TOPIC: Do You Think About Death on a Monthly Basis? (55% Yes, 45% No)

Hey Chris let me break down how I'll remember you... and a lot of guys feel the same. Before I found GLL the whole girls thing was just this black hole in my existence. I had a lot of shame and regret in this area... I had done a lot of cool things in life and had a lot of cool accomplishments and success. But so much regret and insecurity around women. Straight up the changes that you showed me how to do has had a profound effect on me. I remember when I was beating AA just the total sense of empowerment that I felt... just being able to do something that I never thought I could do. Same thing when I got my first few cold approach lays... I could'nt believe it was happening. I found GLL when I was 35 and for so many years I didn't have much sex at all and lived in so much pain in regards to that area of my life. So I thought it was impossible to figure it out but your shit really helped me.

I could never face the pain, regret and insecurity on my own... straight up you showed me the way and gave me the courage to change it and make it happen! Here's the thing... I'm no major player and don't pretend to be... but my modest results are so important to me and my life so much better because of YOU. I might even end up marrying a girl I met because of GLL... So thanks man!

On the death thing... my experience is that I've been sober for 11 years after being an alcoholic/drug addict. I have been to some very dark places emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Even now, years later I get depressed and think about this often. Honestly, your site has even given me some courage to own up to this and try and change it. Your message is empowering... it's like i try to live life on my toes instead of on my heels... try to get over the anxiety and finally participate in life. There is no better feeling than finally having some freedom from anxiety, depression, regret, self hate, etc. So, I think all the death thoughts are just part of the battle.

New videos like this would be great

I've been gone for a while... living some crazy life experiences but happy to see new vids up!


Cant wait to listen tomorrow when I have time

Good Looking Loser wrote:

PhilTheBeard wrote: But also at that point in my life I was extremely depressed and honestly wished nightly to just go to sleep an not wake up again.

Good to see you (and chat with you recently)

This is exactly how I felt at the low point in my life (24 and only a sophomore in college -- in Gainesville were I didn't know anyone). When I ex GF (long distance) supposedly committed suicide (long story - she entered a witness protection program). I wasn't planning on doing the same but I wouldn't resist death if I didn't wake up. I even wrote a note to my family.

Yeah man I am happy to be back. And I miss a lot of our chats Chris! I still consider you a really close friend and one of the few people in this world I can actually trust.

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Coincidentally, I was thinking about this earlier today while I was walking around after an approach and just feeling so empowered - that every girl I passed by I literally chose to not approach.

Just last year I'd live life dying inside a little, hoping that "magic" would happen and she would bump into me or some Hollywood bullshit which never happened.


Death
When I was in high school I was chock full of hollywood "love" for a girl I hardly knew. But then she got a bf who was really the ideal man in my opinion - and I got seriously "depressed" (not clinically) because I knew I'd never be better than him.

I'd think about death on a daily - weekly basis...but it was a very planned death, to occur shortly after college, and no later than age 25 (I'm 23 now, lol) and it would be death by adventure (sort of "Into the Wild" inspired).


I'm 23 and I said "No" because thru undergrad I didn't think about it much, mostly just my life plan for the future. But in grad school last (academic) year, there were some days and nights where I'd be staggering around so sleep deprived and seriously worried, feeling like I could literally keel over and die at any moment.

I was working 70+ hours a week and actually "let" myself be depressed for 3 days - I've never failed so often or so hard in my life. So in those months I did think about death a lot (daily) and if it would be better if I just had a heart attack suddenly.

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I've always considered myself multi-faceted but couldn't conceive of life outside academics last year. Since finding GLL (1 year ago), I have no fear of failing, because I know it exactly what I will do.

