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I am glad you're not writing new posts because it takes years to actually internalize it all.
You have to lead a double-life these days. Pipelining girls from online dating requires it ("bad boy" look). I don't think you can efficiently chase wealth (top school-> finance/consulting/enterprise sales/non-aspie comp sci) and girls without leading a double life.
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Studies actually show peak happiness happens when you earn 75.000 dollars/year. Up until that point, your happiness keeps going up with your income. After that threshold, your happiness stays the same.
Adjust for the city/country you live in, obviously.
It's always interesting to read that kind of counterintuitive stuff, like how paraplegics and lottery winners are about equally as happy 5 years after the fact. It's amazing how fast humans get used to things, whether good or bad stuff.
Chris, if you are still around reading, this validation threshold stuff, I think it all relates back to feeling insignificant socially in your younger years. I know because I have been out of college for a couple of years and I was always an outcast during those days so I see myself seeking validation like a maniac.
Recently, I've been trying to make a lot of "friends" (not actual friends but friends to follow me on social media) to build up my Instagram account and putting up pics of me with cute girls and doing fun things as well. I find myself chasing the 5k followers mark which I am far off from. I thought why is it that I am obsessive over wanting to be seen as being good with girls and being "the man" and looking back, I think it has a lot to do with being a social outcast during my college days (in the 80% as you call it).
It has me sticking around on this forum and I've written a lot about it. I am on the road to recovery from it but it is like I've turned into a guy who wants others to talk about him, acknowledge him, friends to chill with, party with, and some girls in his life.
I want to be seen as the guy who gets girls and is "the man" rather than actually being the guy who gets a lot of hot girls. It's like I would sacrifice a few lays just to avoid being the lonely PUA and I find myself obsessing over the social hierarchy and politics that people obsessed with in high school and college now in the adult world.
I think that is literally it for the validation threshold stuff that so many guys get, especially in regards to girls.
It's not that these guys enjoy the sex or even girls that much, they want to be seen as being good with girls and being "the man". I am guilty as hell of it but damn, it does feel good a times to be doing somewhat better in this regard. Having some former cool kids hate on you for doing better? At times that feeling is priceless!
I wrote about some ideas to recover on this thread:
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I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
I DEFINITELY didn't think that your hair-loss prevention would fix my hairline. Not in a billion years. It mother fucking did. You saved me a crazy amount of time, a ton of money, unnecessary pain, and destroyed my #1 source of anxiety. DESTROYED IT.
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