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+1 to what Chris and WG have already said.
I would emphasize the psychological aspects here: her having orgasms will have much more to do with her own comfort first, then psychological arousal second, then appropriate physical stimuli third.
Absolutely she needs to learn her own body before you can do much with it.
Absolutely you both need to work on psychological and physical foreplay. Find a copy of Sex God Method for a good insight as to how proper psychological stimulus works.
Often when I'm in bed with a woman who has trouble reaching orgasm (but who can definitely come) a little reverse-psychology works wonders: I hold her down in a very dominant way as she starts getting close and tell her "Don't you dare come until I tell you to". Then I torture her with every trick I've got for getting her hot and making her come. When I can sense she's really on the edge and actually fighting it I'll then command her to come for me like a good little girl. This can result in some very powerful orgasms for her and if done right can be extremely hot for both of us.
This works by taking the focus off of "trying to come" by putting the emphasis of the sex on me being a dominant sexy guy who is 'denying' her the orgasm she wants. All the pressure on her to have an orgasm is taken away and, voila!, she no longer has a problem reaching orgasm.
I forgot to mention she still experiences pain during sex. She's only ever had sex five times (all with me) and she blames my large dick. haha. So clearly an orgasm with sex is out of the question.
I am going to tell her to play with herself and make herself cum, though I am still going to try and do it myself. What you guys said about it being 95% mental, I couldn't agree more. I once made my ex cum through dirty talk whilst barely moving my dick.
Donny Bamboo wrote: I took her virginity and she hasn't really explored her sexuality much at all. I gave orgasms to my ex easily but this girl is a challenge.
First off, the fact that she's a recent virgin and that you took her virginity explains a lot about why she may not be cumming.
However, there are 100 reasons why women don't cum and we could go through all of them but it would be pointless.
Ultimately, she is responsible for her own orgasms.
If you can manage to fuck her for at least 10 minutes straight with significant movement, having started off with at least 10 minutes of licking and fingering her until she's nice n wet AND SHE STILL CAN'T CUM - I say, it's not your problem.
It's most likely psychological.
I had a girlfriend years ago who never came (for any man and I was by no means her first) and went nuts trying to make it happen: every position, marathon fuck sessions, endless pussy licking - all of it. She never came. Then, she ended up fucking up my confidence in bed and I went from a totally confident fucker to a self-doubter.
I hate to be a downer about this, but this kind of situation is not healthy for us guys.
Give me a liar any day. We men are better off with women who say nothing or lie and say they came (which happens like 75% of the time BTW).
My ex never once orgasmed from sex in her life, she could from a vibrator though. I always thought it was weird how at age 24 I was her first bf, she never orgasmed from sex before, problems with blackout drinking, her shutting me out at times, and her parents having a dysfunctional relationship, like it was all tied together. Your girl sounds just inexperienced, look on youjizz how to make a girl orgasm.
My girl has never had an orgasm from sex. She's been masturbating since the age of about 12 and giving herself plenty of orgasms, and I can always give them to her from oral, but never from sex. She can't have multiple orgasms either - after the first, her clit gets sensitive and further stimulation is unpleasant for her.
Maybe it's because my girth isn't great (4" or so) and I'm the only guy she's had sex with. I'm uneasy about PE though, because if I gain any length I'll be too long for her.
I'm not sure more foreplay will help. Even if I've tied her up and teased her, licked her to orgasm and so on, it doesn't help with the orgasms from sex.
Once she said I gave her an orgasm that was longer and better than usual - this was after alternating penetration and licking her pussy with a couple of pillows under her bum.
I actually just measured it and it's more like 4.5", closer to 5 when it's really hard. My gf and I don't use condoms any more, but we used to use the normal ones. They split on a handful of occasions, but 4.5" isn't so small that you'd have serious problems with normal condoms,
OscarHollywood wrote: Bathmate combined with slow squash jelqs in the form of short sets between each one
If you try not to gain length, you probably won't
And what condoms do you buy with 4" of girth?
4" of girth isn't that thick. You probably will have issues with a large condom falling off.
I was having a nightmare problems with going soft using condoms. I was with my ex ex for 3 years and didn't use a condom once. My ex after wasn't on anything so I had to wear it. It got so bad that I had to google online wtf the problem was. It was getting bad where within 5 minutes of putting a regular condom on I was soft.
My girth is a touch under 6". IIRC, its like 5 3/4". My absolute favorite condom by far is Skyn Large. It's the most sensitive condom I've come across. I tried some microthin Jap ones in "large" size but I guess they were considered large for an Asian male (sorry if this offends anyone Asian on the site) because they were tight as fuck on me. Probably trying Trojan Magnum XL next because they came with the Skyn I ordered. Figure I'll give them a world.
If I had an average sized penis I would use Crown. They're cheap and pretty thin. I bought a bunch of these but they also happened to be the condom I had a ton of problems with.
Fun fact: Most of the condoms you would see male pornstars use back in the day are Crowns. They're red.
Crazy enough, even with the Skyn Large I have a pressure ring around my shaft when I take it off after sex.
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