TOPIC: Howcome I never read anyone mentionning how exhausting being a player is?

Woke up with a hardcore headache. Was awake until 8am trying to get in a girls pants as usual(failed). I was still tired from my shitty night of sleep from a late night "booty" call. Of course this girl doesnt get horny in the middle of the afternoon on weekends, she needs me after a couple drinks when she's hit the town. That's how it works.
I've also been wanting to see two girls from my past who live two hours and a half away I dont know how I'll fit this day trip in my tight upcoming schedule.

I've got to jump through all those hoops and play mindgames to get casual sex here and there.


In college or high school it's perfectly fine to enjoy the party lifestyle and take part in regular late night social activity, travel and commute all the time to see girls. You may skip a few hours of sleep here and there and miss days of school without much trouble.


As an adult with a full-time job and other necessary responsibilities, it's hard to still be in the game.
Regular sex from the same woman, as boring and depressing as it is to someone who's been hooking up with multiple new females regularly for a long time, is the only realistic option outside of prostitutes, which are a completly different thing.

Men do not become "mature"(by women's standards) when they leave college. It's just that trying to "slay" as an active young man is gonna put you through an exhausting routine.

I've been reading a lot of male dating shit in the past couple years. I've never read any player complaining about how tough being chasing/fucking pussy actively is. I sure have been through brutal physical challenges with mma fighting, manual labor, military experiences and I've always been one of the most durable guys in those situations. And I feel like being hooking up regularly as an active adult is up there, a very tough physical challenge due to the crazy hours, the driving, the partying, the drama the bizarre situations... Why is that?

cliffs: 1 Accepting monogamy isn't really a mature choice, it's just that banging multiple girls every year is too exhausting when you consider the bigger picture.
2 Why do I never read about players mentionning how physically grueling being a player is?

i 100% agree and i'm not even a hardcore player like these other guys

i have settled for handjobs and even nothing when i've sensed there's going to be hours of fucking LMR.. fuck staying up until 3am trying to bust a nut, i'd rather sleep

i also don't really see girls on the nights before work, because the next day i'm always fucked up

It's a very unhealthy lifestyle indeed and I have gotten lazier with this too.

I went through a hardcore phase two years ago, did enjoy a lot of success but it took its toll on my health and my job.

Its true, being a player is a part time job, with first dates, repeats, texting, scheduling, online messaging you can be looking at 20 hours a week.

I don't think being a hardcore player is for everyone, it certainly ain't for me. If you have time on your hands and a willigness to play the game, then sure.. if you got other priorities then women become tiresome as fuck

I agree, it's fucking exhausting.

As a 30 yr old who's been pretty active the past year, there's been times where I've basically been completely burnt out,
and it's funny, I never really realized that it might have to do with all the hours I've been putting into "the game" and fucking
new girls, fuck buddies, having drinks on weekdays when on dates, the stress on the system in various ways, etc, etc

I mean just cumming a lot in itself puts a fair amount of stress on the body, and calls for regeneration (of jizz, bahahaha)

You just have to look at:

1) what you want (multiple girls, 1 girl, etc)
2) how can you get there? (obviously with a GF you can't have multiple pussies)
3) how much time/effort you're willing to invest

As you say, sex with the same woman does get old pretty damn quick IMO, so having a committed relationship is def not for me right now,
I'll wait till I find someone special and want to have kids, etc, in like 5 + years I think..

But yeah, good topic, it's quite often a complete oversight!

I agree with everything thats been said. Ive been following the GLL lifestyle for almost a year now and things have been great. My ED is prettty much cured and im getting laid more in the last couple weeks than I ever have in my life ( im 26 ). Fucked 3 different girls from pof at random times. But yeah all the driving, partying, bad sleep habits, working out to look good, texting tons of girls to play the numbers. Im completley burnt out right now. Think Ill probly just be ignoring my phone the next week or so to recharge the batteries.

yeah thats why fuckbuddies are the best and "retention" is the biggest thing

Exactly ^^^

New pussy is good and all, but it's better when you aren't relying on it to get laid. Nice
to find a couple of stable FBs ++ have the ability to go out and if you happen to run
into some nice new sexy ass, then it's icing on the cake.

Very interesting responses ITT, thanks. But fuckbuddies usually turn into Cameron Diaz in Vanilla Sky situations in my case. I have to question a lot of things about myself and my possible nice guy/boy friend material vibe. But I don't think it's in the nature of females to enjoy casual relationships.


I've done the multiple girlfriends thing. They rarely find out about each other but the main difficulty lies in limiting the time you must invest in each one. They quickly get frustrated. That's why having fuckbuddies who live at least an hour away is a good deal they'll ask you less given the time you spend on the road, and less chances that they will bump into each other. I did best when I lived between two cities.

Yeah man, being a player is a full time hobby. And it is a difficult life style, not everyone can live it.

It is exhausting having a full time job, lining up dates every night of the week, going out hitting on girls in bars 3-4 nights a week.. Combine that with a full time job and hitting the gym and PE if you do it and that is about as full of a plate that anyone can get.

For me though, going to be honest, fucking a new girl for the first time is one of the best feelings in the world.

Also, I think this lifestyle is all about choices and being able to do what ever the fuck you want with your life. If you want to teak a break for a month or two to recoup, then do it.. know what I mean?

everything u described sounds like a dream except for the fulltime job. Not worth being a player until ur a free man.