TOPIC: Unsure about my current relationship.

Okay so I've been with this girl for like 3 months (I've known her for years), its my first relationship and a lot of red flags have come up.

1. She doesn't like dogs (or any pets that aren't wild animals). This is the biggest factor for obvious reasons.
2. She has terrible taste in music. Really grungy depressing shit with the occasional pretentious liberal crap band thrown in. She's really obnoxious about it as well, when she's listening to it even if I say something I like about one of the songs she acts all offended like I'm not respecting the genius of whatever it is she's listening to or whatever. She thinks most people have terrible taste in music and that she has her specific taste because she is smarter than everyone else. (She won't say she is smarter than everyone else but she will say things like "People are so dumb" or "People like terrible music" which basically mean the same thing). She has absolutely zero tolerance for things she doesn't find agreeable.
3. Sex seems really infrequent to me. We do it like 5-10 times a month and in the same position and usually at night. I go down on her way more than she goes down on me (she used to do it but its so rare now). I have to ask her to take all her clothes off aswell. She doesn't respect that some people want to have sex frequently and does not feel bad at all that I am sexually unfulfilled. She gets super pissed when I complain about this.
4. It's rare but she occasionally comes out with feminist bullshit. Gender pay gap and extra funding for women in science and all that. She has called me sexist a few times. Once she called me sexist and then showed me this:

I nearly broke up with her over that, told her I was going to but then we talked and I decided not to. She also has said she thinks womens opinion on abortion laws are more important than mens, we had a fight over that even though I agree with her on whether it should be legal or not haha.
5. She has said she'd get an abortion if I got her pregnant, which is good, but she also said she never wants to have kids ever and wants to have a hysterectomy. I want to have kids one day.
6. She seems kind of rude and confrontational in general. She thinks people are evil and will use really minor things to justify being mean to them (shes a vegetarian, so I am but she thinks it makes her more empathetic than other people which I think is arrogant). She would be really nice to me if I'm sick or something but when she is watching a video or paying attention to something she'll have a very poor manner towards me or anything that distracts her.
7. She's an alcoholic. I broke up with her after she was really rude to me during withdrawals but the next day we kissed and slept together and the day after she puked blood so I called an ambulance and took her to the hospital and after that we kinda just acted like we never broke up. They gave her medication to help her stop drinking which for the most part has been working but she frequently expresses a desire to take drugs though and is really interested in drugs in general and says she is bored without them.
8. I don't find her very attractive.

Well I guess from all that its kind of obvious that we shouldn't be together right? But when I tried to break up with her I felt so shit and lost. Part of that was because I was worried I hurt her and another part was because I knew I was dependent on her for sex. I'm scared of breaking up with her again now because that's pretty bad getting back together with someone and bringing their hopes up only to break up with them again straight away, especially considering she has started the medication to help her get off drink. I don't know what I'm trying to ask specifically I guess I'd really like any opinions or insight into any of this really.

Dude, you said it yourself, if there were only 2-3 of these points you could make a case, but that are 8 things that are major deal breakers,I don't know her but she generally seems like a negative person to be around(super opinionated also alcoholic etc ...), I'd either break up or keep her around and try to transition the relationship into something less serious(I think Blackdragonblog has some articles on that topic, how to design an open long term relationship), so you can look for other women while you slowly filter her out of your life.

That second option sounds a lot better. I'll look into that.

I guess part of the problem is I find it hard to determine whether they are actually deal-breakers or not? When I broke up with her I felt like they weren't but now I feel pretty unhappy again haha. Sometimes she can be nice and that dissuades me from thinking negatively about her.

Also I don't like writing people of as "bad" and am worried that I'm not being accurate when I describe her. I keep thinking that by leaving her I'll be making this huge mistake that'll ruin my life and her life lol

sacklome wrote: I keep thinking that by leaving her I'll be making this huge mistake that'll ruin my life and her life lol

You're here so you're not going to ruin your life breaking up with her.

Ditch this chick, make an onine dating profile and post it so we can help you with the pictures. Get back on the AA program and kill that shit.

In a year's time you'll be banging a new girl every week and you won't even remember her anymore

Different people will always have different opinions on this one - a lot of relationship advice out there advises that you should do all you can to try and fix the relationship and make it work before ending it.

I don't think you'll get that kind of advice on here, though. You said it yourself - you're dependent on her for sex. Chris advises guys not to get into relationships at all until they know they can Get Laid.

Sounds cliche' but there is way too much pussy in the world to be sweating some negative, drunk and miserable bitch. Don't waste the best years of your life not banging a rotation of girls.

Get out of the relationship ASAP, that is your only option, sorry, but you'll be happier long term, unless of course you enjoy the drama she is bringing into your life. Theres no grey area here man, do yourself and favour and fire her ass, plain and simple

This girl is crazy! Get rid of her and find yourself some new girls.