RP1 wrote: Hey Chris let me break down how I'll remember you... and a lot of guys feel the same. Before I found GLL the whole girls thing was just this black hole in my existence. I had a lot of shame and regret in this area... I had done a lot of cool things in life and had a lot of cool accomplishments and success. But so much regret and insecurity around women. Straight up the changes that you showed me how to do has had a profound effect on me. I remember when I was beating AA just the total sense of empowerment that I felt... just being able to do something that I never thought I could do. Same thing when I got my first few cold approach lays... I could'nt believe it was happening. I found GLL when I was 35 and for so many years I didn't have much sex at all and lived in so much pain in regards to that area of my life. So I thought it was impossible to figure it out but your shit really helped me.

I could never face the pain, regret and insecurity on my own... straight up you showed me the way and gave me the courage to change it and make it happen! Here's the thing... I'm no major player and don't pretend to be... but my modest results are so important to me and my life so much better because of YOU. I might even end up marrying a girl I met because of GLL... So thanks man!

On the death thing... my experience is that I've been sober for 11 years after being an alcoholic/drug addict. I have been to some very dark places emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Even now, years later I get depressed and think about this often. Honestly, your site has even given me some courage to own up to this and try and change it. Your message is empowering... it's like i try to live life on my toes instead of on my heels... try to get over the anxiety and finally participate in life. There is no better feeling than finally having some freedom from anxiety, depression, regret, self hate, etc. So, I think all the death thoughts are just part of the battle.

New videos like this would be great

Thank you for this note.

What exactly on GLL did this for you?

I try to en-courage courage -- but frankly I'm not really a 'motivation' guy.

Chris,

I always wonder where I'd be in life if it wasn't for finding your site. I remember it so clearly. I was a freshman in highschool watching RSD videos and completely going crazy out of my mind over analyzing shit (all thanks to RSD).

Somebody linked to one of your videos on the forums and I watched it. I rememebr seeing the video of you picking up a girl by some Starbucks shop.

Then I accidentally closed out of the youtube channel. I quickly wrote the Youtube channel name into google and found your site. I was one of the very first GLL that was here before you even came up with your Approach Anxiety program. As a sophomore in highschool, I started going out and doing A.A drills and got the social freedom I wanted that same year.

Thanks to your site I immensely improved my looks to a point where girls actually have approached me or even give me enough eye contact to approach them. Thanks to you I have had my fair share of women at a a very young age. Thanks to you I now have a body I'd have been jealous of in my previous years as a skinny weak kid.

I'm 19 now and just started a bussiness. Once I move out from my parents house, I want to refocus on the girls and hit the bucketlist I have set out for myself.

Your site has made me wise beyond my years.

Chris YOU ARE THE REAL MOTHERFUCKING MVP!!!!

Don't ever forget that. You have created a community that has inspired so many people to change their lives and I have read alot of people's log who actually produce results in their life from money all the way to girls.

NO OTHER FORUMS OR COMMUNITY HAS WHAT WE HAVE HERE IN GLL

You have created a home for so many of us and taken us under your wing...

That's THE GREATEST GIFT anyone can ask for. There's simply no way we can repay you. My father never taught me how to be a man or even cared. Your site was truly the big brother and father I never had.

I probably would be a whole different person and a loser 19 years old at the moment if it wasn't for you.

Thank you so much GLL. You are no longer a Good Looking Loser...you are a Good Looking Winner!!!!

What exactly did it for me was you being real and putting yourself out there. You're not a motivation guy in the way a football coach gives a pep talk... that shit wears off anyway. Your message just hits deep because you weren't scared to get on camera and talk about all the struggles and insecurities that you had. You are just so real and just out to help people and share it give it away for free. So I just related and identified with your struggles and saw that you did it and that gave me the courage to dig deep and change. Perfect example is the girl at the whole foods in westwood... I know that feeling so well and so many times I walked away. Another example is the redskins cheerleader... I've had girls on my bed and scared to pull the trigger because of insecurity. Another example is the whole validation and approval seeking thing with girls and in life in general. I spent years trying to get a PhD because i thought it would bring me validation.

