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I had been meaning to read the whole series and I finally did today.
Your story is definitely inspiring man, thanks for sharing it. Honestly, I wouldn't have been able to try as hard as you did (have).
I'm also glad I'm not the only one who's noticed Tinder has changed their algorithm.
Anyway, I really find it fucking strange you are not getting laid with new girls. I remember your style thread, and the clothes you bought looked really solid on you, plus your body is definitely top 1%.
Also, if people would like a full statistical breakdown of all my data during the project (approaches, dates, lays and locations) let me know. [/i]
I would definitely like to know if you kept statistics for your approaches in terms of your style, like what style you were rocking when doing your approaches and how that influenced your success.
TheBestIsYetToCome wrote: You have great determination and I admire that.
So what changed?
Tinder and other online platforms where 75% of my successes came from became far less reliable.
Flakes rates increased drastically. The fewer matches I had no longer responded.
The rest of the world has adopted social media, Instagram and mediums by which legions of men can contact any individual girl online.
Globalisation? Westernisation? Whatever. Technology. One thing for certain is it will never slow down. Economic collapses and nuclear holocausts aside.
Girls in these ‘easier’ places now have so much more choice and options with men from all over the world that the average man who wants a sex life at all (never mind a sex life that doesn’t involve having to promise monogamy to a girl) needs to become well above average to stand a chance.
This part in particular doesn’t add up. You went from some success to no success in less than two years. The world doesn’t change that quickly... it can’t all be the fault of a few Tinder algorithm changes and more chicks using Instagram.
This feels like very “incel thinking”... blaming society because you’re not getting laid.
Thanks guys for your kind words and responses. Not going to address what Thebestisyetocome has said except that he has missed the point entirely and probably didn't actually read everything I wrote.
Its funny cuz my dry spell continues even when I have arguably never been in better shape. I do have some tricks up my sleeve however which may turn the tides - we shall see.
Ok Jake, I will do that and post as comprehensively as I can. It will take a while though and probably there will be quite a few gaps in the data. But maybe it will be very helpful for me (and others) in ascertaining where to go forward from here
Hey Jake! Thanks so much for posting those. I have quite a few pics like that first one cuz me and my friend (who is a photography wiz and also a GLL) did a full photoshoot in Asia on an exotic island. I guess he prefers the more natural approach but I see where you are coming from.
After all with tinder you need to do whatever it takes short of actually modifying body parts to get the job done!
Would you be able to send me those 2 photos in their maximum resolution forms?
Do you know Jordan Peterson? Lot of people don't like him for his political activism, but he has some awesome videos on YouTube, addressing the lack of purpose the men today have. It really made me realize a lot of things about my life goals and the purpose we are all seeking
It's not everything, but it could give you a little push you need (as you say, you don't have that fire inside you). In fact, I think it did exactly that thing for me
Pussy isn't everything, in the end you just chase something to make you feel good for a moment
Imo you need something cool in your life that makes your mind occupied when you don't have a girl, so you don't have to hate yourself and feel empty. Like I totally have a mission that helps me with that, every day I'm closer to my goal. If I didn't have that, I would have a never ending depression. Take my word for it, I was in a really bad spot for my whole life before I went on my "journey"
And I had more than one of those "journeys", where I thought it's *the* thing. Like, first I studied medical school, I thought it was my passion, I quit that, I was in a really dark place for a few years... then went on to another thing which I'm pursuing now... and I totally believed it was the purpose of my life at the time, well it wasn't... there are many, and it's just how you perceive it at the time. I wouldn't wanna be a doctor anymore, even if you told me I can start tomorrow with everything magically appearing in my head
Btw, you just need to try a bunch of shit to see what you like
You can't force yourself to "find a passion", like a lot of people do
I truly believe passion is found through hard work and not something that just comes to you on a whim (it might too of course!)
Like I became quite passionate about data analysis and data science, and that's the kind of "nerdy shit" I would have never thought I could like before my job promotion actually led me to a position where I get to analyse stuff. I even had to learn to program a bit and now I'm wondering if I might wanna get a job as a coder somewhere down the road, because I realized I really kinda like it
And those are all things that I not only didn't know about 2 years ago, if you asked me I would have told you I hate it! But because of the circumstances ... I just grew to like it so much I might wanna make it a full blown career.