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It's so weird though because she is nice most of the time and that makes it really difficult to figure out.
I get that a lot of this is probably gonna seem trivial but it's really starting to grate on me.

Like for example today went totally fine for the most part, we didn't talk much but mostly because I was on the computer most of today and she went for a walk. I accidentally went out of the house without keys and closed the door (Which has an automatic lock) so I had to go find her so she could open the door for me. (Yes we are living together this early on but its a very short contract and she had nowhere else to stay). This is gonna get kinda ridiculous but I found her and she told me about this big pile of what looked like vomit that stank really bad that fell out of a bin and spread like 30 feet across the road that appeared on her way back from the shop so she asked me if I wanted to see it and of course I was like "Fuck yeah I want to see it!". Then we got to it and cars driving by were swerving to avoid it and it stank so bad it was really funny. It was shopping bags spilled over with rotten vegetables. Loads of them. So we were both dying laughing on the way back and we were talking about it and I was like going off on a tangent thinking about why its funny and I said "Stink is good . . ." preparing to say more when she said "Stink is good? Stay away from me!" kind of jokingly. Then I said "No but it's like . . . stink is bad but this is good because it's like surprise stink. Like I'm happy that I saw that." and she seemed kind of genuinely weirded out by that and I had more to say but she wouldn't let me finish. Now I get that I was being weird but we were talking about stink that entire time and laughing so I don't get why she suddenly needed to silence me on this part? I was expecting her to just laugh or smile. So that was weird. That's one example.

Another is we were watching the muppets movie and I said Janice was gross looking.
This is Janice: vignette1.wikia.nocookie.net/muppet/imag...st?cb=20151008230827
And she seemed kind of pissed off by me saying that so I tried to explain why and I said "She has really exaggerated sexual features but shes a muppet so its really off putting" and she got annoyed at me and accused me of ruining the muppets.
Then later they made a subtle Nazi scientist / Jew joke and I pointed it out and she found it really funny. So why isn't that ruining the muppets? (She didn't know what a yamaka is? Weird when you think she considers herself an intellectual.)
Then later they made a subtle joke about penis enlargement which she got really annoyed at me again for pointing that out. Okay so genocide=okay but anything sexual=horrible?

Then later she started playing Lydia Lunch songs, I didnt really know who Lydia Lunch is but she seemed annoying. My girlfriend watched loads of interviews and basically Lydia Lunch seems to me to be a mentally unstable bitch who's kind of fucked up cos her dad molested her. I gave my opinion on this making occasional comments throughout but gf was dead silent. I know that that means she's in one of her weird "I'm smarter and kinder than everyone else" moods, she gets it while watching recorded lectures or bands she thinks are creative and unique. Lydia Lunches music sounded awful to me, personally, like I can understand liking discordant stuff like that but I can't understand what in gods name you think that proves about your quality of musical taste. Lydia said some shit in an interview that annoyed the fuck out of me (something about all the problems in the world being caused by fathers and power structures and how she is sending an energy that only certain people can pick up on). so I left the room. I came back in a few minutes to see if my girlfriend had stopped watching them and she was still sitting there staring at the interviews but she was stroking her chin with her hand like a fucking cartoon character trying to express deep thought! Do people actually do that? And why do it when you're on your own? And what the hell was she in deep thought about? Energy levels? Power structures? I have no idea.

Idk I wouldn't care if these were just isolated incidents, and they don't happen all the time, most of the time she is nice. But this happens at least once a day? It bugs the fuck out of me and is honestly kind of creepy and confusing.

What I want to know is I am just being a sensitive little bitch or are these subtle things really important? Because these weird things are what draws me out of liking her most of the time and I wanted to give specific examples of the general problems I already talked about incase my descriptions of her are inaccurate. What do you guys think?

Oh and thanks for all your advice so far, basically confirming that if my assessment of her is correct then yes I should break up with her which is honestly kind of a relief to hear someone else say One time she pointed out a girl we walked by that had a way better ass than her talking about how gross her ass was lol.

Have you ever heard of Mark Manson's, 'FUCK YES or No.' concept? Look into it.

Renard wrote: Have you ever heard of Mark Manson's, 'FUCK YES or No.' concept? Look into it.

Hmm but what if this guy www.thedistractionnetwork.com/images/fun...ngnerdorabeaver1.jpg
Tried to apply that? Obviously not gonna work and he should settle.
How do you determine whether you are inapproachable loser that should settle or mid-range guy that can improve his results through self-improvement?

That's a fear I have but I think I should go for it anyway. I'd still like to get more insight into my current relationship though just because its so confusing.