TOPIC: I got my side chick pregnant

I've been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now. I love her, she's the love of my life and I'm planning to marry her, well at least I was. She is one of the hottest woman I've ever been with. She's Peruvian, she's got a smoking body and a great ass and she's beautiful, smart, funny, educated and she's a general doctor trying to get her residency to become a surgeon.

A few months ago, my 21 year old neighbor knocks on my door, I open the door and she tells me she was late for work and had left her keys in the car and it was locked. Now keep in mind I've been living in my house for 15 years and not once had we ever spoken to each other until this day. So I go to her car and try to open it with a coat-hanger. I tried several times but it was just too damn hard to reach the unlock button. I'd tell her that she needed to talk to a locksmith and I offered her a ride to work instead. She accepts my offer and I take her to work. We're talking about how it was funny that we never talked before and I told her that I had seen her at a nightclub a couple months ago, she smirks and tells me why I didn't say hi and buy her a drink. I leave her at work and think nothing of it and go back to my house.

The next night after getting out from work, I'm arriving at my door and my neighbor walks up to me and invites me out to a party with her co-workers. I declined her offer, told her I had to get up early to go to work (I lied.) she then tells me well if you change your mind text me and gives me her number. I didn't call her or text her, I just fell asleep until the next day at 12am she texted me, told me she wanted to hang out so I tell her to come over.

We were drinking beer outside of my house (my girl does not live with me btw) I begin to grab her by those fine thick legs she had and begin asking about her tattoos while touching them. Then we held hands one thing led to another and I was kissing her, touching her tits, and rubbing her pussy. She then tells me she was gonna use the bathroom and I take her inside the house. When she got out, we started making out some more and then we were naked about to have sex. I grab a condom, put it on, and the worst thing happens My boner dies, she then begins to suck my dick, tells me she wanted to do that since she was 15 years old. I was in the heat of the moment I had no time to go back for a condom, she tells me she's on birth control. So I stick it raw inside of her, bang the shit outta of her in the living room, and to be safe I pulled out and came in her face.

About a month and a half later, I see her snapchat and she has one of those first response pregnancy things and it says shes pregnant. I text her and tell her whose is it and she says I was the last person she was with. She says I'm the father. I panic. I tell her that she has to abort, that she cant have a baby. That were not a couple. She gets very defensive and tells me that she is having the baby whether I want to or not. She said "my body, my kid, my choice!" and she told me that she didn't need me and that she wasnt going to ask me for anything, not even child support. I believe her because she already has a 5 year old with her ex boyfriend and she told me that he didnt pay child support because she dont need nothing from no man. So I told her you cant be doing this bullshit, I dont want a kid from you and I blocked her out of anger. Havent spoken to her in a month.

I don't know what to do. My girlfriend wants to get married and move in with me but I just dont know if I should tell her and break her heart. Thats the last thing I want to do. My conscience is killing me and dont know what to do. What do you guys think?

TL;DR: I got my side chick pregnant, girlfriend doesnt know, what should i do?

Do you want people to tell you what you want to hear or what you need to hear? You know the RIGHT thing to do.

HOWEVER, you need to make sure that kid is yours. DNA test. Period. Don't get ganked.I assume you're pretty successful yourself given how successful your GF is. I'm also assuming this 21 year old girl with no money, skills or life experience is looking for a Captain Save a Ho, regardless of she says she doesn't need a man.

You didn't get that girl pregnant, man.

You had sex with her one time and didn't cum in her. You know what the odds are that you actually got her pregnant? Like a million to one.

It's not your kid. If she is even pregnant, she's just trying to pawn off the responsibility on you. DON'T sign the birth certificate , no matter how much anyone tries to pressure you into it. If you do that, guess what: the kiddo is now legally yours.

I cannot emphasize this enough: she is NOT pregnant with your kid. You can't get someone pregnant by cumming on their face lol. People like to say that you can get girls pregnant from precum, but that's only a technicality. TECHNICALLY it is possible to impregnate someone with precum. The chance of it actually happening is almost nothing. Go do some research so you can put your mind at ease.

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Stop worrying, and more importantly stick with your game plan and don't talk to this chick anymore. She knows it's not your kid, and once she recognizes you aren't going to put up with her bullshit, she'll move on to the next chump and trap him instead.

Possible, but very unlikely the precum got her pregnant. I would never hit a side chick without a hat. Coulda gave your main a std off some dumb shit. Yeah tell her to get DNA tested and......

Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.

Unblock her, because if it is yours, and this ends ugly, every bad day she has (traffic fine, period, favorite star gets booted from reality show) your ass is going to be in and out of court. This is ASSUMING she is pregnant and IT IS yours.

You do know there are entire sites setup to fake a pregnancy right? You also stated it was her dream to do this since she was 15 years old, to suck you off? Maybe she is trying to get you as a BF then fake a miscarriage, you feel like shit and then try have a real kid with her, or you go gloves off because she is "pregnant" and then get her really pregnant. In Google go ahead and type "faking a pregnancy..." and some of the automatic searches will be "faking a pregnancy to KEEP HIM". It is their biggest weapon. Precum only....cough cough

If this is killing your conscience I think you know what to do. The way to pull out the lie is simply to ask to go to the doctor with her and see what she says. If she says "yes" she could also be bluffing, so agree to it, and wait, she may have a "miscarriage" the day before the appointment.

Listen to BIB about the birth certificate. Tell her, if it is true with the Doctors appointment, you want a paternal test, then from there you can decide what is best for the setup.

If this is already on your conscience, it will eat you alive into your grave, if you ignore it, plus she can always return and also FORCE you to get a paternal test anyway one day through court order.

Most likely it is not yours as from precum the sperm is dead or very little and it is very hard to get pregnant. Everything has to go right in a miracle sort of way. Assuming she is pregnant.

If she never allows you to go to the doctors, or doesn't allow you to have a paternal test, you may have your answer...be nice and act like a "caring father to the child". Do not go about it in an enemy sort of way. Tell her it is your kid too, so you want to go doctor for every piece of information then a paternal test. If still she doesn't want you to, and go by her body language, you will work it out along with the advice you now have.

Your GF is important to you, but this will come out one day if it is true, OR the possibility of it coming out will be on your mind if preggo has a bad day or decides you are too happy and she is not. So do you want her to find out now or later on? Or do you want it to go to the grave, thinking you have a child you dont know? and one day your wife/longterm gf can find out?

Good luck. Remember, NEVER EVER panic about a pregnancy. It is not the way to go about it. It is what they want. This is their nuke on us and she launched it. If she REALLY did not care, she wouldn't have told you it is yours and secretly kept it, since you are obviously going to pressure for an abortion. So one thing for sure is, she WANTS you to know... good luck my friend. Trust me when I say this...I KNOW how you feel. Do NOT let it bring you down.

Never react in a panic way to this.

PM me if you want some support.

I'm sorry but healthyadda the medical community even acknowledges that it's basically impossible to get someone pregnant from precum. And trust me, doctors are super careful and always play things on the conservative side. When you have obstetricians across the world almost universally agreeing it never happens, you know it's a safe bet.

All this advice is unnecessary and will only serve to freak him out. He did not get this girl pregnant

I was giving him all his options/possibilities, having gone through a similar experience.

It is very hard to get pregnant from pre-cum, but I have read of situations where it has happened, when the couple were "pulling out" as a form of birth control.

Just to add, I agree in that it is not his, but since it is playing on his conscience he may need answers to clear it.