Not to write a novel here but the whole thing goes deeper than motivation. I came to GLL right around the time that you wrote the post The Comfortable Life of the Undersexed Male: Why Most Guys Don't Get a Lot of Pussy. When I listened to the song at the end that is played at funerals I fucking cried... I just thought of my whole life and how much I've been missing out, how life was just passing me by and how I lived in regret and insecurity. I didn't need any motivation... it was impossible for me to continue living life the way I was. I just couldn't accept it anymore and I was going to change no matter what. At that moment I stopped caring what anybody thought... the worst rejection wouldn't be nearly as bad as continuing to live life the way I was.

So you're right, you don't teach motivation, and don't have to. Just keep fucking being you and putting yourself out there. Your message resonates. Thanks and much love for ya

I'll remember you Chris for sure, how can these lessons ever be forgotten? If I ever have kids I'm sure they'll be learning from you as well as I turn them into mini-players. To this day I'm stupified parents don't teach their children the importance of nutrition, fitness, fashion and how to talk to the opposite sex. I guess most don't know.

GLL is literally the only website I've ever discovered that has been of any intense usefullness and the has the power to completely change lives. I spent many thousands of hours on the net alone in my room. The manosphere, the red pill. Even bold and determined, this site is the only site that gives one actionable steps to make a change (You should make apps or something to make it even easier for people to change their life!) I feel like I have the cheat codes to life right now.

As for death, wont bore anyone with another "I was so depressed" story but having thought about suicide a lot I feel like I'm on borrowed time anyway. For some reason I have an intense feeling that I'm going to die from cancer in my 40's, if not that I will be one of those old people that die while taking a shit. Old age looks really horrible...

Like BiB I think about getting old a lot. I think about where I want to be when I'm 30, and everything I'm doing now is leading up to that point.

I agree with edgywolf you're basically the only example of a self-actualized man I've seen alive. Then you said you're running out of GLL material, but I don't believe that at all. You have to teach us how to make money, and update + optimize he AA program. Also you're body is not as good as it used to be and maybe that's making you think about health + death? When I was fat I thought about my health a lot.

As for this style of video. I noticed Victor P. is doing it too (you guys talk about this?) with more content, but less direction / reason. I think any content = good content and you will probably inspire and give great advice without even realising it just because it is innately apart of you now. It's also good to know more about who Chris is, up to this point I guess I saw you as a guy who tugs on his dick, slathers his face with cream and chemicals, works hard at (invisible business stuff) all day, with no thoughts other than "I must do the most productive thing at any given moment". Not that there's anything wrong with that, but does seem unnattiable / undesirable in some ways.

Edit: also your videos are so motivational to the point of reality-altering that I space them out over weeks so I don't run out of fuel. Your videos on "be a man" "men talk to girls" has helped me immensly not just with girls but it really made it easy to lose weigh. Fuck I still want to just skip AA and start doing basic guy game. Gonna have to watch the video again!

Thank you for this note.

What exactly on GLL did this for you?

I try to en-courage courage -- but frankly I'm not really a 'motivation' guy.

chris, i wasn't the original poster but wanted to jump in. GLL IS THE MOST EMPOWERING WEBSITE ON PLANET EARTH. period. you may not be deliberately "motivational", but the whole core theme of GLL is empowerment. if GLL has a slogan, it would be "Get what you want, you can do it"

for example, one of your previous reply to someone you said "Even when I was an "insider" I often felt like an outsider. I've made my life work for me though, and it can be done even if you are the eternal 'loner'."

THIS short sentence empowers me so much, because i am what you call "the eternal loner". 24 years of age and feeling like i've ZERO accomplishment in life. until i finally took the baby step of opening an online biz (thanks to your e-commerce article which unfortunately been taken down). but in the short period of time the article was up, it EMPOWERED me and at least changed ONE life and ONE person's thinking.

rebel wrote: Thank you so much GLL. You are no longer a Good Looking Loser...you are a Good Looking Winner!!!!

rebel, he is a fucking Good Looking CHAMPION. fucking Olympic Gold medalist if "lives changer" were a sport.