hesitate for a second to be with her and take it to the next level.
And finally, she has you by the balls. You're the bitch now. She knows she has options while you don't. And whoever cares the least in a relationship is the one who has control. Believe me, it may not happen right away, but when a chick has control, she will more than likely take advantage of it. Not only that, but they will lose attraction and respect for you as a man. Even if you got back together, she could very easily drop you as soon as something better comes along, the same way she might drop this guy she's with. She obviously doesn't respect him as a man if she's talking to you, and not telling him about it. Or even if she was telling him about it, he's a pussy for tolerating it and letting it happen. And that results in a loss of respect. It's some subconscious shit, but it's very real. Women get wet over men who assert their dominance and don't tolerate their bullshit behavior, not some walking doormat who lets everything slide. She may not be a cheater, but she could easily dump you and bounce to the next dick.
My point is this: even if you got back with her, you would still end up breaking up again at some point, and wasting even more of your time, precious time that you could've spent shoving your dick inside several different, beautiful wet holes.
Is that how you really want to live your life?
Listen, bro. I know. I know it's hard. I know this shit is easier said than done. But I also know this. As a man with SELF RESPECT, accept the fact that you fucked up the relationship with your ex and there's no going back. The girl you once knew is gone. And she's never coming back. It's time for you to realize this, but more importantly, realize that she isn't all that special either.
The only reason you want her back is because you've been with her for so long and because you think she's trustworthy. I got some good news for you though: so are hundreds of thousands, if not MILLIONS, of other single, available, fine ass girls. It's time to man the fuck up, step out of your comfort zone, and go experience this for yourself.
If you do as I say, I promise you, yup, that's right, PROMISE you, that you will completely forget about this bitch by the end of the year. I wouldn't be surprised if it happened by the end of next month.
Like everyone else was saying, too, take the time now to work on yourself and date and/or fuck as many girls as possible. If you still feel the same way about this girl in a year (or more), then consider getting back together if she's still available. But for now, forget about her. Don't text her. Don't call. Leave her alone. Delete her off social media if you have to. If she hits you up, tell her you've changed your mind. And let that be the end of it.
Although it's probably not really all doom and gloom (as in she's bumping hips with all available cocks), I don't really think that guys should go back to ex-girlfriends. I mean if you really ask yourself honestly that if you had everything happening like mad in your sex life and you were getting more pussy and fun and emotional supportive moments than you could ever need - would you for a second consider even calling or texting her back? Would you consider a relationship or would you just ask her over specifically to fuck and be at it?
I don't think you could say you would. I don't think most of us could say we would. I also think that there's a place that most men would like to inhabit that has been hinted at above and that's a state of complete disconcern for the opposite sex in terms of needing a relationship. It's that place where we can get up, not overthink things and go fuck the girl three apartments down before banging our dinner date several hours after. It's NOT caring about all the bullshit of relationships and genuinely wanting to fuck and fuck alone.
Most guys do that through hating women and, perhaps like me right now, hating the unfairness of how easy women have it. It's like this greasy distaste that we procure for the purpose of being cool with only wanting to fuck and not having to think about the details of the rest (including the woman's feelings and the like).
I recommend you don't text her back. It's your choice, but I'm starting to see that when a relationship ends, it ends and talking to one's ex-girlfriends can often be pretty bad for us men mentally. I've been in that trap and am in that trap and I'm fairly certain that it's been bad for me.
You'll meet a better woman. There's always a better woman. When you get your fuck on really hardcore (AND YOU WILL!) then things will change. Meanwhile, do what you can to improve daily in terms of looks, social freedom, [insert your issue here] and try not to think about this woman. And remember - she's just another chick when you really get down to it. Nothing worth getting emotional about, even though it's hard not to.
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