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In sure you know we're all friends on here and anything I say is out of love, homeslice.
That said, it looks like you are really pussy whipped. In situation like that you have to hold your ground man. If she tells you she wants to break up you say okay. If she says she wants to talk about it you say "no that's alright. If you want to break up I understand." Never started backtracking and apologizing.
A lot of girls just go through gnarly mood swings and you have to just roll with the punches and play it cool. I'd go as far as to defend my position if she brought up the cum on your face thing. You need to just say that's what your into and if she isn't that's cool.
You like her more than she likes you, and now you're paying the price for bending over backwards to make her feel good. It's probably too late to gain her respect back, so at this point I would basically only hang out with her if she's coming over to your place to have sex.
It's time to find more girls, this one has had some serious sexual trauma in her past and it's not your job to fix her.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Whatever everyone is saying, you gotta take it with a grain of salt since none of us knows the full story!
Having said that... NEVER EVER let a girl threaten you with breaking up/divorce... EVER!!! You clear?
In a relationship, a woman is more dependent on the man than the man is on the woman! The moment you concede to this kind of threat, you've lost her respect, and your status in the relationship, she got you by the balls! And NEVER allow her or whoever will come in the future to use sex as a punishment...EVER!
If you want to spend your life with someone, they have to be problem-solvers not the opposite! I don't care if she has emotions, we all do, she better know how to control them! And the most important part of long lasting relationships is that none of the partners should be a quitter! The fact that she quits so easily is a red flag! Life has too many difficulties to allow someone so close and so intimate in your life to cause so much drama in your life!
If she quits, you show her the door!
Reading how you handled that made me want to cringe. She basically has your nuts in her hand and she's squeezing them till you say babe please stop.
Now with all due respect. It's time to man up. At this point I'd say she's not right for you and here's why. Because she already said she doesn't like being called babe. Any woman that likes you would never say that unless she's got a screw loose or you make her uncomfortable. And either way it makes a lame in my book and you should dump her just for that.
Second thing that makes her a lame is that she got upset because you like to have sex a certain way. why would you want to be with someone who gets upset with how you like to have sex. It's not like you asked if she would eat your feces or let you piss in her mouth. Pounding a girl hard is fun and nice and any girl worth her lipstick would not only let you bit enjoy it too.
Trust us guys who've been around the block more than once. Most sane and fun girls want the man to enjoy himself and also enjoy being pounded in addition to being cuddled and spooned etc.
Believe us. She's a basket case bro. You're sounding desperate and weak because your basically relinquishing all your man hood to her by supplication and telling her your sorry when you did nothing wrong. Even if she stays you're doomed now because she holds all the power and will always use that leash she has around your balls to keep you in check.
What I would have told her is... "You know what "babe". I always call a girl I adore babe. In addition I like to have rough sex along with soft sensual sex. This who I am. Apparently we're not right for each other because I only want to be with a woman who appreciates me for me and what I enjoy as well as appreciates what I do for her. Whether it's calling you babe or Fucking you so hard tI'll you squirt all over my cock. Sorry to see you go but I hope you find that nice, gentle, soft guy you're looking for. Here's $20 and a Cab."
Be a man and take thr leash off your nuts plop them back inside your drawers, kick her to the curb and breathe a sigh of relief that you can actually be the man you want to be with a better girl.
Trust us bro it seems hard at first we've all been there but you'll thank us later. And she will too.
It's easy to be a Pussy and feel sorry for oneself. It takes a real man to act, despite massive resistance to positive change as a result of lack of clear goals and a clear plan of action.
Most of what I was going to reply has already been said but let me say it again .
A few years ago I would have read these replies and been like these guys are just being hard on you but today I can say they are mostly right.
The only time a woman should threaten to break up with you or anything of that nature is when you have done something drastic ( cheat,.....physical abusive, emotionally abusive) they should leave..... Any thing else is bs and in my opinion takes a lot of nerve. She told u don't call her babe and maybe you guys should break up? Why? Because you like sex a certain way??
I understand the whole story is not revealed but what I would do if you want to continue this situation is try to build up your man hood again and tell her. Hey Iv been thinking about what you said and maybe your right, I really like you but I'm not going to be put into bad situation for myself. Sex is a huge deal for men and women and if one party is not enjoying it , it will throw everything else off.
Remember its not about what she wants
Its not about what you want
Its about what you both want
Gamebreaker32 wrote: We've been texting and hanging out tomorrow night like planned. It's not a big deal she doesn't like facials, like it's not a deal breaker and we are compatible in a lot other ways, personality, interests, place in life. I'm going to bring up the fact that she should bring it up to me if I do something uncomfortable for her. We are both 24, and this is her first real relationship because she has backed out whenever a guy shows to much interests before or goes for guys she can't get, like its been a cycle for her. This is also my first real relationship since getting into game 1 1/2 years ago and I was bad when I first started so I am learning a lot. We are exclusive and have been the whole time we've been dating so there is emotional attachment involved, I haven't gamed in months, even though when I do go out with friends I do open sets and continue the interaction I just don't go for any closes. Going to ride it out for now......give an update after our next hang out, will have a better idea.
The two posters before me are right. You're probably not gonna take my or the others advice, cause your emotions for her are stronger than your sense right now. For sense to break through emotion and channel out into action, takes a huge amount of effort and will. I've been there, but I was with a girl for 2 years who suffered depression and all the things you are writing, resonates so much with what our relationship was.
The cum on face thing is just the beginning. She will slowly but steadily start complaining about other stuff too soon. This is in order to make you safe boyfriend material and keep other women disinterested in you. The vise is closing its grip...
I'm gonna agree with what everyone else is saying. She sounds really weird and manipulative. Don't give into it. I've made that mistake before and learned from it. She will not respect you anymore and she will not get turned on by you. Really unhealthy stuff.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
I would just tread lightly.I think everyone forgot that the OP said 2 weeks ago she was uncomfortable giving head so maybe this girl is a virgin or has a very strict religious background or something. On the other hand, threatening to break up with you over something like that (without even SAYING anything about it) is pretty horrible and a huge red flag.
Back up emotionally from this chick man, I wouldn't be impressed by behavior like that. If you wanna stay with her that's fine, but if she starts pulling more shit/dictates the only times you have sex/etc just let her go. 24's not the age to deal with shit like that.
I'm going to reply one more time, cause this sounds very similar to what I went through with my ex. She was insecure and inexperienced in bed and did not like giving head either. Certainly didn't do it voluntarily.
IF you make her an ultimatum regarding sex, my fear is that she will be even more turned off by you, than she already sounds... It's hard to give advice based on text, but it sounds like you need to play this cool and if you really want this girl, just let her initiate sex next time. Worst you can do is push on for sex. Also, finishing yourself might make her feel inadequate. Again, it's hard to tell, but use it if you want.
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