TOPIC: Shall I call the Oneitis girl?

Hey guys!

I am totally determined to improve my skills and confidence with women and I do day game and night game however without success so far. I will keep trying to meet as many women as possible and I will not go into a monogamous relationship until I am happy with the results I have achieved. There is this girl that I've been into for over a year now. I've tried to kiss her on a few different occasions but she pulled away all the times. I am not seeing any other girls at the moment but as I said I am approaching new girls every week.

The issue is: I want to call her again and try to sleep with her (I am quite sexual with her - always grabbing her ass and touching her boobs ) but my main concern is that I HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER. I am not afraid of rejection, I am just afraid of getting hurt. Honestly I don't really see her as a GF material because she doesn't treat people nice sometimes (which is really important for me) and she also takes like 4-5 days to answer my messages sometimes which I find disrespecful.. She is really charming and sexy and I am always having a great time with her and but I think she might have some issues, not mature enough (we're both 22) or whatever. Shall I just decide not to deal with her anymore and focus entirely on new girls or shall I call her and just do my best to have sex with her and risking to get my feelings messed up.

thanks guys

Welcome to GLL

in answer to your question -
no, move on asap

thanks Chris, I will trust you on this one

what do I do when I bump into her sometime? do I just plain ignore her and act indifferent without even thinking of trying to get anything from her?

HardWorkBeatsTalent wrote: thanks Chris, I will trust you on this one

what do I do when I bump into her sometime? do I just plain ignore her and act indifferent without even thinking of trying to get anything from her?

If you've been chasing for one year or more, you absolutely need to move on. You don't have to be a dick when you see her. Just act like friends and have 30 second conversation if you bump into her at a grocery store or something. If it's at a high energy environment at like a club, give her a smile, say hi, and then forget about her (AKA talk to other girls). No point in chasing.

I listened to Chris' advice and decided not to contact her until I don't care for her anymore. I still could control my actions although I couldn't kill the hope to be with her someday. In March she texted me to go out but I politely refused. Then a week ago I met her accidentally on the street and we had a nice conversation. I texted her later that day an ecouraging message saying how great she is and how she shouldnt be sad (she looked a bit down when I met her). She didn't reply back. That took me out of my skin a little bit and I decided I'm either gonna ask her out and make her my fuckbuddy or she is getting lost. I showed up at the bar she's working and I asked her out. She agreed and even sent me a text the next day to say it was nice seeing me there and to apologize she didn't have the time to talk to me. I texted her back if she's available Thursday night and she didn't reply for a whole day so before I went to bed I texted her that I don't tolerate when people make me waiting and if she 's gonna reply she better do it in a timely manner. She answered that she doesnt have to reply straight away and she's not going to. I said I will let that one slide and I asked her if she wants to meet up tonight to which again she takes fucking too long to reply and I just blocked her before I got any response.
Obviously I have oneitis and I think that by totally cutting her off I managed to kill all the hope inside me. I am just looking for some opinion on the situation - not how to improve the things with that girl - obviously everything is done already.

I am already trying to do the ''look good, talk to girls'' thing but you know that the second part is quite hard and I am still not successful.
I really don't tolerate when girls take forever to answer message having in mind I am sure they are not mad busy and I just refuse to put up with that shit..

anyway any advice on my behavior?

I am already trying to do the ''look good, talk to girls'' thing but you know that the second part is quite hard and I am still not successful.
I really don't tolerate when girls take forever to answer message having in mind I am sure they are not mad busy and I just refuse to put up with that shit..

anyway any advice on my behavior?

Your behavior is that of a guy who has a scarcity mentality and is needy for validation from women. This isn't something to be ashamed of, just what you need to be aware of and overcome.

First: When you have a lot of options with women and a bunch of dates/hookups lined up for your week, you won't be hung up on what one particular girl is doing or not doing in your communication with her. Instead of getting upset that she's not answering you you'll just laugh and do something or someone else, or not even notice because some other girl is messaging you. Work on developing a life of abundance so that you are never needy and dependent like this anymore (this applies to your professional life too, btw, but that will take longer to accomplish). The ways to do this are well described in Chris' articles and in many other paces such as the Sedfast forum (I know, I know, 'PUA' stuff but there's still a lot of great information there and they've put a lot of work into organizing the information. It's a good resource.)

Second: You are expecting girls to behave the way you want them to behave instead of accepting that they are behaving exactly like girls always behave and adjusting yourself accordingly. There is nothing wrong with girls behaving that way at all, actually. That's just how they are. You can't change girls being girls anymore than you can change the way lightning strikes or the way the moon orbits the earth. What you can change is your reaction to it, your own behavior and your expectations.
It may seem completely alien to you now, but if you keep at this stuff and work on internalizing these concepts you will learn to love women and enjoy them for exactly what they are instead of being bitter and angry over all the ways they disappoint you by not comporting with your ideals of how they should be.