TOPIC: Too many goals. Can't balance everything.

Hey guys,

I have way too many goals and ambitions I am trying to achieve. My mind is all over the place and I am finding it hard to achieve anything at all. I know Chris says to stick to one goal but it's just not possible for me. There are at least 8 major goals/ambitions I am trying to accomplish and some of those can have up to ten sub-goals to them, leaving me with about 50 things flying through my mind every single day. These things cannot be neglected. They need my attention but I just don't have enough to go around. A day goes by and I've made the tiniest bit of progress on one, maybe two goals. Feels like nothing.

I honestly can't see myself getting out of this hole. If I could balance my life properly then I'm sure i'd be killing it but I just can't.

I'd love to hear what you guys have to say and how guys maintain a balanced life and slay your goals.

List your goals?

Some might take precedence over others just looking at your sig. Fuck 12 girls will be easier when you have better physique or social freedom so those should take priority for example

Yeah dude I had similar problems and used to have similar problems. But I got a little better at it after accomplishing a few long term goals myself. Yeah I can't bring myself to only focus on one goal but I still try to not overwhelm myself with too many either, because you do get distracted. But I agree on prioritizing on some goals that you can put more focus on... For an example you can prioritize on certain goals and put the most focus on and other smaller goals to keep working on it but don't put too much pressure on those so when the prioritized goals are finished you can bump up smaller goals but you won't start them out from the bottom since you've been working on smaller goals as you were working on bigger goals too..

for an example, After I accomplished my major goal just not too long ago, I wanted to really focus on this getting laid thing locked but also want to work on getting my skateboard tricks down. And recently I started to study for LSAT and online marketing. I'd go to the gym 4-5 days a week too( but this is just my habit I built up since highschool) So I'll give my tasks everyday. I'll skate for minimum 30 minutes. Go out and approach at least two chicks. Study Online marketing for 30 minutes and study for LSAT 1 hour. I'll adjust these tasks as I go along depend on if I feel like I need to push myself of not.

Sometimes I still get the urge to add more, but now I know better and set limit so I won't go overboard. But so far having these 2 major goals( gaming, skateboarding), two other boring-money or career related goals (LSAT, Online Marketing) and working on them everyday did not seem to be too challenging.

Now I'm trying to find a community I can relate to so I can have more social life and add more balance to my life because I tend to get too serious about goals sometimes.

But yeah, depend on who you are you will be able to manage more than one goal at a time, but you have to know when it becomes too distracted and have to put aside some goals for later time based on my experience.

Hope this helps

Thanks guys.

As you both recommneded, I've prioritised some goals, some of which will help achieve the other ones. I'll start breaking up times in my diary where I can focus on them.

Thanks again.

Hey man, I highly suggest that you write them out and ask yourself : What is the One Goal that when I work on it, time stand still? What is the goal that when I act on it, I feel energized instead of drained? What is the goal that I can honestly learn about it and do it for hours at a time and feel amazing?

I would go with that one first. What will probably happen next is that as you evolve and gain self-confidence, self-sufficiency and expertise in own domain, you will have more charisma and appeal even more to others, without forcing things up.

Another good trick I like to use is the Pomodoro technique. Work in 25 min blocks with 5 min breaks between each block. What I've observed is that it is always easy to motivate myself for 25 minutes, and if it is really my laser-focused goal that I love doing, I will be even more excited to finish that little break.

Don't be too hard on yourself, I know how it feels like. Wanting to be the top 1% in everything, trust me lol . Really focus on your strengths, double down on them to become a true master in whatever it is that you love doing. You can work on your weaknesses, but I would take the 80/20 approach here. For every 4 hours of working on your main goal, have 1 hour to work on your weaknesses and more boring stuff.

Hope this will help you in a way my friend.

Thanks Growth Astronaut, that does help.

Working in shorter bursts as well as the 80/20 approach, both sound like worthwhile tactics. I'll give it a go.