So, my point is ... you're old enough that you might not find your passion until you get knee deep into something. We are not children anymore that see an astronaut and suddenly think it's awesome and like a flip of a switch have a dream that they wanna become an astronaut... it's more complicated now
And, it's also good to have some kind of a direction, that "holy grail" if you will. For me that's moving to Japan. Like, I wouldn't do any job that wouldn't allow me to do that. My mind just wouldn't let me become passionate. Luckily for me, the job I have is quite a good option for moving to any country, so if I become good at it, it might reward me with that holy grail I'm seeking. And there you have it, boom, brain suddenly becomes passionate cause it knows that this stuff is awesomely in line with my goal. Like, I believe I wouldn't even like the job I do so much if I didn't believe it might help me land a job abroad. It just all slowly happens to be coming together like lost pieces of a puzzle.
Direction. Important. Even though I enjoy it, job is just a means for me to reach this "endgame"... and luckily for me, the internal reward system of the brain believes it's "good", so it keeps me kinda motivated, I'm trying not to interrupt and just continue the "ride" ...
Yes I am very familiar with Peterson. I actually saw him live a short while ago (not a cheap event let me tell you!).
And yes, you are absolutely on the money with regard to doing something that keeps your mind occupied that is far more important than any girl or lack of.
I have always ‘known this.’ Just like I ‘knew’ when I was a teenager, that someday, ‘one day,’ I would cold approach girls. I was never ready for it all those years due to a multitude of personal issues. But the time came. And I knew it. I was awoken. And I took action. And I had a tiny bit of success in the end.
I believe as far as becoming a self-employed multi-field entrepreneur is concerned, it is a matter of time. Actually I already have made significant headway towards setting up the foundation to breaking free from the corporate world. 2019 will be huge in this regard. So 2018 hasn’t been as much of a waste as I initially thought. Not the best year but not a total failure either.
I think a lot of it is fear of trying new things. Feeling I am not capable of succeeding in certain things and uncertainty about what I am actually good at.
Sounds to me like you are in a really good place right now, spending time in a country you are passionate about. And doing a job that brings you validation, mission and happiness. The gradual piecing together of the puzzle…
I started doing a lot of new things as far as hobbies are concerned which won’t actually lead anywhere in terms of making money or replacing my job. For example martial arts which I am falling in love with more and more, bodybuilding and languages. The last would be a possibility but an online translation business requires language proficiency levels that will take years of dedication to attain. But I am learning a lot as I go. I notice that there is HUGE truth to nofap and avoiding porn 100% of the time – messing with dopamine really does screw you up in the long-term. That shit is really needed for what it was intended for. Reward for things that actually help you in life.
I suppose I can summarise my current state as being mildly frustrated with the final results of all my effort. I succeeded somewhat and got a generous batch of lays to look back on. Got the monkey off my back. Sowed my wild oats far and wide (and I mean far and wide!). I hoped so hard and had faith I would ‘level up’ to a stage where I could put in a quantifiable and SUSTAINABLE degree of effort whilst never having a ‘dry spell’ or dead sex life again.
Funny thing is, I spent over 50% of the year sexless by default as I work at sea. This is the first thing that needs to change. The other 50% I am dependent upon one woman without my very powerful needs for variety and redundancy being met. The frustration comes from the feeling there is a ceiling to how much more I can self-improve (especially in the physical and style sense) and that I am having to put in insane levels of effort to get girls who aren’t even on what I consider to be my level ‘6+). What I really desired from this whole journey is to be able to get laid whenever I want – this means having a permanent rotation of 3 + girls with the ability to replace any girls who disappear within a reasonable period of time. Reaching such a level will ensure I will be best equipped to focus on career and goals without my mind wandering to the concerns of my beastly sex drive, which if not satisfied and controlled, will surely wreak havoc on all my endeavours.
I am happy to say that I finally got laid after almost a year dry spell. What might surprise you is that although I was in South-east Asia, it was a girl from North America. Turns my anticipation of banging 10+ girls in a fortnight was a vast overestimation and in the end I didn’t bang any local girls. I probably could have and ploughed through the crazy LMR but they would have all been 5s. It wouldn’t have given me a lot of pleasure anyway given how I am not even into Asian girls as well as my increased focus on retention and consistency.
I am now spending quite a lot of time now going down memory lane, dissecting all these old golden eagle project logs and spreadsheets. I think it is probably the most productive thing I can do because in the end I will have some statistics which may help point me in the direction of what is most likely to work should I eventually be motivated to hit the streets once again.
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