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For the most part of this year I've hooked up with a beatiful 9. After much dating and insisting from her behalf, I finally agreed to be in a commited relationship with her.
She has always behaved well, obeying me and putting me on a pedestal, being a supportive, loving girlfriend. I enjoyed our time together and fell hard for her. I also f*cked her hard, making her cum several times in a row, sometimes even 8 or 9 times in a night, which left her totally addicted to me.
Recently though, I let my insecurities start slipping out again. In the beggining I was completely alpha, secure, non-needy, but as time went by I fucked up, becoming more jealous and acting more like a little bitch, and felt her growing more and more distant. Two weeks ago I started being at my worst.
Last week we had a big fight over the phone, I mistreated her because of some bullshit, I wanted her to come over and she had some last minute family issues (showed me the texts so I'm pretty sure it's true) , so I gave her shit (not smooth, I know) and at one moment she lost it, said she couldn't take it anymore and asked "for time alone."(Technically not a break up she said, but same shit to me) I insisted that it was unnecessary but to no avail (another fuck up, begging) and she said she'd be calling me.
I reflected on my shitty attitude and realized my mistakes, I honestly have 90% of the fault. Through reflection and quiet contemplation, I put my shit together and my attitude is back on track. I will not make the same errors ever again. I realized that if my game goes down than no matter how much a girl loves you, she can't respect you or stay next to you.
I don't want to lose her, quality girls are hard to find now a days, but I'm unsure of what to do. When (if?) she calls, should I accept a meet up right then and there and make up sex? Or play somewhat hard to get, that I've also been thinking about things and maybe a we aren't right for each other, that I'll be the one to call her this time, etc.
Of course I won't chase, if she doesn't call then it's bye bye. But she is the kind of girl I've been dreaming about my whole life, and I'd hate for a perfectly good relationship to go to waste.
Advice guys? What would be the best course of action.
PS: I know maybe many of you will say "go grind girls get numbers bang bang bang" and other advice like that. I am already banging other girls but none of them fulfill me like this relationship did, that is why I'm on the RELATIONSHIP subforum. I want advice on getting her back, not on replacing her. Maybe I'll get lucky and find another amazing 9 soon but it is, honestly, unlikely.
Honestly, in the past few years I've gotten my game up and banged over a dozen girls, but for most of my life I was a giant loser. I keep my game in check but every so often the bullied, fatherless little kid peeps his head out and ruins shit for both of us. Maybe I'm just being a bitch but this girl is the best thing to happen to me this year, and last year (and the rest of my life) were pretty shitty.
Thanks for reading, In these moments It'd be nice to have the support of a girl but sadly, in the moments when you are weakest, you can only turn to the bro's. Looking forward to talking to y'all.
Chris, I'm a huge fan, you really are the big brother I've never fucking had.
I'm also on a serious relation, and went through a similar thing just this week, so I think I'm apt to give at least some advice. (Chris advice would be on point I'm sure though, or any of the older members)
Yeah basically, you have a good idea on what to do, wait for her to call (she will if she honestly cares about you) sincerely apologize if you hurt her or said something offensive.
Don't beg or act clingy or try to act all lovey dovey right then and there (I hope you understand what I mean by this, I'm NOT saying you should act distant and be an asshole, that doesn't work on healthy girls).
Give her enough time and space for her to forget the situation (again, if she really cares for you, she will) because at this point she has mixed feelings about the situation, on one end, she cares for you, on the other you hurt her.
In general be nice without being a bitch, apologize if you were offensive in some way, tell her you really care for her and it was a mistake of your part, but that it's not gonna happen again.
Try not to give up to your negative feelings again.
Man, just so you don't beat yourself up for thinking you "lost her", honestly it sounds to me that she probably wasn't that into you as you think. Girls when they are in love or really infatuated forgive almost anything, that comes from a guy who has fucked up A LOT of times with four different realtionships where the girls were deeply into me and they just kept coming back, it is unreal
Anyways, yeah definitely work on your neediness issues, Chris has a post on overcoming oneitis and some other useful stuff for you.
Forget about her man, I know it sucks losing someone special, but be grateful you found this site becacuse Chris knowledge is really invaluable.
Remember if you could get with one awesome girl, that means awesome girls find you atractive, and more will come in your way
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