TOPIC: How open are you about your player lifestyle?

Do you let the people in your life know that chasing pussy is something you value and spend time on? Who do you let in on the fact that you have sexual/non monogamous relationships with multiple women? Do you tell your friends, family, co workers, girls you’re seeing, etc... about it or do you keep your cards close to the vest?

Being a player is definitely an alternative lifestyle and not for the faint of heart. Personally, I prefer to keep things to myself but it’s not always possible. I wish I didn’t give a fuck but I get paranoid at times. Just curious as to how you guys deal with this.

I tell my family and my friends. I'm a very transparent person when it comes to my goals and aspirations.

My friends and family are smart and understand that I need to do this for myself in order to have a healthy relationship later in life, to be confident and never worry about living a lackluster life.

Pretty much the only people that oppose it are friends in long-term/long distance relationships and my sister cause she's a feminist. But they don't affect me in any way by opposing my lifestyle. I don't think there's anything wrong with this lifestyle but the public would find it a little scummy.

I've told my close mates. Haven't told my family.

I tell every single girl I'm seeing that I'm not monogamous, never will be, have had a vasectomy, never want to settle down, will never ever be monogamous. I've also told my 2 current main girls about GLL, about these forums, about getting good with girls, etc.

Everybody I've ever told has been supportive. I've never had anyone say "That's weird" or "I don't like that" anything negative.

I'm fairly discrete when it comes to my lifestyle.

My close friends who are important to me pretty much all know I've been on this journey. However, I literally don't tell anyone else about my sex life.

When I'm with a group of guys or girls talking about dating, I never share my own stories. I listen to other peoples' stories and nod along, laugh, and keep my opinions to myself. I regularly hear guys giving terrible advice to each other, and I never, ever but in. I let them make their own mistakes. It's very rare for me to give girl advice to anyone who doesn't explicitly ask for it.

My coworkers literally all thought I was a classic goody goody two-shoes. I cultivated a professional persona so clean cut that they essentially had no idea who I was. It was useful for safety and privacy purposes. My family sort of knows that I prioritized my dating life, but only my little brother knows the whole story.

With girls, I now absolutely refuse to give them any detail about my dating life. I never talk about other girls, and I never tell them how many girls I've had sex with.

The most important rule of all: never tell anyone who you had sex with. If you have sex with a girl in your social circle, GUARD IT LIKE A SECRET. If girls see you are discrete and won't brag about your sexual conquests to the other guys, word will get out between the other girls in your social circle that you are "safe" to have sex with because you keep your mouth closed.

Don't kiss and tell, GLL is the only exception. Keep your sex life a secret, for maximum results. Plus it makes you look humble anyway.

Only name, rank, and serial number

Keep your life’s appearance as vanilla and boring as possible. You’ll never ever regret keeping things a secret. Nod and smile. Never give ANY unsolicited advice.

What’re you doing tonight? Netflix and Hungry Man microwave meal NOT 19 y/o tight Filipina and steak and potatoes.

Great answers here.

I tell my parents mostly everything, I spare them the graphic details but I'll send my mom pics of me with girls sometimes just for shits and giggles.

I tell my roommates EVERYTHING, they know my entire life top to bottom, I'm 100% open with them with chicks, business, self improvement, gym, eating, and everything is open for discussion. That's part of the reason why I moved in with them. Although they don't have the same aspirations with chicks as I do, they respect and understand it and think somewhat similarly. We have our business numbers and goals written on a whiteboard in our living room (basically the centerpiece). This gets hidden when people come over for obvious reasons lol.

I like what BIB said about shutting up about smashing social circle girls. You guys probably know from experience that loose lips sink ships. Dudes and girls WILL talk about you. Girls as a whole don't want to be talked about and known for sleeping around. So make yourself a "safe play" and you'll get more pussy because of it. I can attest to that from 2014-15 (when I did NOT follow this advice lmao)

This subject falls into a similar one of getting visible tattoos. When I got my arms and legs tattooed, people immediately make inferences that you are less of a goodie 2 shoes, you're more of a down to earth mother fucker, but all that can be hidden when I go to business meetings/work (my old co workers didn't even know I had tats for YEARS until I told them and showed them). It's one of the reasons why I haven't gotten hand or neck tattoos, and why I'm still undecided on them. You can't hide that shit EVER so you literally might lose out on a huge business deal because of it. If that's worth it to you, go right ahead. I'll make that decision when the time comes. Same as for girls. You'll be looked at differently depending on who you tell this stuff to, so obviously keep that in mind.

You have to ask yourself, "Do I WANT to be known for this? Do the benefits outweigh the negatives?" For me this comes down to "Can I make money from this, or not?" If no, then don't say shit. If yes, by all means, go ahead (like GLL Chris).

GravyTrain,

Right now don't get those hand/neck tattoos.The only people I see who can pull them successfully are tattoo artists or rappers/musicians.

Its not worth it.

Get a chest tattoo like BIB.I am planning on getting one when I cross 50 lays or next year,which ever happens faster.

Right now no one outside this forum knows my activities or plans or my frustrations

Before I used to share some of it with my brother but since some time,I have kept him out of this loop.He is in that marriage and family mood and I don't want to hear his lectures about family and shit.

The only time I shared my future or about game with college friends was in 2012 and they laughed on my face.So not to them too.

Now that I have a bit of experience on girls and life,I don't want to share it with anyone anymore.If someone asks me about marriage/girls and shit like that I just give a small laugh,nod at appropriate places and keep quiet.

GravyTrain,

Right now don't get those hand/neck tattoos.The only people I see who can pull them successfully are tattoo artists or rappers/musicians.

Its not worth it.

Get a chest tattoo like BIB.I am planning on getting one when I cross 50 lays or next year,which ever happens faster.

Already got both pecs done a few years back. Next is finishing both sleeves. I'm gonna skip the hand a neck tats for the forseeable future, if I get them at all.

Right now no one outside this forum knows my activities or plans or my frustrations

This is okay. But I suggest you find at least ONE person in real life to confide in, and talk to about this shit. Meeting people from GLL in real life has been one of the best time investments I've had.