TOPIC: Emotional mess, where is this lifestyle leading? 20 € paypal for who helps!

Hey lads, I'm sorry to bother you with my emotional mess but I have really no idea where to find better people to evaluate the situation(people irl would be like "just choose one girl and go with her..").

Ok so a little background:
-I'm 19, 2nd year Uni, decent looking(studying engeneering tho I'm top 5% I think, just because other students are complete losers);
-I live in dorm but weekend I usually go back to my parents who live 130 km from me, about 100 miles;
-I have way too many friends and I can't keep up the connections so lately I'm focusing on the quality ones.

In the last two weeks I've had more "success" with girls than in the last year combined(in the eyes of people tho), literally I'm that guy in a small uni that gets new girls(from uni) to make out with him at every party, I kind of got the player title going on..


So at an interesting party I met this girl let's call her Grace (9/10 by my standards) she was with the guys from 1st year(they are my age or older cuz I enrolled earlier), she was most of the time with this very good looking guy(in my mind much better looking than me) and I thought I stood no chances.

Also I was with a girl that I met last week also from uni but she has had a bf for 3 years so nothing serious.

Grace kept giving me glances and I thought it was because I was kind of outstanding, like tallest guy there, most popular and dressed edgy(y'know dark colours, dog tags, white shoes) and I had been the guy in the middle of crowds telling stories and such(I've had quite some crazy experiences).

At one point god only knows why I had some oranges in my hand and Grace makes some jokes about that, we sit togheter on a couch and start talking about bs, soon after I leave her and go back to my friend.

After a while Grace comes back and tells me she doens't want to make my gf feel bad, and I tell her she ain't my gf and the magic starts to happen.. after 5 mins I use the "follow me" from chris and bring here in a spot far from the crowd and we start making out and such, she's like "you're soo good looking, I was staring at you since the beginning of the night".

This was like a starting point in my life where I realized that I'm actually good looking and I can get the really gl girls without "game" or stupid getting to know eachother first.

so that night went very good but some friends were sleeping at her place and we didn't fuck, we didn't get the chance ever since but we've been very dirty in Uni, things like slamming her on a wall and making out in front of everyone and such..

She has caught a little feelings and is a little jealous, I'm completely lost tho I'm in love and I always feel like puking when she doesn't answer my texts and she's very weird over texts but is completely cute irl.

I have no idea what's happening with me..
********************I try to hide it as much as I can but you have to guide me through.*******************

In the meantime I found two other girls in clubs with whom I've made out like crazy but one is in the city where I study only like 2 weeknds a month(we should fuck on monday/tuesday if I go back to uni even if it's closed..)

The other is half brazilian-half Japanese and is crazy over me, it weirds me out, met her last week and I know her whole social circle by now(she's in the city where my parents live), she's also an 8.5/10 by my standards and I didn't think she would give me the light of the day..

Last night we were looking for hotels(she was up to split the booking) but she forgot her ID and we couldn't get a room with mine only...
Tonight we are probably fucking unless I do some stupid shit, she has a ton of feelings already but I don't feel nearly anything and keep thinking about Grace..





TLDR;
-Involved with 3 girls;
-Fell in love with one;
-She's very cold over texts but very warm irl;
-The 3 girls look like sure Lays but still 0;


Should I go with the one I'm in love and get away from the others?
Or should I try and fuck all of them and see what happens?

If you feel like analyzing the situation and spitting some advice I'm up for that too.

I'll spread 20 € on paypal to promote you guys to actually read this Wall of Text.
I know it's not a lot of money, it's more like offering you a beer at a bar.

Thanks and bye!

I got you. Absolutely understand.
Now turn on Led Zeppelin, lay back, and think "what do I want remember at the age of 40?. How I committed to one girl of many? Or how I messed around like a dirty mofucka and tried to bang them all?"
That's what our 20s(almost 20s in your case) is about. Trying to insert the dick in every hole possible.

This is easy dude.

You feel as if you love this one girl... every imaginable indicator suggests she feels the same about you...

Stop making things complicated for yourself, it is completely unnecessary.

Hang out with lovergirl, enjoy your time with her, stop worrying about the other bullshit, and stop going around making out with other women.

If things don't work out with lovergirl then you can go be a player, until then give her, and yourself a chance.

Fucked brazilian girl.

Not a good experience, writing my first lay report and you'll see why.

I feel even worse for lovely girl.

FS-Ronin do you think I should go on behaving naturally woth lovely girl or act a certain way(because sometimes I feel just a little clingy).

Thanks guys!

How many girls have you been with? When I started, I really liked emotional connections. May be it's really worth getting involved in relationships. But as for me, I betrayed best girl of my life in summer and banged others. I reaped what I sowed, and she left. It fucking hurts. But I decided for me it's more important to have much experience in my early 20s. It requires me to be cold-blooded sometimes, and it hurts other people sometimes. But it is really important for me and it's my goal that I am dedicated to. Decide what you are willing to struggle for and do it. If you are willing to confine yourself to one girl and to be loyal to her, do it. If it's more important for you to be player and have multiple women texting you to fuck them, do it. The world is yours.

This is my 3rd lay so I ain't no expert, I'm pretty sure tho if I didn't have acne/so high standards I could've done better at 16-18.

About being loyal, that's always been a problem, I've never really cheated as in fucking other girls but I've made out with plenty while in a "relationship", like you I come from a western country(Serbia/Macedonia) and girls were super conservative while young..

