TOPIC: Do You Lead A Double Life?

I hate how little time I can put into GLL in the past few months.

It's still been mostly all work, no play.

One thing I do everyday is listen to Michael Savage, often while doing busy work.

The topic of the show today is -
Are you living a double life?

I think used to.

The double life was that I was depressed bodybuilder with no social life, bent on taking "I'm so happy, sexy, strong, cool" pictures for social media.

It's pretty common.

It ended sometime around 2009 once I started fucking chicks for fun (mostly) and not validation. There's a certain ## of girls that you'll sleep with (it's different for everyone) that will make you get over the validation thing and then you can really enjoy your relationships without much emotional investment.

Not surprisingly, I ditched social media most of 2008-2009.
In 2008, I totally fell off the map, moved to the west coast and I had no old friends that I was trying to impress with a double life.

It was life changing to me. Sort of like hitting the reset button on life.

These days, I have certain things I don't discuss with everyone/anybody, but it's only a very very small % my life.

wat r u working on these days Chris?

I lead a double life.

At work, with my family, and to people that don't know me well, I'm a straight-shooter public safety geek.

At home and to my close friends I'm a sleazy player who is always either hitting on girls or having sex with girls I already know

It's funny because the older girls at work used to play around and make jokes about how innocent I am, but now that I've been there a year they have started to catch on and make jokes about me having multiple baby mamas etc

Yeah it definitely feels like it.

Only my close friends know I'm on a "creepy" website. Most people don't know I agree with "red pill" until they get to know me for a while, and even then only if I trust them. At work everyone thinks I'm a real nice guy.

EDIT: Also, I'm in that phase now where I'm putting on a persona for social media.

CitySleek wrote: wat r u working on these days Chris?

Way Way too much.

I've successfully cut down my "time" doing busy work, but the stress levels literally prevent me from offering you guys anything worthwhile.

Chris how much money do you want? When do you think you'll be satisfied?

Do you want like, Donald Trump level wealth, or are you just trying to make it so you literally never have to worry about money again?

I know I'm gonna be in the money mindset eventually, but when I think about it EVEN NOW I can't decide what's "good enough"

Chris -- listen to this while you are working. Helps reduce stress. I've been using it of late, working 20hours a day to launch my eCommerce biz. I've to be careful tho, I don't handle stress well and it gives me adrenal fatigue and testoterone/thyroid problems



Sidenote -- thanks to all your free info and value, I'm a few days away from launching my men's accessories store.

I am pretty open with everyone about what I do. On the other hand, I hide my side business and pretty much pretend to be 'someone else' (no idea how to phrase it) at my day job.

Day job = someone else.

Everywhere else = regular old me.

This kind of thing is pretty common. We are all pretending to be someone. Maybe that person we are pretending to be is who we are (in the moment). Who knows, maybe I'm just pretending to be me. Lol.

Bad Idea Bear wrote: Chris how much money do you want? When do you think you'll be satisfied?

Do you want like, Donald Trump level wealth, or are you just trying to make it so you literally never have to worry about money again?

I know I'm gonna be in the money mindset eventually, but when I think about it EVEN NOW I can't decide what's "good enough"

That's a great question, I've been mulling over that recently. Perhaps a good blog post.

My 'relationship with money' is very different than the average person because my family spoiled the shit out of me when I was younger and still didn't enjoy my life that much.

I really don't care about buying things or possessions. I really don't compared to the average person and I swear to God when I say that.

I see a lot of young professionals making $80,000 and buying cars, suits and all sort of status shit that distracts them from their miserable life. It's all a fake life and a vicious cycle. Since I actually have high financial status (just figure: assets - $3 to $10 million at age 33), I don't feel the need to pretend like I do with a fancy cars or clothing. I literally walk around in sweatpants or shorts when I go into meetings. I'll dress up in my 1 pair of jeans if its a person I've never met.
(this was of way different than the pickup days when it would take me 2 hours to get ready like a girl)

I have a luxury apartment in LA (my GF pays for 80% of it) and I don't even like being there. I'm home in Boise in my shithole (by comparison) apartment and I love it. I'm at peace here.

I literally spend money on nothing. I pay myself a $50,000 (well, $60,000 before taxes) salary.

I come from a wealthy family (some people will hold this against me for life), but it's actually the reason I'm not a money grabber and why I try to keep EVERYTHING I can free and you don't see sleazy marketing here. (yes, some of the products are "sleazy" like Bathmate - but it actually works)

I grew up with money and saw how miserable rich people really were, including my family at times. I vowed to never be like that. I do value security and freedom though and not having to work ever again. I absolutely hate working on stuff that I don't want to do.

Money, to me, is more of a "score".

It's like a video game, especially when all my stuff is online and digital.

When I make more money in a month, I'm winning. When I don't - I'm losing.

That's all.

You should see my investments, it's the portfolio of a senior citizen. Very, very, very conservative.

on Trump and extreme wealth:
I like Trump (obviously, if you've followed my twitter), he's the first real choice since JFK (Bernie is a real choice too, but his fiscal policies will further bankrupt the country - otherwise I like him) but I notice that Trump is IS NOT that close to his family. He's not and I don't care what the hardcore Trump supporters says how he's such a family man. He's not. You can tell by how he interacts with his kids, especially his 1st sons and wife. He's all business and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't want that.

The guys that get super super rich (500million+) aren't close to their family because they can't be. I don't want that.

These days, I get very little physical activity, have no balance and not having the consistent time to work on GLL pisses me off.

I do feel obligated to prioritize business/make the money in my early 30's though. Just like sex in my 20's.

Happy Hippo and Red Supplements are still in a bit of transition and it's why I can't step away (and officially appoint a CEO) until we get everything straight. Hippo/Red is tricky because we get so many orders and we need to make sure everyone is happy.

My entertainment this Summer is Michael Savage, Fantasy Baseball and Mike Cernovich (I'm an exec. producer on his movie he's making).

Don't get me wrong - life is great. Just too many fires to put out every day. But it's a temporary thing.

It's a bit harder for me to articulate financial discussion (as compared to Women, which I know much better).

Thanks man, that's very insightful. Especially the part about money being a game. That's exactly how I see it too (although I have no experience running a business). To a certain extent that's also how I view getting laid right now. I care infinitely more about getting laid from cold approach than I do about online dating because in the end everything is a game and it feels good to have a challenge.

I feel like hunk is ahead of the curve with the spirituality thing. That's sort of the end all be all of self improvement in my opinion. That man skipped right over the money and family phase and straight to the good shit lol

I have some future post idea about "Validation Thresholds"

Everyone has a Validation threshold (sex, money, status & power, gym/fitness, dick size etc. etc.) that they need to hit before they can be satisfied or happy. The lower the better, obviously.

You know what, Chris. It's probably a lot like the validation thing was. You get to a certain number and you say "I'm done" and enjoy it.

Only thing I can say from personal experience is that there is a point where you should probably stop starting new businesses and let things do what they are supposed to do (make money). It takes maturity to know when enough is really enough.

I agree with you about Red and Hippo. New ventures are always going to need more hands on time. However, I bet in a year or two you'll be back writing on GLL and finding it's time to do something more exciting (perhaps try being a dad, wink, wink.)

Validation Thresholds: Agreed. =) Still got most of those options you mentioned left to hit. Sometimes it's nice knowing there's many balls to hit than be on the other end where there are less (seemingly) low hanging fruit.