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Recently got a new gf who is working on a multi-national company. It's quite hot and even if there are 70 girls, only about 10 are hot, the rest are average or below.
The thing is, there is a swedish good looking player (6'2, very fit) who fucked quite a lot of girls there(knowing this from reliable sources). Girls melt around him.
The thing is, I know from same sources that he's hitting on my gf quite intensely even if she tries to avoid it. But he's on a high managing position and she doesn't want to be disrespectful. There is also a possibility that she might enjoy the attention(we're together only a few months, i don't know her very well), but i'm about 80% sure they didn't fucked.
A thing that bothered me is that a month ago I met him on a club talking to my gf, and been drunk I acted quite beta, I was over protective and told him to leave and shit like that. Physically there was no chance to win, I'm 5'9 skinny fat, he's 6'2 very fit and better looking, but I didn't care. Since then, he started to hit more often on my gf and telling shit about me. I know a big part of that is my fault, acting beta but can I make this fucker stop, he clearly doesn't respect me at all. If I can't get respected by my physic, what's the other way? She is working with him 8 hours a day and we all know how girls are around alpha good looking guys, you can't rely on the girl 100%. I think he made a goal to fuck my girl because of the way I talked to him.
Jump his ass from behind and beat his ass from an inch of his life...
No, don't do that.
Here's what you do; stop focusing on him and focus on your girl. If your girl cheats, that's her problem and not yours. Be the best boyfriend you can to this chick and stop worrying about some dude. There is always going to be someone better looking, taller, etc. than you. Sometimes they will hit on your girl. Your girl is obviously with you for a reason, so stop defeating yourself already. You do sound like a beta and a bit of a pushover to be honest. No disrespect intended, but what's going to drive her away and potentially drive her to fucking him is your attitude towards the whole situation.
Take a step back and realize she's with you, and stop worrying about shit you can't control.
"What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others remains and is immortal."
I don't know about you guys but I would do something about it if its really eating at you.
I would ask my girl a simple question -
That's inappropriate, you want me to make this "harassment" stop?
If given the green light -
I'd pay him a visit. Tell him politely to stop bothering your girl. Stop "harassing" her, she thinks you are strange - leave her alone. Just tell him he'll be in "BIG TROUBLE" (this really seems to freak people out) if this continues. Won't be a strike 2.
He just has to get the message that you are crazy and weird.
you might find it surprising that I'm taking this angle... I am because it works.
I've had it happen to me and I've done it to other guys.
You should get the proverbial green light from the girl so you don't look insecure.
unlike my other advice-
this advice could be wrong/right, I don't know.
I always default to "DO WHAT YOU WANT" and that's what I'd do. It'll stop the problem.
big picture though -
1) Get in shape ASAP, you need to look like you can kill someone. Part of this insecurity (the other guy) is because you feel a bit powerless.
Please no Private Messages. Post thread on with the word "Chris" or "GLL" in it if you absolutely need to get my input. Thank you for your understanding.
The only way to prevent being cheated on is to not be in a relationship in the first place. Don't hate the (Good looking successful Swedish) player, just accept the game and don't get in serious relationships, or don't base your worth on your ability to keep things exclusive with girls anymore because given your stats and beta behavior you won't be able to forever against these objectively better guys.
"If you're a fucking shredded, sick cunt, you can get away with anything. That's what the revolution is. None of these fuckin' sad cunts. We're all gonna fuckin' make it brah, that's it."-Zyzz
"I teach you the Overman. Man is something to be overcome. What have you done to overcome him?"-Nietzsche
I agree with chris to an extent. 9/10 your girl will not want you to confront them because of fear of loosing her job.
I dont ask for permission I ask for forgiveness. I have been in your shoes a LOT. The last time my girls boss told her she had great legs and would love to have some fun sometime. That was my green light. I looked at his fb until I found out where he was going to be and confronted him when he was at lunch with one of his friends. Dont act like a little kid when you do so. Less is more. You dont need to be loud you dont need to be super aggressive. Thats called posturing and when it happens to me I already know I am intimidating to that person. Its like a bird ruffling up their feathers to look bigger. NEVER confront with your girl right next to you (in your situation). catch him alone.
Look at him like a man.In the eyes. be cool calm and collected. It all about the tone and body language.
Get out of here with that beta shit. My old best dude was a 5'6 150 pound mexican dude who nobody wanted to fuck with because they knew he didnt take shit. Its a mindset.
I will add that you have only been dating for a few months. If she knows its bugging you and she does nothing to stop it, you have to reassess the situation and maybe move on. Way to many girls to be constantly upset.
I agree with TheTruth. It helps to be in shape but in this day and age in America (or any modern country) you can pretty much confront anybody about anything without fear. It's not like he's going to get physical with you. The worse thing he could do is blow you off and then you would have to figure out what to do next. By the way, has she mentioned any of this shit to you or did you hear it from others. If she hasn't said anything that might be a bad sign
lots of good points raised with the replies, most important takeaway is ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS AVAILABLE ALL THE TIME EVEN WHEN IN EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS TO AVOID NEEDY/BETA BEHAVIOUR
this should be applicable everyday all-year round in any situation. like now i was supposed to go out with a chick but suddenly she texts me earlier a while ago that she can't make it bec she got sick and i'm really pissed precisely bec i don't have any backup date but that's a different story
so it's that, and work out to attain max aesthetics as your body can possibly attain. even when, and especially, during monogamous serious relationships. i've never been in one, but too many stories of buddies and guys i don't even know who lost the girl bec he gained relationship weight/slacked off/etc.
of course, talk straight to your gf but don't be needy about it. just honest concern
btw, how did your gf react when you confronted her suitor ?
"semper virilis" (always manly/masculine)
"kill the nice guy inside you, and let the douchebag be born" (paraphrased from GoT's "kill the boy and let the man be born")
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