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I'm in the process of making a full commitment to quitting smoking. If you want to quit then this thread is for you.
I highly recommend the book "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking" by Allen Carr. I'm sure there are other websites and books out there, but that is the one that works for me.
I'll summarize the main points of the book, followed by my own personal sticking points.
1. You have to accept that nicotine is an addiction. The reason people seem to find it enjoyable is because it relieves the slight withdrawl symptoms that come after a period of not smoking. The catch is, the reason you are feeling anxious to smoke is because of the anxiety caused by the previous cigarette. In order to quit you must accept that you smoke because you are addicted to nicotine, not because you find it enjoyable or it relieves stress. Smoking causes stress and only relieves the stress that it causes. That is the paradox of smoking.
2. Cutting down method doesn't work. It doesn't work because all you are doing is prolonging the effects of the withdrawl symptoms (which are just mild anxiety and restlessness) until you can finally let your self have a cigarette. This counterproductive because that cigarette becomes more valuable since you waited so long.
3. The will-power method doesn't work. The will-power method is a method were a smoker believes that if he can make it a certain amount of days without smoking then eventually he'll stop thinking about smoking. It doesn't work. The entire time he feels he is making a "sacrifice" and all those days are focused on just not smoking cause him to feel miserable.
4. Don't feel like your missing out when you see other smokers. They are the ones still suffering from the vicious cycle of smoking, not you.
Basically the book suggest smoking the entire time while you read it. It works because you become more and more aware of the real reasons you smoke as you read along, until eventually you can't wait to smoke that last cigarette and move on with your life. It is helpful to just quit and immediately jump right back into you life. No sitting around wishing you could smoke.
Now I will share some personal beliefs that cause me to smoke. See if you understand "addiction" then you know that your mind will try to come up with illogical reasons to pick up another pack. This is your "addictions" way of manipulating your mind to get what it wants.
Here are some of mine:
1. Cigarettes give me a sense of being a bad boy. It gives me a "I don't give a fuck attitude". I don't give a fuck about dying and I certainly don't give a fuck about getting rejecting by women. See the fallacy in my logic? I am using cigarettes as a crutch. I don't feel confident without them because I am addicted to them not because the cigarettes give me a boost. Having a "I don't give a fuck attitude" is part of my personality, not something I can get from smoking.
2. Smoking after sex is awesome. FALSE. The reason I smoke after sex is since I've already been satisfied sexually, there is another need to satisfy, my ADDICTION. Normal people just feel satisfied after sex but people with a nicotine still have to smoke to reach a normal level of satisfaction. Thus is the nature of addiction.
3. When I drink I am more easily influenced into smoking. This is because drinking clouds my logical thought process and my addiction can get an upper hand. Simply I have to understand that situations that involve drinking are still enjoyable without smoking.
4. Asking for a light is a great way to start a short conversation. Also, when standing outside public places it doesn't look creepy since I have a reason to be standing there, to fuel my addiction. This is a fallacy. There are millions of ways to start conversations and I can stand where ever the fuck I choose. Actually, unless I am acting really out of the norm nobody gives a fuck where I stand and for how long I do it. Everyone is too busy with their own lives.
5. This is my biggest sticking point. Depression, loneliness, and loss. It is when I'm at my most weakest, it is when I truly stop caring about how long I live, that smoking always makes a comeback. Depression and loss are natural parts of life. They are things that happen to everyone at some point in their lives. They are things that every person must learn to cope with. Smoking doesn't make these feelings go away.
Sorry for the super long thread. But I know someone out there who truly wants to quit smoking and thinks like I do, might benefit from reading it.
Feel free to drop you own personal advice about quitting in this thread.
After another failed attempt at quitting I am willing to give Chantix a try.
Anything is better than living a life were I systematically suffocate myself with deadly toxins because I am addicted to nicotine. It has no benefits. The "confidence" boost is an illusion. The "bad boy" image is an illusion. All it does is cause you to be addicted and kill yourself slowly.
Enough is enough.
I will post my results with Chantix in this thread.
**Disclaimer: I have a family history of mental issues so if I start feeling depressed or suicidal (highly unlikely) I will post it on here. Hopefully someone will be smart enough to get me the help I need in case that does happen.**
you'll want to buy the 1mg pills and cut them in half for the first week... its important to taper up so you don't get any issues. I'd say there's about 8-9 (maybe 10?) of my friends have used it ... ALL with success. the worst side effects were sleep distrubances for the first week. 2 of them take SSRIs, I don't know how mental illness-- but they weren't SUPER HAPPY people haha.
If you start feeling sad/depressed (again it's a significant minority). Come on here, talk to me. Chantix's half is fairly short so any negative thought shouldn't last too long.
Please no Private Messages. Post thread on with the word "Chris" or "GLL" in it if you absolutely need to get my input. Thank you for your understanding.
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