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I just realized the weirdest fucking thing about me and it hit me like a shit-ton of bricks, maybe it is because I am in America and we were founded on Puritan culture and I also grew up in an assbackwards part of this country than a cool city. Never had a college experience or much of a high school experience.
Earlier this year I turned 27 but I feel like socially I am not really 27. Sure I have a job and can support myself but so many people around my age are in a "been there done that" stage when it comes to partying, going out, drinking, and the crazy shit that comes with that.
I just realized that a lot of my friends are also younger than me too, like early to mid twenties, I don't have that many friends around my age.
It feels like everyone around my age is getting married, having kids, starting families, and taking life "serious" but I cannot relate. I just want to make a lot of money, fuck a lot of hot women (which you guys will make happen), and do the shit I missed out on in my college days and early 20s.
Its like everyone else my age is worrying about mortgage, family, and kids while I am worrying about if I will ever have enough wild stories involving alcohol, sex with hot girls, and parties.
Anyone else been there?
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Man child syndrome - Feeling socially too young for your age, anyone else?
28 Aug 2019 07:48 #320721
Yes. I didn't start going out to bars until I was 28. (Currently 32) By then some of my friends already had kids, and since then more have had kids.
None of them are really content. They all complain about bills, their relationships are shitty with domineering women that are fat and/or unattractive, and they've all gotten fat. Some of them are even alcoholics.
Also guess what, they all believe in "game" and whatever girls they fucked they got by tricking off money. Some of them even lie about their ability with girls because deep down they know they can't get laid without money.
So I get you. But I'm not looking for crazy experiences as much as I'm looking to not end up like my friends and always be able to get laid without using my bank account to validate myself. They're my main motivation to lose weight and hit on chicks, the two main things none of them ever did.
I feel something similar, and you'll find a similar sentiment throughout manosphere type communities. It's a question of your values which you have to define for yourself. The whole Peter Pan syndrome is some pretty shamey shit when you think about it. You're not hurting anyone else with your lifestyle, and a lot of people using it on you always seem to come around to the fact that you aren't giving up your freedom to commit to a woman. Who's being more selfish, the person living their life for themselves, or the person expecting others to live their lives for them?
Realistically, if you have friends to do the things you want with and can get the girls in the age range you are attracted to, what is there to worry about? Even if the people settling down end up highly content, which many more than demonthatdevours will attest isn't exactly always true, who cares? Outside perhaps certain career paths where your lifestyle will be a social hurdle to progression, their opinions don't affect you.
And you aren't like a woman, highly strapped for time by your biological clock. You have time to come around to wanting a family and follow through with it.
You are never standing still. You're either moving forward or backward.
Chill, bruh. I didn't even find GLL or start trying to get laid until 27.
Stop obsessing about what everybody else is doing, and just focus on yourself. If you feel you haven't had enough sex/partying/fun, then make that your number 1 priority and dedicate yourself to it for a few years.
"It feels like everyone around my age is getting married, having kids, starting families, and taking life "serious" but I cannot relate. "
I'm glad you started this sentence with "it feels like" - you're aware this is just how you're feeling, but it's not necessarily objective reality. You're confirmation biasing - focusing on the people who are settling down, and ignoring the millions of 27 year olds who are partying, getting laid, etc.
Go out and live your own life, do your own thing. Go find friends who are also into getting laid, and stop obsessing about the ones who want to settle down.
ETA wrote: You need to move to a big city. At 27 you'll feel young. There's people in their 30s that are still going to school, building careers or starting businesses. Place yourself where you feel your best.
This is definitely sound advice, but so difficult to follow if you're broke. Especially since bustling metropolises have the worst traffic and the highest cost of living.
I know these are excuses, but their valid excuses nevertheless.
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