Hey buddy hit me up on my site, ModernLifeDating for the skype lesson so I get your email and I will skype you and help you out.

Listen to FS-Ronin. Go with the girl you love, spend your time with her, like he said - if you want to cut it off you can always go be a player later.

And why are you paying anyone? We're here to build each other up man

It's more like a offering a beer like I said..
Didn't mean to offend anyone, I kind of fucked up with lovely girl, haven't texted her since friday, today I called her after lunch and she didn't respond(usually she calls me back) and nothing, we should meet on Thursday and I have no idea on what to do, maybe she isn't attracted to me anymore or she doesn't like the way I behave(she got to know some shady things about my past, quite bad boy style).

More lost than before.

FS-Ronin wrote: This is easy dude.

You feel as if you love this one girl... every imaginable indicator suggests she feels the same about you...

Stop making things complicated for yourself, it is completely unnecessary.

Hang out with lovergirl, enjoy your time with her, stop worrying about the other bullshit, and stop going around making out with other women.

If things don't work out with lovergirl then you can go be a player, until then give her, and yourself a chance.

QFT. Relax and meditate a bit. Focus on what you want right now. Then get up and make it happen.

I really forced myself to 'be a player' sometimes when that's totally not what I wanted. Because I was young and I felt like thats what was expected of a man. Haha. Silly I know but I'm thankful for the experiences at the same time. I think its important to look inside and really try to find what it is that you want. Everyones different. Personally right now I couldnt care about banging 10 women a week - I mean it would be great but its not what I really want at the moment. I want to pursue knowledge and focus on my health mental and physical and try to find a girl who is as relaxed and laid back as me to share a relationship with. And there's nothing wrong with that!

It's unhealthy to try to force yourself to be a different way is what Im trying to get at. If you want to dick down 3 girls do it and if you want to pursue a relationship do that. You seem like you know you can get chicks so I don't think you need to prove it to yourself

Bobby wrote: It's more like a offering a beer like I said..
Didn't mean to offend anyone, I kind of fucked up with lovely girl, haven't texted her since friday, today I called her after lunch and she didn't respond(usually she calls me back) and nothing, we should meet on Thursday and I have no idea on what to do, maybe she isn't attracted to me anymore or she doesn't like the way I behave(she got to know some shady things about my past, quite bad boy style).

More lost than before.

And that was going to happen at some point. And its a lesson.

I don't know the exact situation between you two but one thing I have definitely learned over my few years is be extremely gradual with your expectations and your affection towards other human beings. ESPECIALLY girls. 9/10 times you're going to be let down otherwise. This is just one of those things you have to go through and trust me I've had to go through it tons of times myself to internalize it. But keep your head up all is not lost you never know what could happen

rapitup wrote:

Bobby wrote: It's more like a offering a beer like I said..
Didn't mean to offend anyone, I kind of fucked up with lovely girl, haven't texted her since friday, today I called her after lunch and she didn't respond(usually she calls me back) and nothing, we should meet on Thursday and I have no idea on what to do, maybe she isn't attracted to me anymore or she doesn't like the way I behave(she got to know some shady things about my past, quite bad boy style).

More lost than before.

And that was going to happen at some point. And its a lesson.

I don't know the exact situation between you two but one thing I have definitely learned over my few years is be extremely gradual with your expectations and your affection towards other human beings. ESPECIALLY girls. 9/10 times you're going to be let down otherwise. This is just one of those things you have to go through and trust me I've had to go through it tons of times myself to internalize it. But keep your head up all is not lost you never know what could happen

Dude thanks very much, I think that the expectations part is what really beats me down.

This girl is super "in" like we have made plans for next summer(it all started from her tho..) to visit new york together(cuz I've never been in America but she has), another factor to consider is that she wanted me to get to know her parents literally 3 days after we met.

She's an high class girl idk how to explain(she spends like 500€ a week on stupid clothes), her parents are super sugar coating her(kinda like mine by the way), her dad is "racist" and I'm kind of a minority(I was born in italy and have the citizenship but my fuckin' name and surname sound super criminal haha) so it's kind of a no-no.

She has told me many times how I look like a douchebag/bully and she loves the way I treat people and for some reason she tryes to hold me back when I get angry, she got it all wrong as I'm a quite laid back guy and I would never jump on someone without a decent reason, well I think as she's realizing that I'm more bf material then a douche she doesn't see me as that macho guy she wanted..

The shady things about my past like crashing a car in a stupid way, nearly dying in a few occasions, breaking some bones, getting into stupid fights(I told her a real story and now she thinks I'm some kinda badass while I was only defending a friend) and so on.

She is super jealous and wants me to be jealous too but I honestly give zero fucks, I know for a fact that 90% of the pussies she sees on the daily don't even have the balls to make a move on her, some of her close male friends already "turn around" when they see me and I don't like their behaviour, I have no idea what she's telling them but I'm a little worried, literally during the mornings I always make out with her and all the guys go to class once I approach the table, her girl friends tho are super cute and like me sooo much.

After all this good signs we are still super weird over the phone.. I'm 99% sure I'll jump on her on thursday and next time I go to her home I'm either ripping her clothes off or getting her mad. PERIOD.

All my friends are like "wait for her to push for the sex, maybe she doesn't want to" this is like poison in my mind.